oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on Aug 6, 2014 16:58:09 GMT
LOL these stories are entertaining! Thank goodness I can bitch about it here. If I said anything about it on FB, then a myriad of relatives would think I was talking about them.
And actually I kinda am too. LOL.
In all seriousness, I'm sorry to those of you with legitimate, chronic illnesses. And again, you all suffer in silence and worry on top of everything else that you are annoying to people. Believe me, those in your lives understand and wish the hurt away for you. <hugs>
And I totally feel for you Shevy, it would piss me off too. Enough that I'd have a hard time not saying something.
My mom's mom (bless her) was a hypochondriac too. My mother tells me stories about she used to cry at night for her poor mom who was always 'dying'. Ugh. I loved my grandma, and thank God she never did that to us grandkids. She saved all that drama for her three daughters. But I feel for the suffering my mom and my aunts went through because of it.
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Post by oh yvonne on Aug 6, 2014 17:03:44 GMT
and just to reiterate...these people in the office aren't truly hypchohndriacs. At least I don't think so. They are just excessive whiners. And sissies.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Aug 6, 2014 17:06:59 GMT
I have a few people that I know who are like that. Mostly I hear them bitch and moan on Facebook. It irritated me to no end. Nothing in their life is ever right and they trove on people feeling bad for them. I always think that it must be exhausting to live with them.
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Post by littlefish on Aug 6, 2014 17:09:44 GMT
I do know someone. She has a legitimate chronic condition that she does very little to control proactively (which she could do, but chooses not to). Instead we get detailed run downs of every test, visit, medication, etc.
I saw her recently at a family event and she wouldn't even say hello or make eye contact. She went and sat down off to the side with her husband and barely spoke two words to anyone...unless they asked her how she was feeling.
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Post by MaryC on Aug 6, 2014 17:24:53 GMT
My brother in law was a true hypochondriac - every ache or pain was cancer, or a heart attack - every headache was a brain tumor. It was annoying and cringe-worthy at first, but then it was just pathetic, because he was genuinely paranoid about illness and it has to be exhausting living in a constant state of fear. The sad thing is that people got so used to tuning him out that when he really was sick, no one paid enough attention to realize there was a real problem until it was too late.
I prefer not to discuss my health issues with friends or family because I'd rather focus on positive things and not drag myself down by constantly talking about pain and illness. It won't change my situation one bit and would just make me and everyone around me miserable. I'd also prefer not to deal with all the people who come out of the woodwork to push the virtues of the latest miracle product they just conveniently happen to be selling.
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Post by kkrenn on Aug 6, 2014 17:40:22 GMT
I have a dear friend with RA. She has had hips replaced at 25. She doesn't complain so I don't know how she really feels. I need her to tell me how bad she feels so I know what to suggest we do for an activity. If she is in that much pain and won't tell me I won't know. I wouldn't want to hurt my BFF. I think this is more common with people who really do have something chronic and painful going on. They don't like to live with it, and they certainly don't like talking about it with others. I think it is awesome that you want to be sensitive to her, but I would recommend asking her how she wants that approached. Does she want to be asked or should you assume she will let you know if something is too much that day? I have some chronic issues and I HATE to mention them. I hate when someone notices me limping one day or moving slowly another. Yeah, yeah, we all know I have this. Just look away if it bothers you. I'd much rather people just assume I can do something and leave it to me to opt out or ask to modify the day. And in my case, I have some great days and some not so great, sprinkled with some really bad days. On the really bad days, I just stay in so as not to have to deal with questions on top of the elevated pain. I also know how to modify my week if I have an event coming up. I take it easy right before and the day after. That is just the way it is now. No discussion necessary. ******** I feel the same way, I hate talking about my condition and I get so tired of everyone asking me how I feel and if they've found a cure yet. I am dreading out family reunion this saturday because I know I will spend most of the time answering question after question about my illness and if I've tried this or that remedy. I just wish we could all talk about something else, it sure would make me feel a ton better. I know they all care a great deal but it honestly just sends me into a depression. :-(
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Post by auntkelly on Aug 6, 2014 18:27:38 GMT
Everyone wants to tell you about their illnesses, but no one wants to hear about yours!
My daughter had two very involved knee surgeries this summer-one lasted 9 hours and the other one lasted 3 hours. She has been going to Physical Therapy 6 days a week for the past two months.
Strangers come up to her all the time to ask her about the gigantic brace on her leg. Almost before she can say "knee surgery" they are telling her about their ACL surgery or meniscus repair. She is such a trooper, she just nods her head and smiles as these strangers tell her about how awful their knee surgeries were.
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Post by theboydbunch on Aug 6, 2014 18:32:12 GMT
You have to be talking about my sister, OP... She complains so much that when there is really something wrong, no one believes her...I have unfollowed her on FB because she posts the whines every day...I couldn't take it anymore!
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Post by beanbuddymom on Aug 6, 2014 18:33:45 GMT
Try being married to one (and his mother)... OYE... I started teasing husband that I could have filled up several journals with all his ailments since we have been married. I ignore his complaints 99% of the time now... Are you married to my DH by chance? Because he and his mother are the same as well. I feel so heartless tuning them out or leaving the room or "uh huh" and just inside of my head going "Really? "
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 6, 2014 18:49:10 GMT
Try being married to one (and his mother)... OYE... I started teasing husband that I could have filled up several journals with all his ailments since we have been married. I ignore his complaints 99% of the time now... Are you married to my DH by chance? Because he and his mother are the same as well. I feel so heartless tuning them out or leaving the room or "uh huh" and just inside of my head going "Really? " I think we are!!! God Bless them.. lol... If I had a penny for every ache and pain he has had, I would be a millionaire. I know it.
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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 6, 2014 19:09:09 GMT
Elannah, thank you so much. That means a lot to me. It's important for people who face illness to know that there is support out there, but you have to be willing to need it. Thank you.
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Post by mellyw on Aug 6, 2014 19:31:26 GMT
I joke all the time that I want to be a hypochondriac. Then maybe all the crazy that happens with my body wouldn't be real. It's to the point I feel like it's a game, what crazy ass thing will MellyW's body do next.
I have found that those with true chronic pain tend to be stoic. Most people don't have a damn clue that I'm literally falling apart. I've had to learn to let people in, at least to allow them to even know what I've been diagnosed with.
And I know why I'm like this in part. From growing up with a hypochondriac Aunt. She should have just moved in with her Doctor, would have made life easier. A paper cut could somehow turn into cancer with that woman. You could see the jealousy rolling off her when my Mom, her identical twin, was diagnosed with breast cancer. The attention my Mom got damn near did my Aunt in. That is a true sickness right there.
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Post by miominmio on Aug 6, 2014 19:38:07 GMT
I live with chronic pain, but rarely say anything about it. It shouldn't be my excuse for anything and I don't want to live my life having people feel sorry for me. So when someone is like this is REALLY pisses me off. Me too. I keep quiet no matter how bad it gets, because complaining doesn't make it better and sometimes it's tempting to hide it and just try to act as if the pain and problems don't exist. And then MIL complains about her multiple "allergies" which prevents her from eating almost everything. Funny thing is, she has taken dozens of tests over the years, all of them negative. But hey, the doctors are incompetent, aren't they?
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Post by oldcrow on Aug 6, 2014 20:08:10 GMT
I am married to the King of Whiners. If I get ill which is very rare his complaint is how it has affected his life.
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Post by hopechest on Aug 6, 2014 20:09:58 GMT
I hate to say being a hypochondriac is a pet peeve as I KNOW it's an illness but man....nothing makes me more irritated than whining about how "sick" you are. Take some cold medicine, suck a cough drop and STHU.
I once came thisclose to breaking up with a boyfriend over a broken toe. The hopping around one foot made me absolutely homicidal.
My current BF isn't bad (read: normal) but it still buggs the crap outta me when he suggests I see a dr or he goes in for some ache or pain. I try to remember it's his response that is actually correct and I'm just crazy anti-dr.
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Post by theshyone on Aug 6, 2014 20:21:49 GMT
Sometimes I wonder if friends and family think this about me.
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Post by bomo on Aug 6, 2014 20:29:55 GMT
You have to be talking about my sister, OP... She complains so much that when there is really something wrong, no one believes her...I have unfollowed her on FB because she posts the whines every day...I couldn't take it anymore! We must be related as we share the same sister. Her health is all she talks about! All her ailments are minor but I feel she is looking for a life changing illness. I never ask how she is doing or what's new.
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Post by sharlag on Aug 6, 2014 20:32:36 GMT
I can't believe you're leading the campaign against those who are sick and afflicted, Yvonne. I thought that you were full of apple bread goodwill toward all. *shaking head*
DS2 has been my chief complainer, with the silliest one having to do with cuticle discomfort.
DS1, however, has lately performed admirably catching up with DS2. He's been home from college, sitting around on the internet, Googling every sensation his 19 year old, sedentary body creates. The funniest batch of them had to do with bowel movements, until I finally told him to just flush without looking.
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Post by oh yvonne on Aug 6, 2014 21:26:37 GMT
LMAO Sharla...your poor, dear afflicted children!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 6, 2014 22:05:37 GMT
LOL, Sharla!
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Post by peasful1 on Aug 6, 2014 22:10:25 GMT
are they hypochondriacs or are they sickly?
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Post by melanell on Aug 6, 2014 23:00:07 GMT
My dh is borderline as well. He got it legit....I used to say about his mother, "She enjoys poor health". This is a lovely way to put it. I know (and have known) a few people who "enjoy(ed) poor health". Again, not people with life-threatening illnesses, but just people who have a sniffle every other day and feel the need to let the whole world know. On the flip side, my great grandmother used to say "Far better than to be 6 feet under!" in response to that sort of whining.
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Post by stampfox on Aug 6, 2014 23:08:22 GMT
I have a friend who doesn't have much use for illness. I have several chronic illnesses but very seldom mention them. This friend injured her knee and had major surgery. You would not believe the pissing and moaning that has gone on. I know she was in a lot of pain but I just could not feel for her because of her attitude regarding others. Twyla
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Post by luvnlifelady on Aug 6, 2014 23:46:34 GMT
My sister that lives with me is like that. She wears a medical boot sometimes to just walk from her downstairs room to the kitchen (all of about 20 steps). She complains about ailments all the time. Ugh.
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Post by Nanner on Aug 6, 2014 23:52:32 GMT
I used to work with one of those and she drove everybody CRAZY!!! She'd snort and sniff, hack and gack all day long. And if you said "hi, how are you?", you would get a long drawn out complaint about how sick she was, what injuries, maladies and what not she'd been dealing with recently. I stopped asking her how she was. I'd just say hi when I saw her!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 0:00:08 GMT
Sometimes I wonder if friends and family think this about me. I have chronic back issues and I often wonder this too. I've tried to become hyper-aware of my complaining, but I'm sure my DH is sick of hearing me groan and moan all of the time. Good reminder to suck it up, buttercup
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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 7, 2014 0:03:03 GMT
Oh, sing it! Everyone has the cure for us. Some people genuinely want to help and want the best for us, while others just feel really uncomfortable and don't know what to say, so they give advice and say things that don't make sense. If there was a cure for my illnesses I'd have found it by now. A bucket of leeches and facing east when I eat isn't going to make things suddenly fine. I've shared that I sometimes do need a scooter for really long outings, though I normally walk as much as I am able. One time a man stopped me and waved his hands all around me and said that w/in 48 hours I would be able to walk, again. My aura told him so. Well, I didn't have the heart to tell him that I walk all the time, but it was a good laugh. At any rate, I have a sniffle today. That must mean that I have the plague. Right?
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Post by sharlag on Aug 7, 2014 0:25:06 GMT
sometimes do need a scooter for really long outings, though I normally walk as much as I am able. One time a man stopped me and waved his hands all around me and said that w/in 48 hours I would be able to walk, again. My aura told him so. Well, I didn't have the heart to tell him that I walk all the time, but it was a good laugh. At any rate, I have a sniffle today. That must mean that I have the plague. Right? If only you had made a big show of immediately scrambling off the scooter and walking, to demonstrate the success of his healing hand waving!
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Post by bluepoprocks on Aug 7, 2014 0:28:15 GMT
I know a nurse who catches everything going around and has every disease known and has been "dying" for the all the years I've known her. I think maybe she picked the wrong profession. She has been a nurse as long as I've known her so I don't know if she was like this before. Either the profession made her aware of all the illnesses or she was always like this but either way the medical field was a bad thing for her. I do feel bad for her sometimes because it must be awful to think you are always sick when you really aren't.
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Post by Gravity on Aug 7, 2014 0:48:32 GMT
My neighbor drives me nuts. If she has the sniffles, it's a sinus infection, a cough = bronchitis, chest congestion = pneumonia, etc.. She never goes to the doctor because she "knows what's wrong." Her two girls are now old enough to mimic her behavior.
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