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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 26, 2016 15:28:33 GMT
Well, I'm sure you are all doing your best, but I am not crass nor am I prone to anger at my kiddos like some folks seem to be, so, no, my fingers are for holding my littles, not to Inflict violence on them. We don't raise our voices and use only gentle, child-led, meditation to move through negative energy in our home. On the rare occasion we still struggle to maintain positive energy, I add my breastmilk to an organic kale and kumbucha smoothie, and it takes the bitterness right out of us as we cuddle in our shared bed. Our 172 month old sometimes feels a bit cramped in the family bed, but he's just so glad to have enlightened and nonviolent parents, he makes due. When you know better, you do better. My friend and mentor Dolores always says that, and she has inspired me, and countless others, through her dedicated online presence. Everyone should have such a friend!  |
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Post by seikashaven on Aug 26, 2016 16:55:08 GMT
Well, I'm sure you are all doing your best, but I am not crass nor am I prone to anger at my kiddos like some folks seem to be, so, no, my fingers are for holding my littles, not to Inflict violence on them. We don't raise our voices and use only gentle, child-led, meditation to move through negative energy in our home. On the rare occasion we still struggle to maintain positive energy, I add my breastmilk to an organic kale and kumbucha smoothie, and it takes the bitterness right out of us as we cuddle in our shared bed. Our 172 month old sometimes feels a bit cramped in the family bed, but he's just so glad to have enlightened and nonviolent parents, he makes due. When you know better, you do better. My friend and mentor Dolores always says that, and she has inspired me, and countless others, through her dedicated online presence. Everyone should have such a friend! I was totally getting riled up until that second paragraph. Ha ha! |
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Post by ukfan on Aug 26, 2016 17:26:52 GMT
Well, I'm sure you are all doing your best, but I am not crass nor am I prone to anger at my kiddos like some folks seem to be, so, no, my fingers are for holding my littles, not to Inflict violence on them. We don't raise our voices and use only gentle, child-led, meditation to move through negative energy in our home. On the rare occasion we still struggle to maintain positive energy, I add my breastmilk to an organic kale and kumbucha smoothie, and it takes the bitterness right out of us as we cuddle in our shared bed. Our 172 month old sometimes feels a bit cramped in the family bed, but he's just so glad to have enlightened and nonviolent parents, he makes due. When you know better, you do better. My friend and mentor Dolores always says that, and she has inspired me, and countless others, through her dedicated online presence. Everyone should have such a friend! Perfect!
Yes, I have - but usually when my husband can see and we can both enjoy the sentiment as it is equally shared.
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Post by scrapaddie on Aug 26, 2016 17:46:38 GMT
No.... To me, that goes beyond angry to hateful. I have never flipped off my dd
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Aug 26, 2016 17:58:45 GMT
calm the fuck down delores!
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Post by DEX on Aug 26, 2016 18:08:59 GMT
I have done many things wrong while raising my son. I am crude, have a twisted sense of humor, and you never know what is going to come out of my mouth. <------ My son is now 37 and I have 2 adorable grandsons. My son is always saying now, "Mom, watch your mouth!" when I let loose in front of his boys. I have never flipped him off. It is not part of my arsenal. I waited til his friends were around and then embarrassed him. In my defense, throughout high school , he mooned me! Frequently. I got no respect. LOL.  I am a bad mother/grandmother.  |
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Post by oldcrow on Aug 26, 2016 19:13:52 GMT
to one of my kids - yep! behind their backs and probably once or twice to their face....probably only half joking but this is one of those threads were some will be aghast that parents do things like this i say - to each his own it apparantly did no permanent emotional damage...they all still adore me gina Well, I am going to totally send the 'aghast' crowd into a frenzy, because flipping the bird is a pretty normal around the anxious household. Never in anger, but always as the last word in the silly joking thing we do. Usually accompanied by the oh-so-juvenile sticking out of the tongue or rolling of the eyes. *shrug* But I also admit that I sometimes curse like a sailor, feed my children food out of boxes and cans, don't censor music choices, and let them watch movies at ages younger than I should have. I let my 17 year old kid go to Disney with his friends, including his girlfriend, for 5 days with no chaperone. I am the mother that people raise their eyebrows to I guess. Guess we learned our momma lessons from the same book. |
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Post by tduby1 on Aug 26, 2016 22:44:44 GMT
I've never flipped my sneauxflake off behind her back, but I did mouth "f*ck you" quite often...especially when she was in Jr. High. I guess I'm a crappy parent by Pea standards. ETA: This meme showed up on one of the FB I follow. A woman named Dolores commented with a sanctimommy post about how awful a parent you were if you ever did this. I tagged my dd and said "Dolores says I damaged you." My dd, gotta love her, came back with "Calm the f*ck down Dolores." A few months later my dd came across a blog post and about her sanctimommy slam. It's now our go to phrase for when someone is agitated...I even had burning feather make my dd a water bottle with it. Hilarious! Someone wrote a blog post about your daughter's response? |
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Post by cakediva on Aug 27, 2016 0:08:37 GMT
You are my people anxiousmom Most of our cursing etc is done in jest. We don't really do it if we mean it, kwim? Kids swear some, too. And I've always said I rather have them use a "bad" word in a nice/benign way than a "nice" word in a mean/hurtful way. ETA "kids" are teen and young adult. Not a thing that was done from toddlerhood. They know how/when to behave. For the most part.  You are both my people! I will admit I do use bad words in anger as well as in jest. But my kids know my favourite word starts with F and ends with K, and I really don't care what others think about it. I know when to filter my language around clients and in mixed company. But at home? My house, my way of speaking. |
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Post by tmarschall on Aug 27, 2016 0:14:16 GMT
Well, I'm sure you are all doing your best, but I am not crass nor am I prone to anger at my kiddos like some folks seem to be, so, no, my fingers are for holding my littles, not to Inflict violence on them. We don't raise our voices and use only gentle, child-led, meditation to move through negative energy in our home. On the rare occasion we still struggle to maintain positive energy, I add my breastmilk to an organic kale and kumbucha smoothie, and it takes the bitterness right out of us as we cuddle in our shared bed. Our 172 month old sometimes feels a bit cramped in the family bed, but he's just so glad to have enlightened and nonviolent parents, he makes due. When you know better, you do better. My friend and mentor Dolores always says that, and she has inspired me, and countless others, through her dedicated online presence. Everyone should have such a friend! For the win! But...calm the fuck down, Delores! 😂 |
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Post by cakediva on Aug 27, 2016 0:25:18 GMT
We do a lot of the "Ross" bird flip around here too:
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Post by AussieMeg on Aug 27, 2016 2:24:17 GMT
"Calm the fuck down Dolores"If this is going to become the new Pea catchphrase - and I certainly think it SHOULD - then can you all please make sure to spell it correctly. It is Dolores, not Delores. Thank you. 
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Post by camanddanismom on Aug 31, 2016 3:04:01 GMT
No way! It's not a thing I do to anyone. I try very hard not to swear either. My DD gets very upset! May I ask, how old is your daughter. Mine was the same younger. Hated swearing, any violence on TV (even cartoon-ish) and was a total black/white, right/wrong, cautious and follow the rules kid. And wanted everyone to "behave" too. She would get upset. You'd never know it now. She grew out of it and now appreciates the shades of gray and enjoys a well placed, good-natured curse now but more in fun and teasing than anything, not much, if ever, in anger. Well maybe at her brother. Haha!!! She is 11! |
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