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Post by mztfied on Aug 28, 2014 0:44:52 GMT
Have you ever been to one? For yourself or someone else?
I had never heard of this until last week. Opinions? |
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Post by Sharon on Aug 28, 2014 0:46:17 GMT
I've never heard of one. It just sounds like an excuse to get gifts.
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Post by polz on Aug 28, 2014 0:52:48 GMT
I can't remember the name for it, but there is a funny name for a divorce party. It's not to get gifts, it's to celebrate one's divorce. In my group of friends, we have house-coldings when we move and in my office, we have desk-coldings when people move departments. We are weird like that.
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Post by smokey2471 on Aug 28, 2014 0:55:46 GMT
I can't remember the name for it, but there is a funny name for a divorce party. It's not to get gifts, it's to celebrate one's divorce. In my group of friends, we have house-coldings when we move and in my office, we have desk-coldings when people move departments. We are weird like that. What is a house colding? |
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Post by polz on Aug 28, 2014 0:56:37 GMT
I can't remember the name for it, but there is a funny name for a divorce party. It's not to get gifts, it's to celebrate one's divorce. In my group of friends, we have house-coldings when we move and in my office, we have desk-coldings when people move departments. We are weird like that. What is a house colding? Opposite of house-warming. It's the party you have when you move out. Any excuse for a party  |
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Aug 28, 2014 0:57:08 GMT
Seriously, is this a thing!? Society today never fails to astound me. Don't most people just cry or celebrate over some wine, and call it a day?
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Post by LeaP on Aug 28, 2014 0:58:39 GMT
Have you ever been to one? For yourself or someone else?
I had never heard of this until last week. Opinions? Maybe it's a euphemism for a cold shower  . Seriously, I have never heard of one, but I would imagine it would involve lots of wine/whine. |
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Post by smokey2471 on Aug 28, 2014 0:58:38 GMT
No I have never been to one. My cousins and I went out to dinner the night my one cousin went to court to finalize her divorce. Not really a party (we went to eat Mexican) but we did all do a shot of tequila?  |
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Post by smokey2471 on Aug 28, 2014 1:00:47 GMT
Opposite of house-warming. It's the party you have when you move out. Any excuse for a party Ahh cute play on words and cute for a desk moving:) |
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Post by marianne on Aug 28, 2014 1:07:44 GMT
I heard of them mostly in the 70's, 80's. Any excuse for a party - gifts weren't expected or even wanted. Rather than wallow in grief and self pity, people had divorce parties. They wanted to celebrate their 'freedom' or return to the singles world. Silly maybe, but whatever worked to help you get through the bad time.
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Post by kelbel827 on Aug 28, 2014 1:08:38 GMT
Nothing wrong with a good party...especially if it's for a happy occasion!
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Post by sisterbdsq on Aug 28, 2014 1:26:30 GMT
I guess it's helpful if you got really effed and didn't get any sheets or plates in the divorce.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 28, 2014 1:27:59 GMT
If it was a long time coming or the ex-spouse was an ass-hat, I can totally see a huge party. If the ex-spouse took everything and the newly freed person needed stuff to furnish an apartment or something and was a friend, I would gladly buy a shower gift. If you want to party, I am there  |
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Aug 28, 2014 1:31:21 GMT
My Dad always said men should have a shower when they get divorced.. but then he cheated on numerous women, including my Mom and they all dumped his ass.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Aug 28, 2014 1:44:30 GMT
I've never heard of doing that.
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Post by leslie132 on Aug 28, 2014 1:51:33 GMT
Watch out. My girl friend was taken on a trip to Vegas for the weekend when her divorce was final. I actually think her girlfriends used this as an excuse, as they all love Vegas. Anyway, on the flight home she met a man 10 years her junior. A few months later they were back in Vegas getting married. 4 years and 3 children later, it must have been one hell of a weekend ( ironically, when married to her first husband she couldn't get pregnant. He was an idiot.....I'm so glad she has found this happiness) |
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Post by mztfied on Aug 28, 2014 1:52:41 GMT
Actually I asked this question because a friend of mine received this invitation. And a gift is expected. Included was a list of "possible" ideas which included linens for kitchen, bath and bedroom. Small appliances. Dinner ware. And gift cards.
This seemed a bit over the top but perhaps this is how it is done.
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Post by iteach3rdgrade on Aug 28, 2014 1:54:12 GMT
I went to one for a friend. It was basically a pool party with lots of booze. I left my 2 year old home with daddy and had a fun evening out. I think it cheered my friend up. |
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Aug 28, 2014 1:55:53 GMT
Actually I asked this question because a friend of mine received this invitation. And a gift is expected. Included was a list of "possible" ideas which included linens for kitchen, bath and bedroom. Small appliances. Dinner ware. And gift cards. This seemed a bit over the top but perhaps this is how it is done. No. Times a million. |
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 28, 2014 2:00:15 GMT
Actually I asked this question because a friend of mine received this invitation. And a gift is expected. Included was a list of "possible" ideas which included linens for kitchen, bath and bedroom. Small appliances. Dinner ware. And gift cards. This seemed a bit over the top but perhaps this is how it is done. Maybe the person got cleaned out in the divorce and doesn't have a toaster or towels or...and doesn't have the money to replace it? I can't see the invitation as being anything other than tacky though. I assume a registry card of some sort was included? I also wonder if the divorcee knows about the party and its gift expectation. It could be a well meaning friend with no clue about social norms throwing the party. |
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Post by scrapaddie on Aug 28, 2014 2:04:53 GMT
Actually I asked this question because a friend of mine received this invitation. And a gift is expected. Included was a list of "possible" ideas which included linens for kitchen, bath and bedroom. Small appliances. Dinner ware. And gift cards. This seemed a bit over the top but perhaps this is how it is done. No! No! No! And this comes from one who has been through divorce ( after 32 years of marriage). I did receive cards from close friends ( suoort, thinling of you). And flowers from a friend. |
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Post by Skellinton on Aug 28, 2014 2:14:13 GMT
I am all for a party, but a "shower" dies indicate gifts, and that seems tacky.
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Post by Sweets McPea on Aug 28, 2014 2:30:00 GMT
I realize some divorces are necessary but I don't get a celebratory vibe when a marriage dies. I will never show up at Macy's to buy from anyone's divorce registry that's for sure.
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Post by JustKim on Aug 28, 2014 2:56:18 GMT
Actually I asked this question because a friend of mine received this invitation. And a gift is expected. Included was a list of "possible" ideas which included linens for kitchen, bath and bedroom. Small appliances. Dinner ware. And gift cards. This seemed a bit over the top but perhaps this is how it is done. So it is proper etiquette to get an invite on FB? and can you just hand out a generic thank you when people leave your party? Good gravy!! Anything to get a gift!! I wouldn't have an issue with getting together with friends for the emotional support and an excuse to enjoy some vino but to have a party, come on man haha |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Aug 28, 2014 3:43:23 GMT
I saw a roving billboard advertising Divorce Parties in Vegas. (it was in Vegas that I saw the billboard) Seems like it could be fun, sort of celebrating the woman's return to the single scene and perhaps moving onto something better for herself. I would go if invited to one and buy an inexpensive gift.
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Post by turangaleela on Aug 28, 2014 3:56:40 GMT
Seriously, is this a thing!? Society today never fails to astound me. Don't most people just cry or celebrate over some wine, and call it a day? Sometimes people are glaaaaaaaaad. Different for everyone. |
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 28, 2014 4:06:00 GMT
I saw a roving billboard advertising Divorce Parties in Vegas. (it was in Vegas that I saw the billboard) Seems like it could be fun, sort of celebrating the woman's return to the single scene and perhaps moving onto something better for herself. I would go if invited to one and buy an inexpensive gift. Any reason to party in Vegas is a good one though, right? |
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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 28, 2014 4:14:35 GMT
The people I know who have been through divorce have been through the emotional wringer. They all have had the same theme: Divorce is a nightmare and harder than grieving a death, especially the ones w/children. So, I can't imagine a party, but that's just my 2nd hand experience talking.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 28, 2014 4:19:39 GMT
The people I know who have been through divorce have been through the emotional wringer. They all have had the same theme: Divorce is a nightmare and harder than grieving a death, especially the ones w/children. So, I can't imagine a party, but that's just my 2nd hand experience talking. I know in some areas the wait to file for divorce can be long. It may not be celebrating the end of the marriage, but the ability to focus on something else and start to move forward. I had a facebook friend who posted a picture of Keven Costner as William Wallace yelling FREEDOM and then divorce granted. |
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Post by anniebygaslight on Aug 28, 2014 6:01:21 GMT
 Tasteless and inappropriate. |
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. Seriously, I have never heard of one, but I would imagine it would involve lots of wine/whine.
