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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Aug 21, 2014 20:05:31 GMT
I was in a get together with my db & some people he knows, and one woman was relating a story and said, "And all those thirsty heifers trying to be in the pictures with the guys. It's not like anyone would want them...."
And she & a couple of others looked up at me. The only "fat girl" in the room.
I just wanted to crawl in a hole.
I know I'm very fat, and I know it's my fault. I know every time I eat a cookie or plate myself up a second helping that it is my fault.
And I know they weren't talking about me specifically, but I felt embarrassed none the less.
eta: I don't know if I'm the only person who has recently learned what "thirsty" means in this context, but it's someone who will date anyone, just to have someone.
Thanks for listening.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 21, 2014 20:06:55 GMT
WTF...mean people SUCK...
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Post by not2peased on Aug 21, 2014 20:08:18 GMT
that was a shitty thing to say, sorry it hurt your feelings
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Post by gorgeouskid on Aug 21, 2014 20:09:31 GMT
That says far more of the speaker than of you. Bitch.
I'd like to say I'd have gotten up and punched her in her throat, but more likely I'd just sat there and felt embarrassed. I'm sorry you had to hear those hateful words.
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Aug 21, 2014 20:12:46 GMT
What a bitch. Sorry that happened to you, only an ugly, hateful person would do such a thing.
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Post by agengr2004 on Aug 21, 2014 20:13:22 GMT
What a bitch.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 21, 2014 20:13:41 GMT
They sound like disgusting people.
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Post by 3SugarBugs on Aug 21, 2014 20:14:18 GMT
 I'm so sorry that happened to you...what is wrong with people?!?!?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2014 20:15:13 GMT
I think the people that heard her ugly comment were embarrassed for her, not you.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Aug 21, 2014 20:16:48 GMT
Wow she is a real bitch. Don't worry your not the only one in that boat....I'm sitting right along with ha girl!
Keep your head up! Use their bitchy comments as your motivation to not go back for that second helping or to not eat that cookie. *hugs*
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Post by alibama on Aug 21, 2014 20:17:49 GMT
I have to agree with the what a bitch comment! That is just truly horrible. I am sorry that it happened to you.
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Post by leslie132 on Aug 21, 2014 20:18:34 GMT
What a bitch. I would have taken my thirsty self and pummeled that scrawny ass!!!
I am overweight as well. Everything you wrote about from cookies, plate size to being the only heavy one there....I have been there. I'm sure lots of people have. Take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself.
The woman who say those ugly things. They have issues inside as well. The only difference is you acknowledge your problems and recognize them. They don't.....and that makes them uglier than any fat person I know!!!
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 21, 2014 20:19:48 GMT
That's just pure ugliness and shameful behavior on her part. I am sorry that you had to hear it. |
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Post by my3freaks on Aug 21, 2014 20:20:40 GMT
I'm sorry! Mean girls suck.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2014 20:25:51 GMT
I think my response probably would've been somewhere along the lines of, "I know, right? A real man would always choose a judgmental bitchy twig over a kind and polite heifer." Or I'd just moo at her and give her a challenging stare.
But yeah, that was beyond rude of her. I'm sorry you had to deal with her.
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Post by turangaleela on Aug 21, 2014 20:27:41 GMT
I think the people that heard her ugly comment were embarrassed for her, not you. THIS. 1000 times this. |
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Aug 21, 2014 20:28:01 GMT
The woman who say those ugly things. They have issues inside as well. The only difference is you acknowledge your problems and recognize them. They don't.....and that makes them uglier than any fat person I know!!!  |
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Post by scrapsotime on Aug 21, 2014 20:29:46 GMT
Heifer, ha! She needs to learn the hard way that Bessie has a mean kick.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 21, 2014 20:33:52 GMT
You know I'm 80 pounds lighter than I was 4 years ago and comments like that still make me feel sad. I think I could weigh 102 pounds and still feel completely insecure about my body. People just don't even realize how hurtful comments like that are.
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Post by PaperAngel on Aug 21, 2014 20:34:08 GMT
Consider the source, then find new acquaintances! Regardless your physical attributes or whether you took the comments personally, I would suggest not hanging out with vain, insecure people who spend their free time belittling others to feel good about themselves. You deserve better...
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Post by Lexica on Aug 21, 2014 20:36:24 GMT
I promise you, those women do have issues. It truly is what is on the inside that counts. And people can change the amount of matter between their bones and skin, but it is much more difficult to develop a soul.
If you decide to alter the thickness of that in-between layer, do it for yourself and no one else. I'm currently striving to change mine. And for me. For my own health. People around me have seen me go from normal to super skinny and now to overweight. As I've mentioned before, the super skinny got the most comments because it seems less nasty to pick on. I'm still the same person on the inside, no matter what is going on in that particular layer of me.
Regardless of what the scale says about you, go by what YOU know about you. You know your own worth. And believe me, it's not what size pants you wear.
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Post by bklyngal62 on Aug 21, 2014 20:39:00 GMT
That's just plain mean !
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Post by BeckyTech on Aug 21, 2014 20:39:28 GMT
She must have had a huge mouth to be able to fit both feet into it like that.
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Post by Barbie on Aug 21, 2014 20:40:28 GMT
Some people have no tact, no manners, and no common decency. As a 'fat girl' who used to be a 'skinny girl' I can't imagine why someone would think it's OK to say such a thing.
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Post by scrappinmama on Aug 21, 2014 20:42:34 GMT
That was a really mean thing to say! I'm so sorry.
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Post by ingrid6 on Aug 21, 2014 20:43:10 GMT
That's just pure ugliness and shameful behavior on her part. I am sorry that you had to hear it. exactly! I'm so sorry! |
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Post by annabella on Aug 21, 2014 20:45:50 GMT
wow I'm sorry!
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Post by heartcat on Aug 21, 2014 20:46:37 GMT
Being overweight is not something to be 'ashamed' of. Even if someone is not happy with their current weight and/or choices that brought them to that point.
Prejudice, discrimination, hatefulness, hurtfulness, dishonesty, disloyalty, meanness, unkindness, selfishness, lack of compassion and empathy for other human beings...actions and behaviours that impact negatively on the lives of other people....those are things to be ashamed of.
Our weight does not define us or say anything about the kind of human beings we are. I read something one time that a friend who was doing through gastric bypass surgery posted on her facebook.
"Yes, I have fat. But I am not 'fat'. I have skin too, and hair and teeth, but I am not any one of those things either.'
It can be embarassing to be singled out that way (whether intentionally or not). The only one who should have felt ashamed by that woman's comment though is 'her'. It reflects on her character, and who she is. Not on who you are. {{Hugs}}
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Post by Linda on Aug 21, 2014 20:46:57 GMT
((((Hugs))))
from another 'heifer'
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Post by cadoodlebug on Aug 21, 2014 20:51:35 GMT
My hope for you is to gain enough confidence in yourself to give people like her a withering look and say *I'd rather be a heifer than a no-class bitch like you.* ![]()
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I'm so sorry that happened to you...what is wrong with people?!?!?
