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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 20, 2014 18:07:00 GMT
One thing that DOES irritate me:
On the odd occasion that I actually cook something real, I want to stab DH if he tries to salt it before tasting it.
Bitch, that is SEASONED.
HA!
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Post by alibama on Aug 20, 2014 18:07:50 GMT
I hate to cook and even when I do on the rare occasion my husband does compliments me. My husband is the full time cook in our house and has been that way for a lot of years and I ALWAYS compliment him and thank him for dinner, but I am honest when I don't like it too lol.
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Post by oh yvonne on Aug 20, 2014 18:11:34 GMT
My DH knows better than to not comment. He always thanks me...and I can tell how he liked it by the response. It's by level: "thank you!" or.. "that was good, thank you!" "that was good, real good..thank you!" and the epic.. "oh my GOD that was good! Ah! Good! thank you!!" when he just says thank you I get pissed.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2014 18:14:11 GMT
One thing that DOES irritate me: On the odd occasion that I actually cook something real, I want to stab DH if he tries to salt it before tasting it. Bitch, that is SEASONED. HA! Oh yes, that one was quickly taken care of shortly after I started cooking for him.
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Post by kristalina on Aug 20, 2014 18:14:48 GMT
I have to ask mine how he liked it and more times than not he answers with "it was fine, why?" @ [HASH]%**!!!
Just curious, does he get up from the table when he's done and leave everyone else there? Does he know how to say the words "I'm sorry"?
Just wondering if we're married to the same guy.
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Post by papersilly on Aug 20, 2014 18:18:26 GMT
yes he does but what it really means is "thank you for cooking". DH get tired of eating out at lunch and having dinner delivered when he works late. he just appreciates having a home cooked meal.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2014 18:21:00 GMT
how about a recipe for the pork?? You know, I didn't use a recipe, I was too excited about the salsa I was making to go with it (also not from a recipe - just perfectly ripe chopped avocado, tomato, cilantro, green onion, lime juice salt and pepper) to make anything fancy. I salted and peppered a pork tenderloin in a glass baking dish, and left it in the oven at 375 for 40 minutes. What made it awesome was it cooked perfectly - which is luck of the draw, I think. I have a tendency to overcook meat. But I CAN give you my cole slaw recipe. This is, to me, the world's most perfect cole slaw, the one I have been searching for all my life. I could literally eat the whole bowl by myself. The only thing I change about this recipe is I leave out the sugar. And I grate everything (onion, carrot and cabbage) using the food processor, which I did once because I was in a hurry and realized that I LOVE it that way. So without further build up, I give you, the perfect cole slaw recipe. You're welcome Bobby Flay's Creamy Coleslaw
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Aug 20, 2014 18:23:29 GMT
Both DH and our son offer compliments on my cooking. It makes me feel appreciated for the effort I put into it.
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Post by Dalai Mama on Aug 20, 2014 18:24:24 GMT
If he likes it he does. We've had a couple of times where we look at each other and say, yeah, not making that one again.
One thing that I do appreciate in my family is that, without fail, DH and the boys thank me for dinner.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2014 18:25:28 GMT
Likewise to the first part, no to the second. He always cleans up the mess (and I can make a mess boiling water) because "fair is fair." Maybe if I had the option to CHOOSE one (compliments or clean up duty) that's the one I'd pick anyway so I should just STFU, right?
Wow! If DH ever said this to me, I would know he was having an affair!
ETA - dammit! I keep liking my own posts.!!
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Post by gar on Aug 20, 2014 18:26:07 GMT
Yes. He loves his food and is always looking forward to our evening meal after a long day so even if it's just an "Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh, lovely" and a sigh that's fine. If it's something new or a bit more extravagant than the norm he will definitely compliment me on it.
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Post by magenta on Aug 20, 2014 18:27:06 GMT
He doesn't always praise me because I think it's because he's speechless when I'm actually doing something in the kitchen that doesn't involve the toaster or the microwave. He does most of the cooking since I hate to cook. We don't praise each other but we say thanks. Like Yvonne and her dh we have our level of "thanks" equaling to how much we liked the meal. My DH knows better than to not comment. He always thanks me...and I can tell how he liked it by the response. It's by level: "thank you!" or.. "that was good, thank you!" "that was good, real good..thank you!" and the epic.. "oh my GOD that was good! Ah! Good! thank you!!" when he just says thank you I get pissed. I don't get pissed when he just says thanks though. For me, that's high praise. Lately I've been getting more, "Thanks... that was good!" from him and the kids. And I didn't even use the microwave!
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Post by Goldynn on Aug 20, 2014 18:28:14 GMT
@crankypea, I would be annoyed. I expect a "thank you" after every meal I fix, and an extra "wow, this is delicious" when I've made an especially good meal, as it sounds like your dinner was. Cooking is a lot of work and I really don't think it's hard for others to say "thanks" every time. Of course, I'm spoiled - my family is good at praising my cooking, but I wouldn't be very enthused about doing it if I never got much recognition for it.
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Post by mandasue on Aug 20, 2014 18:34:03 GMT
No but he's a quiet man, doesn't rave or do much small talking, so if he cleans his plate then I know he enjoyed it.
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Post by winogirl on Aug 20, 2014 18:39:23 GMT
That would piss me off, but it sounds like he was raised that way.
Dh always praises my dishes. Even at restaurants, if he orders something I make at home, he'll say "It's good but not as good as yours".
He didn't get much in the way of home cooking as a child though, so I think that makes him appreciate it more.
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Post by hosschick on Aug 20, 2014 19:00:49 GMT
My dh was like that. It would piss me off because I could spend literally hours preparing something and he'd wolf it down in five minutes without a word, or possibly even complain. One night, I made veggie fried rice - it was really good, and I had a ton of fresh hearty veggies in there (squash, broccoli, etc.); he said he wouldn't eat it unless I put some ground beef in there. His family always acknowledges my cooking, but his mom wasn't much of a cook, so I'm not sure quite where it came from. Fortunately, I do not cook for him anymore. DD and I eat together, and he usually ends up feeding himself while cooking for his dad (FIL is a 94yo and on his own, lives just a few miles away). DD actually cooks more than I do and I make a point to express my appreciation.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Aug 20, 2014 19:02:34 GMT
My husband doesn't say anything if it's just an everyday meal but, if I made something special that took a lot of time he will most definitely comment on it.
I don't expect praise when I slap down a bowl of canned tomato soup and a grilled cheese sandwich!
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Aug 20, 2014 19:03:41 GMT
One thing that DOES irritate me: I want to stab DH if he tries to salt it before tasting it. My husband does the same exact thing!! HA HA!
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Post by sunshinestate on Aug 20, 2014 19:04:54 GMT
One thing that DOES irritate me: On the odd occasion that I actually cook something real, I want to stab DH if he tries to salt it before tasting it. Bitch, that is SEASONED. HA! OMG, my MIL does this. And she won't just sprinkle a little - she'll douse the food. Drives me crazy. As to the OP, every night, my husband says at the very least "good dinner, baby." Even if I just put a frozen pizza in the oven.
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Post by Scrappea on Aug 20, 2014 19:06:34 GMT
Yes, he does, but its probably because I don't cook too often.
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Post by Skellinton on Aug 20, 2014 19:08:35 GMT
My husband almost always says thank you and praises the food. I don't have any talents to boast about, but I am a good cook, and I would be serving my husband PB sandwiches if I didn't get a thank you or any compliments! Even if I was a terrible cook, I would at the very least expect a thank you for the effort involved. When my husband grills I always thank him and praise his cooking too, it is a two way street!
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Post by chirpingcricket on Aug 20, 2014 19:12:35 GMT
I'm a super taster; DH's tastebuds barely register anything past "salt" or "sweet." So I'm incredibly picky, and I've been cooking most of our dinner for 24 of the 27 years we've been married. Three years ago when we both became gainfully employed in the day time (he worked swing shift for 25+ years), DH started sharing the responsibility of making dinner. So I have to give him credit where it is due: He's trying. He is not as complimentary as I am when he likes a dish. He always says thank you, but he's just not effusive. He doesn't describe the happiness he feels from my homemade Brunswick stew or the beef carbonnade I slaved over for four hours. He has *never* refused to eat something I cooked. Never. Not once. He eats what he's given. I, on the other hand, have been known to try a new recipe -- I remember a chicken with white peas thing, a one-skillet meal -- that was just putrid. Why on earth? Who put that together? What was I *thinking*? I don't know, but I'll never make it again. Last night I made the Korean beef recipe from this darlin' board's very own recipe board, and we all loved it. We're definitely adding that to the rotation. Tonight, DH will try chicken marsala for the very first time. Even though I don't eat mushrooms. That's OK; I've got a lifetime of experience picking mushrooms out of food. As I said, .... I'm picky. Oh, oh! Every once in a while, with a dish that is particularly fabulous, like Sweet Tea Brined Pork Chops, while everyone else is ranting and raving about how divine they are, DH will quote Anthony Hopkins from "84 Charing Cross Road," and he'll mildly mutter noncommittally, "Hm. Tasty." Master of understatement, that one! P.S. -- Cranky Pea, I totally love that you keep accidentally liking your own posts. I'm going to give myself a boost and like my own post, too!
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Post by Aheartfeltcard on Aug 20, 2014 19:12:47 GMT
No, I have the opposite problem: DH raves so much about everything I make, even when it's absolutely HORRIBLE, that I don't trust his judgement on food. But I do appreciate that he appreciates my efforts. I'm sorry your DH doesn't vocally appreciate your cooking. Making dinner every day is a lot of work! It would hurt my feelings if my family never said anything nice about the food I make. This ^^^ It is only twice a year that I get a negative remark and it's usually mildly negative.
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Post by dulcemama on Aug 20, 2014 19:16:31 GMT
One thing that DOES irritate me: On the odd occasion that I actually cook something real, I want to stab DH if he tries to salt it before tasting it. Bitch, that is SEASONED. HA! With my DH it's hot sauce on everything before he tastes it. Makes me crazy!
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Post by sharlag on Aug 20, 2014 19:17:30 GMT
Nevertheless, it still makes me nuts, and I have discussed it with him to no avail. Even more infuriating, on the rare occasion when DH takes it upon himself to create some culinary masterpiece - like toast, for example - he asks me 20 times if it is not the best toast I have ever had. So he GETS it, right? It's not a 1950s notion to expect a spouse to respect what's important to you. "Makes you nuts, infuriating" behavior is something a caring partner should try to eliminate.
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Post by calgal08 on Aug 20, 2014 19:17:53 GMT
I've never been a great cook, baker, yes, cook, not so much - until a few months ago. I took over cooking duties because at the time dh's work schedule meant he didn't have time to cook (he's a great cook). Dh rarely says whether my food is good/bad/etc., but the other day he told me how much my cooking has improved and how I'm turning into a good cook. I nearly fell over by the compliment
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Post by IPeaFreely on Aug 20, 2014 19:29:27 GMT
My husband compliments every meal I make. So do my sons. They learned it from their dad.
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Post by caro on Aug 20, 2014 19:32:15 GMT
My DH always compliments my dinners every night that I cook. I like to cook and he knows this so easy compliment on his part The best part, I cook, he does dishes. Win-Win.
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Post by Bitchy Rich on Aug 20, 2014 19:34:39 GMT
DS is much better about the praise thing. He loves a good meal. However, he is also free with the complaints. I made an amazing dinner the other night, and it had mushrooms. I get that he doesn't like mushrooms, but I left them big and they were mild. He refused to eat it, so DH and I told him he was free to make something else. DS ended up making a can of black beans (something he loves.) This was a meal that DH did praise. What does make a can of black beans mean?
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Post by mrsscrapdiva on Aug 20, 2014 19:35:01 GMT
I want to be appreciated and praised and I want to hear more than "Yeah, that was good" or "it's fine". urghh! I know he likes it a lot when he asks if I can make it again or throw it into the rotation.
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