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Post by donnab on Apr 20, 2018 21:29:38 GMT
I just ordered an ancestry dna kit. I really want to do a 23 and me kit but I'm so scared. I don't want to know that I may die early from some inherited disease! Does anyone else feel this way?
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Post by peabay on Apr 20, 2018 21:35:34 GMT
Yes. I have no desire to know what is in my cards. Or DNA.
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Post by PolarGreen12 on Apr 20, 2018 21:37:58 GMT
I just ordered an ancestry dna kit. I really want to do a 23 and me kit but I'm so scared. I don't want to know that I may die early from some inherited disease! Does anyone else feel this way? You have to request and pay for the additional health dna portion. So just don’t do that part. |
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Post by donnab on Apr 20, 2018 21:39:10 GMT
I just ordered an ancestry dna kit. I really want to do a 23 and me kit but I'm so scared. I don't want to know that I may die early from some inherited disease! Does anyone else feel this way? You have to request and pay for the additional health dna portion. So just don’t do that part. I did just order the ancestry part. I really want to do the genetic tests but I'm too scared of what I might find. I'm so curious though but very anxious-so will probably never do it. |
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Post by needmysanity on Apr 20, 2018 21:40:51 GMT
I did Ancestry DNA in hopes of finding my birth father (and siblings) but I have no desire to know if I'm going to get cancer or some horrible life ending ailment.
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Post by sunnyd on Apr 20, 2018 21:41:34 GMT
I'm so curious but also don't want to bring any unknown skeletons out of the closet at this time. There was a rumor that my grandfather may have had a child that wasn't known to the family and my dad wasn't a saint either. There are still some people who would be hurt by those types of potential findings so I'll just remain curious for now.
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Post by scrappinghappy on Apr 20, 2018 21:41:43 GMT
Does it mean if you have the gene you WILL get the disease? Otherwise you could know and be proactive thereby potentially increasing your lifespan?
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Apr 20, 2018 21:47:12 GMT
Does it mean if you have the gene you WILL get the disease? Otherwise you could know and be proactive thereby potentially increasing your lifespan? Yeah, that's what I'm wondering? If I have a gene for breast cancer, maybe I'll never miss a mammogram, or just go with a preventive double-masectomy. |
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Post by elaine on Apr 20, 2018 21:50:23 GMT
Or, if you do end up with a disease that may have a genetic component, your surgery gets put off until the genetic testing comes back. Speaking from current experience.
Eta: I did ancestry.com and they didn’t test for the Ashkenazi mutations of the BRCA genes, so I had to have that done.
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Post by epeanymous on Apr 20, 2018 21:56:29 GMT
If you don’t want health info, at least when I did it, they didn’t do that. Just regional ancestry and Relative connections.
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Post by hop2 on Apr 20, 2018 22:06:39 GMT
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Post by cmpeter on Apr 20, 2018 22:07:13 GMT
I’m too grossed out by the spitting to do it.
Dhs sister did it and we found out the man he thought was his grandfather wasn’t...have no idea who his dad’s real father is now. Technically our last name should be something else...but we’re keeping it.
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Post by MaryMary on Apr 20, 2018 22:53:04 GMT
I’m super curious to see if any family secrets are uncovered. But, neither side of my family is very precious to me... we are a long line of caca.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Apr 20, 2018 22:59:27 GMT
I'm so curious though but very anxious-so will probably never do it. Not to make light of your fears, but when I had the DNA portion done one of my strongest traits was anxiety!  It wasn't a surprise, but I found it interesting to find it was in my DNA and not caused by something else. One of the other benefits is that mine indicated certain drug types that would not work as well for me. |
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Post by PolarGreen12 on Apr 20, 2018 23:03:10 GMT
I’m super curious to see if any family secrets are uncovered. But, neither side of my family is very precious to me... we are a long line of caca. We found one. Our family was always to believed to be Blackfoot on my paternal grandmothers side. There are pictures of ancestors in full headdress, items and jewelry passed down. Stories told etc. Summer of 2015 I did the Ancestry dna kit. Based on my results we had not one ounce of Native American. My fathers side was adamant that the lab mixed up the tests, one jerk uncle even suggested I was adopted etc. That’s how dearly they held on to this belief. Though my Dad did take the dna test later and his results also didn’t show any Native. . My mom is the geaneologist. She started looking into that side more and turns out Great great great grandmother’s first husband died in battle and she remarried a Blackfoot man. Since her children were very young, they all took his name. She raised them that he was their father. So it was just always passed down that way. How easy it was to change your history before the internet. Lol |
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Post by katybee on Apr 20, 2018 23:13:30 GMT
My dad had diabetes and heart disease.
My mom had cancer, my brother has cancer, several uncles had cancer.
I’m pretty sure I already know...
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 20, 2018 23:18:44 GMT
I found out today my grandpa had a 20th child I didn't know about. I knew about the other nineteen. There's some mystery of what happened to his relative a couple generations back. I have a feeling there's definite skeletons. Hell, I already know there are polygamists.  |
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Post by Restless Spirit on Apr 20, 2018 23:23:51 GMT
Nope. No desire to learn the disease part.
I also had no desire to find any long lost living relatives. My sister is busy building a tree on ancestry hoping for connections. I told her to go for it. But frankly, she is attaching so many people from so many other trees, I’m having serious doubts about the accuracy of her family trees.
I was really interested to learn what countries our ancestors were from. That was fun. My DH had his done to see if his brother was correct about their Native American heritage. DH had zero NA dna. So until and if his brother get his done I guess we will never know for sure since both of their parents are gone.
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Post by kate on Apr 20, 2018 23:26:01 GMT
Great great great grandmother’s first husband died in battle and she remarried a Blackfoot man. Since her children were very young, they all took his name. She raised them that he was their father. IMHO, if the kids were raised as Blackfoot, by a Blackfoot, then it really doesn't matter what their blood (or spit) says they are. They're Blackfoot. If my test came back saying I was Southeast Asian, it wouldn't mean a thing to me. No DNA test is going to make me be able to "pass" when I know nothing of the food, language, or cultural norms. Equally, no DNA test can erase the "at home" feeling I have in the culture in which I was raised. I understand the curiosity about family, though, especially when there are question marks in the family tree. |
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Post by pmm on Apr 20, 2018 23:26:31 GMT
I've toyed with doing it. I am the product of a teen relationship. My biological father and his parents were very aware of me and my birth but did not have a relationship with me. It wasn't until I was 12ish that I found out about all this.
My mom told me in anger over something that had to do with my known dad and my brother. She did not tell me his name and it's not something that is up for discussion.
God bless my grandma, when I went to visit her, I asked and she sang like a canary and gave me pictures that my mom didn't know about. I'm pretty sure my mom would crap her pants if she knew that I talked to my grandma about it and that she was very forthcoming with the information.
My hesitation in doing any of the DNA ancestry stuff is that I could very well have a set of siblings that know nothing of me. My bio dad is right around 65 and there is no reason to not think that he is alive still. I wouldn't want to cause him and his family strife over discovering his out-of-wedlock high school baby on the internet.
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Post by PolarGreen12 on Apr 20, 2018 23:32:54 GMT
Great great great grandmother’s first husband died in battle and she remarried a Blackfoot man. Since her children were very young, they all took his name. She raised them that he was their father. IMHO, if the kids were raised as Blackfoot, by a Blackfoot, then it really doesn't matter what their blood (or spit) says they are. They're Blackfoot. If my test came back saying I was Southeast Asian, it wouldn't mean a thing to me. No DNA test is going to make me be able to "pass" when I know nothing of the food, language, or cultural norms. Equally, no DNA test can erase the "at home" feeling I have in the culture in which I was raised. I understand the curiosity about family, though, especially when there are question marks in the family tree. AndI agree. Not discounting it, it was just a shock to them that it wasn’t in our dna. But it’s still heritage to them. |
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Post by MsChiff on Apr 20, 2018 23:49:58 GMT
I'm so curious but also don't want to bring any unknown skeletons out of the closet at this time. There was a rumor that my grandfather may have had a child that wasn't known to the family and my dad wasn't a saint either. There are still some people who would be hurt by those types of potential findings so I'll just remain curious for now. My grandfather DID have a child that wasn't known to the rest of the family. I learned 3 1/2 years ago that I have an aunt and 4 cousins (and their families) in Australia. I've since met the aunt and her daughter and daughter's family. They're super nice people but since they live half a world away we're not going to be spending holidays together.  SaveSave |
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Post by breetheflea on Apr 21, 2018 0:01:13 GMT
My sister did something on Ancestry and posted something about Parkinson's (I already knew about that one my aunt has it, my great aunt had it) and colon cancer. That's enough info I didn't want to know, and probably can't do anything about, for me.
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Post by pierkiss on Apr 21, 2018 0:24:13 GMT
Nope. We got ours, and I ripped that box open and immediately spit into that tube. Mailed it the next morning. Knowledge is power and I want to know everything I can about me and what may lie ahead.
Everything for me except some weird random thing came back negative. But if it had been positive I would have been elated to know so early.
I did decline linking my DNA up with anyone else who is “family”. I have enough aunts and uncles and cousins. I’m good not knowing anyone else and them not knowing me.
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Post by PLurker on Apr 21, 2018 0:48:17 GMT
IMHO, if the kids were raised as Blackfoot, by a Blackfoot, then it really doesn't matter what their blood (or spit) says they are. They're Blackfoot. If my test came back saying I was Southeast Asian, it wouldn't mean a thing to me. No DNA test is going to make me be able to "pass" when I know nothing of the food, language, or cultural norms. Equally, no DNA test can erase the "at home" feeling I have in the culture in which I was raised. I understand the curiosity about family, though, especially when there are question marks in the family tree. AndI agree. Not discounting it, it was just a shock to them that it wasn’t in our dna. But it’s still heritage to them. Many stories- especially, it seems re:native American, get carried down generation to generation. A lot, if checked, would be proven false. Your family's story is closest to truth while not technically being so that I've heard. |
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Post by birukitty on Apr 21, 2018 1:34:45 GMT
Nope. We got ours, and I ripped that box open and immediately spit into that tube. Mailed it the next morning. Knowledge is power and I want to know everything I can about me and what may lie ahead. Everything for me except some weird random thing came back negative. But if it had been positive I would have been elated to know so early. I did decline linking my DNA up with anyone else who is “family”. I have enough aunts and uncles and cousins. I’m good not knowing anyone else and them not knowing me. This 100%. When it comes to medical issues knowledge is indeed power. To me personally it makes no sense to hide your head in the sand because knowing ahead of time can be beneficial. I went through 10 years of severe treatment resistant depression which ended in 20 ECT treatments (electric shock therapy) which did nothing to help the depression but did rob me of over 50% of my long term memories. I was finally cured when a blood test revealed a genetic defective MTHFR gene. Once I began taking the correct version of B12 that my body could absorb that depression vanished. So medically I do want to know everything that is ahead for me so I can do everything I can before it gets worse. Yes, I realize some things I might not be able to do anything about. But the things I can help by knowing beforehand-well that is worth knowing all of the news. |
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Post by leftturnonly on Apr 21, 2018 1:49:18 GMT
I'm so curious but also don't want to bring any unknown skeletons out of the closet at this time. There was a rumor that my grandfather may have had a child that wasn't known to the family and my dad wasn't a saint either. There are still some people who would be hurt by those types of potential findings so I'll just remain curious for now. A DNA test from Ancestry will bring out those skeletons probably more than from any other company because they have the largest number of people tested. I just want to say a big "Thank You!" to my ancestors for living the non-promiscuous lives I always thought that they had. The ones that I knew were such good and stable people and I really miss them. /hijack |
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Post by leftturnonly on Apr 21, 2018 1:53:46 GMT
I did Ancestry DNA in hopes of finding my birth father (and siblings) but I have no desire to know if I'm going to get cancer or some horrible life ending ailment. Best of luck! If you haven't done so already, I encourage you to attach your results to yourself on a public tree. Fill in the names of those you don't know as Bio Father, Bio Grandmother, etc. Others that match to you will be able to see that you are seriously looking for information and not just deciding to keep things private. That will increase their willingness to share their information with you. |
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Post by leftturnonly on Apr 21, 2018 2:00:39 GMT
Does it mean if you have the gene you WILL get the disease? Otherwise you could know and be proactive thereby potentially increasing your lifespan? I think with the BRACA gene, the chances of you developing devastating cancer are so high that while it's not definite, it's very high. I know someone who found out she has the gene and had pre-emptive surgery. It's increased her lifespan so far! |
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Post by brina on Apr 21, 2018 2:11:36 GMT
I'm so curious but also don't want to bring any unknown skeletons out of the closet at this time. There was a rumor that my grandfather may have had a child that wasn't known to the family and my dad wasn't a saint either. There are still some people who would be hurt by those types of potential findings so I'll just remain curious for now. A DNA test from Ancestry will bring out those skeletons probably more than from any other company because they have the largest number of people tested. I just want to say a big "Thank You!" to my ancestors for living the non-promiscuous lives I always thought that they had. The ones that I knew were such good and stable people and I really miss them. /hijack I met a woman earlier today that did both 23 & Me and Ancestry last year and learned at the age of 52 that her father was not her father. And when she linked her results with her aunts her mother blamed the woman for embarrassing the mother. Cause you know, linking the results was the problem. |
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