Post by maryland on Nov 14, 2017 2:47:50 GMT
No, of course she doesn't have to go out with him just as a boy shouldn't be forced to go out with a girl! We expect her to be polite. Her brought her over a pizza to ask her and she took it and said she would go with him and shut the door in his face. Then she threw the pizza away. Then she ditched him at the dance. She should have politely told her she had other plans. And if a boy does not want to go out with our daughter, that is fine too, I would hope he would be polite about it. That was a few years ago and my daughter feels bad about the way she treated him.
I will delete my post if it leads to such misunderstanding. You made me sad when I read your reply.
Sometimes it seems like there is this expectation that girls have to always be nice, to never hurt the boys feelings and it can lead to girls not knowing how to respond when the nice sweet boy wants to take things further than the girl would like to go.
I just don't think girls should be taught to be nice all the time. Polite and respectful yes but that is not the same thing as being nice.
Now my 9th grader was supposed to go with an acquaintance to a dance last month, a group of friends were going together. Well, a couple days after they decided to go as "dates", he told her that he didn't want to go with her. I was upset for her, but he told her that he didn't really know her well, and he would feel more comfortable going with someone he knew better. My daughter was kind of sad, but she understood. I just wish my older daughter had been polite and would have turned down her date as this boy was in turning down my younger daughter. I hope this makes sense!