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Post by lemondrop on Aug 22, 2018 20:36:56 GMT
quiltz I am so sorry for your loss. I am fast approaching empty-nesting myself - older child (DD) left for college 3 years ago and younger child (DS) moves into the dorms on Friday. I've had a lot of changes in my life in the last 4 years, staring with a divorce, so I'm going from 4 people in the house to just me. DS is good company and very easy so I will absolutely miss him but I am proud of the job I've done raising my kids and I'm moving on to the next phase. I have things planned for the next few weekends - going out with friends, having people over - so I hope it will be a good balance between enjoying my clean and tidy house and not being lonely. And then they will be home for Thanksgiving and winter break and I will be looking forward to my new "normal"! I hope everyone's transitions go smoothly.
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Post by kate on Aug 24, 2018 0:53:30 GMT
Ok, I made it. Didn't cry until we were actually walking away. He was on his way in to his first event with students & profs, so it's not like I left him standing on the doorstep of the dorm - he was barreling in the door of the event space, leaving US standing on the doorstep. LOL I managed not to mess up my makeup too badly, but i admit I've been hit by waves of mistiness ever since we left. He's my "Sheldon" kid, and I'm terrified that I've been filling in for his deficits more than either of us realized, despite my conscious efforts to back off last year. Time will tell, I guess. I'm praying for him, and I'll also say a prayer for all of you mamas and your fledglings. ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/love.jpg.gif)
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Post by Really Red on Aug 24, 2018 11:11:33 GMT
Ok, I made it. Didn't cry until we were actually walking away. He was on his way in to his first event with students & profs, so it's not like I left him standing on the doorstep of the dorm - he was barreling in the door of the event space, leaving US standing on the doorstep. LOL I managed not to mess up my makeup too badly, but i admit I've been hit by waves of mistiness ever since we left. He's my "Sheldon" kid, and I'm terrified that I've been filling in for his deficits more than either of us realized, despite my conscious efforts to back off last year. Time will tell, I guess. I'm praying for him, and I'll also say a prayer for all of you mamas and your fledglings. ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/love.jpg.gif) I shed one tear. My first in three kids. I've always felt the sickening lump in my stomach, but this time I was just purely sad. A bit for me for being stuck with my ex (he's a stroke victim I've had to take back in temporarily) and a little because of what you say. I think, though, our kids act differently when they're around other kids. I hope, at least!!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2018 13:23:07 GMT
Ok, I made it. Didn't cry until we were actually walking away. He was on his way in to his first event with students & profs, so it's not like I left him standing on the doorstep of the dorm - he was barreling in the door of the event space, leaving US standing on the doorstep. LOL I managed not to mess up my makeup too badly, but i admit I've been hit by waves of mistiness ever since we left. He's my "Sheldon" kid, and I'm terrified that I've been filling in for his deficits more than either of us realized, despite my conscious efforts to back off last year. Time will tell, I guess. I'm praying for him, and I'll also say a prayer for all of you mamas and your fledglings. ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/love.jpg.gif) He's going to do great!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2018 13:24:16 GMT
I didn't cry until I got home and heard the Jason Mraz song Have It All.
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Post by PLurker on Aug 24, 2018 14:27:06 GMT
Ok, I admit it, reading these kids moving out threads I've gotten all misty eyed again.
DD has been out on own since sophomore, this is her senior year. DS will be starting at a local college and commuting so he'll still be around.
Perhaps it's just the time-flies thing and the fact that I enjoy their company. (for the most part. Lol)
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Post by kate on Aug 24, 2018 15:24:52 GMT
I didn't cry until I got home and heard the Jason Mraz song Have It All. AAAUUUUUGGGH! Stop it! I'm almost out of tissues! ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/surrender.gif)
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Aug 24, 2018 15:44:37 GMT
When I saw he had packed and displayed the stuffed Minecraft creeper I had made for him when he was 12 and during final goodbyes when he said "You two are the best parents I ever could have had, thanks." Awww, man. ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/crying.jpg.gif) Sad/happy tears for you.
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Post by chendra on Aug 24, 2018 16:29:43 GMT
Congrats, mom! My nephew loved his experience at Chico State.
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Post by scrappinmama on Aug 24, 2018 18:39:34 GMT
Really Red I thank you for saying that. Some days it's a bitter pill to swallow as many of my friends are preparing in these last few weeks to drop their kids off at college. Some days I'm ok with it and some days I'm not. I understand. My sons are autistic. There will be no dropping off at college for us. I am hopeful that they will be able to live independently at some point though. Some of the stories shared on this thread are very touching. I'm seriously getting teary-eyed. I totally understand that this can be a bitter-sweet time sending your kids off to college. Happy tears are normal. Not crying at all is normal. My 19 year old has been working an apprenticeship for over a year. The other day, he was offered a job with them. I totally started crying right there when they told me. I was so overcome with gratitude for the people who made that possible. I started to think about the long list of teachers, paras, speech therapists, job coach who all had a hand in getting my son to the point that he is today. My son looked at my like I was crazy, and I had to explain why I was crying. I imagine that is how some of you must feel. You think of all the hard work that goes in to raising a child. Of course it's ok to cry. Be proud of your kids, and know that you have done all you can to prepare them for this next chapter.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2018 18:44:50 GMT
I didn't cry until I got home and heard the Jason Mraz song Have It All. AAAUUUUUGGGH! Stop it! I'm almost out of tissues! ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/surrender.gif) I know, right?!?
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Post by 2marbles on Aug 24, 2018 22:27:25 GMT
Its been two weeks since I took my oldest back to school...she has to go a week early for marching band, and she's helping with uniforms. ALSO she moved out of the dorm and into her own apartment (on campus) with her BFF. Now THAT kind hit me hard. Now she's not in the cocoon called the dorm!? What the what?! But I was soothed by her incredible responsible roommate who is teaching her things she wouldn't listen to me about. Like budgeting...helping yourself remain in the know with a spreadsheet...stuff like that. I tried, I really did...but ya know...parents, we know nothing.
But its only been one week since my 2nd DD moved to the dorms, just 15 minutes away. We felt it was best for her to spend the first year in the dorm, as she has pretty much been my most nieve of the three girls. She trusts everyone and life is all about having a good time. Love this kid, she is so me, but it was time for a dose of reality where no one washes your clothes because they are just in the way, or has a meal just waiting for ya. The first four days were very interesting. Frat house had a noisy party behind the dorm, many, many kids up all night all weekend. By class day on Monday...she was wiped out. I had to giggle a little. She's has shed a few tears because the school calendar app didn't have one of her classes listed, and she missed it. Then she left her wallet in the dining hall... it's gone, and we spent yesterday repairing that damage.
Its a little quieter here, and I think my youngest DD16 is a little lonely. She said all summer she couldn't wait for her sister to leave...yet, here we are and she's already been over twice just to eat or do eyelashes, or whatever it is they do. Before DD18 left she was so worried about not having her room here at home, but I think the excitement of being a grown-up has now overshadowed that and she may not return. There is already talk of an off-campus apartment. Sigh...my chicklets are leaving the nest! Just two more years to go!
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Post by jenjie on Aug 24, 2018 22:44:23 GMT
Awesome update! ❤️
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Post by moodyblue on Aug 24, 2018 22:52:20 GMT
When I saw he had packed and displayed the stuffed Minecraft creeper I had made for him when he was 12 and during final goodbyes when he said "You two are the best parents I ever could have had, thanks." Awww, man. ![](http://i1168.photobucket.com/albums/r481/2peasrefugees/Smilies/crying.jpg.gif) Sad/happy tears for you. It would be hard for anyone to not tear up at either of these. But awesome moments to remember too!
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Post by hop2 on Aug 25, 2018 1:33:34 GMT
Well I dropped her off - no tears. But she can’t find her art print she jst bought I hope it turns up
But otherwise reasonably smooth. Her bedroom is a really full and she didn’t want help to put things away.
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Post by smcast on Aug 25, 2018 1:36:02 GMT
Great update.
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