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Post by melanell on Aug 7, 2014 19:26:44 GMT
My kids have been naked on the back deck once in a blue moon over the years. When they were at the preschool and under age and playing with a wading pool or other water back there. There is no chance of anyone seeing them unless they actually entered our backyard, as our back yard is surrounded by wooded areas. They'd start off in a swim suit, but it didn't always stay on for the duration. Naked in the front yard isn't something I myself would encourage, but I wouldn't be necessarily concerned by seeing someone else's kids out that way. I'd figure it was a phase or a temporary thing. I had a neighbor when I was a kid who went through a phase around 2 or 3 where she took her clothing off whenever possible. And since those were the days when kids played outdoors all day with or without a parent hovering nearby, that mean she was out in her front yard in the buff from time to time. I think a lot of little kids have the "Let's be naked!" stage, and I think that's totally normal. It's up to the individual parents how they react to that phase. Sometimes it happens for silly reasons, too. One of my siblings ran outside completely naked once because they had gone inside to use the bathroom and couldn't figure out how to get their bathing suit back on properly. So they just ran back outside naked to ask for help.
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Post by samcro on Aug 7, 2014 19:30:14 GMT
Oh no no no. Why? Well, a click of a few keys to check for sex offenders that live in any area might be a good answer. Also, she states she lives in a neighborhood, which means there are neighbors. With so much child sexual misconduct these days, I would never chance triggering ideas in those who may be pervs in the area. Remember, you never know who is into what and what level of impulse control they might or might not have. You can't always, if ever, tell who is a pedophile by looking at them or even by their stellar community reputation. Why tempt fate?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 19:33:35 GMT
Apparently the OP does and your response does nothing to address her concerns or provide input, and just serves to invalidate her. "Who cares" and "Nothing new" have been a few of your favorite pat answers.
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Post by duopenotti on Aug 7, 2014 19:35:43 GMT
What kind of disability prevents a child from wearing clothing? Autism for instance? My DSD(almost 14 with severe autism) doesn't like the feeling of too tight clothes. She has learned to roll up her sleeves and legs of her pants, thank God. But she also takes stuff literally. So last time at the swimming pool, when I told her to get undressed (she was wearing her swim suit under her clothes), she undressed completely and wanted to step outside butt naked. I can laugh about it now but at that moment not so much.. Maybe the mom told the oldest boy he could take off his clothes, but he didn't think about keeping on his pants.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 19:36:20 GMT
I don't believe in public nudity, so I would not be okay with it. It's just how I was raised and how I will always feel. It would make me uncomfortable.
ETA: I could understand if it was a disability and some effort was made to correct the situation. But to just let your kid run around without any regard for others is not cool, IMHO.
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Post by andis on Aug 7, 2014 19:36:37 GMT
yikes, too many creeps out there for that. I always look away and shake my head when I see kids that age naked at the beach. Naked adults I don't have a problem with, we see our fair share of topless ladies but a child is a whole different matter.
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Post by Nink on Aug 7, 2014 19:37:10 GMT
My ONLY concern for the older child being naked would be the possibility of pervs in the neighborhood. But in a perfect world, I see nothing wrong with it.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 19:41:54 GMT
In his own yard, it's fine.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Aug 7, 2014 19:51:08 GMT
My ONLY concern for the older child being naked would be the possibility of pervs in the neighborhood. But in a perfect world, I see nothing wrong with it. This ^^ I think in a isolated area in country sure. I'd be to nervous in today's world with cameras and Internet out there for pervs to use.
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Post by gar on Aug 7, 2014 19:51:35 GMT
I am a firm believer that children need to be taught how to dress appropriately for the environment. That means wearing clothes in places where people outside your family may see you. It also includes wearing something other than pajamas or bathing suits when shopping and wearing shoes in public. It also means teaching them to dress up for occasions where dressing up is required. It's about teaching them to be civilized members of society. Not sure how my adult DDs managed to become fully functioning members of society then. They bad lots of nudey time as kids but still figured out not to go to work half dressed.
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Post by Linda on Aug 7, 2014 19:54:40 GMT
it isn't the parenting decision I would have made but in his own garden, wouldn't bother me in the least.
I grew up in a time/place where children changed into swimsuits poolside/on the beach and girls (pre-puberty) were topless for swimming (and often for playtime) and topless/nude beaches weren't uncommon so I'm more relaxed about nudity than many in the States seem to be.
However for MY children - they are growing up in the States and society expects them to be clothed in public so I have taught them that expectation (now if I could just teach my youngest not to strip in the living room and streak through the house).
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Post by MommyofTriplets on Aug 7, 2014 19:59:24 GMT
What kind of disability prevents a child from wearing clothing? Lots of kids on the autism spectrum and/or with sensory issues have a hard time wearing clothes. They have to feel right or they don't stay on.
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Post by carhoch on Aug 7, 2014 20:04:07 GMT
Naked little kids are cute and innocent i have no problem with that but I was raised in Europe
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 20:09:14 GMT
My children had sensory issues when they were young, especially DD1 so I am not insensitive to the senitivity of others. However, I find it hard to believe that there is ANYONE who is so sensitive to clothing that they need to play outside regularly, naked. I just don't buy it. And I'm the mom who spent a very long time dealing with "weird socks".
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Post by arlamo on Aug 7, 2014 20:09:35 GMT
My sister and I both had a "streaker" stage. My mom resorted to duct taping my diapers on for awhile My two youngest both went through a stage of hating clothes, but I usually managed to have them clothed outside. My sister has a 4 year old who will disrobe just about anywhere. She's tried teaching him the importance of wearing clothes but honestly, he just doesn't care. And short of duct taping them on, he manages to take them off in almost any setting.
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Post by leslie132 on Aug 7, 2014 20:11:24 GMT
I almost died reading this title! I'm visiting my Mom, and my twins were naked on her front porch last night. I almost had my head hung in shame.... But my boys are 19 months so I'm not the cause of this thread . My little guy has a bad diaper rash. Everyone is saying " air it out". So that's what I did. And once Twin B, saw Twin A naked, it was all over. He couldn't undress himself, but he could try so hard to look at his snaps, that he fell over twice. So I said. "what the heck. The more the merrier"! 4 doesn't bother me. It seems too old, but why should I judge when I have no clue as to if his Mom even knew about it. I will, however, say that I know a child who is 7 that has the habit of walking to his play gym, whipping down his drawers and peeing all over the side of it. I find that behavior disgusting, and if I was the mom it would so be addressed. And the reason I feel free judging is because I know the parents are aware of it. It is treated as " he is little still. Someday he will know better". Don't get me started!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 20:18:01 GMT
Apparently the OP does and your response does nothing to address her concerns or provide input, and just serves to invalidate her. "Who cares" and "Nothing new" have been a few of your favorite pat answers. And? It isn't something that bothers me. My opinion is just as valid. Didn't know you were the post police.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 20:19:15 GMT
I wouldn't have a problem with it either.They're kids for goodness sake.
I would have more of a problem with the 18 month child out alone at the front though,access to roads,safety from cars, etc rather than perverts.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Aug 7, 2014 20:20:48 GMT
I am a firm believer that children need to be taught how to dress appropriately for the environment. That means wearing clothes in places where people outside your family may see you. It also includes wearing something other than pajamas or bathing suits when shopping and wearing shoes in public. It also means teaching them to dress up for occasions where dressing up is required. It's about teaching them to be civilized members of society. This is me too Just because we wear pjs or boxers while we are in our house, does not mean that is appropriate to wear outside our home, shopping, etc. Naked kids are fine for fully fenced back yard, but not appropriate for full view front yard.
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Post by finsup on Aug 7, 2014 20:23:11 GMT
I do remember running around shirtless in our rural neighborhood when I was 7. IT.FELT.FABULOUS. I remember when my cousin and I were both 7, she would swim topless, and I would think that I could never be that daring. :-D
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Post by samcro on Aug 7, 2014 20:23:45 GMT
I wouldn't have a problem with it either.They're kids for goodness sake. I would have more of a problem with the 18 month child out alone at the front though,access to roads,safety from cars, etc rather than perverts. Yes, they're kids for goodness sakes. What victims do you think pedophiles choose? The answer is "kids for goodness sakes!"
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Post by caro on Aug 7, 2014 20:27:27 GMT
What kind of disability prevents a child from wearing clothing? I don't think it would be a certain disability but some children have a texture problem and clothing sensitivity might be it. Or, and this is sad but a true story, when my DD was alive and I was in contact with more special needs families, a teen Down Syndrome girl used to take her Mensual pad off and want to show it to people. She just didn't understand not to do this. Her mother had such a difficult time with it all.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 20:30:05 GMT
I guess I'm just not inclined to believe this specific case has anything to do with sensitivities, because if a child is so disabled they are unable to wear clothing, or to comprehend they need to wear clothing, shouldn't they be attended while in their front yard?
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Post by not2peased on Aug 7, 2014 20:36:05 GMT
I wouldn't care at all. Not everyone has to parent the same
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 20:36:31 GMT
I wouldn't have a problem with it either.They're kids for goodness sake. I would have more of a problem with the 18 month child out alone at the front though,access to roads,safety from cars, etc rather than perverts. Yes, they're kids for goodness sakes. What victims do you think pedophiles choose? The answer is "kids for goodness sakes!" Do I take that to mean that you see everyone as a potential paedophile then? You do know don't you that there are more kids sexually abused by people they know/members of their own family, the very people that they trust to protect them and take good care of them than by strangers. I'm not suggesting that they run around the neighbourhool permanently naked but in the OP's case there was nothing to be that alarmed about.
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Post by wezee on Aug 7, 2014 20:38:47 GMT
"Don't look Ethel", words from the song The Streak(er) popped right into my head. You know it will take all night for me to get it out of my head. LOL!!
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Post by not2peased on Aug 7, 2014 22:01:02 GMT
my sister and I ran around topless (and I am sure, naked before that) all the time-I remember my cousin telling me that I couldn't run around with no shirt on when I was 5-I said "why?" and he said because you are a girl!
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Post by ten&rose on Aug 7, 2014 22:04:36 GMT
I will admit t I having 3 nudies. We have a rule of no naked outside after your 4th birthday. Youngest did still has to be reminded to put panties on, especially if she's wearing a skirt/dress. ?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2014 22:12:53 GMT
20 years ago, I wouldn't have a problem with it. Today, with all the perverts having easy access to long range cameras-not a chance in the world. Just think...that poor child could end up on a kiddie porn page with some sicko drooling over him. If the parents didn't know their kid was outside starkers, they would once I got done knocking on the door....besides which, if the parents don't know their kid is naked, they also don't know what the 18 month old is doing in the front yard...or who might be coming along to snatch him.
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Post by AmyS on Aug 7, 2014 22:13:27 GMT
My kids loved to be naked up until the age of about 5. Once they started going to kindergarten, they got shy about it. Up until then, they didn't care who might see them naked. If I took my eyes off them for half a second while they were in the backyard, they'd be shedding clothes as fast as possible.
But I as their mother did care. Out in the backyard, playing in the pool, totally fine. We had a group of us who were all pregnant at the same time, had kids all roughly the same age, and until they started being bothered by it, they could be naked playing in the kiddie pool together, with parents watching the entire time. The only people at home during the day when this happened were those of us whose kids were playing together. The backyard is shady, so we didn't have to worry about sunburn in delicate places.
These kids had all known each other since they were infants, had seen each other get their diapers changed, etc. If new kids who didn't know each other so well were part of the group, we tried to keep the swimsuits on as much as possible.
Every now and then they'd start chasing each other and end up trying to go around to the front of the house. One or more parents would get up and corral them all back into the back yard.
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