oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on Aug 6, 2014 15:33:43 GMT
Do you know borderline hypochondriacs? OMG I work with three of them. The three most sickly people I know. Always moaning and groaning and coughing and sneezing and one of them who always comes up with the latest food allergy du jour. And then they get offended if anyone dares tease them about it. I mean, really? For the record, if you are one of these kinds...you are STUPID AND ANNOYING to listen to. I like you otherwise, but stop now, just stop. Be sick, sniffle away. I just don't want to listen to you talk about it constantly. You are NOT dying. You are mildly uncomfortable. Man up. Grow the hell up, STHU. Rant over. Gah...
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Post by amom23 on Aug 6, 2014 15:37:41 GMT
I know of one and she is really hard to be around.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2014 15:38:50 GMT
I know one but she is very, very sick but every detail isn't needed. Just "ok todayI threw up" is enough. Not every.single,detail. Crazy.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2014 15:43:50 GMT
I have one on fb, this morning her complaint was that she didn't get a lot of sleep last night because a tiny spot the size of a pea on her thumb kept her up all night in pain...
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oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on Aug 6, 2014 15:43:54 GMT
lol Elannah.
The thing is, if you are legitimately sick then I'm sympathetic, I get it. But if whining is just a way of life for you then, no. Two of these are men in their early 50's too. I don't know how their wives handle that kind of creepy whineyness (sp?). Seriously, that's such a turn off to me.
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 6, 2014 15:44:16 GMT
Try being married to one (and his mother)... OYE... I started teasing husband that I could have filled up several journals with all his ailments since we have been married. I ignore his complaints 99% of the time now...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2014 15:46:51 GMT
OMG...I truly feel terrible about what I am going to type...but I have a friend who is battling a disease that is curable...I am sympathetic...I am glad she is beating it...I don't doubt that she doesn't feel well a lot...BUT ever single FB post has to do with a reference to her illness...really...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2014 15:47:54 GMT
My dh is borderline as well. He got it legit....I used to say about his mother, "She enjoys poor health".
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2014 15:49:16 GMT
Her post about diahrrea 10 times (or 20 or whatever), she is dizzy (and fell and hit her head on the wall trying to avoid something), her potassium is so low she should be dead, her doctor doesn't listen to her, the psychiatrist doesn't understand. Oh but yeah, I am patient. I mean if she didn't have me to listen who would? We all deserve to be heard right?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2014 15:50:01 GMT
Do you know borderline hypochondriacs? OMG I work with three of them. The three most sickly people I know. Always moaning and groaning and coughing and sneezing and one of them who always comes up with the latest food allergy du jour. And then they get offended if anyone dares tease them about it. I mean, really? For the record, if you are one of these kinds...you are STUPID AND ANNOYING to listen to. I like you otherwise, but stop now, just stop. Be sick, sniffle away. I just don't want to listen to you talk about it constantly. You are NOT dying. You are mildly uncomfortable. Man up. Grow the hell up, STHU. Rant over. Gah... So you are saying you work with all men?
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Post by alibama on Aug 6, 2014 15:51:48 GMT
I have enough Issues with the men I work with gladly that is not one of them ha ha. I do often tell them I am going to hand out pacifiers for them though because they whine about everything else.
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Post by alibama on Aug 6, 2014 15:52:30 GMT
Do you know borderline hypochondriacs? OMG I work with three of them. The three most sickly people I know. Always moaning and groaning and coughing and sneezing and one of them who always comes up with the latest food allergy du jour. And then they get offended if anyone dares tease them about it. I mean, really? For the record, if you are one of these kinds...you are STUPID AND ANNOYING to listen to. I like you otherwise, but stop now, just stop. Be sick, sniffle away. I just don't want to listen to you talk about it constantly. You are NOT dying. You are mildly uncomfortable. Man up. Grow the hell up, STHU. Rant over. Gah... So you are saying you work with all men?
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Post by monklady123 on Aug 6, 2014 15:52:41 GMT
Try being married to one (and his mother)... OYE... I started teasing husband that I could have filled up several journals with all his ailments since we have been married. I ignore his complaints 99% of the time now... And see, this is the problem with this type of person. It's like the boy who cried wolf. We listen to it over and over and over and over and over... and then one day it's the real thing and we don't believe it. And yes, I do know someone like this. This person is legitimately sick with a few things, but embellishes all of them plus makes up others. So a rash is immediately skin cancer, and a scratch that gets a teensy bit red (normal red) is obviously a raging staph infection, etc. It is a mental illness so I try to remember that. However, I'm also not going to be an enabler, so I don't encourage these conversations. I either change the subject or if it's in an email or text I often just ignore it.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Aug 6, 2014 15:53:27 GMT
I know someone like this...it's annoying but I try and just scroll past it on fb. I don't know what I would do if I had to deal with her personally daily.
I see some of this here to lol I just scroll on.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2014 15:54:45 GMT
Hypochondriacs don't know that they are. Even when faced with the accusation they'll deny deny deny. This was discussed at two peas and I was surprised to see that there were some whose doctors had labeled them as hypochondriacs - one poster even saw the diagnosis written in her file when the doc stepped out of the exam room. Of course they challenged the idea and blamed the doc, then took the opportunity to write about their illnesses. I'd be quite surprised if someone popped up and said, hey, ya, that's me - I'm that guy.
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Post by scrappert on Aug 6, 2014 15:56:35 GMT
I totally agree with you oh yvonne
The constant complaining wares on you.
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Post by jmurray on Aug 6, 2014 15:58:16 GMT
We have a receptionist who joined the company in January. I swear this girl has not felt well a single day since she started. It's at the point now when I see her in the morning I don't say "how are you?" because I just don't want to hear about it. She's had a cold that's lasted 6 months (apparently, even though she never coughs or sneezes), and it's frequently interspersed with self inflicted hangovers.
So I've perfected the art of saying "Hi, how's it going?" while I keep walking on past.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2014 15:59:15 GMT
I have a dear friend with RA. She has had hips replaced at 25. She doesn't complain so I don't know how she really feels. I need her to tell me how bad she feels so I know what to suggest we do for an activity. If she is in that much pain and won't tell me I won't know. I wouldn't want to hurt my BFF.
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Post by scrapngranny on Aug 6, 2014 16:08:21 GMT
I used to work with a gal like this. One of guys and I used to bet on what the ailment of the day was going to be. We got to the point it was no longer "good morning, how are you", it was just "hello".
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Post by shevy on Aug 6, 2014 16:11:23 GMT
I live with chronic pain, but rarely say anything about it. It shouldn't be my excuse for anything and I don't want to live my life having people feel sorry for me. So when someone is like this is REALLY pisses me off.
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Post by doxielady on Aug 6, 2014 16:13:57 GMT
Ugh! I was raised by one. It was MISERABLE!! Every ache, pain, bump and lump had to be analyzed, documented and moaned about. It was exhausting. It went on until the day she died. In her belongings, I found stacks and stacks of her journals with everything documented. It was sad. What a way to live.
It all had the opposite affect on me. I have trouble even going to see a doctor. I have to be bleeding out of my eyeballs or have hocked up a lung before I will go. I actually almost died a couple of times because I refused to go to the ER for fear of being labeled.
It is SO tough to work around and be around a hypochondriac. It's draining.
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Post by Lexica on Aug 6, 2014 16:22:03 GMT
I have a dear friend with RA. She has had hips replaced at 25. She doesn't complain so I don't know how she really feels. I need her to tell me how bad she feels so I know what to suggest we do for an activity. If she is in that much pain and won't tell me I won't know. I wouldn't want to hurt my BFF. I think this is more common with people who really do have something chronic and painful going on. They don't like to live with it, and they certainly don't like talking about it with others. I think it is awesome that you want to be sensitive to her, but I would recommend asking her how she wants that approached. Does she want to be asked or should you assume she will let you know if something is too much that day? I have some chronic issues and I HATE to mention them. I hate when someone notices me limping one day or moving slowly another. Yeah, yeah, we all know I have this. Just look away if it bothers you. I'd much rather people just assume I can do something and leave it to me to opt out or ask to modify the day. And in my case, I have some great days and some not so great, sprinkled with some really bad days. On the really bad days, I just stay in so as not to have to deal with questions on top of the elevated pain. I also know how to modify my week if I have an event coming up. I take it easy right before and the day after. That is just the way it is now. No discussion necessary.
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 6, 2014 16:33:20 GMT
This is my biggest fear that I will be labeled as such. I have a mass in my inner ear that caused some huge problems for about 18 months. It seemed like it was all I was for over a year.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2014 16:34:29 GMT
I need to write this with a nom de plume really but my "sickly" friend wants my DSO (yeah he's DSO again) to find her a husband. So I asked him does he know anyone...and then I thought what if she told the new guy that she has this wrong, that wrong, gets D all the time, has these kinds of fainting spells and other things. (If you don't eat you may faint from low blood sugar...). Anyway after I asked him I thought maybe better not.
She is a good friend. I just have to forget she is sick!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2014 16:35:26 GMT
I know one in real life who is like that Kristen Wig character on SNL. I had broken my toe and was wearing a boot. She told me about her sister who had to wear a boot for 6 months, her toe was turning black and she thought it had to be amputated.
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Post by kimpossible on Aug 6, 2014 16:41:33 GMT
Do you know borderline hypochondriacs? OMG I work with three of them. The three most sickly people I know. Always moaning and groaning and coughing and sneezing and one of them who always comes up with the latest food allergy du jour. And then they get offended if anyone dares tease them about it. I mean, really? For the record, if you are one of these kinds...you are STUPID AND ANNOYING to listen to. I like you otherwise, but stop now, just stop. Be sick, sniffle away. I just don't want to listen to you talk about it constantly. You are NOT dying. You are mildly uncomfortable. Man up. Grow the hell up, STHU. Rant over. Gah... Yes, Yes and Yes
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Post by mztfied on Aug 6, 2014 16:42:01 GMT
I have a family member who is a hypochondriac. This person is never ever ok. If it's not one thing it's another. Yes, it gets pretty old after so many years. I see it as an attention getting ploy. If find myself avoiding any prolonged contact as much as I can.
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Post by papersilly on Aug 6, 2014 16:51:13 GMT
I know one. the illness dominates each and every conversation and it's not even her illness. It's gotten very hard to be around her.
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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 6, 2014 16:51:50 GMT
Serious illness often leaves you trapped inside your body in an endless loop.. It's really important to have moments each day where you are not sick; just normal, routine moments where you take time to dwell on the good stuff and there is always good stuff even when things are bad. Whether it's watching a cat purr or something that makes us smile or laugh. I can't speak for all sick people, but this is how I feel. Yes, I do post updates when things are going wrong, but it's easier than emailing or calling everyone to give them the same story. It's not all about me. It's about all of us. Yes, I need extra help physically, but I have lots of room for others emotionally and I'm not the only person who is important. No matter how large or how small someone's illness might be, it is huge for them at the time and I honestly try not to compare or mock, even when I really want to. However, if that's the only thing you talk about at work then I think it's time to find out why you're unable to to participate in the lives of others. A true hypochondriac has mental health issues and it's serious, because it impinges on their quality of life and it is w/in their control to stop after getting the right therapy and possibly meds.
From now on when one of your three co-workers wants attention for feeling sick, immediately walk away if you can, excusing yourself to "make a call" or nod in agreement and then change the subject. If they are attention seekers then they will stop complaining to you if you don't even acknowledge their sneezes.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2014 16:55:08 GMT
Scrapmaven, you can talk about how sick you are until the cows come home because I genuinely know how sick you are. You don't though but if you wanted to I would listen. Those who are that sick I need to know. I need to be able to listen better and be a better friend. You can share some of your burden and there are those out there who will listen.
xo
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