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Post by jemali on Aug 24, 2016 16:50:30 GMT
Someone posted this on a facebook group I'm on. Almost all of the people that responded to the post said that they had done this, either behind their child's back or to their face. Now I can't say that I've probably ever flipped *anyone* off, much less my kids, but have you done this?
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Post by mrssmith on Aug 24, 2016 16:53:48 GMT
To my kid? No way.
To some crazy drivers while kids are in the car? Yes, but I try not to do it anymore now that they know what it means!
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Post by gar on Aug 24, 2016 16:54:47 GMT
Made a face? Sure. Flipped them off? Nope.
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Post by refugeepea on Aug 24, 2016 16:55:42 GMT
No, but yes to my husband.
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Post by ginacivey on Aug 24, 2016 16:56:10 GMT
to one of my kids - yep!
behind their backs and probably once or twice to their face....probably only half joking
but this is one of those threads were some will be aghast that parents do things like this
i say - to each his own
it apparantly did no permanent emotional damage...they all still adore me
gina
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Post by flute4peace on Aug 24, 2016 16:57:48 GMT
Dear gosh, no!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 16:59:29 GMT
Yup!
They aren't too damage from it, just enough to make them interesting.
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 24, 2016 17:04:39 GMT
to one of my kids - yep! behind their backs and probably once or twice to their face....probably only half joking but this is one of those threads were some will be aghast that parents do things like this i say - to each his own it apparantly did no permanent emotional damage...they all still adore me gina Well, I am going to totally send the 'aghast' crowd into a frenzy, because flipping the bird is a pretty normal around the anxious household. Never in anger, but always as the last word in the silly joking thing we do. Usually accompanied by the oh-so-juvenile sticking out of the tongue or rolling of the eyes. *shrug* But I also admit that I sometimes curse like a sailor, feed my children food out of boxes and cans, don't censor music choices, and let them watch movies at ages younger than I should have. I let my 17 year old kid go to Disney with his friends, including his girlfriend, for 5 days with no chaperone. I am the mother that people raise their eyebrows to I guess. |
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Post by LeaP on Aug 24, 2016 17:08:45 GMT
I don't flip, but since we hit the teen/tweens I often roll my eyes. I kind of regret it because if I follow the logic that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery I'm actually reinforcing the behavior that makes me jump up and down like a troll (another behavior of mine that I am not proud of).eSave
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Post by Linda on Aug 24, 2016 17:08:52 GMT
Well, I am going to totally send the 'aghast' crowd into a frenzy, because flipping the bird is a pretty normal around the anxious household. Never in anger, but always as the last word in the silly joking thing we do. Usually accompanied by the oh-so-juvenile sticking out of the tongue or rolling of the eyes. joining you on that bench although in our house that would only be with/around older teens/young adults not something we do with/around younger children |
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Post by miominmio on Aug 24, 2016 17:09:15 GMT
No.
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Post by PLurker on Aug 24, 2016 17:10:14 GMT
You are my people anxiousmom Most of our cursing etc is done in jest. We don't really do it if we mean it, kwim? Kids swear some, too. And I've always said I rather have them use a "bad" word in a nice/benign way than a "nice" word in a mean/hurtful way. ETA "kids" are teen and young adult. Not a thing that was done from toddlerhood. They know how/when to behave. For the most part.  |
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Post by padresfan619 on Aug 24, 2016 17:11:44 GMT
I was an asshole as a teenager so I'm sure my parents did it a time or two. But pearl clutchers don't last long in our family.
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Post by mom on Aug 24, 2016 17:15:34 GMT
to one of my kids - yep! behind their backs and probably once or twice to their face....probably only half joking but this is one of those threads were some will be aghast that parents do things like this i say - to each his own it apparantly did no permanent emotional damage...they all still adore me gina Well, I am going to totally send the 'aghast' crowd into a frenzy, because flipping the bird is a pretty normal around the anxious household. Never in anger, but always as the last word in the silly joking thing we do. Usually accompanied by the oh-so-juvenile sticking out of the tongue or rolling of the eyes. *shrug* But I also admit that I sometimes curse like a sailor, feed my children food out of boxes and cans, don't censor music choices, and let them movies at ages younger than I should have. I let me 17 year old kid go to Disney with his friends, including his girlfriend, for 5 days with no chaperone. I am the mother that people raise their eyebrows to I guess. And this is why I adore you. I could have written both of these posts about myself. |
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Post by Kerri W on Aug 24, 2016 17:25:50 GMT
to one of my kids - yep! behind their backs and probably once or twice to their face....probably only half joking but this is one of those threads were some will be aghast that parents do things like this i say - to each his own it apparantly did no permanent emotional damage...they all still adore me gina Word.for.word. My kids are well adjusted adults with whom we have great relationships. And I flipped them off. And told them "your behavior is rather bitchy right now" and they survived. But then again I swear like a truck driver too. SaveSave |
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Post by finally~a~mama on Aug 24, 2016 17:30:00 GMT
No. It's not really something I do in any situation. Now curse someone under my breath as I walk away. That's totally me. LOL I don't think I've done that to my kids yet, but they're still young.  |
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Post by scorpeao on Aug 24, 2016 17:30:15 GMT
I've never flipped my sneauxflake off behind her back, but I did mouth "f*ck you" quite often...especially when she was in Jr. High. I guess I'm a crappy parent by Pea standards.
ETA: This meme showed up on one of the FB I follow. A woman named Dolores commented with a sanctimommy post about how awful a parent you were if you ever did this. I tagged my dd and said "Dolores says I damaged you." My dd, gotta love her, came back with "Calm the f*ck down Dolores." A few months later my dd came across a blog post and about her sanctimommy slam. It's now our go to phrase for when someone is agitated...I even had burning feather make my dd a water bottle with it.
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Post by MizIndependent on Aug 24, 2016 17:32:47 GMT
I've never flipped my sneauxflake off behind her back, but I did mouth "f*ck you" quite often...especially when she was in Jr. High. I guess I'm a crappy parent by Pea standards. I think if you look at the "pea standards", you'll find you're perfectly normal. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 24, 2016 17:39:49 GMT
In my house we do the friends fist bump.
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on Aug 24, 2016 17:49:42 GMT
I've never flipped my sneauxflake off behind her back, but I did mouth "f*ck you" quite often...especially when she was in Jr. High. I guess I'm a crappy parent by Pea standards. ETA: This meme showed up on one of the FB I follow. A woman named Dolores commented with a sanctimommy post about how awful a parent you were if you ever did this. I tagged my dd and said "Dolores says I damaged you." My dd, gotta love her, came back with "Calm the f*ck down Dolores." A few months later my dd came across a blog post and about her sanctimommy slam. It's now our go to phrase for when someone is agitated...I even had burning feather make my dd a water bottle with it. That's awesome right there. Your DD is a well rounded individual. I have a 16 year old and a 5 year old. The big one, yeah, I've flipped him off as he's stomped out of a room before. Keeps my words sane and level if I vent a little steam like that before speaking again. But, I also tell my boys they are behaving like jerks when they are. I don't sugar coat that. I also told him the peas story from a couple weeks back about the teen son nearly getting beat with carrots in Publix. He's made it a running joke in our house. Thinks he's absolutely hilarious. |
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Post by cmpeter on Aug 24, 2016 17:51:57 GMT
No...I am not a flipper though. Swearing in general isn't my thing. I think because my mom swore/swears like a sailor and would embarrass me in public growing up. Heck she embarrasses me in public now with her swearing. She has no filter and doesn't care where or who might hear her.
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Post by scorpeao on Aug 24, 2016 17:54:00 GMT
No...I am not a flipper though. Swearing in general isn't my thing. I think because my mom swore/swears like a sailor and would embarrass me in public growing up. Heck she embarrasses me in public now with her swearing. She has no filter and doesn't care where or who might hear her. This didn't work for my dd. Maybe that's why she chose the Navy? She already swears like a sailor, might as well become one. |
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Post by scorpeao on Aug 24, 2016 17:55:40 GMT
I've never flipped my sneauxflake off behind her back, but I did mouth "f*ck you" quite often...especially when she was in Jr. High. I guess I'm a crappy parent by Pea standards. ETA: This meme showed up on one of the FB I follow. A woman named Dolores commented with a sanctimommy post about how awful a parent you were if you ever did this. I tagged my dd and said "Dolores says I damaged you." My dd, gotta love her, came back with "Calm the f*ck down Dolores." A few months later my dd came across a blog post and about her sanctimommy slam. It's now our go to phrase for when someone is agitated...I even had burning feather make my dd a water bottle with it. That's awesome right there. Your DD is a well rounded individual. I have a 16 year old and a 5 year old. The big one, yeah, I've flipped him off as he's stomped out of a room before. Keeps my words sane and level if I vent a little steam like that before speaking again. But, I also tell my boys they are behaving like jerks when they are. I don't sugar coat that. I also told him the peas story from a couple weeks back about the teen son nearly getting beat with carrots in Publix. He's made it a running joke in our house. Thinks he's absolutely hilarious. I missed the carrot beating post. I can relate though...it was Jr. High when I had to refrain from attempting to beat my dd with softball pants. |
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 24, 2016 17:59:01 GMT
That's awesome right there. Your DD is a well rounded individual. I have a 16 year old and a 5 year old. The big one, yeah, I've flipped him off as he's stomped out of a room before. Keeps my words sane and level if I vent a little steam like that before speaking again. But, I also tell my boys they are behaving like jerks when they are. I don't sugar coat that. I also told him the peas story from a couple weeks back about the teen son nearly getting beat with carrots in Publix. He's made it a running joke in our house. Thinks he's absolutely hilarious. I missed the carrot beating post. I can relate though...it was Jr. High when I had to refrain from attempting to beat my dd with softball pants. It may come as no surprise that the carrot beating post was mine.  I don't get mad very often but when I do is it epic.  |
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Post by marimoose on Aug 24, 2016 18:00:18 GMT
to one of my kids - yep! behind their backs and probably once or twice to their face....probably only half joking but this is one of those threads were some will be aghast that parents do things like this i say - to each his own it apparantly did no permanent emotional damage...they all still adore me gina Well, I am going to totally send the 'aghast' crowd into a frenzy, because flipping the bird is a pretty normal around the anxious household. Never in anger, but always as the last word in the silly joking thing we do. Usually accompanied by the oh-so-juvenile sticking out of the tongue or rolling of the eyes. *shrug* But I also admit that I sometimes curse like a sailor, feed my children food out of boxes and cans, don't censor music choices, and let them watch movies at ages younger than I should have. I let my 17 year old kid go to Disney with his friends, including his girlfriend, for 5 days with no chaperone. I am the mother that people raise their eyebrows to I guess. You don't know it yet but I think you are my long lost best friend - between this post and our mutual LOVE/need of coffee..... Made me laugh today and I needed it greatly. anxiousmom, you are one of my favorite people  |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 18:00:36 GMT
I missed the carrot beating post. I can relate though...it was Jr. High when I had to refrain from attempting to beat my dd with softball pants. It may come as no surprise that the carrot beating post was mine. I don't get mad very often but when I do is it epic. I'm going to have to go find this now  Save |
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Post by lumo on Aug 24, 2016 18:04:36 GMT
Yep, I have. DH as well (to his face, even!).
We're not the pearl-clutchin' types around here.
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Post by scorpeao on Aug 24, 2016 18:04:58 GMT
It may come as no surprise that the carrot beating post was mine. I don't get mad very often but when I do is it epic. I'm going to have to go find this now SaveCan you tag me when you find it please? |
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 24, 2016 18:12:34 GMT
Legend has it that when I was in junior high, I was awfully hard to like. I got sent to my room one day after being a huge PITA, and I told my mom that she shouldn't send me to my room because I only flipped her off once I shut the door. She said, "What do you think I am doing on the other side of the door." Ha! It was probably the first time in my life I had even considered another person's point of view. She was the best mom, so anyone out there who has done it, well, you have my blessing.
My sons and I have constant banter, so we are able to get things out before they get to the point of flipage.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 18:16:06 GMT
ok, scorpeao , I found it and it's great  It was in the 'Have you ever been so mad at your kid you were ready to pop a vein?' thread. And, anxiousmom , I love you even more after reading that story!  And, LOOK what I found for you:  |
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And, LOOK what I found for you: