Can you still be friends with someone.....?

No probably not. I'm not that tolerant of assish behavior. Cheating is assish behavior.
Not so sure I'd call her out or start something, I just don't know about that, but I'd have better things to do with my time.

Every good relationship, be it a friendship, a marriage, or a business partnership, has a foundation of trust and respect.

You no longer have trust or respect for the cheating wife.

I don't see how you might be able to continue to call her a friend.


I'm sorry.

I had a very similar thing happen, nearly identical except they ended up staying together after she got it sorted out in her head or whatever. I was very angry with her. She told me she needed my support and that I couldn't be mad, if I was her friend. I ended the friendship. I didn't respect her, I didn't trust her, and I don't appreciate being told my feelings are valid because they aren't what she needed. (me,me,me. how entitled could she get? cheating and then trying to make my feelings on the subject also be about her?) stupid. 

It's been awkward for years now because her husband and mine are good friends, and so he is uncomfortable around me now. So when they get together I try to be elsewhere.  But I felt like a friend needs to be someone who respects and trusts and likes you and I could no longer offer that to her. So I had no choice but to walk away. 

I am still friends with someone who cheated on her husband. We have been friends since childhood, she married really young, and she knows what she did was wrong.  (There were no children or other marriages involved.)

To this day she is still a good friend. She has grown up, made a life with a man she is happy with, and I wish the best for her.

If she had stopped seeing the other guy I could still be her friend because everyone makes mistakes but since she was found out and still continues to see the other guy then no I wouldn't be able to still be her friend

I basically had the same situation as Woobster. Friend married my dh's best friend. VERY young. We all had young marriages together, raised our kids together. When her kids were about 10 yrs old she had an affair. Her dh found out. It was a rough time, esp since her dh was my dh's best friend, but she was honestly a very very good friend to me, except for the cheating. Which had nothing to do with our friendship. So they divorced, and she married the guy she was having the affair with, and they've been together now for about 6 yrs ,and very happy. Honestly her hubby and her were not a good fit. No reason to cheat though. So you can maintain a friendship. Which I have, and we still do things together, as friends, and as couples. It's a bit odd though. And I would have NOooo problem with her being around my dh! HAAAA. She cheated with a specific person, not just a dick.

Can and have. I don't condone cheating. Cheating is wrong every time.

But I have seen a good person make a very, very bad decision more than once. I know I've made some very bad decisions too.

An ongoing pattern of selfish, irresponsible, toxic behavior is one thing. I don't keep that kind of person close to me. But a friend who got into a bad situation and is trying to fix it or struggling to figure out what to do now, I will have her back every time.

I can still be friends with someone even if I don't agree with what they are doing in some circumstances.  However, in the case you described here I could not have a friendship with that person.  She made a mistake by cheating (which I don't know that I could forgive having been cheated on before) but instead of trying to repair the damage, she's continuing to cheat and lying to her spouse.  That tells me that she doesn't share the same core values that I do. 

If that's the case, I would remain friendly but not friends for the sake of my kids.

I would probably have to distance myself from the friend but I wouldn't cut off the friendship completely depending on the circumstances. I was once friends with someone who was sleeping with a married woman. I flipped out when I found out and did not speak to him for a long time. I just couldn't, I had lost all respect. We eventually became friends again and I'm glad I left that door open.

This. I try to forgive and not judge, but choosing to continue the affair is not an oops moment, it's an ongoing choice based on her integrity. So, in your case, probably not. 

In this situation, no. It shows such glaring lack of character.

I had a similar situation. I didn't approve, but I am friends with her, not her husband, and we are friends for many reasons that have nothing to do with how her marriage went. That's nothing to do with me. She's now divorced and remarried and I love her a lot. I'm glad I still know her. I'm not her judge and jury.