Fluff Poll: Children - do you have the right number?

I had always thought I would have 3 or 4 kids, but I only have 2. There were some complications with the birth of my second which made it risky to have more.
As for spacing, mine are 19 months apart. It is closer than we had planned, but everything worked out alright in the end.

I voted for would have liked more and would have liked them closer together in age. We have 2, both boys, 9 years apart in age. I figure everyone assumes they either have different fathers (they don't) or at least one was an 'oops' or 'surprise' (both where planned). I say I never wanted to have an only child.....so I have 2 only children because they're so far apart. Turns out, for me, getting pregnant in my 20s was far easier than in my 30s We'd planned for them to be about 5 years apart, that seemed ideal for us.....best laid plans and all We lost one who would've been 10 now and while we'll never know for sure (heartbeat at 8 weeks was gone by 12 weeks, estimated to have stopped around 9 weeks) but we believed it was a girl, and that's the change that I'd make. Not so much the age gap or the number, but the fact that I never had a baby girl, that still stings a bit. Of course if we'd have had her we likely wouldn't have had our youngest and I love him so everything worked out. If we'd had them closer together perhaps we would have gone for the third but after so many issues getting/staying pregnant the last time it wasn't even a consideration.

My boys are two years and one week apart. I think that is perfect.

We have 4. We were originally only going to have 3. But right around the time the 3rd one turned two, I started to think that someone was missing from our family. I could not shake that feeling. Sometimes I would unconsciously grab 6 plates and try and set a place at the table for someone who didn’t exist. It started happening really frequently. Then came the extremely shocking pregnancy. 4 days later, after going through the shock and fear and acceptance and joy, I miscarried. 😢. While that pregnancy was totally unexpected and unplanned, that baby was very much wanted and loved.

2 months later, I still felt like somebody was missing and was still so sad that we were not ever going to have another baby. Hubs and I finally sat down and had a big talk on whether or not we should try and have a 4th. We went for it, and I got pregnant right away (which was shocking). That bitty girl is pretty much awesome. She is delightful and has brought so much joy to our whole family. The other 3 kids absolutely adore her. It’s great.

I wish wish wish that my 1st and 2nd had more space between them. They are Irish twins, born 11 months apart. Turns out that when 5 different doctors tell you that you are infertile and will absolutely need Clomid again for subsequent pregnancies, you should still go on birth control after you have a baby! 😂. All 5 of those doctors were WRONG! My doctor was shocked when I showed up in her office 4 months to the day after she delivered my first 8 weeks pregnant with #2.

I don’t remember a whole lot about #2s babyhood. I was so stressed and sleep deprived from having 2 babies at once and a husband who worked all the time. So I wish I had had more time between them, so that I could remember more of their individual baby hoods.

I have three and I always wanted 4. But I was extremely sick for the entire pregnancy for each. It was all I could do to have the third being so sick while caring for two younger ones. I knew I couldn’t do a 4th.

I had 3 boys in 3.5 years and I think it was just perfect.

I love having 3, it’s perfect for me, and I liked how they were spaced until this year. My 9 year old is devastated his brother is leaving for college next year and I’m sad they’ll be apart.

Only child, who arrived nearly 11 years after we married. Perfect amount for our family and the life we've had! As one of 3, I remember in high school asking my mom how many kids she had wanted. She said 3 and I said she'd done it the easy way as my younger sisters are twins. She told me to bite my tongue, there was nothing easy about it!

I have one daughter which is just right for our family and our circumstances.

Now if I didn't have to work (and I DO as I provide the health insurance through my job and my dh is self employed) and we had more money, I might have liked another.  But I'm not one who is good at the whole working and being a mom.  I can't imagine doing it with two kids.  Also dd is a high needs kid.  Maybe, possibly we could have handled two if she had been an easy baby/kid.  But that's a big maybe.

So as things are, one is good for us.  I do not regret not having another.  

I worry about that as well, when ods goes off after he graduates next year.  He hasn't decided yet where he's going or what he's doing so there's a decent chance he won't go far.....which of course worries me that he'll be home too much (going to all of yds' activities/games) and not spreading his wings.  There's always something to worry about, I guess.

I always thought I wouldn’t have any, DH always said he wanted two. We compromised and had one which IMO is just perfect for us. I’ve seen it happen so often when a couple has an easy kid like ours they think having another will be a cakewalk. Then that second kid turns out to be a demon, so by stopping at one we feel like we dodged a bullet, LOL.

My friend just had her first at 43.  Just saying!

My biggest regret in life is that I didn't have more kids. Like pierkiss, I'd look around the dinner table and feel like someone was missing.  I've lost babies, so maybe that's it.  But I just never felt like our family was complete.

It was partly a conscious decision, party due to money, and partly science. It took a lot for me to get pregnant and even more to stay pregnant. Monetarily, physically, and emotionally.  We decided not to do any more fertility treatments, but also welcomed any more additions.  I've had miscarriages and DD was most likely a twin lost in utero (doctors think that because of my bloodwork).  We also lost another.  

My kids are adults now, but I still feel like we should have had more kids.  I was just made to be a mother.  But I'm 50 now and won't entertain the idea of any more.  It is what it is.

I had the worst pregnancy during my first one. I was hospitalized 4 months out of the 9. Delivery was horrible. I wanted to get my tubes tied. Begged & pleaded but they said I was too young.

Ended up pregnant with 2nd 3 years later. Had a horrible pregnancy. Ended up with planned c section & tying my tubes at the same time. Even though I only truly wanted to be pregnant once I think 2 were perfect. I have a boy & girl 3 years apart almost to the day. I never really dreamed on being a mom.