I am tired of being the mom....

Oh, TankTop! You are signing the song of my people! ((((((hugs)))))) and hang in there. They do grow up, sometimes...

I hear ya! DH did not like to be the disciplinarian. When our boys were teens, I was always the b$%^&. I used to tell him that it wasn't fair that I had to keep him in line when he was a teen/early 20something and then I had to do it with his sons as well. They are older now, and Dad is still the fun parent, but I am the one they usually come to for issues in their lives.

I have a 19 yo. There have been times when I not only did not want to be the Mom, heck, I didn't want to be the parent!!! But recently he is exhibiting signs of becoming human..... Hang in there Mom!

I wanna be the dad...because I just went bra shopping with my tween today. Oh, the drama!  She was literally hiding amongst the racks because I had the audacity to ask the sales associate where the tween bras might be found, which apparently was humiliating for her.  So glad it was her idea ~ and not mine ~ to go shopping! 

Boys are so much easier to shop with… at least for me.  Last year we did our school shopping trip in under 30 minutes and that included the drive.  Wham bam thank you ma'm!

I'm right there beside you.

I am laughing out loud.  I think going back to teaching and having an infant husband make you want to go postal.  

I know how you feel. However, DH has a long commute so not sure I'd like that role either. Last year was seriously a living hell with 16 year old (now 17 year old) DD. DH is the fun guy, especially with 14 yo DS but he even gets annoyed when DS procrastinates on homework until Sunday night. Nothing bugs him much but that sure did!

My kids are adult now so we are well out of that stage thank goodness! My DH was away from home several months at a time throughout his career and to this day when tales are being told about 'remember when we got told off for......' it's always Mum who features in those stories. When they are talking about fun things it's always Dad that features!

I totally understand - DH traveled all the time when the girls were young and he had to be the bad guy when he got home if it issue was serious enough. He hated that! They do grow up - there is a light at the end of the tunnel but we went though alot of CRAZY times as our three girls grew up!

Hang in there!

Your thread is so timely and it has made me feel good that I am not alone.   I think my husband has it easy sometimes also.  He has one job in life and that is to work.  He works hard, has to travel a lot and does well in his job.  I on the other hand have to parent, work part time, clean, do laundry, cook, cart the kids to their activities…you get the picture.  And when things don't go the way he thinks they should go, like the kids stepping up to do some work around the house, it is my fault, not theirs.  And little things like today, my son has to go to his ADHD doctor and we need to talk about medication changes.  My husband is working from home and asked if I wanted him to go with us (which was nice).  But I said you won't be able to contribute because I know the drugs, I have done the research, and know what the options are…he knows nothing.  And then he gets mad.  

He doesn't understand why I don't have time to go to the gym…well I am running around all day.  Ugh!!  I think he is almost worse then raising a teenager.  

  I could have written just about everything you have written. I am tired of doing everything and getting blamed for everything when things go wrong.