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Post by ~Tracy~ on Dec 29, 2018 2:36:54 GMT
Oh Peas! This is so embarrassing! How do you figure out a way to have "adult time" with teenagers in the house? All bedrooms are on the same floor. We got into the bad habit of all sleeping with doors open so if the door is shut...it's way too obvious. They aren't always home, but it seems if one is gone then the other is home. Seriously. It went from sneaking around as teenagers to sneaking around away from teenagers.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2018 2:40:01 GMT
We started closing our doors every night as they got older. We had to because the kids would often stay up later than us and keep us awake. Once they get used to seeing the door closed, they don't question it.
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Post by librarylady on Dec 29, 2018 2:41:59 GMT
Just start shutting your BR door every night/all the time even in the daytime. Then if hanky panky is going to happen, it can happen......if not, you just got some quiet time.
Should one of the kids say, "Why is your door closed now?" Repy: Because I wanted some quiet place in the house. I need a retreat...This way I have it.
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Post by trollie on Dec 29, 2018 2:44:11 GMT
Be loud and proud! LOL!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2018 2:46:49 GMT
And then come back and tell us how that works for ya.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Dec 29, 2018 2:47:27 GMT
My friend in Japan asked me the same very question. I had no good ideas either.
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Post by SabrinaP on Dec 29, 2018 2:47:33 GMT
Shut the door and do the deed. That’s what my parents did and it didn’t scar me at all!!
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Post by 16joy on Dec 29, 2018 2:48:47 GMT
You could run around naked like Trollie and they'd be glad you closed your door
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 29, 2018 2:53:00 GMT
We started closing the door when they started staying up later than us. It wasn't really questioned and because our door is at the top of the stairs I think they liked being able to get past it without one of us noticing/saying anything about the time. That being said, most activity in our house shifted to the morning.
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Post by stormycat on Dec 29, 2018 2:58:59 GMT
There have been recent ad campaigns here about how much safer it is in a fire to have your bedroom door closed. You should look into that.
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Post by Zee on Dec 29, 2018 3:03:30 GMT
They'll get used to the idea that the door closed equals naked parents, either for sex or getting dressed, so no big deal.
In my house I can say the cats were being too obnoxiousv so I had to shut them out, so you might be able to use that, lol!
But my kids just didn't bring it up. I'm sure they'd rather not have that discussion.
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Post by mom on Dec 29, 2018 3:06:06 GMT
Just shut the door and turn up the tv or music. They wont ask (they dont want to really know!). If they ask what you were doing, ask them what they think you were doing, grin and go about your business.
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Post by Merge on Dec 29, 2018 3:09:18 GMT
We shut the door and try not to make too much noise. Younger DD is oblivious. Older DD has made the occasional pointed comment about how you can "hear everything in this tiny house." LOL I told her to go to her room and put in her earphones, and mind her own business.
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Post by ntsf on Dec 29, 2018 3:20:35 GMT
I was going to say.. a new fire plan and campaign.. designate a outside meeting place, close all doors at night, renew the fire extinquishers.. etc. and then the doors will be closed. and invest in something to make music. and put it on every night.
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Post by scrappinmama on Dec 29, 2018 3:23:20 GMT
Shut the door and do the deed. That’s what my parents did and it didn’t scar me at all!! Yup. It's part of a healthy relationship. I'm not saying be loud and obnoxious about it. But also don't make it seem like it's something to be ashamed of. Just close the door (and lock it).
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Dec 29, 2018 3:24:52 GMT
I am paranoid about this as well. I could frequently hear my mom and her then long-term boyfriend having (very loud) sex and I hated it. It did scar me. At least in regards to not wanting the kids to hear us having sex.
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Post by suzastampin on Dec 29, 2018 3:31:02 GMT
Recently I heard it’s best to shut all bedroom doors in case of fire. A fire doesn’t spread as quickly when the doors are closed. So, have everybody start shutting them.
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Post by ~summer~ on Dec 29, 2018 3:39:41 GMT
Shut the door.
If someone knocks yell “I’m changing!!!”
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 29, 2018 4:47:21 GMT
I am paranoid about this as well. I could frequently hear my mom and her then long-term boyfriend having (very loud) sex and I hated it. It did scar me. At least in regards to not wanting the kids to hear us having sex. ((((HUGS)))). That's big stuff and I want to acknowledge your pain.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2018 4:54:43 GMT
We shut the door and try not to make too much noise. Younger DD is oblivious. Older DD has made the occasional pointed comment about how you can "hear everything in this tiny house." LOL I told her to go to her room and put in her earphones, and mind her own business. Very similar situation with my teens. They'd tell me that they "heard" me last night. I told them to cover their ears.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2018 4:55:40 GMT
This is why I have a walk-in closet/changing area. 😜
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Post by StephDRebel on Dec 29, 2018 6:18:30 GMT
I have a hotel 'do not disturb ' hanger. I close the door and put it up and turn on a spotify playlist called sexy time music.
Sometimes it's for mattress dancing, sometimes it's for a nap. Usually for a nap.
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Post by leftturnonly on Dec 29, 2018 6:33:55 GMT
I just saw a photo of the difference between a bedroom with a door shut and a bedroom with a door open in the case of a fire.
The difference? 100 degrees versus 900 degrees.
You could always go the safety first route and just begin shutting your door all the time.
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Post by leftturnonly on Dec 29, 2018 6:35:21 GMT
You could run around naked like Trollie and they'd be glad you closed your door
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Post by NicL on Dec 29, 2018 6:58:22 GMT
Daytime. If work schedules don't permit send them on errands on the weekend. Get Ice cream, milk, bread, visit Grandma whatever you can manage to get them out of the house! I feel your pain. It's summer here so they're both off school and DH says we're going to have to resort to mornings (not my preference but you gotta do what you gotta do). Seeing as our teenagers are comatose til noon they shouldn't hear us .
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Post by Gennifer on Dec 29, 2018 7:12:52 GMT
We have always closed bedroom doors for safety, but I have no issues with my kids knowing we have sex. We are adults, and I’m glad that we are modeling a healthy, happy relationship... isn’t our job as parents to raise healthy, happy adults?
I have gotten the occasional text from my daughter asking me to quiet down, but I just laugh, turn it on silent, and carry on.
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Post by bwife on Dec 29, 2018 7:17:50 GMT
we have 3 teens/adults in our house. Luckily their bedrooms are up stairs and ours is on the main floor. but one of the bedrooms is above us. So needless to say, when DS is home from college, not much happens in our room. lol.
DH thinks they can hear more than we think they can upstairs, I am not so sure. I mean they never hear me shouting their name from the living room when I need them to do something, So I assume that from our bedroom ( which is further away than the living room) that they couldnt hear anything. lol.
All joking aside, we sometimes give them $ to go out to eat together so that DH and I can be alone for awhile. Works like a charm. they get to eat out and spend some time together and DH and I get an hr or 2 at home.
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Post by gar on Dec 29, 2018 7:38:44 GMT
We got into the bad habit of all sleeping with doors open so if the door is shut...it's way too obvious. And? They surely don't want to see or hear and they won't want to ask or talk about it so the only issue with that is in your mind It won't kill them when it dawns on them what you're doing
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Post by phoenixcov on Dec 29, 2018 13:35:03 GMT
My Dad used to give me some money to go to the flicks (Cinema) and drive me to my friends house without me asking . Also Sundays after dinner Mum would go for a lie down and several minutes later Dad would take her a cup of tea. Always took a long time to drink that tea. I can remember taking the dog for a long walk most Sundays.
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Post by Linda on Dec 29, 2018 13:40:55 GMT
if you have an en suite - try the shower...
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