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Post by leeny on Oct 9, 2016 2:20:21 GMT
My sister attended a wedding for a relative on her dh's side. They get to the reception and there is a buffet set out of food from the groom's culture. She then notices the a small group of the bride's family (dh's relatives) including the mother of the bride in another room off of the main room eating something different. My sister stayed in the main room and ate the regular food as they were not invited into the side room with the bride's family. A week later we happen to run into mother of the bride at a restaurant and my sister asked what was going on in the side room and the mother said she didn't like the groom's family traditional foods so she had her own brought in. Really?  I would have thought this would have been taken care of during the planning of the wedding with food from both cultures. |
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Post by AussieMeg on Oct 9, 2016 2:35:39 GMT
That seems very weird. Like you said, you'd think the food, and any problems around it, would have been sorted well before. Or maybe it was, and they always planned to do that? It almost sounds like a deliberate "up yours" from the MOTB towards the groom.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Oct 9, 2016 2:46:53 GMT
Unless the bride said, "Mom, it's not gonna kill you to eat some curry. It's delicious. We're not buying two sets of dinners for the wedding. If you guys don't want to eat the food we're catering, then go ahead and call Domino's but we're not paying for it."
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Post by kate on Oct 9, 2016 2:57:17 GMT
My dad was horrified when I didn't want to have meat served at our wedding reception. "What will people say? What will people eat?" I said I didn't really care what they said, and that there would be a variety of delicious food for them to chow down. I also figured, why spend a lot of extra money on food I wouldn't serve in my own home?
It was a brunch reception (morning wedding), and I promise no one went hungry. I would have thought it weird and rude if my IL's had set up a private stash of meat in a side room. If the MOB couldn't stomach one single thing from the reception, she should have brought a granola bar or something small and DISCREET to sustain her for the few hours until she could go eat at home (or get room service at the hotel).
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Post by librarylady on Oct 9, 2016 3:04:00 GMT
Incredibly rude of the bride's family--just crass and rude.
I predict trouble ahead for the couple as the MOB will be poison in the relationship.
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Post by anniefb on Oct 9, 2016 3:13:53 GMT
Comes across to me as just rude.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2016 3:18:16 GMT
I mean, it's definitely not normal. But perhaps that's the agreement they came to with the bride and groom.
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Post by freecharlie on Oct 9, 2016 3:27:34 GMT
Weird
and if the food was that bad, they should have everything offered an alternate to everybody
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2016 4:06:34 GMT
Seems rather rude to me.
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Post by pancakes on Oct 9, 2016 5:18:43 GMT
If the MOB couldn't stomach one single thing from the reception, she should have brought a granola bar or something small and DISCREET to sustain her for the few hours until she could go eat at home (or get room service at the hotel). This! The bride should've planned a more encompassing meal, but the MOB sounds pretty terrible. It's one meal -- she couldn't suck it up? At least give it a try, jeez. |
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Post by njinkerbelle on Oct 9, 2016 6:50:01 GMT
Personally if the marriage is to be of mixed cultures then the buffet offers should have been of mixed food to satisfy the mixed cultures. The reception is for the couple sharing in their happiness with their guests, they are the hosts. They should have made sure all the guests were comfortable with what was being served. And there are ways to keep the buffet spreads separate in the room so one culture is offended.
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Post by mikklynn on Oct 9, 2016 12:38:55 GMT
I agree with njinkerbelle , I would have provided a variety of foods that represent both sides of the family. But, I think it's rude to have a side room with food that was not offered to everyone. |
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Post by littlemama on Oct 9, 2016 13:29:49 GMT
I think the food at a wedding reception should be food that most people would eat. So, in this case, the ethnic food would be fine, but if it was a type of food most people would not eat, there should have been something else. It wouldn't have hurt anything. For heavens sake, a "typical" wedding buffet often includes roast beef and mostaccioli- 2 things most people would never eat together, but meant to appeal to everyone.
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Post by SockMonkey on Oct 9, 2016 13:35:43 GMT
Very, very rude.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2016 13:40:51 GMT
Seriously? You predict *dramatic music* doooooooom because the brides mother ate different food? Maybe all the key players were fine with it even though it looked a bit odd from the outside.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Oct 9, 2016 15:24:43 GMT
Anyone else curious what the groom's ethnicity is?
It is hard to imagine what could be SO unusual that you couldn't deal with it for ONE meal.
My BIL is a first generation Chinese-American. His parents wanted a traditional Chinese wedding & meal. She didn't.
They compromised, they had a "blessing" and a 13 course Chinese meal, she wore Red, the night before, like a rehearsal dinner, then the Wedding itself was a traditional New York wedding.
Everyone was happy. If they had just gone with the Chinese meal, I am sure it would not have appealed to some people. There were a LOT of courses, and in my opinion it was too much food, and quite a bit of it was not to my liking. But I was polite and tried at least a bite of most everything.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2016 16:20:33 GMT
No different than catering to the vegans and gluten free people.
I met a couple of Jewish families the who are more kosher than God. They will not eat any food out unless it has passed their strict inspection. They rarely eat out because of the separate dish issue.
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Post by SockMonkey on Oct 9, 2016 16:28:10 GMT
No different than catering to the vegans and gluten free people. I met a couple of Jewish families the who are more kosher than God. They will not eat any food out unless it has passed their strict inspection. They rarely eat out because of the separate dish issue. Ehhh, this isn't a health issue, a religious issue, or even someone following a particular diet. This is a MOB who didn't "like" the ethnic food that was being served and brought her own in, but only for a select group of people who squirreled themselves in a segregated room to eat food that no one else was invited to eat. It is WEIRD. And RUDE. MOB could've discreetly had a meal at her place that was brought in and if anyone asked politely explain that she had trouble with whatever was being served. But to physically remove yourself and a small group of others to another room is quite rude to the rest of the guests and to the groom's family, especially. SaveSave |
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Post by anonrefugee on Oct 9, 2016 17:46:07 GMT
Isn't the tradition to have Bride's family give (pay) for reception? If they followed this, it was a nice gesture to provide only food from the groom's culture!
Personally I would have a big ol' multi cultural food fest, but I did that anyway, and I'm a boring mid-America white girl.
I wonder if there's more to the story? Maybe someone left the door open, and MOB was trying to be discrete but her cover was blown.
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Post by *leslie* on Oct 9, 2016 17:56:36 GMT
I think it's rude. It's the bride and groom's day, it's their call what food they want the wedding. I"m sure the MOB could've found something to eat from what was served.
My cousin and his wife are vegan so that's what they served at their wedding. It was delicious.
At my own reception I really wanted to do something different than what was standard back 25+ years. I decided to do mexican food with a taco/tostada bar, margaritas, etc. My mom and MIL were with me when I was meeting with the caterer. My MIL looked at me like I had two heads. I think she thought I was going to have mariachis and mexican dancers at the reception, (which actually would've been kind of cool). She was really pushing me to use her caterer from her wedding. She was so freaked out about the mexican food that she wanted to pay extra for one of those big slabs of meat that the chef carves as they serve so people could have sandwiches. I said absolutely not. I received nothing but compliments on the food, btw.
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I would have thought this would have been taken care of during the planning of the wedding with food from both cultures.
