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Post by keknj on Aug 20, 2014 19:36:07 GMT
My DH always says thank you every night for dinner. Now that I am thinking about it, it is something that I really like. The children have not picked up on this wonderful behavior of his so maybe I need to point this out to them. DH has no problem telling me if he doesn't like what I made, but he still says thank you.
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Post by beachbum on Aug 20, 2014 19:39:12 GMT
Yes, DH does compliment me on my cooking - but that's the ONLY thing he compliments me on (well, maybe one more thing... but we won't mention that in public )
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flopsykitty
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Post by flopsykitty on Aug 20, 2014 19:58:14 GMT
My husband likes my cooking. He always says thank you before he sits down, and if it is something he really likes, he will comment on it. When we were first married, he was hesitant about giving "constructive" criticism, for fear that he would upset me. But, I told him, "Tell the truth, because if you say you like it but you really don't, you'll have to keep eating it!" When he DOES have suggestions or "criticisms", he speaks kindly and gently, so my feelings don't get hurt, and next time I make the dish, I incorporate the changes he suggested, and doggone it, he's usually right! He always does the dishes and puts away the leftovers. And, NO, you can't have him!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2014 20:07:48 GMT
No, he doesn't praise my cooking. Doesn't bother me. It's just food. He's so picky, I cook what I want.
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eastcoastpea
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Post by eastcoastpea on Aug 20, 2014 20:41:45 GMT
No. He doesn't praise my cooking or cleaning. His mother is not a good cook. She makes 3 dishes well and that is it. I praise him every time he cooks or takes us out to eat.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Aug 20, 2014 20:44:14 GMT
I forgot to add. I taught my kids to say, "May I please be excused? Thank you for the nice meal." They are out of the habit of saying it at home but they do say it when we eat at someone's house.
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Post by MizIndependent on Aug 20, 2014 20:45:03 GMT
Nope...I praise his.
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Post by myboysnme on Aug 20, 2014 21:50:29 GMT
I don't cook. Well maybe Thanksgiving dinner, but that's about it. So I am the one praising my husband's cooking!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2014 22:11:10 GMT
At the risk of sounding all Pollyanna Perfect, my husband appreciates and praises everything. Part of it is just his personality (most of it really). The other part is that I know that he appreciates praise and acknowledgement, so it's just something that we do.
He thanks me for even simple things like coffee in the morning or warming up pizza. He always tells me that he appreciates that I do his laundry and handle the business side of our home. He even shows appreciation for things like taking the lead in making decisions on things like our investments or retirement or even budgeting. He's just generally appreciative overall.
On an average day, he probably acknowledges/thanks me for something at least 5-7 times.
I feel very appreciated, cherished and loved.
ETA: Specific to cooking though - it's rather humorous because NO MATTER how I make something - overcooked, undercooked, or straight up nasty - he always says "This is just the way that I like it." Somewhere along the way, someone in his past taught him that if you bitch about a meal, you are cooking the next one.
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Aug 20, 2014 22:16:03 GMT
DH doesn't say much...to me ... about my cooking
but he really does rave to others - i've heard him and i've had others tell me
and ---i LOVE it!
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Post by Sweets McPea on Aug 20, 2014 22:19:43 GMT
You'd think a cheery "It's perfect!" wouldn't enrage a cook. But you'd be wrong. At least in my case. He says this for every snack, every soup, every hot dog, every sandwich, every Thanksgiving feast, every new recipe... At the beginning I was extremely flattered. After over twenty years I'm kind of over it. Pretty sure he enjoys my culinary skills but his chirpy non answer doesn't amuse me all that much.
(I'm not actually enraged. More eye-rolly.)
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Post by missfrenchjessica on Aug 20, 2014 22:27:11 GMT
My family does tend to compliment me on the meal if they find it tasty. My one son makes me smile every night--he always says "Thank you for dinner mom!" no matter what I've whipped up-fancy or grilled cheese. He makes me smile.
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Post by shannoots on Aug 20, 2014 22:35:11 GMT
My husband does not compliment me on my cooking (though he doesn't complain either). However, I will say that he really isn't into food and doesn't seem to enjoy eating the way I do. On the other hand, the kids complain nearly every night about whatever we are having. It has gotten to the point where I don't put a lot of effort into the meals anymore. I used to love to try new recipes and would always get excited to serve them. But you can only take so much complaining until you don't try anymore. Why should I spend time on something that everyone is going to complain about? Honestly, my feelings have been hurt on several occasions so it isn't worth it to me.
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Post by ingrid6 on Aug 20, 2014 22:56:58 GMT
At the risk of sounding all Pollyanna Perfect, my husband appreciates and praises everything. Part of it is just his personality (most of it really). The other part is that I know that he appreciates praise and acknowledgement, so it's just something that we do.
He thanks me for even simple things like coffee in the morning or warming up pizza. He always tells me that he appreciates that I do his laundry and handle the business side of our home. He even shows appreciation for things like taking the lead in making decisions on things like our investments or retirement or even budgeting. He's just generally appreciative overall.
On an average day, he probably acknowledges/thanks me for something at least 5-7 times.
I feel very appreciated, cherished and loved.
ETA: Specific to cooking though - it's rather humorous because NO MATTER how I make something - overcooked, undercooked, or straight up nasty - he always says "This is just the way that I like it." Somewhere along the way, someone in his past taught him that if you bitch about a meal, you are cooking the next one.
Excuse me but what are you doing with my husband??? Dh is exactly the same - and yes, it makes me feel very appreciated and loved. I don't mind cooking but I really don't like having to come up with what to make. He's so easy going and seems to "love" whatever I make. Our kids have always said "thanks for dinner" or "that was great" etc. too. Sure makes making dinner worthwhile! ETA - On the plus side - I never, ever have to do any dishes... consensus is whoever cooks does not have to clean up - and seeing as I cook, I'm golden on the clean up schedule
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Post by bdawnb on Aug 20, 2014 22:58:32 GMT
DH doesn't say much...to me ... about my cooking but he really does rave to others - i've heard him and i've had others tell me and ---i LOVE it! This is my husband. He is appreciative to me, but really complimentary when taking to others.
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Post by gorgeouskid on Aug 21, 2014 14:46:27 GMT
DS is much better about the praise thing. He loves a good meal. However, he is also free with the complaints. I made an amazing dinner the other night, and it had mushrooms. I get that he doesn't like mushrooms, but I left them big and they were mild. He refused to eat it, so DH and I told him he was free to make something else. DS ended up making a can of black beans (something he loves.) This was a meal that DH did praise. What does make a can of black beans mean? He went to the kitchen, got a can of black beans from the pantry, opened them with a can opener, out them in a pan on the stove, and heated them up. Then he put them in a bowl and ate them for dinner. It was his lunch of choice for three years. He didn't want the dinner I prepared, so he made one more to his liking.
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Post by Nanner on Aug 21, 2014 18:42:20 GMT
Yes, DH is very complimentary about my cooking. And I am the same way about his barbecuing (he is the best BBQer around!).
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Post by brandy327 on Aug 21, 2014 18:48:41 GMT
I've never really thought about it before, but yes, my DH regularly praises my cooking. And every single time I make dinner, he thanks me for it, even before he's tasted it. In addition, if I make something new I ask his opinion. I know he'll be honest with me because even though he'll eat most anything I put in front of him, he'll tell me it wasn't his favorite. I appreciate his honesty because then I know whether to keep the new dish or chuck it. And 2 of the 3 kids have taken his lead. All 3 will thank me for every meal and the girls will nicely let me know when something is not their favorite. DS (on the autism spectrum) tends to be more to the point...Mom, that is NOT good. LOL We tell him while I don't take offense to what he says, other people might and it's more polite to respond with "it's ok but it's not my favorite". It's worked because I've heard him say it when we're at other people's houses.
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Post by brandy327 on Aug 21, 2014 18:54:18 GMT
At the risk of sounding all Pollyanna Perfect, my husband appreciates and praises everything. Part of it is just his personality (most of it really). The other part is that I know that he appreciates praise and acknowledgement, so it's just something that we do.
He thanks me for even simple things like coffee in the morning or warming up pizza. He always tells me that he appreciates that I do his laundry and handle the business side of our home. He even shows appreciation for things like taking the lead in making decisions on things like our investments or retirement or even budgeting. He's just generally appreciative overall.
On an average day, he probably acknowledges/thanks me for something at least 5-7 times.
I feel very appreciated, cherished and loved.
ETA: Specific to cooking though - it's rather humorous because NO MATTER how I make something - overcooked, undercooked, or straight up nasty - he always says "This is just the way that I like it." Somewhere along the way, someone in his past taught him that if you bitch about a meal, you are cooking the next one.
My dh has the same type of personality!! He thanks me for all kinds of things...from taking care of the kids and shuttling them around, to keeping track of my calendar PLUS his, buying birthday gifts for the family, for making sure I cook enough dinner each night so he can take leftovers for lunch, etc. I know he often feels like he doesn't do enough around the house and with the kids so I always make sure that I tell him how much we appreciate all the time he spends at work so that when he does have time off we can spend it doing fun things. And honestly, he'll do ANYTHING around the house that I ask him to do. I feel VERY fortunate to have found such a guy.
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Post by chlerbie on Aug 21, 2014 18:55:55 GMT
Well, HE does 90% of the cooking, but when I do cook, he's always effusive in his praises and even tells other people that he enjoys my cooking. I tell him thanks every day, that things are good, and when they're REALLY good, I let him know that, too.
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Post by moosedogtoo on Aug 21, 2014 19:04:56 GMT
The few times I've actually cooked, he has complimented my cooking. He's the one who usually cooks though and I always find something to compliment because I want him to keep cooking!
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Post by padresfan619 on Aug 21, 2014 19:12:19 GMT
Yes he does compliment my cooking and I make sure to compliment his. We each have had our own failures in the kitchen too, that's more of a "thanks for the effort!" compliment .
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Post by Charlotte on Aug 21, 2014 19:18:08 GMT
Nope...I praise his. [/quoted] This is us. Dh does all cooking. I am so spoiled.
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Post by jemali on Aug 21, 2014 19:39:03 GMT
My dh will occasionally say something if he really likes it. If he doesn't say something and I ask him how he liked it, he might say he didn't care for it too much. My dd though is funny. If I ask her if she likes something, she will say that "it wasn't her favorite" or "it would be okay if you don't make this again". But she definitely lets me know when I make something good!
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Post by heartcat on Aug 21, 2014 20:23:35 GMT
Dh expressed appreciation for every meal that I prepare for our family, and has taught our children to do the same. if there is something that he particularly enjoys, he makes sure to say so. He also tells people what a good cook I am.
He is very good that way though. He also makes a point to comment when the house is tidy and says how much he appreciates and enjoys it.
I think that if he 'never' complimented a meal that it would make me feel badly. Especially if I had told him how much that would mean to me. {{Hugs}}
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Post by Bitchy Rich on Aug 21, 2014 20:53:20 GMT
What does make a can of black beans mean? He went to the kitchen, got a can of black beans from the pantry, opened them with a can opener, out them in a pan on the stove, and heated them up. Then he put them in a bowl and ate them for dinner. It was his lunch of choice for three years. He didn't want the dinner I prepared, so he made one more to his liking. I wish I found canned black beans to be that delicious, as it seems like the simplest dinner ever. And lots of fiber.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2014 21:06:04 GMT
My family always thanks me and tells me they appreciate the dinners I make. I'm home every night and I like to cook, so all the cooking detail falls on me (and that's fine.)
DH used to tell the kids that whoever complimented the chef first got out of cleanup. It made for some pretty funny dinner conversations.
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Post by mdoc on Aug 21, 2014 21:19:26 GMT
Nope. But most of what I make isn't all that praiseworthy.
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Post by leannec on Aug 21, 2014 21:34:33 GMT
I wouldn't say dh praises my cooking unless it is something really really awesome but he never complains ... unlike our dd's I do 99% of the cooking in this house so it's a case of:
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Post by hjs on Aug 21, 2014 21:34:50 GMT
I am not the cook, my dh is. I do make a point to say thank you for every meal he provides for me. He says he wants constructive criticism, but I kind of figure any meal I don't have to cook for myself is a good one! I do try to gently offer comments if I feel they are needed, but usually start that with " thank you for dinner, it was good but maybe a bit too much garlic..." I only recall once having to say "This is not edible" ( he tasted it and agreed), and that is in 37 years of marriage.
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