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Post by gmcwife1 on Aug 24, 2016 18:19:28 GMT
ok, scorpeao , I found it and it's great It was in the 'Have you ever been so mad at your kid you were ready to pop a vein?' thread. And, anxiousmom , I love you even more after reading that story! OMG, thank you for sharing that, I missed it in the other thread and LOVE it!!
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Post by scorpeao on Aug 24, 2016 18:19:56 GMT
ok, scorpeao , I found it and it's great It was in the 'Have you ever been so mad at your kid you were ready to pop a vein?' thread. And, anxiousmom , I love you even more after reading that story!  And, LOOK what I found for you: This is hilarious!!!!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2016 18:23:36 GMT
I think I like this carrot better, even if it's not animated  
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Post by refugeepea on Aug 24, 2016 18:30:03 GMT
I told my mom that she shouldn't send me to my room because I only flipped her off once I shut the door. She said, "What do you think I am doing on the other side of the door." 
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Post by SweetieBugs on Aug 24, 2016 18:31:22 GMT
No, never. I have never ever done this gesture as it is completely repulsive to me. Now I can swear just fine but there is something about that gesture that really offends me. I guess I should be Italian as their"flip off gesture" (if I'm thinking correctly) is just fine by me.
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Post by deekaye on Aug 24, 2016 18:33:43 GMT
No, I can honestly say I've never flipped my kid off... but only because I'm not a "flipper". I have, however, rolled my eyes, sighed, smarted off, yelled, and thrown a pile at mail at them (ya had to be there  ). I must have not been too bad of a mom; they are both lovely adult women! 
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 24, 2016 18:34:47 GMT
Well, the peas who say "I've never flipped anyone off in my life" are obviously going to be aghast. Either you're a flipper or you're not. Well now I have the Dr. Pepper theme song in my head.
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Post by gale w on Aug 24, 2016 18:38:20 GMT
No but I'm not really a flipper offer.
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Post by gorgeouskid on Aug 24, 2016 18:39:56 GMT
Yup. Behind his back and to his face.
But I'm savage like that.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 24, 2016 18:41:05 GMT
I missed the carrot beating post. I can relate though...it was Jr. High when I had to refrain from attempting to beat my dd with softball pants. It may come as no surprise that the carrot beating post was mine. I don't get mad very often but when I do is it epic. Same here, that must be why I like you so much! I once once cursed out my DH and whipped a wicker basket across the room and into a wall where it shattered into a million bits (opposite wall from where he was standing) because he didn't listen to me about something important and then claimed I never told him.  I'm pretty sure he was listening after that! I don't think I've ever flipped off my kid, but give her time. She's only six! I *have* wanted to read the book "Go the F*** to Sleep" on occasion though...
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Post by kibblesandbits on Aug 24, 2016 18:45:19 GMT
Yes, yes I have. My god, kids can be assholes sometimes. Judge away.
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on Aug 24, 2016 18:45:55 GMT
It may come as no surprise that the carrot beating post was mine.  It's all coming together now anxiousmom . I like you.
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Post by kibblesandbits on Aug 24, 2016 18:46:40 GMT
anxiousmom - OMG ROFL! "Carrot's, y'all" bwahahahaha!
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Aug 24, 2016 18:52:38 GMT
Not yet. I've made the talk, talk, talk gesture at her back. lol
I reserve flipping off for people who are jerks while driving. I also call them idiots very loudly, not that they can hear.
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Post by kristi521 on Aug 24, 2016 18:54:17 GMT
to one of my kids - yep! behind their backs and probably once or twice to their face....probably only half joking but this is one of those threads were some will be aghast that parents do things like this i say - to each his own it apparantly did no permanent emotional damage...they all still adore me gina Word.for.word. My kids are well adjusted adults with whom we have great relationships. And I flipped them off. And told them "your behavior is rather bitchy right now" and they survived. But then again I swear like a truck driver too. SaveSaveMy kids are not well adjusted adults yet, but they appear to be on their way. Time will tell. It doesn't happen often, but it happens. I might even be guilty of calling my a child or two of mine, a bitch (in my head and probably well deserved given teenage attitudes some days).
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Post by not2peased on Aug 24, 2016 18:56:39 GMT
yes, I have,and also to their faces
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Post by Nink on Aug 24, 2016 18:58:04 GMT
I've sent him the middle finger emoji on more than one occasion. Does that count?
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Post by malibou on Aug 24, 2016 18:58:17 GMT
Not much of a flipper, don't cha know. But I'm seeing some reasons to do so. And if that teen doesn't behave He'll be seeing that and more in my angry craze.
OMG the carrot beating. What a story. My teen seems a bit bent on pushing me towards this lately. May I use your story as lesson for him?
I'm hardly ever flip anyone off, just not my go to. The car is the only place I can think of that I use it. I am however, fluent in profanity and use it as a part of my everyday vocabulary.
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Post by Nink on Aug 24, 2016 19:01:56 GMT
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Post by anonrefugee on Aug 24, 2016 19:03:06 GMT
No, but it's not really my thing. I have recently called him a jerk and he's bordering on being an ass. To his face. I'm not big on behind the back moves, I'm more about to your face.
I don't have much opinion about others who've done this. But I would scoot out of way if you were at the school entry, like I once witnessed.
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 24, 2016 19:04:47 GMT
On a serious note:
I think threads like this are important for other parents to read. If you take the internet at it's word, parenthood is the perfect little utopia where there are rainbows and unicorns, mommies who only feed their children perfect food, spend every waking moment looking adoringly at them, and everyone lives in perfect harmony with no one talking back, no one yells and no one ever gets angry.
The best advice I got when I had my had my kids was a veteran mom who told me that there would come a day when I hated my children. Loved them, but hated them too. She told me not to freak out, it is very normal. And that I could only do the best for them that I could do.
Sometimes though it is hard to reconcile that when you see all the stuff on the internet about how perfect motherhood is. It makes you feel kind of alone when you consider how unperfect you are.
I think sometimes the truth is that threads like this take away some of the stigma of those unperfect moments and make us feel less like we have doomed our children to failure. Or a life time of therapy.
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Post by anonrefugee on Aug 24, 2016 19:05:18 GMT
Well, the peas who say "I've never flipped anyone off in my life" are obviously going to be aghast. Either you're a flipper or you're not. This is true, you flip or you don't. I might be better served stoping cursing and learning to do something quiet. @ilovecookies did you make the dancing carrot? Amazing!
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Post by anonrefugee on Aug 24, 2016 19:06:46 GMT
anxiousmom I thought the advice was the day will come when you hate your dear husband!
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Post by wallyagain on Aug 24, 2016 19:13:49 GMT
I have even told my children that I will always love them but some days, it was hard to like them. They are both lovely men that still like coming home. Couldn't have scarred them much.
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Post by scrapsotime on Aug 24, 2016 19:24:28 GMT
Yes I have and still do every now and then. All my children are adults now. They like to pretend they are all pearl clutching when I do it now. Like I am too old to flip them the bird or something.
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Post by cannes on Aug 24, 2016 19:34:26 GMT
I've been known to flip the bird occasionally (mainly when we're joking around). I can honestly say I've never flipped of my kids, behind their back or otherwise. We're just entering the teen years in my house, though, so the future is yet to be determined. 
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Post by perumbula on Aug 24, 2016 19:52:27 GMT
Does in my head count? I determined a long time ago that I wouldn't swear. I consider gestures like that swearing, so I don't do them . . . out loud. My children have gotten me so frustrated at times that the only thing that keeps me from flipping them off and swearing like a sailor is 30 years of practice at not doing it.
I have other bad habits, though, so there's that.
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Post by cyndijane on Aug 24, 2016 20:04:28 GMT
to one of my kids - yep! behind their backs and probably once or twice to their face....probably only half joking but this is one of those threads were some will be aghast that parents do things like this i say - to each his own it apparantly did no permanent emotional damage...they all still adore me gina Well, I am going to totally send the 'aghast' crowd into a frenzy, because flipping the bird is a pretty normal around the anxious household. Never in anger, but always as the last word in the silly joking thing we do. Usually accompanied by the oh-so-juvenile sticking out of the tongue or rolling of the eyes. *shrug* But I also admit that I sometimes curse like a sailor, feed my children food out of boxes and cans, don't censor music choices, and let them watch movies at ages younger than I should have. I let my 17 year old kid go to Disney with his friends, including his girlfriend, for 5 days with no chaperone. I am the mother that people raise their eyebrows to I guess. I think families express love with their own timbre. What would be received as playful and loving in one household might be received as hurtful or mean in another. Or, what might be viewed as respect and independence to one could be perceived as disinterest or neglect in another. Flipping people off wouldn't fly in my home, but wouldn't raise an eyebrow in either of my sisters' families. I love my kids, we have a home full of loud laughter- so do they. Love can be shown in many ways. I'll admit, I was way more judgmental before we became a autism family. Diversity really is the spice of life.
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Post by lostwithout2peas on Aug 24, 2016 20:14:35 GMT
Yup, behind his back, and now occasionally to his face now that he's older! It always makes him laugh and calls me a savage!! No pearl clutchers here!
His teen years where rough, and I didn't like him for a good solid 2-3 years or so! Now we have a great relationship and are close!
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Aug 24, 2016 20:18:57 GMT
I don't think I have, but I am sure I have wanted to!
Raising kids isn't for wimps!
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