jenkate77
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Post by jenkate77 on Nov 12, 2016 22:21:45 GMT
I'm not here very often right now, so I don't know exactly what's been going on, but if thick skinned long time Peas are leaving it must be bad. Some have announced it here and some on Facebook and I'm sure some have just chosen to walk away.
It's really too bad. 2Peas used to be a place to discuss and disagree. It's where a lot of my political opinions were refined over the years, and you're going to lose that.
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Post by Zee on Nov 12, 2016 22:37:52 GMT
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Post by melanell on Nov 12, 2016 22:40:39 GMT
It is sad, I agree. ![:(](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/mYSUyHtG9Jrcmm_ydVcK.jpg)
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Post by Sam on Nov 12, 2016 22:52:14 GMT
I'm not here very often right now, so I don't know exactly what's been going on, but if thick skinned long time Peas are leaving it must be bad. Some have announced it here and some on Facebook and I'm sure some have just chosen to walk away. It's really too bad. 2Peas used to be a place to discuss and disagree. It's where a lot of my political opinions were refined over the years, and you're going to lose that. Honestly, I don't think I can be bothered to keep saying this - I have no vested interest in this site other than it is, generally, a nice 'home' for many people. If the MEMBERS of the site choose to pretty much self implode, that is up to them. If THEY can not recognise that most of the comments, however they are perceived or however nasty they may be, are IN NO WAY COMPARABLE to most of the others I have seen across the internet, that is on them. If people are happy to walk away so easily, that is also up to them. I have seen some strong messages on here and some vicious posts but, funnily enough, neither 'side' seems to be able to recognise that this crap seems to be coming from everyone. So, you know what? Fuck all of you and your crappy complaints, your inability to get along with each other and your determination to behave badly. Because, you know what? I don't care what side you come from, you are all acting as though you have no class or sophistication or education right now. Bitch and whine and complain - I wish you luck with the next forum you find and I honestly hope the people who run it are as accommodating as this is. Personally, I'd ban you all and have a celebratory drink to that!!
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Post by Merge on Nov 12, 2016 23:18:09 GMT
This same stuff all went down after the last two elections. Some of us have a very short memory.
The board will continue with or without those peas who don't want to deal with the drama. This is not a crisis. In a few months, some of them will even come sniffing back and carry on as if nothing happened.
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Post by terri on Nov 12, 2016 23:25:00 GMT
I think it is sad too but people have to do what is best for them. I wish them well.
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Post by *KAS* on Nov 12, 2016 23:30:34 GMT
It's sad, and it's honestly pretty pathetic. You're losing members because they are tired of adult women acting like a bunch of 3rd grade bullies or whiny children who didn't get their way and they want to make sure EVERYBODY knows it. And we wonder why we have a generation of bratty, self-entitled, bully children.
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Post by gritzi on Nov 12, 2016 23:36:17 GMT
Sadly, you will likely, sooner than later, be blasted for posting your sentiments.
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Post by beachbum on Nov 12, 2016 23:44:38 GMT
I just look at it like a fight with my DH - if I threw in the towel and threatened divorce every time he said something that pissed me off we would have never made it to 38 years. Maybe I've got a thicker skin than others or maybe so many years of dealing with 2nd graders got me ready for this, because several people have been acting like 7 year olds - LOL. But like most things that get under our skin, this too shall pass.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Nov 12, 2016 23:47:08 GMT
It's a bummer and I'm going to miss several of them.
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Post by mom on Nov 12, 2016 23:48:01 GMT
Makes me sad but I respect that they need to do what is best for them.
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Post by tincin on Nov 12, 2016 23:54:14 GMT
It's sad, and it's honestly pretty pathetic. You're losing members because they are tired of adult women acting like a bunch of 3rd grade bullies or whiny children who didn't get their way and they want to make sure EVERYBODY knows it. And we wonder why we have a generation of bratty, self-entitled, bully children. Now why do I think you are trying to not so subtlety slam the liberal peas? Nice. Obviously you have not paid attention when any number of us said it is not the fact that the Republicans won, it is the fact they voted in a misogynistic, xenophobic, racist, sexual predator. We are not whiny children who didn't get their way, we are grown women who have been sexually assault, or minimalized, or sexually harassed, or have faced racial discrimination, or have been mocked because of disabilities or know and love people who have. THAT is why we are pissed. Save
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Post by Dani-Mani on Nov 12, 2016 23:59:05 GMT
It's also sad the shit some of them have said to us while some of y'all are turning the other cheek. Losing great peas or weeding out bad apples who, while they may not be the name callers, most definitely are not taking a stand against them.
I'm not the least bit sad it means I no longer ashamed to be a difference race. And lord knows some of the peas want me to feel that way.
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Post by grinningcat on Nov 13, 2016 0:01:33 GMT
It's also sad the shit some of them have said to us while some of y'all are turning the other cheek. Losing great peas or weeding out bad apples who, while they may not be the name callers, most definitely are not taking a stand against them. I'm not the least bit sad it means I no longer ashamed to be a difference race. And lord knows some of the peas want me to feel that way. The thought that there are peas or that you think that want to be ashamed for being a different race (either situation is abhorrent thus naming both) absolutely horrifies me. I'm so so sorry. I don't even know what to say. I don't know if there is anything to say. Is there anything I can say or have I just put my foot in my mouth?
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Post by llinin on Nov 13, 2016 0:04:14 GMT
It is sad that we are losing peas. However, I don't expect any of it to stop in the near future. Here is the thing-if the other side understood why people voted for Trump, maybe really tried to understand, then the DNC could've made an appeal for those people who were so disenfranchised. But, instead, they buried their head in the sand at all that wanted Bernie so badly. They didn't win over everyone they thought they would. So, in their arrogance, they lost the election. Now, in hindsight, there is still a glaring lack of understanding. A lot of armchair quarterbacking telling us why we voted the way we did. Well, if that was so easily dissected, why wasn't it stopped?
Fine by me. The #nevertrump and BLM people can crow all day long for the next couple years. That will cement the midterm elections too.
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Post by pjaye on Nov 13, 2016 0:18:16 GMT
The board will continue with or without those peas who don't want to deal with the drama. This is not a crisis. In a few months, some of them will even come sniffing back and carry on as if nothing happened. This. Not a crisis and blowing it up into something more than it is just being overly dramatic. I'm sure most the people making announcements hope there will be a chorus of "on no, please don't go" People have been banned before, admin has cracked it before and did that automatic word change thing (attack to hug) a few of us objected to that at the time...and then we moved on & it was over. Dramas on this board flare up and die out all the time. It's really too bad. 2Peas used to be a place to discuss and disagree. What? You posted that you're hardly ever here and that you don't know what's going on and you only have 400 posts, that doesn't suggest you've spent much time here at all discussing and disagreeing with anything. Nothing like a minimally active member to pop in for a handslap and tell everyone the future of the discussion board that they rarely post on themselves ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/rolleyes.jpg.gif)
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Post by YooHoot on Nov 13, 2016 1:02:07 GMT
This same stuff all went down after the last two elections. Some of us have a very short memory. The board will continue with or without those peas who don't want to deal with the drama. This is not a crisis. In a few months, some of them will even come sniffing back and carry on as if nothing happened. This a million times. Nobody will leave. They will watch and read, create alternate IDs and eventually reveal themselves or come back as themselves. Same shit, new election. It'll happen again in 4 years.
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Post by katelynr439 on Nov 13, 2016 1:07:45 GMT
The boards are pretty slow as it is, it really is a shame to lose any regular contributors. Slowing can quickly become a death spiral for a message board.
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Post by *KAS* on Nov 13, 2016 1:08:54 GMT
It's sad, and it's honestly pretty pathetic. You're losing members because they are tired of adult women acting like a bunch of 3rd grade bullies or whiny children who didn't get their way and they want to make sure EVERYBODY knows it. And we wonder why we have a generation of bratty, self-entitled, bully children. Now why do I think you are trying to not so subtlety slam the liberal peas? Nice. Obviously you have not paid attention when any number of us said it is not the fact that the Republicans won, it is the fact they voted in a misogynistic, xenophobic, racist, sexual predator. We are not whiny children who didn't get their way, we are grown women who have been sexually assault, or minimalized, or sexually harassed, or have faced racial discrimination, or have been mocked because of disabilities or know and love people who have. THAT is why we are pissed. SaveSubtlety slam the liberal peas? I didn't even vote for Trump. I think he's an asshole of a person and refused to vote for him on personal principle for the way he's treated women. If you look back through my previous posts, my position has never wavered. My comment wasn't directed at a 'group' of people. But thank you for making my point.
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Post by pjaye on Nov 13, 2016 1:13:03 GMT
Slowing can quickly become a death spiral for a message board Of course you'd know all about the history of 2 peas and how this place and this group of people works...with your whole 18 posts. Let me clue you in...the core group of people have been posting on the two boards for well over 10 years. People come and go all the time and this will be no different.
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Post by YooHoot on Nov 13, 2016 1:15:47 GMT
The boards are pretty slow as it is, it really is a shame to lose any regular contributors. Slowing can quickly become a death spiral for a message board. Nah. New people will step up and share more.
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Post by Olan on Nov 13, 2016 1:18:39 GMT
How will new people show up? What will draw them here? Has the board had any new members who weren't previously at the old board? If so I didn't know that.
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Post by katelynr439 on Nov 13, 2016 1:19:02 GMT
Slowing can quickly become a death spiral for a message board Of course you'd know all about the history of 2 peas and how this place and this group of people works...with your whole 18 posts. Let me clue you in...the core group of people have been posting on the two boards for well over 10 years. People come and go all the time and this will be no different. I've been a member for over 15 years and was highly active on 2 Peas, but only lurked on this board up until recently. You're totally right, with such welcoming sweeties as yourself, who could resist signing up? Nope. This is different. There are way more competing social outlets online to spend your time. This board is far harder to find since it isn't tied to a hot hobby like the original 2 peas was. There won't be tons of new members flocking to replace the oldies that leave.
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Post by refugeepea on Nov 13, 2016 1:21:00 GMT
I understand why some peas made an announcement and left. I've seen numerous threads, "Where is this pea?" Then some pea says I'm friends with them on Facebook, this is what's going on in their life...." I see it as a way to say leave me alone, I am done.
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jenkate77
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Post by jenkate77 on Nov 13, 2016 1:21:10 GMT
The board will continue with or without those peas who don't want to deal with the drama. This is not a crisis. In a few months, some of them will even come sniffing back and carry on as if nothing happened. This. Not a crisis and blowing it up into something more than it is just being overly dramatic. I'm sure most the people making announcements hope there will be a chorus of "on no, please don't go" People have been banned before, admin has cracked it before and did that automatic word change thing (attack to hug) a few of us objected to that at the time...and then we moved on & it was over. Dramas on this board flare up and die out all the time. It's really too bad. 2Peas used to be a place to discuss and disagree. What? You posted that you're hardly ever here and that you don't know what's going on and you only have 400 posts, that doesn't suggest you've spent much time here at all discussing and disagreeing with anything. Nothing like a minimally active member to pop in for a handslap and tell everyone the future of the discussion board that they rarely post on themselves ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/rolleyes.jpg.gif) I'm not here that often, no, but I was more active at the old board. So I guess I'm just a distant cousin and not part of the immediate family. ![:P](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/OrTI4SBmZ2ZYSFv6ag4f.jpg) It IS sad though. I learned a lot, and got to "know" several people from all walks of life. It's a huge blessing of this community. I've lived all but 7 years of my life in the western US or western Canada, in a few big cities but mostly small towns full of mostly white people like me. Ages ago, when I was a young new Mom Lespea was quite active on that board. "Knowing" her really helped me cement my personal position on gay marriage, in a time when I knew very few LGBT people. I'm sure there are other examples, but hers always stands out to me.
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Post by katelynr439 on Nov 13, 2016 1:22:53 GMT
I've seen at least 2 other very popular peas share on Facebook that they've left. Is there any way of see who has deactivated their profiles? If I go to their profile page, they are gone.
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Post by katybee on Nov 13, 2016 1:36:41 GMT
I'm sorry. I have absolutely no sympathy for Peas that choose to walk away over political threads. I'm very disappointed in the outcome of the presidential election and knew that threads involving it would upset me. So I've stayed away or have simply avoided those threads. I'm sticking to the butternut squash soup and smelly pee threads. Simple. Eventually, I will make it back to political threads.
If you get your parties in a twist over strangers--STRANGERS--on the internet saying mean things--then you probably should walk away. But....really?
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Post by pjaye on Nov 13, 2016 1:36:58 GMT
I've seen at least 2 other very popular peas share on Facebook that they've left Exactly what is the definition of "very popular"? Is it the same now as it was back in high school? Huh, I must have missed the "tons of new members" that were always signing up on the other board. I seem to remember all the same old ones who have been here forever.
Again I ask you, if you barely post here and rarely read...what exactly is your interest in who left or who stays? and why are you so hell bent on chastising everyone for their behaviour, if you're not a regular poster..why the interest? Or are you just one of those older members who loves a good drama and just shows up when they happen and throws herself into the middle of it?
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Post by ahiller on Nov 13, 2016 1:41:48 GMT
I'm sorry. I have absolutely no sympathy for Peas that choose to walk away over political threads. I'm very disappointed in the outcome of the presidential election and knew that threads involving it would upset me. So I've stayed away or have simply avoided those threads. I'm sticking to the butternut squash soup and smelly pee threads. Simple. Eventually, I will make it back to political threads. If you get your parties in a twist over strangers--STRANGERS--on the internet saying mean things--then you probably should walk away. But....really? There is a smelly pee thread? 😂
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Post by peasapie on Nov 13, 2016 1:48:24 GMT
It's also sad the shit some of them have said to us while some of y'all are turning the other cheek. Losing great peas or weeding out bad apples who, while they may not be the name callers, most definitely are not taking a stand against them. I'm not the least bit sad it means I no longer ashamed to be a difference race. And lord knows some of the peas want me to feel that way. I'm so sad to hear this, and I want to say I'm very sorry you were made to feel like that on this board. SaveSave
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