~Lauren~
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Post by ~Lauren~ on Nov 27, 2016 22:39:26 GMT
I've given my dh the last three years to do it on his own. While I was always very gracious, it was a disaster. He meant well but let's just say that gift-buying is not his strong suit. Today, I bought several things that I was going to buy anyway because I really wanted them and texted him "you bought me some beautiful Christmas gifts. Thanks so much". His response : "You're welcome". Later I asked if he minded and the poor think told me how relieved he was. LOL
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Post by malibou on Nov 27, 2016 22:50:06 GMT
Change the time frame to do on his own, and I could have written this word for word.
However, being a bit of a romantic, or more likely dim, it took me 20 years to figure out. But holy cats do I get some nice things these days. And they are just what I want!
J
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Post by bc2ca on Nov 27, 2016 22:50:43 GMT
No, my DH has always been a great gift buyer. He has even been able to buy me clothes that I love and knows that jewelry isn't my thing even though his mother still tries to push him in that direction. My DD is also great and pays a lot of attention when I point out something I like and I know she passes suggestions onto DH.
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Post by myshelly on Nov 27, 2016 22:57:11 GMT
Yes, I do.
So much easier. We are both happy and there's no money wasted.
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Post by KikiPea on Nov 27, 2016 22:59:08 GMT
No. I'm lucky. My DH buys great gifts on his own.
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tduby1
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Post by tduby1 on Nov 27, 2016 23:00:48 GMT
I have. Not very year but I've done it more frequently lately. DH is a great gift giver-- that is not the issue. He just tends to spend more than I'd like. It's much less stressful for me (I do the budget) this way.
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Post by johnnysmom on Nov 27, 2016 23:07:58 GMT
No but to be honest it's getting to the point where I wouldn't mind if we did. We give each other very specific wish lists which is fine but we could probably be more frugal if we just bought it ourselves and were guaranteed our most wanted items.
My only "rule" is that we must each have something under the tree. Its important to me that our kids see that. But they'd never know who actually purchased said gifts.
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Post by ~Sherri~ on Nov 27, 2016 23:10:05 GMT
I have bought all my gifts from DH. He is clueless as a gift giver. After 30 years of marriage, I am quite used to it. I told him yesterday that he bought me some nice PJ's for Christmas and I was sure I would love them. He once got me a Mother's Day card that said "Happy Graduation". I asked him if he read what the card said and replied, "No, I just liked the picture on the front of the card." LOL!!
My Dad was an awesome gift giver. He was always surprising my Mom with gifts.
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Post by DEX on Nov 27, 2016 23:16:22 GMT
I have no spouse but I really enjoy buying my own gifts. I always am very thoughtful and buy the perfect gift. When I was single, before my second marriage, I always bought myself something nice. This year, I think it will be prescription sun glasses. I really need them but I am too cheap to get them without some Holiday. Thank goodness, Christmas is right around the corner.
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Post by hannahruth on Nov 27, 2016 23:28:01 GMT
I have Ben known to when he has been at a complete loss as to what to get or, as with this year, I wanted something very specific. I have ordered a timber quilt rack to hang the quilts I have made on. I found what I wanted and it is on its way.
We are both happy that I will get something I really want!
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Post by littlemama on Nov 27, 2016 23:30:09 GMT
Yep, but he scrubs toilets, so I'm still coming out waaaaaayyyyy ahead.
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Post by leeny on Nov 27, 2016 23:31:26 GMT
Nope, dh does not shop very well. We both buy what we want during the year and don't tie the items to holidays.
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Post by breetheflea on Nov 27, 2016 23:34:03 GMT
Not for Christmas but I usually buy myself something for my birthday, in addition to whatever DH is getting me. Sometimes he has some really weird taste in presents...
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Post by padresfan619 on Nov 27, 2016 23:36:20 GMT
No, we each have Amazon wish lists to choose gifts from. My entire family started using Amazon wish lists about 5 years ago and it has made gift shopping so much easier. Except my brother uses his as a way to track gifts he wants to buy for other people, so he can be hard to shop for sometimes.
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Post by imsirius on Nov 27, 2016 23:41:16 GMT
My DH fills my stocking and buys me gifts. He is really good at it.
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Post by ljs1691 on Nov 27, 2016 23:46:26 GMT
I have had two Christmas out of 12 with my DH that he did great. The first Christmas was an engagement ring so of course that ranks and a couple years ago he must have been making a list when I mentioned things because I got a couple gifts I really wanted. Otherwise, he is not good at it. I bought myself a purse this year, because I didn't trust him to get the right thing at the right price. His heart is in the right place so i have to give him some credit.
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Post by River on Nov 27, 2016 23:46:48 GMT
We haven't gotten to that point yet, but I can see it happening. It would be so much easier on me. I'm the horrible gift giver, not just him but for everybody.
Right now we buy something bigger that we both want but usually won't spend the money on. We consider that our gift to each other and it works great for us.
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Post by Jili on Nov 27, 2016 23:46:54 GMT
We pretty much do that too, and I am totally ok with it. I also had the realization that my dh is not a good gift giver, so it sort of evolved that way. As our kids grew it just became easier and less stressful all around. I try to buy him 1-2 small things that will be a surprise for him to open. But we keep it simple.
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 27, 2016 23:52:56 GMT
Depends on the year. I usually buy my own birthday gift and we get something for the house on our anniversary.
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Post by SockMonkey on Nov 28, 2016 0:25:21 GMT
We don't really exchange gifts. We each do a stocking for the other person with little things, and then we save our money and go on a fat vacation.
In my mind, if I have to buy my own gifts, it's just not a gift. It's me buying what I want.
But, whatever works for people.
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Post by ComplicatedLady on Nov 28, 2016 0:40:01 GMT
No, he's actually really good at picking out gifts. One year, he bought me some sewing stuff for my birthday and wrapped it in purple fabric instead of wrapping paper!
He usually gets most of the gifts for the kids too.
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Post by Grom Pea on Nov 28, 2016 0:40:15 GMT
Dh doesn't want anything so he only buys practical gifts. I guess I'm lucky I don't have to shop for him, but it also means I don't buy myself gifts from him. Gifts from my kids are fair game though ;-)
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Post by gar on Nov 28, 2016 0:43:08 GMT
No. I'm lucky. My DH buys great gifts on his own. Ditto. I'm very lucky and appreciative 😊
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Post by leftturnonly on Nov 28, 2016 0:46:48 GMT
I've given my dh the last three years to do it on his own. While I was always very gracious, it was a disaster. He meant well but let's just say that gift-buying is not his strong suit. Today, I bought several things that I was going to buy anyway because I really wanted them and texted him "you bought me some beautiful Christmas gifts. Thanks so much". His response : "You're welcome". Later I asked if he minded and the poor think told me how relieved he was. LOL My husband could be really.... creative... with his gift-giving. Some of them were even really good. But yeah. I totally did this. He only had to get me something and the pressure was off to get it perfect.
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Post by leftturnonly on Nov 28, 2016 0:50:32 GMT
He once got me a Mother's Day card that said "Happy Graduation". I asked him if he read what the card said and replied, "No, I just liked the picture on the front of the card." LOL!!
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Post by cadoodlebug on Nov 28, 2016 0:57:44 GMT
This was my mom and dad. He would give my sister and me the presents to wrap and we were amazed at how well he did every year. My mom finally clued us in. It worked for them and she got wonderful gifts. She always had many presents from us so she was able to be surprised on Christmas morning.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Nov 28, 2016 1:02:37 GMT
I have bought all my gifts from DH. He is clueless as a gift giver. After 30 years of marriage, I am quite used to it. I told him yesterday that he bought me some nice PJ's for Christmas and I was sure I would love them. He once got me a Mother's Day card that said "Happy Graduation". I asked him if he read what the card said and replied, "No, I just liked the picture on the front of the card." LOL!! My Dad was an awesome gift giver. He was always surprising my Mom with gifts. My sweet DS once bought me a Mahogany Hallmark card for Mother's Day. I kept it because it showed me his heart, he didn't even notice that the mom in the picture was black.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Nov 28, 2016 2:05:45 GMT
I don't. Dh's love language is gifts so he buys us a lot of Christmas gifts. They aren't always what we want or need, but he tries and has fun doing it. We do all use wish lists to help each other know what we are interested in or want. Dh is not good at secrets, my birthday is the end of January, my new treadmill is being delivered next week I wanted it for my dog, so no, he isn't telling me I need to lose weight
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Post by redshoes on Nov 28, 2016 2:08:57 GMT
Normally, no, but this year, I did buy myself a Dallas Cowboys t-shirt since I was buying one for him!! I decided I'll wrap them together and address it to him from me....oh, look at that, there's a tshirt in there for me!!
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Post by mallie on Nov 28, 2016 2:10:28 GMT
I tried that. Honestly, it just made me really sad and then, angry, then sad again. I told him to forget my birthday this yeAr for just that reason. That way i only get sad once.
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