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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2016 12:48:27 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2016 13:01:50 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your son are in my prayers.
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Post by mikklynn on Sept 14, 2016 13:06:39 GMT
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry! I have no advice, but I can send my love to you and your DS.
We are all here for you.
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Post by piebaker on Sept 14, 2016 13:07:57 GMT
I am sorry for your loss of your husband. Your journey is your own at your own pace. The books I found most helpful were "Widow to Widow" by Genevieve Davis Ginsburg and "Companion Through the Darkness" by Stephanie Ericsson.
I agree with jenjie that protecting and providing for your child is a priority. Within the first year, I selected guardians, made a will and arranged for an insurance policy in case something happened to me. After that, I took things a day at a time.
Please safeguard your physical and emotional health. Keep meals simple and try to get sleep. I kept a journal of my daily activities and my emotions and it helped fight the brain "fog". I sought therapy and offered to go with my kids. My thoughts are with you.
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Post by tomocus on Sept 14, 2016 13:12:24 GMT
So, so sorry to hear this. I will keep you and your ds in my prayers.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2016 13:12:35 GMT
I am so sorry. Hope the peas who have walked your path are some Comfort to you.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Sept 14, 2016 13:31:17 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by stumpedagainof3 on Sept 14, 2016 13:43:26 GMT
No advice, just so sorry you are going through this!
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Post by penguin on Sept 14, 2016 14:01:54 GMT
I am so very sorry for your loss.
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Post by pmm on Sept 14, 2016 14:04:14 GMT
So sorry for your loss.
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Post by smcast on Sept 14, 2016 14:18:53 GMT
I am sorry about your husband's death. I always think it must be the hardest thing to lose a spouse so young because you have to grieve while also being strong for your child. It is wonderful that you have reached out for help already. You have received some great advice here and I will pray for you and your son.
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Post by gramasue on Sept 14, 2016 14:26:24 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending prayers and hugs.
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Post by scrappert on Sept 14, 2016 14:28:09 GMT
I send my thoughts and prayers to you. And cyber hugs, because we can always use a hug. Take care of yourself, there has been great advice and support on this board.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2016 14:59:00 GMT
I am terribly sorry for your loss. I have no advice to offer but encourage you to continue to reach out whenever and wherever you feel you can. I have been blown away over my many years in this community by the grace and strength and composure of women here who have lost their husbands. I feel confident that they will hold you close and walk with you as you want and need them to. I am touched by the posts already.
Hugs and peace to you. I'm so sorry.
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Post by cyndijane on Sept 14, 2016 15:00:02 GMT
I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. I have no advice, other than be kind to yourself. {{Hugs}}
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Post by olbrwneyedgirl on Sept 14, 2016 15:42:21 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. Feel free to come here and talk anytime.
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Post by coffeetalk on Sept 14, 2016 16:16:18 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs to you and your son.
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Post by jayfab on Sept 14, 2016 16:30:46 GMT
I'm so sorry. Hugs to you.
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Post by kimpossible on Sept 14, 2016 16:30:54 GMT
My husband died 2 weeks ago. We are/were both mid-30's, and we have a 6 year old son. DH was sick for quite a while, but this was still unexpected. I am devastated, angry, and just tired. And I don't think it has all "hit me" yet...I keep thinking of things in the future...then realizing it will just be me and DS. I know lots of people have unfortunately been through this before. I guess I am specifically looking for any advice when navigating the financial side (Social Security, dealing with changing names on accounts, etc). And also are there online grief groups? I have started looking into some grief groups for both myself and our son, but most around here won't let you join until 2-3 months out. I sort of understand that it could be hard to be able to talk about things (and listen to others talk about their loss) so early on, but I think maybe it would be easier in an online forum. Thanks I'm so sorry. I have not experienced this myself, but do have a friend that did a few years ago. Her DH had been in hospice and through hospice, they were able to refer her to some counseling and groups that she participated in. She said it was a tremendous help being with others who experienced the same thing - or close to it. I hope you can find resources to assist you and your DS. {{{{Hugs}}}}
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Post by seikashaven on Sept 14, 2016 21:13:51 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. There's no right way to grieve, because it's not right that this happened to you. Hugs. Be kind to yourself.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2016 21:25:49 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by sarahbee on Sept 14, 2016 21:26:17 GMT
I am so very sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2016 21:35:35 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Not having been in your position I don't really have any advice except to send love & prayers to you and your young son and to take care of yourself.((((hugs))))
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Post by disneypal on Sept 14, 2016 21:48:44 GMT
Oh my - I am so, so sorry for your loss.
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Post by ~Lauren~ on Sept 14, 2016 21:51:00 GMT
No advise but I'm thinking of you and keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by papersilly on Sept 14, 2016 22:12:16 GMT
I am so sorry for you loss. I hope you find a good support group to get you through this delicate time.
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Post by tduby1 on Sept 14, 2016 22:29:57 GMT
I am sorry.
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Post by shescrafty on Sept 14, 2016 22:51:27 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
You have gotten some good advice but I wanted to reiterate that hospice care is available to people even if they did not use hospice services prior to the person's death. I know they also have a program for younger children (I believe it is called stepping stones) to help them. When. Y son attended a camp this summer through hospice the vast majority of children had lost a parent.
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Post by blarneygirl on Sept 14, 2016 22:57:33 GMT
I'm so so deeply sorry for your loss. I just past the 18 month mark. My husband passed away suddenly and unexpectedly. At two weeks, I think I was still in shock.
I kept a large notebook and wrote everything down in it. Any information I was given (even if I thought I would remember it). I dated every page, wrote down every name of everyone who I spoke to about anything. Recently I had to reference it for something. It's still close at hand.
Don't let anyone tell you what will be good for you. There are well meaning people in my life who thought they knew what would be good for me. Because sometimes I didn't want to think any more, I took advice from people who wanted to help, but were not offering advice based on working knowledge of where I was. Luckily, it was never life altering advice but deep inside I really knew what was better for me and my kids.
I found a wonderful grief counselor. It was a game changer for me.
PM me any time. I wish you didn't have to walk this path.
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Post by iteach3rdgrade on Sept 14, 2016 23:12:38 GMT
I'm very sorry for your loss!
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