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Post by sleepingbooty on Jan 25, 2020 13:08:13 GMT
We kept it to the old house listing so the doxing claims are note quite in line. However, this remains a public board so it might be better to edit out the direct link to the actual foreclosure listing although it seems as though Becky is living permanently at the new house nowadays and no longer at the old property. I can't see any physical harm coming to her or her family because of it. Maybe you could edit your message to remove it Lovescrapping ? Doxing implies malicious intent which is absolutely not our case here. But it might be better to avoid handing over information so publicly to any lurkers who might have other purposes. Cyber harrassment is not ok, however. Places that have very open, critical discussions about certain social media and YT "celebrities" tend to have a "no interaction with the guru/celebrity discussed" policy. There's no need to go spam that person's social media or YT channel comments with attacks or rhetorical interrogations. Just do the sleuthing, stay skeptical, analyse but consider what good you're doing by carrying the results of board discussions over to the social media of those discussed. There's a fine line between keeping it real and direct attacks on moral policing grounds. ETA: From a legal point of view, when is the (old) house no longer their house? Is there some sort of ownership change when the property goes from pre-foreclosure to foreclosure status? Or is ownership reverted to the bank on auction day? I'm genuinely curious what the legal ties regarding ownership are here. I believe pre-foreclosure is the time during which the property is actively being repossessed.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2020 15:26:38 GMT
Hi everyone. Im asking that we please stop posting this information about Becky. It has risen to the level of doxing-- broadcasting personal or identifying information for various reasons, including inflicting harm, harassment, online shaming, extortion, coercion, etc. en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/DoxingEveryone thinks they have a good reason. Yes, Becky is probably a hypocrite. We still shouldn't harass her. Posting personal information, especially on her blog, is harassment and it's certainly meant for nefarious purposes. This can happen to anyone. Anyone who posts the wrong opinion online or says something unpopular at work or any other reason. I get it. I have also enjoyed this thread. I'm not trying to handslap. She's a hypocrite but this stuff has consequences we can't know. Totally agree. No personal info and no going onto a person's personal pages. That is beyond the pale and not necessary, imo.
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Post by Lovescrapping on Jan 25, 2020 15:35:23 GMT
We kept it to the old house listing so the doxing claims are note quite in line. However, this remains a public board so it might be better to edit out the direct link to the actual foreclosure listing although it seems as though Becky is living permanently at the new house nowadays and no longer at the old property. I can't see any physical harm coming to her or her family because of it. Maybe you could edit your message to remove it Lovescrapping ? Doxing implies malicious intent which is absolutely not our case here. But it might be better to avoid handing over information so publicly to any lurkers who might have other purposes. Cyber harrassment is not ok, however. Places that have very open, critical discussions about certain social media and YT "celebrities" tend to have a "no interaction with the guru/celebrity discussed" policy. There's no need to go spam that person's social media or YT channel comments with attacks or rhetorical interrogations. Just do the sleuthing, stay skeptical, analyse but consider what good you're doing by carrying the results of board discussions over to the social media of those discussed. There's a fine line between keeping it real and direct attacks on moral policing grounds. ETA: From a legal point of view, when is the (old) house no longer their house? Is there some sort of ownership change when the property goes from pre-foreclosure to foreclosure status? Or is ownership reverted to the bank on auction day? I'm genuinely curious what the legal ties regarding ownership are here. I believe pre-foreclosure is the time during which the property is actively being repossessed. I deleted the link to the Zillow ad here and I have no intention of going and confronting her on her instagram with this information. This info is public knowledge and if you are a public figure trying to show your life then not much you can do about people finding out other stuff.
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Post by sleepingbooty on Jan 25, 2020 16:02:45 GMT
I was sent the link to this article to better understand how the process of abandoning one's mortgage works in the USA. It's an interesting and quick read for people unfamiliar with the American home ownership system. However, the article suggests securing a smaller, less expensive home before doing either voluntary or involuntary foreclosure and making sure you have the cash flow in place because of how your credit rates will be affected by the foreclosure. We all saw Becky's shopping for the home, price tags and whatnot. Heck, she even had interior decorators over for the holidays. It was not a shit-we-are-in-trouble-we-have-got-to-make-do-now situation. There's definitely cause for emotional issues due to stress and cognitive dissonance here. I can only wish for them that their old home secures a bid that will be sufficient to pay back the bank fully for the sake of their children who shouldn't carry the burden and stress of the situation. I'd much rather live with less stuff, less space and plain openness about failure in decision-making, including financial, than pretend all is well on social media, on my podcast, etc. This is just not worth the toll it takes on your life and your mind. And your family.
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Post by julie5 on Jan 25, 2020 16:10:04 GMT
sleepingbooty this is why I’m glad I’m married to a financially responsible person. We don’t buy anything we can’t pay for in cash except our vehicle and home. His business thrived during the recession when others failed because he was smart about it. I’m not going to continue the doxxing discussion about Becky just to say that we’re still seeing the effects of the recession in the us and president cheeto isn’t really helping with his tax breaks for the super rich. This behavior is right on par with him. My conservative husband would have a heart attack before he would do this. But to each their own.
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Post by mom on Jan 25, 2020 16:20:01 GMT
I dont know that I agree with anyone posting on her social media, but I also dont think what appears she did is ok either. I would have a little more respect if she came here, acknowledged what happened and explained the situation. I know she wont. But if there was a legitimate reason this happened then I could appreciate that. Again, I very highly doubt there is a legitimate reason for this.
I refuse to even hate follow this broad. She gets under my skin like no one else.
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Post by sleepingbooty on Jan 25, 2020 16:34:28 GMT
I dont know that I agree with anyone posting on her social media, but I also dont think what appears she did is ok either. Exactly. The doxing and cyber harrassment discussion doesn't absolve or annul what Becky and her husband did. I'm not here to play into the martyrdom effect. If anything, the tea that Lovescrapping brought us solidified the hypocritical nature of Becky's online ramblings and posts. I'll never be able to forget about the $2000 piano room light fixture now. I'll be slowly losing my mind at the retirement village, not remembering if I took my pills earlier in the morning, but dammit, I'll still have fond memories of our documenting guru's piano room light fixture. The ego, I swear, it's the downfall of all these folks. If she hadn't plastered all the new and expensive and better thingies on social media day in day out, I wouldn't have presumed anything regarding the foreclosure. this is why I’m glad I’m married to a financially responsible person. We don’t buy anything we can’t pay for in cash except our vehicle and home. Same here. I've never had any loan at all. My SO hasn't either. We pay with what we have in our accounts, no credit cards, regular bank cards. I'm happy with the kind of freedom it brings. I feel good, I sleep good.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2020 16:43:12 GMT
We kept it to the old house listing so the doxing claims are note quite in line. However, this remains a public board so it might be better to edit out the direct link to the actual foreclosure listing although it seems as though Becky is living permanently at the new house nowadays and no longer at the old property. I can't see any physical harm coming to her or her family because of it. Maybe you could edit your message to remove it Lovescrapping ? Doxing implies malicious intent which is absolutely not our case here. But it might be better to avoid handing over information so publicly to any lurkers who might have other purposes. Cyber harrassment is not ok, however. Places that have very open, critical discussions about certain social media and YT "celebrities" tend to have a "no interaction with the guru/celebrity discussed" policy. There's no need to go spam that person's social media or YT channel comments with attacks or rhetorical interrogations. Just do the sleuthing, stay skeptical, analyse but consider what good you're doing by carrying the results of board discussions over to the social media of those discussed. There's a fine line between keeping it real and direct attacks on moral policing grounds. [br Posting bad things behind people's back is no more OK to me than confronting them about it. Eta: or to be clearer, these places you're talking about might not be the best places if the people there can't copy what they wrote on the blog and paste directly to that celebrity for her/him to explain him/herself. And I'm definitely not encouraging cyber harassment.
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Post by sleepingbooty on Jan 25, 2020 17:09:26 GMT
Cyber harrassment is not ok, however. Places that have very open, critical discussions about certain social media and YT "celebrities" tend to have a "no interaction with the guru/celebrity discussed" policy. There's no need to go spam that person's social media or YT channel comments with attacks or rhetorical interrogations. Just do the sleuthing, stay skeptical, analyse but consider what good you're doing by carrying the results of board discussions over to the social media of those discussed. There's a fine line between keeping it real and direct attacks on moral policing grounds. Posting bad things behind people's back is no more OK to me than confronting them about it. Eta: or to be clearer, these places you're talking about might not be the best places if the people there can't copy what they wrote on the blog and paste directly to that celebrity for her/him to explain him/herself. And I'm definitely not encouraging cyber harassment. The policy seems to work well for those participating. There's been upsets in the past and even recently. Just a couple of months ago, they uncovered the Tinder profile of a niche YT celebrity's husband. They discussed it. Then they noticed that people were asking said celebrity on their social media about her spouse's Tinder profile. And that's a big nope in that community. You don't drag shit over like that. It's their ethic code.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2020 18:10:41 GMT
Posting bad things behind people's back is no more OK to me than confronting them about it. Eta: or to be clearer, these places you're talking about might not be the best places if the people there can't copy what they wrote on the blog and paste directly to that celebrity for her/him to explain him/herself. And I'm definitely not encouraging cyber harassment. The policy seems to work well for those participating. There's been upsets in the past and even recently. Just a couple of months ago, they uncovered the Tinder profile of a niche YT celebrity's husband. They discussed it. Then they noticed that people were asking said celebrity on their social media about her spouse's Tinder profile. And that's a big nope in that community. You don't drag shit over like that. It's their ethic code. Well, of course not. That's not the same at all. And it wasn't about the celebrity but her spouse, so apples and oranges. Maybe I didn't express myself clearly in my previous post. But if you're encouraging people to post gossips, don't pretend to be horrified if it is brought up on social media at some point. That's all I'm saying. Also, saying things behind people's back doesn't mean you're more ethical than being upfront about it. It might be harassment all the same.
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Post by sleepingbooty on Jan 25, 2020 19:00:45 GMT
The policy seems to work well for those participating. There's been upsets in the past and even recently. Just a couple of months ago, they uncovered the Tinder profile of a niche YT celebrity's husband. They discussed it. Then they noticed that people were asking said celebrity on their social media about her spouse's Tinder profile. And that's a big nope in that community. You don't drag shit over like that. It's their ethic code. Well, of course not. That's not the same at all. And it wasn't about the celebrity but her spouse, so apples and oranges. Maybe I didn't express myself clearly in my previous post. But if you're encouraging people to post gossips, don't pretend to be horrified if it is brought up on social media at some point. That's all I'm saying. Also, saying things behind people's back doesn't mean you're more ethical than being upfront about it. It might be harassment all the same. The ethics of gossip are a whole different discussion. For its many (and sometimes terrible) faults, gossip has just as many important virtues, be it the communication of unspoken social rules, whistleblowing and warnings. On the matter of the communities I brought up, I believe they prefer to play by their own code of ethics to regulate where the gossip happens. There's a board, that's where the discussions evolve and if everyone agrees to keep it there, things simply get less messy and less complicated both for the participants and the celebrity discussed. You aren't making decisions for other people, you aren't dumping your speculations in the lap of the celebrity discussed or their fans, etc. The chaos is contained. I see no problems having discussions on the web about public figures, period. If you put your life up for consumption (and monetisation) on YouTube, you are entering public territory. That's a fact. Same for other public oversharers like Becky Higgins.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jan 25, 2020 19:34:07 GMT
I know people younger than me (American) seem to not understand that public information is just that, public. Maybe it’s because they were born into an age with no phone books. Your address isn’t private if you own a home. Neither is the amount you paid for your house, the square footage, number of rooms, amount you pay in property taxes, nor the assessed value. This is all public information. Before the internet, you just took yourself down to the courthouse and all this information was there for the asking. Nobody is listing Becky’s current address. I’m enjoying a bit of the schadenfreude.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jan 25, 2020 19:35:48 GMT
Seems for some Becky is their BEC. A fellow follower of GFY? 😁
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Post by mom on Jan 25, 2020 20:03:11 GMT
Ive been thinking about this why I worked on other things today.
Should people have posted about it on her instagram? Probably not. But in the same breath, I ask if people would do that if she had not made herself out to be the moral authority & picture perfect cultivator of life that she has. I guess my thought is that if she was some random Joe-blow, no one would care. But she is an influence and no detail (but this BIG one) has been spared from being over shared across her social media. When you put yourself on a pedestal you shouldn't be surprised when people start looking for the cracks in your facade.
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Post by Lovescrapping on Jan 25, 2020 20:09:47 GMT
Seems for some Becky is their BEC. That maybe true but what this all comes down to is the fact her whole persona now for lack of a better word is based on helping people live a better life, how she’s being intentional with every little decision, and shilling out advice on her podcast but we find out she isn’t taking care of her own business. Shes also the one showing off all the grand things she’s filling her new home with and all the vacations and getaways she’s going on. So naturally people would be like wtf if her old home is being auctioned off. She may not be huge as an influencer but she is out there trying to be.
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Post by Lovescrapping on Jan 25, 2020 20:10:55 GMT
Ive been thinking about this why I worked on other things today. Should people have posted about it on her instagram? Probably not. But in the same breath, I ask if people would do that if she had not made herself out to be the moral authority & picture perfect cultivator of life that she has. I guess my thought is that if she was some random Joe-blow, no one would care. But she is an influence and no detail (but this BIG one) has been spared from being over shared across her social media. When you put yourself on a pedestal you shouldn't be surprised when people start looking for the cracks in your facade. Completely agree, while I was typing my last post you must have been typing this. ☺️
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Post by mom on Jan 25, 2020 20:13:15 GMT
I know people younger than me (American) seem to not understand that public information is just that, public. Maybe it’s because they were born into an age with no phone books. Your address isn’t private if you own a home. Neither is the amount you paid for your house, the square footage, number of rooms, amount you pay in property taxes, nor the assessed value. This is all public information. Before the internet, you just took yourself down to the courthouse and all this information was there for the asking. Nobody is listing Becky’s current address. I’m enjoying a bit of the schadenfreude. Completely agree with this. So story time....back when I was on the old 2Peas board, I saw a paper company use a trademarked image on scrapbook paper. We discussed it (openly) on the 2P board and I decided to contact the paper company via phone. I posted a response on the board and gave an update of what the paper company said. Well the paper company found my post saying I had contacted them, and they proceeded to post my full name, address, and phone number on 2Peas. Why? No clue. But the Peas were pissed and eventually they deleted my information. Was I pissed they did it? Yeah but all the information they posted was found through legal ways - all of it was online. They literally just googled. Shitty practice for a company to post a customers information like that but it wasn't illegal. The reality is, when you put yourself 'out' there, then you cant control what others do to you (as long as they are not breaking a law). Dont want your info out like that? Then dont share details about yourself that others can find.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2020 20:18:44 GMT
I’m not a fan; her hypocrisy annoys me.
Thinking strictly from a financial perspective though, and given they are likely to be pursued for any deficit resulting from the foreclosure action, if falling property values had corroded the equity in the previous property is it possible it was prudent to invest in building equity in the new property, in a different (less affected?) neighbourhood, if it could potentially then be refinanced to fold in the deficit?
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Post by Lovescrapping on Jan 25, 2020 20:40:15 GMT
I’m not a fan; her hypocrisy annoys me. Thinking strictly from a financial perspective though, and given they are likely to be pursued for any deficit resulting from the foreclosure action, if falling property values had corroded the equity in the previous property is it possible it was prudent to invest in building equity in the new property, in a different (less affected?) neighbourhood, if it could potentially then be refinanced to fold in the deficit? I am not an expert in this at all but I do know that people do short sales all the time with ok from the bank that holds the mortgage. That being said, hers is being auctioned instead of trying to sell it first and work out what is going to be done with the deficiency. Also the loan is shown being in default.
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Post by lasteve1 on Jan 25, 2020 20:47:53 GMT
I typically just read on this thread, but I wanted to put in my two cents based on my current situation which might shed some light on what is going on with Becky. I don't think it's as bad as everyone is making it out to be...
We are currently building our own home. Building a home takes a lot of time and money. Our new home is worth about $500k. To begin the process, we had to put 10% down and get approved for a mortgage with credit approval. We will have to put another 10% down and rerun our credit and get re-approved for the mortgage when the house is completed. Everything we've had to this point from the bank has large bold disclaimers that if our credit situation changes they will refuse to provide the funds to close on the house (in the event that happens, honestly I'm not sure what would happen). But it's pretty clear that if we had a foreclosure, or honestly even a couple missed mortgage payments, we would no longer be approved for our new mortgage. This tells me that Becky closed on her new house BEFORE the old house went into foreclosure. When our house is completed, the bank will approve us after a final credit check and we will close on the new house, move in, and begin paying on that mortgage. It takes 6 months to years to complete building a house and the end date changes frequently at the whim of the builder, weather, unforeseen events, etc., but once the house is done you have about one week of flexibility to close.
We owned another home when we began this process, worth around $200k. So obviously our two houses are not in the same brackets as Becky, but it's the same idea... we are "building up" as we get older and get more established in our careers and financially secure. We ran the numbers when we began the process and knew that, while we could afford the new home, we could only afford to carry both mortgages for about 6 months before we would have trouble. I don't think this is an unusual situation... most people, regardless of income bracket, spend a large percentage of their income on their mortgage/rent payment and could not afford to pay two mortgages for an extended period of time. So we knew we needed to sell the old house. We had two options here... 1. wait until the new house is done, move once, and then hope the old house sells quickly. Or 2. sell the old house, move into a temporary rental and then move into the new house when it is completed.
We chose option two because it was the safer option, but our house sold quicker than we wanted and we've been in a rental for awhile which has it's own host of problems (not financial though, financially it's great). We had other reasons to do it that way also, primarily we were switching school districts and wanted to do that during the summer. I know lots of people do the first option though. There are a lot of cons of doing what we did: it's expensive and a huge disruption to your life/children's lives to move twice, plus you have to put stuff into storage which is an inconvenience and also an extra expense. There are definitely pros/cons of each way.
I have no clue what happened with Becky, but my guess is they chose the riskier option because they didn't want to move more than once and they waited until they moved into the new house (or close to it) before listing the first house for sale so they would only have to move the one time. While they made selections for the new house they probably did that with the thought that it would be the only home they were paying for and, likely, that they would actually get some cash out of the sale of their old home. Then they moved to the new house and the old house didn't sell as they had planned. Who knows how long they could handle carrying both mortgages, but my guess is this was not a conscious decision, it was simply the fact that they couldn't afford two mortgages at once (most people can't) and they didn't plan on owning two homes for an extended period of time.
I don't want to debate what happened and, while I don't think this rises to the level of doxxing because no one has put any personal info out on Becky other than an address she no longer lives at, the conversation was clearly getting a little out of hand. I just wanted to put my thoughts out there from my personal experiences because I think there is a reasonable explanation that isn't so awful. I could understand why this would cause stress and anxiety for Becky and why she wouldn't want to share it publicly on her instagram. I think she's ridiculous in many ways and this situation just gives me one more reason to wonder why she didn't sell the project life brand, but they aren't necessarily acting as financially careless as some of the posts on here suggest.
I also wanted to add that they house wouldn't be in a foreclosure sale for just a few unpaid taxes like that. My guess is the late taxes relate to the fact that her mortgage payments were behind and the bank holding the mortgage was also escrowing tax payments. If the bank sells the house in foreclosure they will be able to pursue Becky for the remaining balance on the mortgage if there is one, and they might do that. They might also cancel the debt and then Becky will have to pay tax on the cancellation of debt because cancellation of debt is considered taxable income.
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Post by Lovescrapping on Jan 25, 2020 21:13:17 GMT
I typically just read on this thread, but I wanted to put in my two cents based on my current situation which might shed some light on what is going on with Becky. I don't think it's as bad as everyone is making it out to be... We are currently building our own home. Building a home takes a lot of time and money. Our new home is worth about $500k. To begin the process, we had to put 10% down and get approved for a mortgage with credit approval. We will have to put another 10% down and rerun our credit and get re-approved for the mortgage when the house is completed. Everything we've had to this point from the bank has large bold disclaimers that if our credit situation changes they will refuse to provide the funds to close on the house (in the event that happens, honestly I'm not sure what would happen). But it's pretty clear that if we had a foreclosure, or honestly even a couple missed mortgage payments, we would no longer be approved for our new mortgage. This tells me that Becky closed on her new house BEFORE the old house went into foreclosure. When our house is completed, the bank will approve us after a final credit check and we will close on the new house, move in, and begin paying on that mortgage. It takes 6 months to years to complete building a house and the end date changes frequently at the whim of the builder, weather, unforeseen events, etc., but once the house is done you have about one week of flexibility to close. We owned another home when we began this process, worth around $200k. So obviously our two houses are not in the same brackets as Becky, but it's the same idea... we are "building up" as we get older and get more established in our careers and financially secure. We ran the numbers when we began the process and knew that, while we could afford the new home, we could only afford to carry both mortgages for about 6 months before we would have trouble. I don't think this is an unusual situation... most people, regardless of income bracket, spend a large percentage of their income on their mortgage/rent payment and could not afford to pay two mortgages for an extended period of time. So we knew we needed to sell the old house. We had two options here... 1. wait until the new house is done, move once, and then hope the old house sells quickly. Or 2. sell the old house, move into a temporary rental and then move into the new house when it is completed. We chose option two because it was the safer option, but our house sold quicker than we wanted and we've been in a rental for awhile which has it's own host of problems (not financial though, financially it's great). We had other reasons to do it that way also, primarily we were switching school districts and wanted to do that during the summer. I know lots of people do the first option though. There are a lot of cons of doing what we did: it's expensive and a huge disruption to your life/children's lives to move twice, plus you have to put stuff into storage which is an inconvenience and also an extra expense. There are definitely pros/cons of each way. I have no clue what happened with Becky, but my guess is they chose the riskier option because they didn't want to move more than once and they waited until they moved into the new house (or close to it) before listing the first house for sale so they would only have to move the one time. While they made selections for the new house they probably did that with the thought that it would be the only home they were paying for and, likely, that they would actually get some cash out of the sale of their old home. Then they moved to the new house and the old house didn't sell as they had planned. Who knows how long they could handle carrying both mortgages, but my guess is this was not a conscious decision, it was simply the fact that they couldn't afford two mortgages at once (most people can't) and they didn't plan on owning two homes for an extended period of time. I don't want to debate what happened and, while I don't think this rises to the level of doxxing because no one has put any personal info out on Becky other than an address she no longer lives at, the conversation was clearly getting a little out of hand. I just wanted to put my thoughts out there from my personal experiences because I think there is a reasonable explanation that isn't so awful. I could understand why this would cause stress and anxiety for Becky and why she wouldn't want to share it publicly on her instagram. I think she's ridiculous in many ways and this situation just gives me one more reason to wonder why she didn't sell the project life brand, but they aren't necessarily acting as financially careless as some of the posts on here suggest. I also wanted to add that they house wouldn't be in a foreclosure sale for just a few unpaid taxes like that. My guess is the late taxes relate to the fact that her mortgage payments were behind and the bank holding the mortgage was also escrowing tax payments. If the bank sells the house in foreclosure they will be able to pursue Becky for the remaining balance on the mortgage if there is one, and they might do that. They might also cancel the debt and then Becky will have to pay tax on the cancellation of debt because cancellation of debt is considered taxable income. I completely understand what you are saying and the same sort of scenario applies when just moving from one home to another even if the house isn’t being built. However, the other behavior displayed doesn’t coincide with someone having financial problems. Also I don’t see anywhere that the home was for sale at all. Normally it will be listed in a realtor website and it is not. The last event for the homes history is the purchase.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2020 21:28:16 GMT
Thanks for sharing your perspective lasteve1 it was interesting and helpful. Just with regards to when you say you could understand why this would cause stress and anxiety for Becky and why she wouldn't want to share it publicly on her instagram - I think it’s appropriate to point out others have made public statements on their social media accounts regarding all manner of personally difficult and sensitive situations (ie, business closure, employment resignation/termination , divorce, health diagnosis, death of loved one(s) etc).
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 25, 2020 22:59:56 GMT
I don't even know what to say. He's my go to guy whenever I have to respond to foolishness and still be appropriate.
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Post by nicolep on Jan 25, 2020 23:03:06 GMT
I don't even know what to say. He's my go to guy whenever I have to respond to foolishness and still be appropriate. My coworkers and I use it all the time for work shenanigans lol.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2020 23:08:24 GMT
lasteve1 - thanks for sharing your experience. Do you have any feelings about other activities during the period of financial difficulty - like multiple expensive vacations, expensive purchases in your new home, etc. It seems during periods of financial difficulty my spending would be more conservative than normal, not equal to or even more liberal than normal.
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Post by mom on Jan 25, 2020 23:42:54 GMT
I know most of the peas don't like the new home, but I do love the updated midcentury modern look. And holy cow! That guest room! I think it's the same size as my living room. Actually bigger. I like elements of it, but I wont follow her because I think she consumes so much. Im not even sure 'consumes' is the word I am looking for. I think she buys too much. I prefer reusing things, finding old things that have character, etc. I want to look at a bench I have in my bedroom and know it came from my grandmas farm and not Wayfair. As a designer, I spent my career in show rooms and store displays. I dont want to live in that environment.
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Post by Night Owl on Jan 25, 2020 23:43:05 GMT
Sorry not sorry!
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Post by Lovescrapping on Jan 26, 2020 0:00:14 GMT
The main comment about this issue has been deleted from insta, the second comment that didn’t identify the exact issue is still there.
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Post by mom on Jan 26, 2020 0:02:04 GMT
The main comment about this issue has been deleted from insta, the second comment that didn’t identify the exact issue is still there. I would not worry about it. She is going to delete it and avoid it at all costs.
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Post by kiera on Jan 26, 2020 0:19:36 GMT
I didn't come onto the boards yesterday, and this evening I had 5 pages to read through on this thread alone! All I can say is..... wow. No wonder she needs to go on so many retreats!
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