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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2018 4:27:55 GMT
I'm 52 and I'm good friends with a gentleman who is 100 years old! Having a friend that is almost twice your age makes you feel young. He is amazing. He lives on his own and has a party every Tuesday night from 5:30 to 9:00. Usually between 20-30 people show up to his weekly party. He supplies all of the beer, wine and food. Even at 100 he drinks plenty of beer. Every person that meets him asks how he has made it to 100. His answer is to try to be positive, see the beauty in simple things and most importantly, have lots of friends and go out and do things. Be as active as you can be. He has a calendar in his kitchen. Let me tell you, that old man has more social engagements than anyone I know. Not too long ago there was one week where there was only one free night/day! He doesn't let being blind on one eye and deaf in one ear slow him down. I agree with his philosophy but I do think good genes help him. He sounds awesome!
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Post by scrappingirl212 on May 5, 2018 4:59:39 GMT
I started feeling that way the year I turned 50. It's weird - it was like I was instantly irrelevant. Everyone called me "ma'am". Clothing stores were not carrying clothes that flattered my changing body. No one was "pulling my digits", as the kids say. Even my contact lenses started screwing with me and I had to go back to glasses. I started Yoga and began walking outside every day. Then, each year I picked up a new sport to try. megop I also got the tent and gear for backpack and rustic trips. So FUN! I learned to wakeboard, kayak, traverse hike, shoot a bow, golf, and kite board. This year, I'm taking a spanish class. I think that I get more pleasure from learning new things now than I ever did before. I figured out how to cute myself up even when my butt was starting to sag. It's all attitude, you know? I bounce out of bed, knowing that there's something fun coming my way soon - either a yoga class, or a new skill, or fun outing. Your approach is really inspiring.
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Post by scrappingirl212 on May 5, 2018 6:10:46 GMT
Ha ha ha! Now that I can relate to! I'm with 950nancy and crazy4scraps! Closest I've come to that is a day long fly-fishing trip in Montana where we had to pull the boat over in the bushes to pee! Been there, got the tee shirt. I prefer a comfortable chair on a beach with cute young guys bringing me frozen drinks! I'm 64, almost 65. The fifties were hard for me, I think partially because I was being pulled in so many directions with college aged kids and aging parents, and my DH and I didn't have time/make time for each other as much as we do now. I am more content now, and our marriage is better now than it's ever been, I think at least partially because we intentionally make time for each other and are spending more time with each other and also with friends. Having a girlfriends lunch frequently, and a girlfriends trip once or twice a year is important for me. DH plays golf with his buddies once or twice a week, and goes on a yearly fishing trip with the guys, too. These are things that we didn't have as much time for 10-15 years ago when we had more demands on our time from work and family obligations. Our children are established in careers, and our grandchildren are the delight of my life. We have a "Supper Club" of five couples we've known for 30 years - started getting together when our children were young. We're now going through weddings and grandchildren together and it's been a blessing to us as a couple and as individuals. cindyupnorth Reach out to those people at work that you would like to be friends with. They may also be feeling the same way and be too shy to make the first move. Are you interested in them as girlfriends or as couples? If girlfriends, see if they would be interested in starting a book club or bridge club or dining out group once a month. I'd say invite them all out and discuss the options. I have a friend whose bridge club started out playing cards, but now they don't even deal the cards - they get together once a month and eat snacks and drink wine! If you're interested in them as couple friends for you and DH, invite 4-5 couples to your house for a potluck - you provide the main dish, and ask the others to bring appetizer, salad, vegetable and dessert. That's how our supper club started out. I think it's easier to get to know people at your home rather than in a restaurant. You could ask them if they would like to meet every month or every other month, and rotate who hosts and who brings different sides. We do a more formal Christmas party, with a pirate swap gift exchange, otherwise we're very casual - hamburgers on the grill in the summertime, or chili or barbecue, etc. in the colder months. Hope this helps! IMHO, you're in a stage of life that's like a crossroads to make some choices about how the next 50 years will look! Time and activities spent with people will be the most important memories you can make. Not that you need to be busy every minute, but try to have something every 1-2 weeks to look forward to and I hope that will help. (Downtime by myself is important to me, too). I love the part about setting the tone for the next 50 years! That is true and a great thought process.
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Post by artbabe on May 5, 2018 13:37:52 GMT
I am 52. I'm overweight. I have a double chin. My skin texture isn't the best, but I don't have wrinkles and, weirdly enough, I have no gray. My house is a mess and my cats have peed on the rug so I have to rip it out this summer. I'm a disaster.
My father is aging (79) and I'm starting to have to deal with those issues.
I have spent years battling bipolar disorder but I found the right med combo 10 years ago and my life has been pretty smooth since.
I haven't had a period in a year, so I'm pretty jazzed about that.
I am also in love for the first time in my life. I met him when I was 50 (OKCupid) and it has been the best two years. Forty was depressing because I wasn't married and my biological clock was pretty much up. I went into a depression then. I guess life just decided I was going to have to wait awhile for some things. The kid ship has sailed but I have wonderful nephews and my job is nothing but kids.
I love my job. I get frustrated, I get angry, I get overwhelmed. But I've been an art teacher for 24 years and I go home almost every day feeling like I made a difference in the world. Most of the kids are funny and kind. The ones that aren't make me crazy but it all balances out in the end.
So I'm enjoying my 50s in a way that I didn't enjoy my 40s. I'm just more mellow about everything. I definitely need to get my body and my house back together, but the good parts outweigh the bad.
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Post by mikklynn on May 6, 2018 11:58:29 GMT
I'm in a funk too and I am only approaching 43. I have been in a rut ever since I graduated graduate school in August of 2016. I'm exhausted from raising kids. I hate that I only see my husband on weekends. My new bipolar med has helped me gain over 30 pounds. I've been so busy with learning new things at my new job, I'm wiped out at the end of the day. I need to pick one thing at a time and just get my shit together. You have your shit together more than most people! You are raising good kids, some with challenges. You went to GRADUATE school! You have to manage all week on your own. You rock.
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Post by cindyupnorth on May 6, 2018 21:04:45 GMT
Thanks everyone that posted! I am just now getting back to reading the rest of them. Like I said it is our 30th anniversary, so we went away for the wkend, to a great resort, and had a great time. I dressed up, and we ate really good every night. Did some antique shopping, and I got my very 1st Pedicure ever!!! it was great!
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Post by ellen on May 6, 2018 23:47:00 GMT
I am going to take a guess that you are not all that far from Bemidji. If I lived in that area, I would have season tickets for BSU's hockey team. I've been to a hockey game in their new arena and it's really nice. That whole area around the Sanford Center is nice. D1 hockey is awesome and it's a great sports entertainment value. There are good teams in their league. It starts in October and goes into March. If you're lucky your team is still playing April. You can probably buy packages for just the Friday or Saturday games. We have had Saturday season tickets for our team for years and it really is a great way to get out of the house in the winter months. We always sit with the same group of people who are also season ticket holders. We usually go out to eat before the game or do a little shopping. A lot of teams do three or four game packages. They also have a fair amount of concerts at the arena too. Having a decent size university creates options in the arts as well. I also live in a small northern town, but we really take advantage of what is going on in the closest big town.
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