Gravity
Pearl Clutcher
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Jun 27, 2014 0:29:55 GMT
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Post by Gravity on Aug 22, 2014 0:04:29 GMT
I am so sorry you had to hear that bitchy comment. I can't stand to be around people who have such a mean ugly heart.
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freebird
Drama Llama
'cause I'm free as a bird now
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Jun 25, 2014 20:06:48 GMT
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Post by freebird on Aug 22, 2014 1:06:36 GMT
What a suckass person.
I want you to know, that it's ok to love yourself just as you are right now. You're a beautiful person no matter what anyone says, but most of all, no matter what YOU say to yourself. You're wrong. It takes more to be "beautiful" than a small butt, perky boobs and nicely shaped eyebrows. Most of it comes from your own heart.
I find that women are the hardest on each other, more than men ever could be. Any time a woman feels confident there's another woman there to knock her down and "put her in her place" (how DARE she be confident!) Dude, 15 minutes here will show you that. But the truth is, people like that are so insecure that the only way they know to make themselves look better, is to make someone else look worse.
It took me 45 years but I love me for what I am right now. I'm smart, confident, happy (most of the time), funny as hell, and I'd even call myself pretty. See how I put the beauty part LAST? See, you have those other qualities too that makes you a wonderful human being. Everyone around you that loves you sees it, so it's time you start believing them.
It's ok to lie to yourself (a lot if you need to) saying positive things about yourself. After a while, those lies become your truth and that truth becomes your character.
I believe you're a "beautiful" person with all my heart. If nothing else, tell yourself that freebird thinks you're beautiful. Every day add a person. Before you know it, you'll have a list as long as your arm proving you wrong.
As for her? Well, bless her heart. I have so much overwhelming sarcasm I probably couldn't have stopped myself from blurting out "honey, I get laid plenty" and laughed in her face. Clearly she's not getting laid enough.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2014 1:09:33 GMT
You know what they say... it's what's on the insides that count, and judging by her comment, her insides are just plain ugly!! Her remark was unnecessary and rude. I'm sorry you felt ashamed and hurt.
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camcas
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Jun 26, 2014 3:41:19 GMT
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Post by camcas on Aug 22, 2014 1:29:36 GMT
In Australia there is a song on the radio at the moment by the group GRL called "ugly heart' with lines that go .. Ok you're pretty Your face is a work of art Your smile could probably light up New York after dark Ok you're cover boy pretty stamped with a beauty mark but it's such a pity a boy so pretty with an ugly heart ...yes its girls singing about a boy but it could equally work the other way around I agree whole heartedly with Ashley and freebird add me to the 'i think you are beautiful' list!!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2014 1:33:00 GMT
One of my friends in Japan is about 70 years old and very overweight. You know what? She glitters when she walks into a room. She holds her head high, her smile lights the place up and she makes everyone around her feel like a million bucks. You can do the same thing. Smile, hold your head high and remember you are great. We all think you are great
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scrappert
Prolific Pea
RefuPea #2956
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Location: Milwaukee, WI area
Jul 11, 2014 21:20:09 GMT
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Post by scrappert on Aug 22, 2014 1:43:12 GMT
People suck. That is all.
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Post by lovemybabes on Aug 22, 2014 2:23:50 GMT
I'm so sorry that happened to you...what is wrong with people?!?!? This. I am so sorry.
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anniebygaslight
Drama Llama
I'd love a cup of tea. #1966
Posts: 7,402
Location: Third Rock from the sun.
Jun 28, 2014 14:08:19 GMT
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Post by anniebygaslight on Aug 22, 2014 5:52:29 GMT
Wow. What an unpleasant person she must be.
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Post by ScrapsontheRocks on Aug 22, 2014 6:59:24 GMT
I am appalled for you and at her. I have only read pg. 1, but the refupeas are right on this one: she has issues and what she said speaks volumes about her life.
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Post by darkangel090260 on Aug 22, 2014 7:38:14 GMT
My normal come back if they are singal is " ya look who has a man". That shuts them up fast
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Post by cmpeter on Aug 22, 2014 13:29:02 GMT
I was walking thru the airport the other day and saw a man drop his water bottle. As he picked it up he started yelling at an older woman who was walking by him in the other direction. Calling her a fat bitch for bumping into him and making him drop his water (she didn't). I called out at him "what an ass ". He then started calling me a fat bitch as we continued to baggage claim. I just calmly kept telling him how rude he was and asked if his mother was proud of him. Luckily he didn't go to baggage claim but kept walking to another gate.
In retrospect he was most likely a drunk ass and things could of gotten very ugly. But, I could let his rudeness to the other lady go unchecked and blurted out at him.
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Post by redayh on Aug 22, 2014 13:46:27 GMT
I was in a get together with my db & some people he knows, and one woman was relating a story and said, "And all those thirsty heifers trying to be in the pictures with the guys. It's not like anyone would want them...." And she & a couple of others looked up at me. The only "fat girl" in the room. I just wanted to crawl in a hole. I know I'm very fat, and I know it's my fault. I know every time I eat a cookie or plate myself up a second helping that it is my fault. And I know they weren't talking about me specifically, but I felt embarrassed none the less. eta: I don't know if I'm the only person who has recently learned what "thirsty" means in this context, but it's someone who will date anyone, just to have someone. Thanks for listening. I'm very sorry your feelings were hurt. That totally sucks and is completely awful. I do have to ask a question though. Did you think they were referring to fat women because they used the term "heifers?" I was wondering because almost everyone I know uses the term heifer (heffa) all.the.time and we are never, ever referring to anyone's size. I suspect the women you are talking about might be in a demographic of which I am a part because they used the term "thirsty heffas," which I hear a lot. But I may be making an incorrect assumption here, please correct me if I am. I'm not trying to start any kind of war or be on the side of anyone who is nasty or anything like that. And I have been hugely fat in my life (like 140lbs more than I weigh now, which is not a small amount), so I get your pain. I just wondered if it might not be exactly what it seemed.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Aug 22, 2014 14:07:30 GMT
I was in a get together with my db & some people he knows, and one woman was relating a story and said, "And all those thirsty heifers trying to be in the pictures with the guys. It's not like anyone would want them...." And she & a couple of others looked up at me. The only "fat girl" in the room. I just wanted to crawl in a hole. I know I'm very fat, and I know it's my fault. I know every time I eat a cookie or plate myself up a second helping that it is my fault. And I know they weren't talking about me specifically, but I felt embarrassed none the less. eta: I don't know if I'm the only person who has recently learned what "thirsty" means in this context, but it's someone who will date anyone, just to have someone. Thanks for listening. I'm very sorry your feelings were hurt. That totally sucks and is completely awful. I do have to ask a question though. Did you think they were referring to fat women because they used the term "heifers?" I was wondering because almost everyone I know uses the term heifer (heffa) all.the.time and we are never, ever referring to anyone's size. I suspect the women you are talking about might be in a demographic of which I am a part because they used the term "thirsty heffas," which I hear a lot. But I may be making an incorrect assumption here, please correct me if I am. I'm not trying to start any kind of war or be on the side of anyone who is nasty or anything like that. And I have been hugely fat in my life (like 140lbs more than I weigh now, which is not a small amount), so I get your pain. I just wondered if it might not be exactly what it seemed. She was showing pics of the women on her iPhone. They were larger women. But thank you for the different perspective.
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Post by jmurray on Aug 22, 2014 14:11:24 GMT
People like that need to be avoided like the plague and I have zero time for them. Frankly I don't care if they meant fat or something else. Belittling others, especially in that given scenario, is to me a true sign of that person's character - and why would anyone want to spend their precious free time near that?
I would have just turned my back and walked away. You don't need to say anything. Words aren't anywhere near as effective as being shunned, especially in a public setting.
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Post by redayh on Aug 22, 2014 14:17:05 GMT
I'm very sorry your feelings were hurt. That totally sucks and is completely awful. I do have to ask a question though. Did you think they were referring to fat women because they used the term "heifers?" I was wondering because almost everyone I know uses the term heifer (heffa) all.the.time and we are never, ever referring to anyone's size. I suspect the women you are talking about might be in a demographic of which I am a part because they used the term "thirsty heffas," which I hear a lot. But I may be making an incorrect assumption here, please correct me if I am. I'm not trying to start any kind of war or be on the side of anyone who is nasty or anything like that. And I have been hugely fat in my life (like 140lbs more than I weigh now, which is not a small amount), so I get your pain. I just wondered if it might not be exactly what it seemed. She was showing pics of the women on her iPhone. They were larger women. But thank you for the different perspective. Yeah, they suck.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2014 14:47:23 GMT
{{{ hugs }}}
I agree that mean people suck. Even if there wasn't someone in the immediate "crowd" who was overweight, that comment was crude and mean.
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Post by Fairlyoddparent on Aug 22, 2014 16:07:09 GMT
I had something like this happen to me not too long ago. I was eating lunch with a group of women-all of them thinner than I am. We were discussing body image and how weight effects us. Now each of these women are no where near over weight. I am. Anyway, one of the ladies was trying to make a positive statement and pointed to the lady sitting next to me and said, "See, when I look at you I think you are very pretty." and then she said the same thing to another lady. Then she turned to me and said, "Even you....." but then she stopped and didn't finish the statement.
I don't normally get my feelings hurt so easily but it really bothered me. I couldn't even reply because I didn't want to cry. Even now, when I am in certain situations, I can hear her say, "even you..." but, because she could not even finish the statement, my inner voice says, "Not even you".
I am sorry that you were hurt. I get it.
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Post by NanaKate on Aug 22, 2014 16:31:22 GMT
Jackasses! I agree that conversation says much more about the people they are than anyone with weight issues. As someone who has lost 142 lbs I feel your pain. Part of me will always be the "fat girl" in the room no matter how low my weight goes. (((HUGS)))
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Post by librarylady on Aug 22, 2014 16:43:57 GMT
Good grief! Lots of hate exposed in this thread. I'd qualify for heifer also.........and would have been as hurt and silent as you were.
hijack: I wish you could have said, "Were you criticizing me? It sounds like you are criticizing me." --in a voice with NO emotion in it. I broke my husband of saying cutting things by using those 2 sentences....actually I began my statement to him ( in a flat voice): "Did you mean to criticize me? "
--He, of course, would back off the statement, "no, no" So, I'd say (still in NO emotion), "What did you mean? It sounds like you are criticizing"---he was in a bad habit of making biting/cutting statements. About 10 times of my exchange and he quit talking like a jerk.
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DaisyDoodles
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Jun 25, 2014 20:32:07 GMT
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Post by DaisyDoodles on Aug 22, 2014 17:27:22 GMT
I was in a get together with my db & some people he knows, and one woman was relating a story and said, "And all those thirsty heifers trying to be in the pictures with the guys. It's not like anyone would want them...." And she & a couple of others looked up at me. The only "fat girl" in the room. I just wanted to crawl in a hole. I know I'm very fat, and I know it's my fault. I know every time I eat a cookie or plate myself up a second helping that it is my fault. And I know they weren't talking about me specifically, but I felt embarrassed none the less. eta: I don't know if I'm the only person who has recently learned what "thirsty" means in this context, but it's someone who will date anyone, just to have someone. Thanks for listening. I'm very sorry your feelings were hurt. That totally sucks and is completely awful. I do have to ask a question though. Did you think they were referring to fat women because they used the term "heifers?" I was wondering because almost everyone I know uses the term heifer (heffa) all.the.time and we are never, ever referring to anyone's size. I suspect the women you are talking about might be in a demographic of which I am a part because they used the term "thirsty heffas," which I hear a lot. But I may be making an incorrect assumption here, please correct me if I am. I'm not trying to start any kind of war or be on the side of anyone who is nasty or anything like that. And I have been hugely fat in my life (like 140lbs more than I weigh now, which is not a small amount), so I get your pain. I just wondered if it might not be exactly what it seemed. First of all, I am so sorry your feelings were hurt. As a big gal myself, I know the random comment I hear from an ugly twat would probably hurt my feelings, too. Bless her heart, she sounds like a real peach *barf*! Secondly, I am leaning towards siding with Redayh on the use of terminology here. Around here, the term "thirsty" usually means someone looking for attention and trying to be the center of attention, so saying something like "thirsty heffa" in reference to a woman trying to always be in the pictures with a group of guys, thus looking like the center of attention for said guys, may have been what that woman was referring to, but either way, she sounds like a thirsty heffa herself for what she did. Either way, there will always be bitter bitches saying negative things, no matter if you are fat or skinny, so you just have to ignore them and keep on being your own wonderful self
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tiffanytwisted
Pearl Clutcher
you can check out any time you like, but you can never leave
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Jun 26, 2014 15:57:39 GMT
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Aug 22, 2014 18:45:09 GMT
Sorry this happened to you. People just suck. I'm with everyone else. People just suck. Love some of the responses you ladies have! I am a large woman and while I haven't been put in this situation yet, I hope I remember one or two should the need arise. Even if there wasn't a large woman sitting there, it was still a mean thing to say. People just suck. What?! Just as bad as being called a heifer. I can't even. People just suck.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2014 19:47:49 GMT
What a$$holes. I don't think I would hurry to be in their company again.
Ann
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