|
Post by swtpeasmom on Dec 18, 2017 1:32:13 GMT
Just wondering...
Is it normal to be yelled at by your bosses at work? TIA!
|
|
|
Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Dec 18, 2017 1:35:10 GMT
No.
Keep a written record (email yourself on your personal account for the date stamp), and contact HR.
|
|
YooHoot
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,432
Jun 26, 2014 3:11:50 GMT
|
Post by YooHoot on Dec 18, 2017 1:35:20 GMT
Uh. No. Never. Ever.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Sept 28, 2024 0:27:11 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Dec 18, 2017 1:36:23 GMT
No. Absolutely not. If/When they start yelling turn around and walk away. When calmness prevails tell them that kind of behavior is unacceptable in a professional environment and you do not expect it to happen again.
|
|
purplebee
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,789
Jun 27, 2014 20:37:34 GMT
|
Post by purplebee on Dec 18, 2017 1:36:57 GMT
Not in my place of business! As mentioned, document. You should not have to put up with that type of workplace abuse.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Sept 28, 2024 0:27:11 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Dec 18, 2017 1:37:15 GMT
No, yelling is not an acceptable behavior at any job I've had.
|
|
|
Post by librarylady on Dec 18, 2017 1:37:46 GMT
No. Can't think of any situation where it might be--unless you yelled to stop an accident.
I'd leave that toxic environment.
|
|
|
Post by summer on Dec 18, 2017 1:38:22 GMT
No, not normal and not acceptable.
|
|
|
Post by Pahina722 on Dec 18, 2017 1:38:44 GMT
No. And if it is a common occurrence, it might rise to the level of creating a hostile work environment and be worthy of a lawsuit.
|
|
Dani-Mani
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,709
Jun 28, 2014 17:36:35 GMT
|
Post by Dani-Mani on Dec 18, 2017 1:39:52 GMT
No. And passive aggressive emails from your boss with CAPITAL LETTERS and lots of !!!!!! isn't either.
So glad I have a new job...
|
|
|
Post by peasapie on Dec 18, 2017 1:40:05 GMT
I'll add to the chorus. Unless you are working as a yodeler, yelling is never appropriate at work.
|
|
|
Post by mikklynn on Dec 18, 2017 1:42:57 GMT
Absolutely not.
|
|
|
Post by scrapmaven on Dec 18, 2017 1:45:19 GMT
I'll add to the chorus. Unless you are working as a yodeler, yelling is never appropriate at work. Also, if you are at boot camp then your boss who is a drill sergeant is allowed to yell at you. However, in any other job the answer would hell no. That is called working in a hostile environment and not allowed. Do you have an HR department? This needs to be documented. How much do you like your job? If my bosses yelled at me I'd be finding a new job asap and telling the two jerks to stop yelling immediately. "When you yell I feel bullied and I won't tolerate it!"
|
|
|
Post by brynn on Dec 18, 2017 1:58:03 GMT
It is not appropriate, but I had a Boss from Hell who would yell at us and stand in the doorway. So glad she left.
|
|
Country Ham
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,314
Jun 25, 2014 19:32:08 GMT
|
Post by Country Ham on Dec 18, 2017 2:07:35 GMT
Depends on the job. Sports coach? Sorry yelling happens. Military? Yep folks yell at young recruits in training.
I have some cranky doctors back in the day who yelled and threw hissy fits. Appropriate probably not? But in one instance a med student was about to make a fatal mistake.
Never cut and dry or yes and no.
|
|
Deleted
Posts: 0
Sept 28, 2024 0:27:11 GMT
|
Post by Deleted on Dec 18, 2017 2:34:24 GMT
Once?
What's the story behind it?
|
|
georgiapea
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,846
Jun 27, 2014 18:02:10 GMT
|
Post by georgiapea on Dec 18, 2017 2:44:55 GMT
I had a yeller boss. I'd heard him yelling at people on the production floor, but when he yelled at me I remained silent because he was obviously out of control. Later when he was calmer I stated my position, that I treated him with respect and I'd like him to do the same. Then I left without asking for a response. He never yelled at me again but one time he said "I have to stomp on you once in a while or you'd take over, you'd have me asking you for lunch money". I smiled at him and said "Wow, I didn't know I had that much power". And a week later he said "Ask the comptroller to cut me a check for $150.00 and then take it to the bank when you make the deposit and get it cashed". I did NOT say "lunch money?" but I could tell by the look on his face he knew I was thinking it. I really liked that man and still dream frequently that I've gone back to working for him.
|
|
QueenoftheSloths
Drama Llama
Member Since January 2004, 2,698 forum posts PeaNut Number: 122614 PeaBoard Title: StuckOnPeas
Posts: 5,955
Jun 26, 2014 0:29:24 GMT
|
Post by QueenoftheSloths on Dec 18, 2017 2:58:21 GMT
The former owners at my job were a husband and wife couple who yelled all the time, at us and at each other. The new owner doesn't yell, instead he made a bunch of changes to squeeze more work out of fewer people and changed my schedule that I'd worked for 14 years. I'd take the yelling over that. They actually yelled at each other much more than they yelled at us.
|
|
Jili
Pearl Clutcher
SLPea
Posts: 4,366
Jun 26, 2014 1:26:48 GMT
|
Post by Jili on Dec 18, 2017 3:01:47 GMT
No. It's not normal. I've seen it happen, but not in my current setting. I do not find it acceptable for adults to yell at each other.
|
|
Dalai Mama
Drama Llama
La Pea Boheme
Posts: 6,985
Jun 26, 2014 0:31:31 GMT
|
Post by Dalai Mama on Dec 18, 2017 3:04:11 GMT
First week at a new job and the managing partner yelled at me over a difference in professional judgement. I interrupted her and said that that, although yelling may be her management style, I responded better to civil discourse. I was transferred to another manager by the end of the week and I spent 6 happy years at that job with an amazing team. Meanwhile the yelling manager constantly bemoaned her abysmal staff turnover rate. I would have thought she would have clued into the fact that she was the problem but no.
|
|
|
Post by JustCallMeMommy on Dec 18, 2017 3:16:44 GMT
No! I took a job where the boss yelled at me the first day over something trivial. I kept job searching. When I left after 3 weeks, other staff members realized it wasn’t normal and quickly left as well.
|
|
|
Post by papercrafteradvocate on Dec 18, 2017 3:29:00 GMT
No. I just quit last week because of it. Sick to death if being talked to like shit (demeaning, being scolded for shit boss forgot, being spoken to passive aggressive).
|
|
|
Post by smokeynspike on Dec 18, 2017 3:42:53 GMT
I would think this happens much more frequently in a small mom-and-pop type owner structure than a corporate environment with an HR department. I would leave a job where I was disrespected like that and I would make it clear why I was leaving on my final day, as well.
Melissa
|
|
|
Post by papersilly on Dec 18, 2017 3:45:34 GMT
Absolutely not. It creates a hostile workplace.
|
|
|
Post by Delta Dawn on Dec 18, 2017 4:04:41 GMT
No, neither is hitting on, throwing things, threats of violence, propositions, information about vasectomies, boredom in the bedroom and other harassment. Ever. See HR soon. If need be, contact an employment lawyer for more information.
|
|
|
Post by freecharlie on Dec 18, 2017 4:14:05 GMT
No. And passive aggressive emails from your boss with CAPITAL LETTERS and lots of !!!!!! isn't either.So glad I have a new job... Not my boss, but one that checks certain paperwork does this. Oh it pissed me off to no end. She bolds, highlights, a bunch of exclamation points on emails she sends yo a bunch of people. I want to throat punch her.
|
|
|
Post by danalz on Dec 18, 2017 4:21:42 GMT
It's not normal but I've had it happen. My last job was as a case manager in the TANF (temporary aid for needy families) program. We had a morning meeting every day at 8:05 and we're yelled at almost daily, followed by emails demanding immediate response. The job was impossible to do correctly because of all of the demands from our company and the state. Every day some employee was crying because of stress and frustration. I was a veteran and was only there 1.5 years. I left for a new job in Sept. Best decision ever. No one should be treated that way.
|
|
Marina
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 2,504
Aug 12, 2014 23:32:21 GMT
|
Post by Marina on Dec 18, 2017 4:27:21 GMT
I used to be an auditor and so visited lots of companies. The majority did not have yellers. Most of the ones that did were all family run. Two companies stand out, and their CFO's were abusive of their employees. Yelling it not typical.
I had one yeller boss and he did it as a manipulative ploy but carried no hard feelings. He once yelled at me in front of a room full of people because I questioned him about one of my employees. It was humiliating but everyone knew him and that's the way he was. He did it once with me in two years.
|
|
gsquaredmom
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,091
Jun 26, 2014 17:43:22 GMT
|
Post by gsquaredmom on Dec 18, 2017 4:33:22 GMT
I am a teacher. Under the previous principal, yes. Under this one, no. Although parents still yell during parent teacher conferences and sometimes IEP meetings. We just have to take it. A previous assistant principal, if we were lucky to have him at our meeting, would stop the meeting and tell the parents we would resume on another day when they were ready to treat his staff with respect. He left because of the previous principal.
|
|
|
Post by padresfan619 on Dec 18, 2017 4:38:39 GMT
Hell no.
|
|