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Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2016 3:25:40 GMT
When h!ll freezes over.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 4, 2016 5:54:21 GMT
No. Just no. Not a good idea at all. People do stupid things when they're drinking. I thought it was bad enough when one of my brothers showed up half drunk to my DD's first birthday party. He came along with another brother (who was thankfully NOT drinking) and then when DD crawled up to him he set her on her feet and watched her topple over and face plant on the kitchen floor because she couldn't quite walk yet. "Oops. Sorry. My kids could all walk at that age." Yeah, NOT cool.
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Post by miominmio on Jul 4, 2016 6:57:32 GMT
As for your MIL giving you grief if you don't show... you will probably do lots of things as a DIL and parent she doesn't agree with. You'll save yourself years of grief if you establish some boundaries and back them up now. Just because you married her son doesn't mean she gets to guilt you or take an attitude with you when don't meet her expectations. You can make an excuse, take a hard line, fob her off, whatever, but have a plan you can live with and make certain DH is on the same page. This! A thousand times this!! My MIL is used to everyone dancing to her tune (and DH is 52), and while she can be very nice as long as we agree on something, there has been several incidents over the years where she has turned nasty (and then FIL and BIL would back her up. DH, while not supporting me, stays out of it).
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Post by gar on Jul 4, 2016 7:13:58 GMT
As for your MIL giving you grief if you don't show... you will probably do lots of things as a DIL and parent she doesn't agree with. You'll save yourself years of grief if you establish some boundaries and back them up now. Just because you married her son doesn't mean she gets to guilt you or take an attitude with you when don't meet her expectations. You can make an excuse, take a hard line, fob her off, whatever, but have a plan you can live with and make certain DH is on the same page. Agreed. I assume you haven't been married that long as you have a young baby, but it's easier to do this now than let it go because if you don't you'll be telling us the same type of stories a decade from now. You've seen it here yourself!
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Jul 4, 2016 11:36:50 GMT
Wait, I read that to mean there is a joint party for the 27 year-old and his 1 year-old son. Am I reading that right? If so, hell no, won't go. Yes!!! Joint party! Joints were not mentioned in the invite, so you may want to bring your own if that is your preference. Of course from that invite I am guessing they might be supplying those as well.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 4, 2016 12:18:24 GMT
I feel so sorry for that baby.
That invite.... is just.... so.......
Send the baby some board books, drop in to say hello and give your birthday love to the little one, and bail.
I istill can't imagine any father would think that invite was okay.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 4, 2016 12:19:06 GMT
Can you send DH (hopefully via Uber, not driving himself) and stay home with the baby yourself? Nothing says how special a first birthday is more than getting drunk with Dad. Oh, I saw that card at the Hallmark store too.
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Post by psiluvu on Jul 4, 2016 12:21:34 GMT
Sounds like the cake won't be the only thing smashed at this party. Ok that made me LOL.
That is definitely an interesting invitation. Make sure you give us a full report when it is over.
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Post by wonderwoman on Jul 4, 2016 22:39:31 GMT
How classy
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Post by ~summer~ on Jul 4, 2016 22:43:46 GMT
Honestly I would have no issue with it except for the baby aspect...
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 4, 2016 22:44:57 GMT
It is family, we would go, but we wouldn't be drinking and we would leave pretty soon after dinner. You have an infant- use the infant to get out of there. Just make sure you and dh are on the same page about the plan before you go. Same here. For family, we'll make an appearance and leave when we feel we need to. I certainly wouldn't stay the whole time. Same for me. But I come from generations of drinkers, which is why I don't drink much at all. I put in my appearance, visit before the drinking gets too bad and then leave.
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Post by flute4peace on Jul 4, 2016 22:48:10 GMT
With language like that in the invite, I wouldn't go, family or friends. But that's just me! Same here.
We went to my hometown to celebrate my niece and sister's birthdays yesterday. Sister's was Saturday, niece turns 3 tomorrow.
We had mini-mouse cake, typical cook-out food and her new husband shot off some fireworks.
Had a great time!! No booze or foul language needed.
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bil
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Post by bil on Jul 23, 2016 17:50:59 GMT
How classy Klassy with a "K" I would fake an illness and not attend ... We army the party animal type. Actually we don't go out ever. We just wanted some freinds over for a cook out/drinks for our birthdays.
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bil
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Post by bil on Jul 23, 2016 17:53:17 GMT
Wait, I read that to mean there is a joint party for the 27 year-old and his 1 year-old son. Am I reading that right? If so, hell no, won't go. What she said. Hell no. I don't really believe we are "working the system". I believe I work my ass off day and night. And just can't afford things like health care. And need a little help with food. My wife is a stay at home mom. Because that's what she needs todo. I work plenary for both of us
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Post by christine58 on Jul 23, 2016 17:53:27 GMT
Oh nice...another troll
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bil
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Post by bil on Jul 23, 2016 17:54:13 GMT
I wouldn't want to go either. But, then I would also feel obligated to go and make sure someone sane was watching out for the baby. Never been to a cook out and had a couple beers with kids in attendance?
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Post by gritzi on Jul 23, 2016 18:01:15 GMT
My down time is coveted because the schedule can get busy quickly. There's no way I would be attending that party, family or not.
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bil
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Post by bil on Jul 23, 2016 18:04:18 GMT
And who is watching the 1 year old while the adults are drunk? No, I would not go unless it was to rescue your nephew. Also I wish everyone had the full story. I never said all you fucking bitchs need to come. The last line in the description read "dylan don't be a bitch". Because I invite my friend to my how all the time and something always come up. Other then that I didn't use the word fuck. I did say we were going to get drunk. I'm pretty sure we can have a combined party. Kids in the day with a few beers. And a party at night. When the kids go to bed. Obviously the situation.
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bil
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Post by bil on Jul 23, 2016 18:07:29 GMT
I made it to about the end of the second page and I can't read anymore. If this is how you guys feel then symply Don't talk to us anymore. I work my ass off for my family day in and day out. We struggle but we are alive. I do the best I can. I certainly don't have the time to sit around and creat forms about how I don't like my Inlaws. Thanks for your concern
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 23, 2016 18:10:55 GMT
I made it to about the end of the second page and I can't read anymore. If this is how you guys feel then symply Don't talk to us anymore. I work my ass off for my family day in and day out. We struggle but we are alive. I do the best I can. I certainly don't have the time to sit around and creat forms about how I don't like my Inlaws. Thanks for your concern but bye
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Post by craftykitten on Jul 23, 2016 18:12:33 GMT
I made it to about the end of the second page and I can't read anymore. If this is how you guys feel then symply Don't talk to us anymore. I work my ass off for my family day in and day out. We struggle but we are alive. I do the best I can. I certainly don't have the time to sit around and creat forms about how I don't like my Inlaws. Thanks for your concern No but apparently you have time to trawl the internet for your SIL's posts and then come to defend yourself? Whatever.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 23, 2016 18:13:23 GMT
I don't really believe we are "working the system". I believe I work my ass off day and night. And just can't afford things like health care. And need a little help with food. My wife is a stay at home mom. Because that's what she needs todo. I work plenary for both of us not sure what the quote has to do with the post, but okay You don't work plenty for both of you if you can't afford food for your family. Health care, I understand, it is super expensive, but if you need that much help with necessities, then someone needs to work more
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Jul 23, 2016 18:16:10 GMT
Everyone needs a place to vent... that is what we do here... so we don't go bat shit crazy... its our free space... you bil coming here.. sorta fucks that up...
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Post by Zee on Jul 23, 2016 18:17:12 GMT
And who is watching the 1 year old while the adults are drunk? No, I would not go unless it was to rescue your nephew. Also I wish everyone had the full story. I never said all you fucking bitchs need to come. The last line in the description read "dylan don't be a bitch". Because I invite my friend to my how all the time and something always come up. Other then that I didn't use the word fuck. I did say we were going to get drunk. I'm pretty sure we can have a combined party. Kids in the day with a few beers. And a party at night. When the kids go to bed. Obviously the situation. Is this really the BIL? For what it's worth, I think just about everyone on this thread is overly uptight about the whole thing because no one but OP knows these people or what the plans are for the baby. This type of part would be perfectly acceptable for some members of my family, though grandma would be caring for the baby after baby's portion of the party. And the drinking wouldn't start until later. I'd bring a baby gift and a case of beer with a bow on it, and I bet we'd all have a great time, bitches!
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Post by craftykitten on Jul 23, 2016 18:17:58 GMT
I don't really believe we are "working the system". I believe I work my ass off day and night. And just can't afford things like health care. And need a little help with food. My wife is a stay at home mom. Because that's what she needs todo. I work plenary for both of us not sure what the quote has to do with the post, but okay You don't work plenty for both of you if you can't afford food for your family. Health care, I understand, it is super expensive, but if you need that much help with necessities, then someone needs to work more @carblover443 posted on page 2 about their frustrations with BIL's lifestyle. And I agree with you...sounds like being a SAHM is something they can't afford right now.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 23, 2016 18:22:29 GMT
not sure what the quote has to do with the post, but okay You don't work plenty for both of you if you can't afford food for your family. Health care, I understand, it is super expensive, but if you need that much help with necessities, then someone needs to work more @carblover443 posted on page 2 about their frustrations with BIL's lifestyle. And I agree with you...sounds like being a SAHM is something they can't afford right now. ah, the part he quoted just seemed random
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Post by craftykitten on Jul 23, 2016 18:36:31 GMT
@carblover443 posted on page 2 about their frustrations with BIL's lifestyle. And I agree with you...sounds like being a SAHM is something they can't afford right now. ah, the part he quoted just seemed random Yeah I had to go back and look for it.
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Post by peatlejuice on Jul 23, 2016 18:45:27 GMT
Carblover has deleted her account, which makes me sad, so to her bil, I just have to say this: Why you give a damn about what a forum of Internet women think of you is beyond me, but grow some balls and get over it. How dare you chase off your sister in law from a place she used to vent off steam. We were right, you are "klassy" and immature. The true bitch here is you.
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Jul 23, 2016 18:57:46 GMT
He has to be sorta Forum savvy... he has a real profile pic instead of kiwi... how many long time peas can't even figure out how to do that...
Im really sad for her...
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Post by welshjenni on Jul 23, 2016 19:00:50 GMT
Carblover has deleted her account, which makes me sad, so to her bil, I just have to say this: Why you give a damn about what a forum of Internet women think of you is beyond me, but grow some balls and get over it. How dare you chase off your sister in law from a place she used to vent off steam. We were right, you are "klassy" and immature. The true bitch here is you. So sad that she has gone. :-( How did BIL know about 2peas?
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