PrettyInPeank
Pearl Clutcher
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Jun 25, 2014 21:31:58 GMT
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Feb 18, 2018 21:43:01 GMT
Oh hell no. What was the point of pre-ordering if cost control was not the objective? That's just some crazy right there. I'm wondering if the bill came, and someone just bailed on the cost!
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Nanner
Drama Llama
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Jun 25, 2014 23:13:23 GMT
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Post by Nanner on Feb 18, 2018 22:28:46 GMT
I would be fine with paying for my own meal, but not if it's pre-selected by someone else.
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Post by kels99 on Feb 18, 2018 23:24:25 GMT
I just want to know what you were all served?
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Post by M~ on Feb 18, 2018 23:40:25 GMT
We have done this before for my granny’s birthday. The reason the meal was pre ordered was because the restaurant had a fixed menu for events/ large groups. So they didn’t allow customizing anything except drinks. They also offered us a fixed price. Everyone was aware of this beforehand though. We have since moved the party to a different restaurant with wider meal choices. Everyone pays for their own meal because I’m not about to pay for my family to come celebretae my GMs birthday. NOT anymore anyway.
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Post by AussieMeg on Feb 18, 2018 23:51:23 GMT
Pre-ordering a meal is not something that I would expect but in Australia the whole "host pays for everything" isn't common. Most of the time unless specifically noted, I would expect to pay for my meal/drinks if I was invited to a birthday or something else at a restaurant. When someone invited you to their home for dinner for example the norm is to BYO alcohol. Not tacky in my opinion to have to pay, not a great idea for them to pre-order. I agree with Allie. I would have expected to pay for my own meal and wouldn't have had a problem with it at all. BUT... I also would have expected to be able to choose my own meal. What if there were vegetarians or people with allergies/intolerances, or just picky eaters? Thankfully bridal showers aren't common here (well, they weren't in my day anyway). I have never actually been to one, and I've been a bridesmaid multiple times. But I would have though "cake and punch" would be the way to go rather than a restaurant.
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Post by maryland on Feb 19, 2018 4:11:48 GMT
I would have been fine with paying for my meal, but not it being preselected for me in that case. These days with dietary restrictions I think a one size fits all approach should be a thing of the past in any circumstance regardless of who is paying. Yes, I am on a tight budget, so I would have preferred to order something inexpensive.
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Post by freecharlie on Feb 19, 2018 4:16:50 GMT
I was moh for a friend and we had the bridal shower at a tea house. The other bridesmaids (i know one was a sister of the groom)didn't pay for shit and I picked up the tab for the whole thing. We were not real wrll off at the time, but dh and I budgeted for it and knew we were paying going in as would not ask guests to pay. I was a little surprised that after planning it with me, the bridesmaids bailed and neither mother offered to help pay.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Feb 19, 2018 4:37:00 GMT
Tacky for sure! I agree I wouldn’t have been put out with paying, but not getting to choose your own meal?! No. I want to know what the meal/menu was that was deemed an appropriate choice for all? Just thinking of my small work team of 9, I can’t think of a single meal that would work. One is vegaterian, one eats no red meat or pork while another doesn’t eat chicken! There is a picky person who doesn’t eat sandwiches, and on, etc. I know, right? I hosted a crop in my home a while back and invited a few friends. Of our collected group, we had one person diabetic (so limited sugar/carbs), one person on a low sodium diet, one person gluten free, and two people on diets in general (no dessert). And me, with none of those restrictions. Makes it super fun to try to organize and host an all day event. For that reason, I would never expect to preorder food for an entire party at a restaurant especially if I was expecting them to each pay their own way. That’s completely over the top rude and tacky.
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Post by 50offscrapper on Feb 20, 2018 4:06:18 GMT
I think not knowing ahead of time what the situation would be is uncomfortable.
For those who asked, it was a soup and half a sandwich.
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Post by Skellinton on Feb 20, 2018 13:33:57 GMT
I think not knowing ahead of time what the situation would be is uncomfortable. For those who asked, it was a soup and half a sandwich. That makes it even worse you didn’t get to choose! There are so many personal variations to sandwiches, bread, cheese, meat, condiments, etc. Thanks for letting us know.
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Post by leftturnonly on Feb 20, 2018 14:08:08 GMT
Well, some of you might not mind chipping in for the bride's meal as well, but No. Just NO.
What's the point of having hosts then?
Sheesh.
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Post by bratkar on Feb 20, 2018 14:27:18 GMT
If anyone thinks this situation of host picking entree, then expecting guest to pay, is okay... where is the line drawn? Okay for a shower? How about a wedding reception? Could you imagine eating the salad course, the entree, and being brought a bill before the wedding cake was cut? We were actually invited to a wedding reception years ago, that was in a restaurant, they were married in front of the mayor of their town. I knew the couple well enough to know it was a pay for yourself dinner. We didn't go since we had another wedding that same day. Asked later they told me they couldn't afford that kind of 'thing' and every did pay for their own meals.
I wished them well and was thankful we didn't go.
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Post by auntkelly on Feb 20, 2018 14:30:02 GMT
I think it’s tacky to host a wedding shower at a restaurant and expect your guests to pay for their meals.
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