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Post by Sassenach on Aug 4, 2014 23:41:31 GMT
There is no way I would let an irresponsible 19 year old burn candles in my house.
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AmeliaBloomer
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Aug 5, 2014 1:09:04 GMT
Only read the OP. My husband once forgot that he had lit a candle in our house. His mean wife no longer allows it. (And he's a tad older than 19. )
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Post by polz on Aug 5, 2014 1:14:45 GMT
Nope, not mean. DD is only allowed LED candles and when they are on flicker mode, they look like the real thing. DD leaves lights/heaters on. I don't even want to go there with candles.
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Post by Charlotte on Aug 5, 2014 1:31:29 GMT
Your house your rules, but if my mom put those kind of restrictions on me when I was nineteen I would move out.
Wait, that is exactly what I did.
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Post by redayh on Aug 5, 2014 1:39:20 GMT
I set the bed on fire with a candle when I was a teenager and I was über responsible in general. Buy her a battery operated one.
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Post by GiantsFan on Aug 5, 2014 2:00:18 GMT
I'm not into candles. It just too easy to forget them. I have battery operated ones, but forget to turn them on.
In my crowd though, I'm the minority. Most of my friends love candles.
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Post by JBeans on Aug 5, 2014 2:10:02 GMT
I hate candles because they are a huge fire hazard, responsible or not. I'd buy her a scentsy burner.
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kay2rn
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Jun 26, 2014 2:52:20 GMT
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Post by kay2rn on Aug 5, 2014 2:18:19 GMT
In my first apartment, the renters had a curtain that blew into a lit candle that caused a fire. Both the girl and her boyfriend died of smoke inhalation. I took care of her in the ICU. Six months after I moved in, I got a call from her friend who didn't even know she had died. I was the one who broke the news. So sad. I have a phobia about candles now!
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Post by Goldynn on Aug 5, 2014 2:47:20 GMT
Absolutely no candles in bedrooms here. The stakes are too high should anything go wrong.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2014 2:53:15 GMT
Your house your rules, but if my mom put those kind of restrictions on me when I was nineteen I would move out. Wait, that is exactly what I did. You think it's an unreasonable restriction...when the price of a mistake can be either death or a complete loss of your home and everything in it?
If my DD wanted to move out over me not allowing her to burn a candle in her room, I'd help her pack and would feel absolutely no guilt or regret over my decision.
Maybe all of the 19yo's should move out of their college dorms as well because I've never seen a college dorm that allowed an open flame.
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Post by Charlotte on Aug 5, 2014 3:16:05 GMT
Your house your rules, but if my mom put those kind of restrictions on me when I was nineteen I would move out. Wait, that is exactly what I did. You think it's an unreasonable restriction...when the price of a mistake can be either death or a complete loss of your home and everything in it?
If my DD wanted to move out over me not allowing her to burn a candle in her room, I'd help her pack and would feel absolutely no guilt or regret over my decision.
Maybe all of the 19yo's should move out of their college dorms as well because I've never seen a college dorm that allowed an open flame.
What I said was your house your rules. I am saying if she doesn't like the rules of the house she should move out. Having your mother "flip out" on you over anything at age nineteen isn't exactly the best way to instill responsibility. Instead of "flipping out" why not teach her how to safely light a candle, how to safely extinguish a candle (here is a hint, blowing it out isn't the safest way) set a time limit for the candle to be lit no more than an hour at a time, etc.... There are ways to safely light and enjoy a candle. But flipping out on your daughter is only going to make her angry, resentful, and quite possibly sneaky about it. And who knows, maybe she is looking at rental ads right now....
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Post by AussieMeg on Aug 5, 2014 3:17:36 GMT
I won't even let my 16yo DD have an electric blanket because I don't trust her to remember to turn it off!! There is no way I would let her burn candles in her room. Just no way.
ETA: I won't even let myself burn candles anywhere in the house.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2014 3:18:33 GMT
I guess I missed all the "flipping out".
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Post by Charlotte on Aug 5, 2014 3:28:51 GMT
I won't even let my 16yo DD have an electric blanket because I don't trust her to remember to turn it off!! There is no way I would let her burn candles in her room. Just no way. ETA: I won't even let myself burn candles anywhere in the house. I don't disagree with a 14 year old or even a 16 year old not having candles in their room. But the OP's daughter is 19. An adult. At least have an adult discussion with her about it and why you don't want her to have a candle. Don't "flip".
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Post by smokeynspike on Aug 5, 2014 3:37:36 GMT
I wouldn't burn candles in my own room, so no, I don't think you are being unreasonable. LOL
Melissa
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Post by AussieMeg on Aug 5, 2014 3:41:53 GMT
I won't even let my 16yo DD have an electric blanket because I don't trust her to remember to turn it off!! There is no way I would let her burn candles in her room. Just no way. ETA: I won't even let myself burn candles anywhere in the house. I don't disagree with a 14 year old or even a 16 year old not having candles in their room. But the OP's daughter is 19. An adult. At least have an adult discussion with her about it and why you don't want her to have a candle. Don't "flip". Yes but the OP stated "She is 19 years old and not very responsible." Anyone can be taught how to safely light and extinguish a candle, but if you are not very responsible and forget to do it, or fall asleep while it's still burning, all the training in the world isn't going to help.
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