artbabe
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Post by artbabe on Nov 24, 2018 15:26:45 GMT
Yes. I like the kitchen cleaned up as soon as dinner as over. I am not going to miss out on the party because I'm in the kitchen cleaning while everyone is sitting around. We all cook, we all clean, we all enjoy the party. And when they leave the house isn't trashed.
The only guests I have are family, though. Maybe it would be different if I didn't know the people very well, but we have been doing it this way for 50 years of Thanksgivings.
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Post by peano on Nov 24, 2018 15:39:18 GMT
We don’t host big holiday gatherings since our family on both sides live far away. But when we have parties, I only expect that people will put their empties into the appointed trash bag. If anyone helps with cleanup, it’s an added bonus, but I don’t expect it. And for all that is holy, get the hell away from my dishwasher, because I have a system that makes unloading and putting away quicker and easier.
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amom23
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Post by amom23 on Nov 24, 2018 16:43:26 GMT
Our company is always family and they will help out. Also, big holidays like Thanksgiving are never just a day event. This year it's DH side and we've had company staying with us since Wed (thur Sun). So yeah people can pitch in and help out a little.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 24, 2018 16:47:06 GMT
gar, I don’t expect guests to help with clean up, and certainly not with breaking down tables and chairs, but being that this was all family it would have been nice if more offered to at least help plate the desserts or carry the coffee to the table. Having someone ask is always nice, especially when you are hosting a very large group for a sit down meal.
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Post by gar on Nov 24, 2018 17:05:01 GMT
gar, I don’t expect guests to help with clean up, and certainly not with breaking down tables and chairs, but being that this was all family it would have been nice if more offered to at least help plate the desserts or carry the coffee to the table. Having someone ask is always nice, especially when you are hosting a very large group for a sit down meal. I agree, an offer of help is always appreciated 🙂
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trollie
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Post by trollie on Nov 24, 2018 17:18:23 GMT
No.
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Post by Basket1lady on Nov 24, 2018 17:35:03 GMT
For Thanksgiving I had a turkey, stuffing, cheese and cranberry sandwich at Pret a Manger in London. I had to bus my own table. ![:D](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/grin.png) We usually travel during Thanksgiving and I haven't had a Thanksgiving meal on the day in years. We do a nice dinner - not turkey - for the in-laws as a Fauxgiving. Since its only the 5 of us, no real help is needed. Since this Fauxgiving takes place at the in-laws and I prep at home and cook as much as I can ahead. there is typically only the dishes and a pan or serving bowl or two to wash. I bring all of my pans and such that I brought home dirty and clean them there. Mil used to do the dishes, but they are pretty lax about the process, and dh, ds and I kept getting wonky stomachs after eating there. So now dh and I do dishes before and after the meal. Is it bad to say that Pret a Manger was my favorite place we ate in London?
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 24, 2018 17:51:04 GMT
Like a lot of Peas, to me there is a difference between hosting a family holiday and a dinner party/guest event. For Family holidays everyone should pitch in. For a dinner party, I like it if people can just relax and enjoy themselves. However if they offer and it is something that needs to be done right then and there, I happily take them up on their offer. For a dinner party, I almost never clean up until guests leave. At most, I would put up leftover food while they were still there, but it would be rare that I would clean up in front of them -- or miss time visiting with them because I was cleaning in another room. For big holiday meals, it can be a mix of family and friends. I may prefer to do things my own way, but it's usually easier to let a few pitch in to help. There's nearly always some small out-of-the-way jobs than can be parceled out to those who really want to be involved. I love the camaraderie in the kitchen -- it's part of the holiday fun for me!
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Post by LisaDV on Nov 24, 2018 18:18:33 GMT
Nope
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Post by joteves on Nov 24, 2018 18:28:46 GMT
I don't expect it but it is really appreciated. And honestly, all my friends and family are more than happy to help clear the table, etc. I've never had to ask.
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Post by malibou on Nov 24, 2018 19:33:21 GMT
basket1lady I can't find fault with the sandwich I got at Pret a Manger. It was truly delicious and came with the best sauce, hunger.
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Post by ameslou on Nov 24, 2018 21:51:15 GMT
I grew up in a “many hands make light work” kind of family, and will take all the help I can get!
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huskergal
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Post by huskergal on Nov 24, 2018 22:51:55 GMT
If it is a family gathering and I am hosting, I absolutely think the other family members should help with clean up.
I finally got my sister and 2 brothers to help with dishes this year. I do 90% of the food preparation. I pay for everything. The least people can do is help clean up.
At my dh's family gatherings, it is an automatic. Once dinner is over, most everyone pitches in and helps. It gets clean up done quickly and then people can all relax and enjoy the rest of the time together.
I would not expect non-family members to help clean up. I would thank them and turn them down.
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 24, 2018 22:55:17 GMT
I can't think of a meal since my kids were old enough to move dishes that they have not stayed in the kitchen until everything is clean. They do have a small space on the counter where they put something if they don't know where it goes, but that is about it. I would much rather have them help me than anyone else.
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Post by ruralgirl on Nov 25, 2018 0:44:10 GMT
I don't expect it but it sure would have made me happy and would have helped me enjoy the day more if I would have had help. The meal prep, the shopping, the cleaning, the decorating...I put a lot of effort and heart into making a nice experience for everyone and then there I am doing loads of dishes and clean up and frankly not getting to enjoy it because I've been doing non-stop work. If I'm at someone else's house that hosted I gladly help and do dishes. It's considerate and I know how much work goes into hosting so I would want to help. Holidays leave me feeling like I'm a doormat and people suck lol, and I'm not hosting next year!
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Post by ruralgirl on Nov 25, 2018 0:44:49 GMT
P.S. Thanks for the vent session!
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