S/O Do you expect guests to help clean up?

Absolutely not. Maybe clear the table, rinse dishes, and stack them on the counter, but nothing else.

Absolutely not. And by the same token, I do not wish to help clean up when I'm a guest. I'll do it, but I prefer to be told to sit and relax like I tell guests at my house.

Plus I have my own routine and don't need any help.

Depends on who the guests are

i'm a little pissy over it this year

gina

I don’t expect it but appreciate when they offer.

No, I don’t expect it. For the most part, I prefer guests to go be comfortable and, if they want to entertain the kids while I’m busy cleaning, that’s the most helpful. If the guest-helpers are my brothers and long time sister in law, I appreciate the extra hands. They know where things go without asking, just like I do in their homes. We have a system and can get a host’s house back together in no time.

If they are family or close friends, yes. At least put out a token offer of help. I’m not a servant.

Last year, we had some friends over. No offer to bring anything and no offer to clean up. We didn’t invite them this year.

Friends will offer, but I don't expect and rarely accept.
Family should get off their ass and help.

No, I would never expect guest to help clean up

Thank you for stating it so perfectly.

Completely depends on the guests and occasion, but I can say I don't expect anyone to help. For a dinner party, please leave it to us. TBH, sometimes I don't want to tackle the kitchen right away, am fine leaving dishes to soak and am not thankful if someone starts looking for storage containers or fills the dishwasher.

For a family event, everyone kind of jumps in and helps and it's nice to get things cleaned up quickly. With DH's big fat Greek family, the tables have to be cleared out so the dancing can get started.

Not at all. They're my guests not my staff. More often than not they do ask and I politely say no thank you. If they insist we'll clear the table to the kitchen and that's all.

I guess I'm the cheese who stands alone - I cooked for 3 days for Thanksgiving yesterday and hosted 15 people. After dinner was served, they all insisted I sit and they cleaned. It was all family, but I sure as hell sat while they cleaned. They didn't scrub it from top to bottom - there's still things that need to be done and I'll be doing them as soon as I get off the computer - but they did the majority of the dishes and helped put things in reusable containers etc... Why the heck should I do everything? Why can't the clean up be pot luck too?

We had 35 people at my SIL's house for Thanksgiving. No one person should have to clean up after that many. Everybody pitched in cleaning up -- dishes, putting away the food, cleaning off all the appliances and counters, sweeping and washing the floor, stain treating all the linens and putting them in the wash. Her house was spotless and perfect by the time we all left. We even cleaned her guest bath before we left. She had to work 7-7 today, and we didn't want her to have to deal with any mess.

For normal dinner parties at my house, I take care of it myself. I like to clean up after everyone leaves. I'd rather hang out with my guests while they are there.

I very rarely have guests that are not family, but I guess I do expect a little bit of help. Like, I should do most of it (or my immediate family), but a little extra help with peeling potatoes ahead of time, or getting out coffee cups after - that kind of help. It acknowledges the harder work of hosting by helping but not getting in the way or trying to steer everything.