Kerri W
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Location: Kentucky
Jun 25, 2014 20:31:44 GMT
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Post by Kerri W on Aug 5, 2014 8:48:17 GMT
There is a double standard with fathers these days. A woman/girl can abort if she does not want to be a mother. Or choose adoption. A man/boy can be forced to be a father in the same circumstances, with no choice in the matter. Bullshit. He has the choice to not have sex.
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inkedup
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Jun 26, 2014 5:00:26 GMT
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Post by inkedup on Aug 5, 2014 10:12:37 GMT
There is a double standard with fathers these days. A woman/girl can abort if she does not want to be a mother. Or choose adoption. A man/boy can be forced to be a father in the same circumstances, with no choice in the matter. The boy in the OP's case was 16 when his relationship started. He may have thought he could "save" the girl from her situation (she stated she was desperate to leave her mother's home) . I have seen these type of relationships for 50 years. I have step relatives that sound just like the young woman's family. If it's his child, his life will change forever. Child support for 21 years. But so much more than that. Trying to be a father while dealing with a mother he can't trust, he will need to finish his education and work toward having a full share, (perhaps becoming the child's custodial parent), of his child's life. When he finds a woman to marry, he will bring this child into the relationship. I've seen situations like this all the time. My XDIL married a man who had a very similar experience, and the little boy ( 8 YO now), comes every weekend, and is considered a brother to my DGDs. The guy from the sound of it does the best he can, but the mother (they never married), is supposedly hard to deal with, and has already had 2 kids by different fathers. Classism? Sexism? Maybe. Or maybe just stating the facts about people with different goals in life I'm disappointed the OP deleted her account, because I wanted her to come update when they found out if the baby was her friend's son's. Your views are ridiculously sexist, in my opinion. Unless a child is conceived via sexual assault, a man who impregnates a woman is not a victim in the situation. Yes, his life will change forever, but so will the woman's, correct? It seems that you believe that these poor young men are being forced to have sex with these dangerous hussies who want nothing more than to trap them with a baby. This view is so ridiculously outdated that it's almost hard to take seriously. And yeah. The OP was a classist jerk, IMO. It's one thing to talk about goals in life - "her parents don't value education," but what the OP did was trash the young woman and her entire family.
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