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Post by janskylar on Apr 28, 2018 1:40:06 GMT
This is obviously a first world problem if ever there was one. I just need to know I'm not alone! Before you read this and say you wouldn't put up with it, I have to say this is the only thing that he does that ever makes me crazy. And he can't drive for medical reasons. And I genuinely enjoy being around him. I just feel like bitching because I'm hungry.
I mean, I like food. Who doesn't? My boyfriend is straight up obsessed though. Right now it is 8PM, we haven't eaten all day, and he's been doing nothing but watching food videos on YouTube since he got home. I'm starving, and just want to go grab a bite to eat somewhere after an insane work week, but he has to decide the perfect thing to eat. He weighs the pros and cons of every option, reads the reviews, considers what he has had for the last 7 days or so because if you repeat a meal too soon it would be the end of the world, and finally chooses. But wait, maybe a totally different type of food would be better? What about this other one? Oh, I'd really like X, but that's too far away. Y would be good, but insert random reason why it might upset my stomach depending on time of day.
I love the man, but sometimes I want to scream "Just say you want fucking McDonald's because that's all that will be open by the time you finally make a decision!" And I hate McDonald's. I just want the decision to be finalized before midnight.
Oh and sometimes the reasons are my fault because, get this, I'm too picky. Yeah, I don't eat hamburgers or hotdogs, and a lot of meats gross me out, but I've literally never been to a restaurant of any kind that didn't have something I could order and be fine with. He won't even be happy repeating the same region of ethnic food if we had it a few days ago.
When I was single and much poorer, I could make a batch of something and have it for dinner for days until it was gone. He is the cook now because in all honesty, I don't care that much, and he genuinely has a passion for it and is better at it than I am. Everything he makes is amazing, but he cooks by the vat and doesn't eat leftovers. It is cheaper for us to eat out!
We used to hang out with this other couple constantly before they had kids and didn't have any free time. The guy half of the couple is his food twin. We would have planned an meal at a place everyone has agreed on, but when we arrived at their house, the "ooh, maybe we should go here instead" conversation would start. Out came the phones to see what folks on Urban Spoon had to say about it. Generally after hours of that, we would end up going to the originally chosen place.
When he had his gall bladder surgery, it only added additional layers to the process of deciding what to eat for dinner.
I hate the word "hangry," but I totally get it.
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Post by christine58 on Apr 28, 2018 1:42:18 GMT
He sounds like someone with OCD.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2018 1:45:17 GMT
My friend is a foodie. She will drive 2 hours just to get the best noodle soup. A foodie will travel and go out of his/her way for food, but they don't take hours deciding what to eat and how often.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 28, 2018 1:53:01 GMT
True story. My husband and I are out of state this weekend and staying in a fairly large city tonight. We actually pulled off the interstate to peruse Open Table and Trip Advisor to find “the perfect restaurant” for dinner. We ARE those people. Lol.
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Post by janskylar on Apr 28, 2018 2:01:08 GMT
My friend is a foodie. She will drive 2 hours just to get the best noodle soup. A foodie will travel and go out of his/her way for food, but they don't take hours deciding what to eat and how often. Ha, well maybe I don't know the definition of "foodie." Maybe "person who loves food but has had a 10+ year history of severe stomach issues that doctors had been unable to diagnose mysteriously until an ER trip that led to gall bladder removal" would be more accurate in his case. |
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Post by janskylar on Apr 28, 2018 2:06:17 GMT
True story. My husband and I are out of state this weekend and staying in a fairly large city tonight. We actually pulled off the interstate to peruse Open Table and Trip Advisor to find “the perfect restaurant” for dinner. We ARE those people. Lol. When we travel, figuring out what's for dinner is fun. It is the daily "whats for dinner" that is often irritating.  What did you guys decide on? |
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Post by dewryce on Apr 28, 2018 2:27:32 GMT
True story. My husband and I are out of state this weekend and staying in a fairly large city tonight. We actually pulled off the interstate to peruse Open Table and Trip Advisor to find “the perfect restaurant” for dinner. We ARE those people. Lol. Ugh, so jealous! We have a family rule of no chain restaurants on vacation. We are in Houston (from San Antonio) tonight and I was really looking forward to a fabulous meal. But we didn't decide where to eat before we drove into town during rush hour (hit it in both cities oh joy) and it took forever to get here. I was in pain and we just weren't up for more traffic. So we ate at Red Robin because it's 2 minutes from our hotel. Red.Robin. So so please share your wonderful meal so we can live vicariously through you |
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Post by belgravia on Apr 28, 2018 2:54:34 GMT
I’m sorry. My husband is a gold seal chef but he’s nothing like you’re describing. He does tend to go seriously over the top when we are having a dinner party, but when it’s just us he’s happy to have a hot dog!
Plus, he will eat my cooking without complaint.
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Post by katlady on Apr 28, 2018 2:57:26 GMT
I consider us sort of foodies. We like looking at Yelp and see what places around us are trending. And we check yelp when we go on vacation. BUT, we don't take hours to decide and we can eat the same ethnic food more that one day in a week. LOL!
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Post by Merge on Apr 28, 2018 3:03:34 GMT
True story. My husband and I are out of state this weekend and staying in a fairly large city tonight. We actually pulled off the interstate to peruse Open Table and Trip Advisor to find “the perfect restaurant” for dinner. We ARE those people. Lol. Ugh, so jealous! We have a family rule of no chain restaurants on vacation. We are in Houston (from San Antonio) tonight and I was really looking forward to a fabulous meal. But we didn't decide where to eat before we drove into town during rush hour (hit it in both cities oh joy) and it took forever to get here. I was in pain and we just weren't up for more traffic. So we ate at Red Robin because it's 2 minutes from our hotel. Red.Robin. So so please share your wonderful meal so we can live vicariously through you Oh no! You came to Houston and ate at Red Robin? Let me know if you need some restaurant recs for tomorrow. Where are you staying? |
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Post by janskylar on Apr 28, 2018 3:33:15 GMT
I consider us sort of foodies. We like looking at Yelp and see what places around us are trending. And we check yelp when we go on vacation. BUT, we don't take hours to decide and we can eat the same ethnic food more that one day in a week. LOL! Now that I have food in my belly I can see that my tendency toward exaggeration may have been showing. All is right with the world again! Well in the tiny sphere of my house anyway. |
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Apr 28, 2018 3:34:06 GMT
True story. My husband and I are out of state this weekend and staying in a fairly large city tonight. We actually pulled off the interstate to peruse Open Table and Trip Advisor to find “the perfect restaurant” for dinner. We ARE those people. Lol. We're the same exact way lol! We also drive over a hour to eat out quite often because there is nothing decent in our area. |
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Post by dewryce on Apr 28, 2018 3:41:37 GMT
Ugh, so jealous! We have a family rule of no chain restaurants on vacation. We are in Houston (from San Antonio) tonight and I was really looking forward to a fabulous meal. But we didn't decide where to eat before we drove into town during rush hour (hit it in both cities oh joy) and it took forever to get here. I was in pain and we just weren't up for more traffic. So we ate at Red Robin because it's 2 minutes from our hotel. Red.Robin. So so please share your wonderful meal so we can live vicariously through you Oh no! You came to Houston and ate at Red Robin? Let me know if you need some restaurant recs for tomorrow. Where are you staying? Yes! Tragic, right?  Recommendations would be great! We are in The Woodlands to watch the Ironman tomorrow. So we'll want to stick close during the day at least. We are considering Toulouse for lunch on Sunday. I remember eating at Escalante for dinner a few years ago. Bellagreen for breakfast. I forgot where we ate dinner for Christmas, will go check. Oh, lunch at Seasons 52 around Christmas as well. We have reservations for Maestros when we come in town next month for Hamilton. eta: Christmas was Fielding's Local Cafe & Bar. And I remember we have enjoyed an excellent meal at Harvest Organic something or another near Westheimer in the past. Their sea bass was so good! |
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Post by katlady on Apr 28, 2018 3:42:58 GMT
I consider us sort of foodies. We like looking at Yelp and see what places around us are trending. And we check yelp when we go on vacation. BUT, we don't take hours to decide and we can eat the same ethnic food more that one day in a week. LOL! Now that I have food in my belly I can see that my tendency toward exaggeration may have been showing. All is right with the world again! Well in the tiny sphere of my house anyway. Hangry is a terrible thing. I understand! LOL! |
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Post by keithurbanlovinpea on Apr 28, 2018 10:40:49 GMT
True story. My husband and I are out of state this weekend and staying in a fairly large city tonight. We actually pulled off the interstate to peruse Open Table and Trip Advisor to find “the perfect restaurant” for dinner. We ARE those people. Lol. Ugh, so jealous! We have a family rule of no chain restaurants on vacation. We are in Houston (from San Antonio) tonight and I was really looking forward to a fabulous meal. But we didn't decide where to eat before we drove into town during rush hour (hit it in both cities oh joy) and it took forever to get here. I was in pain and we just weren't up for more traffic. So we ate at Red Robin because it's 2 minutes from our hotel. Red.Robin. So so please share your wonderful meal so we can live vicariously through you Aw you should have hopped on here! We Houstonians could have helped you out in a snap! |
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Post by desertgirl on Apr 28, 2018 11:18:27 GMT
Well, we are not foodies, if your definition of foodie is what your SO does.
We love good food and I spend time on figuring out how to plan for it, bake/cook it, watch some cooking shows periodically, and post on the AKathy thread often.
But we don't do the obsessive thing you are talking about at all.
That said, we travel often and will drive 50 miles out of the way for barbecue.
And drive 100 miles out of the way for PIE.
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Post by mustlovecats on Apr 28, 2018 12:36:07 GMT
I would consider myself a foodie but I don’t do this. I just like the process of planning, cooking, and eating good food (and finding it in restaurants).
I’m fine to go to Red Robin or whatever if my family doesn’t want what I would pick. I go to lunch alone one day a week and do my foodie thing then, or when I go to dinner with friends. I don’t mind to make a hamburger on a night we are busy. But I’ll read cookbooks in the evenings and follow food blogs and look at food on Pinterest and Instagram to find tasty new things to make. I’ll try anything and I like the process and that’s what I consider being a foodie.
Making everybody wait while one person researches endlessly isn’t being a foodie, it’s just being rude.
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Post by craftykitten on Apr 28, 2018 13:35:40 GMT
Making everybody wait while one person researches endlessly isn’t being a foodie, it’s just being rude. ^^ Yeah, that. He sounds almost obsessive about it, but it's hard to tell from your post if this is a serious issue for you guys or if you are, as you say - hangry. It totally wouldn't work for me, I need to eat at regular times. 8pm is WAY too late to eat dinner and have time to digest it properly before bed. I hope you got some (good) food in the end! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2018 14:03:24 GMT
Right now it is 8PM, we haven't eaten all day Why couldn't you make yourself a sandwich or something? To not eat all day because someone is watching Youtube videos is ridiculous. |
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Post by likescarrots on Apr 28, 2018 14:46:25 GMT
Honestly, if I was you I would start saying 'I'm going to get dinner at X. Feel free to join me if you'd like, otherwise you're on your own for dinner'.
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Post by sasha on Apr 28, 2018 15:02:25 GMT
I consider us sort of foodies. We like looking at Yelp and see what places around us are trending. And we check yelp when we go on vacation. BUT, we don't take hours to decide and we can eat the same ethnic food more that one day in a week. LOL! Now that I have food in my belly I can see that my tendency toward exaggeration may have been showing. All is right with the world again! Well in the tiny sphere of my house anyway. I giggled at your post! So, please post again when hangry! |
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Post by janskylar on Apr 28, 2018 15:16:53 GMT
Now that I have food in my belly I can see that my tendency toward exaggeration may have been showing. All is right with the world again! Well in the tiny sphere of my house anyway. I giggled at your post! So, please post again when hangry! I appreciate you saying that because I thought I was being funny, but now I'm sitting here getting weepy thinking about how I made my boyfriend sound like a jerk. Either PMS is getting to me or I've read too many sad dog posts today. |
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Post by sasha on Apr 28, 2018 15:33:46 GMT
I giggled at your post! So, please post again when hangry! I appreciate you saying that because I thought I was being funny, but now I'm sitting here getting weepy thinking about how I made my boyfriend sound like a jerk. Either PMS is getting to me or I've read too many sad dog posts today. I thought it was hilarious! And you used the word fuck, so bonus! |
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Post by shescrafty on Apr 28, 2018 16:34:09 GMT
Honestly, if I was you I would start saying 'I'm going to get dinner at X. Feel free to join me if you'd like, otherwise you're on your own for dinner'. My DH doesn’t take as long as your boyfriend to make a decision, but constantly checks and rechecks reviews. There have been times when I say, “I’m leaving in 10 minutes to go to _____ unless you have a specific idea of where else to go.” Occasionally he will want to change his mind in the car but I just say no we can try it the next time. I don’t like being hangry either! Lol |
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Post by dewryce on Apr 28, 2018 16:57:10 GMT
Ugh, so jealous! We have a family rule of no chain restaurants on vacation. We are in Houston (from San Antonio) tonight and I was really looking forward to a fabulous meal. But we didn't decide where to eat before we drove into town during rush hour (hit it in both cities oh joy) and it took forever to get here. I was in pain and we just weren't up for more traffic. So we ate at Red Robin because it's 2 minutes from our hotel. Red.Robin. So so please share your wonderful meal so we can live vicariously through you Aw you should have hopped on here! We Houstonians could have helped you out in a snap! Y'all have helped in the past and I'm kicking myself for not getting our stuff together and asking earlier this time. Ah well, guess that means I have to keep coming back We are here today and tomorrow so if anyone wants to throw some ideas out I'm listening |
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Post by mlana on Apr 28, 2018 18:57:43 GMT
My DH used to be really stuck on food. He had a list of rules, like no leftovers EVER and he wouldn't eat the same meal twice in a month at home. For years, this was a more decisive issue for us than even finances. I'm a good cook, but I have other responsibilities and couldn't be waiting by the phone all day for him to decide what 7 course gourmet meal he wanted when he arrived home. And I could forget being the one who got to choose what we had-if he didn't get what he had chosen, he'd not eat with us but sneak out later to get something, anything, but what I'd cooked.
Suddenly yours doesn't sound quite as bad, huh? LOL
Hopefully yours doesn't have to have severe medical and financial difficulties to make him more accommodating. DH didn't change when I explained we were in real financial difficulties and the eating out had to stop. It wasn't until I told him I was prepared to sell the house, pay off the bills and go my own way that he realized I was very serious. We cut our eating out/food budget by 90% within the first month and we've never gotten back anywhere near that high again. When faced by a lifetime of eating alone, suddenly eating at home seemed a much better option.
Oh, and now that we only eat out on special occasions? Red Robin is a much looked forward to treat. LOL
Glad your hangry is over.
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Post by scrapngranny on Apr 28, 2018 21:07:17 GMT
My DH and I have exact opposite problem. We can decide what to eat because neither one of us cares. He wants a meal, not just a sandwich most of the time. The conversation goes something like this, me: What do you want for dinner? Him: I don’t care, what do you want? Me: I don’t care, that’s why I asked. I’m am not into food at all, I could eat cereal, soup or pb&j most nights. He isn’t picky, but cereal dose t really fly.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2018 22:23:16 GMT
This is obviously a first world problem if ever there was one. I just need to know I'm not alone! Before you read this and say you wouldn't put up with it, I have to say this is the only thing that he does that ever makes me crazy. And he can't drive for medical reasons. And I genuinely enjoy being around him. I just feel like bitching because I'm hungry. I mean, I like food. Who doesn't? My boyfriend is straight up obsessed though. Right now it is 8PM, we haven't eaten all day, and he's been doing nothing but watching food videos on YouTube since he got home. I'm starving, and just want to go grab a bite to eat somewhere after an insane work week, but he has to decide the perfect thing to eat. He weighs the pros and cons of every option, reads the reviews, considers what he has had for the last 7 days or so because if you repeat a meal too soon it would be the end of the world, and finally chooses. But wait, maybe a totally different type of food would be better? What about this other one? Oh, I'd really like X, but that's too far away. Y would be good, but insert random reason why it might upset my stomach depending on time of day. I love the man, but sometimes I want to scream "Just say you want fucking McDonald's because that's all that will be open by the time you finally make a decision!" And I hate McDonald's. I just want the decision to be finalized before midnight. Oh and sometimes the reasons are my fault because, get this, I'm too picky. Yeah, I don't eat hamburgers or hotdogs, and a lot of meats gross me out, but I've literally never been to a restaurant of any kind that didn't have something I could order and be fine with. He won't even be happy repeating the same region of ethnic food if we had it a few days ago. When I was single and much poorer, I could make a batch of something and have it for dinner for days until it was gone. He is the cook now because in all honesty, I don't care that much, and he genuinely has a passion for it and is better at it than I am. Everything he makes is amazing, but he cooks by the vat and doesn't eat leftovers. It is cheaper for us to eat out! We used to hang out with this other couple constantly before they had kids and didn't have any free time. The guy half of the couple is his food twin. We would have planned an meal at a place everyone has agreed on, but when we arrived at their house, the "ooh, maybe we should go here instead" conversation would start. Out came the phones to see what folks on Urban Spoon had to say about it. Generally after hours of that, we would end up going to the originally chosen place. When he had his gall bladder surgery, it only added additional layers to the process of deciding what to eat for dinner. I hate the word "hangry," but I totally get it. I wouldn't say he is a foodie but he does have food issues (both medical and emotional) and a bit of a control freak in this area. If I were married to him, and this is a common type of day, I"d plan a substantial snack between 4-6 pm so I don't end up overly hungry by the time he makes a decision. Or tell him if he hasn't decided by 6 pm (or whatever is a reasonable dinner time for y'all) I get to decide and he loses his veto powers. Then I'd have my "go-to" restaurant and go even if it doesn't meet all of his check list. |
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Post by craftymom101 on Apr 28, 2018 23:27:10 GMT
I agree with voltagainGive him a deadline to decide where (or what) to eat. If he can't get it together and decide by then, you get to choose and he can either stay home/not eat or join you. By 8pm I would be hangry, too! |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 29, 2018 0:31:40 GMT
so please share your wonderful meal so we can live vicariously through you We ate at a restaurant called Lucky 32 in Greensboro, NC and it featured creative southern cuisine. We started with the seasonal dips appetizer which came with three dips (pureed white beans, salmon, and mixed spring berries that were a bit pickled along with crostini. For an entree, I chose Suffolk Chicken which was a grilled breast over a fried grit cake topped with country ham cream sauce and a side of pinto beans with chow-chow. He had a rib-eye with onion straws and the grit cake/gravy combo. For dessert, we shared an Affrogato which was vanilla ice cream with sea salt caramel sauce and a shot of espresso to pour over it all. It was all really good. We ate outside on the patio under a canopy of wisteria in bloom - that was my favorite part! |
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What did you guys decide on?
Recommendations would be great! We are in The Woodlands to watch the Ironman tomorrow. So we'll want to stick close during the day at least. We are considering Toulouse for lunch on Sunday. I remember eating at Escalante for dinner a few years ago. Bellagreen for breakfast. I forgot where we ate dinner for Christmas, will go check. Oh, lunch at Seasons 52 around Christmas as well. We have reservations for Maestros when we come in town next month for Hamilton.
