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Post by librarylady on May 13, 2019 0:02:38 GMT
DEAR MISS MANNERS:
I work in a fire station amongst people who, 99 percent of the time, could care less about any form of etiquette. Due to the public’s appreciation of our services and lots of birthdays and social events, the station is a dumping ground for cake. We get at least two a week. I know that for some reason, everyone else on the planet cuts cake working from the outside toward the inside or center. Where is the rule that states, “Thou shalt begin to consume cake from the outside edge and progressively whittle closer to the interior”? Every time that we receive a new cake, I always try to be the first person to take a sample. I never cut out squares or pie shapes; I always carve out an oblong shape and always in the MIDDLE of the cake, thus leaving the outer perimeter intact. Whenever I do this, my co-workers always seem perturbed and act as if the cake is ruined. Without fail, these whining hypocrites will wind up completely consuming the cake. What’s wrong with them, or what am I missing here?! Mind you, I’m not talking about a thousand-dollar multi-tiered wedding cake. To the contrary, I’m talking about a $15 cheapo from the local grocery store, or something homemade from a person who dropped it off and will not be sharing it with us. With all of that said, what the hell difference does it make where the chunk of cake came from? I can’t think of any other food dish where an item is expected to be cut out in a certain way. What makes cake so special? I’m retiring in a year and would love to set this conflict to rest before I go. GENTLE READER: How on earth do you cut a piece from the middle while keeping the rest intact? And why would you want to? Is it really worth the effort this must take -- not to mention the resulting frosting on your sleeves -- just to prove a weirdly specific and irksome point to your co-workers? Or more likely, to play a hoax on Miss Manners? Your co-workers are likely challenging your technique because it is leaving them with a thoroughly touched and mangled cake in your wake. In hopes of your properly enjoying your retirement, however, Miss Manners suggests that you cut a large piece of cake for yourself, big enough for you to create whatever fun shapes you want in it afterwards. Then, please, just leave the rest of it alone.
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I almost have no words for the writer of the letter.
Miss Manners sums it up with HOW? and WHY?
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Post by cakediva on May 13, 2019 0:06:18 GMT
Ya as a cake lady, that would totally annoy me! Lol
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Post by Basket1lady on May 13, 2019 0:08:27 GMT
Everyone knows the corner pieces are the most desirable, with enough frosting to send the average person into sugar shock!
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Post by librarylady on May 13, 2019 0:18:23 GMT
If the letter writer had said, "I don't want much frosting so I do this" I might have cut her some slack....but to do it just because leaves me dumbfounded.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 13, 2019 0:25:00 GMT
Yah if I saw that I would think it was weird AF. You would probably mangle the edges of the other pieces while trying to scoop out the piece from the center of the cake. Also, if it has a design of some kind, sometimes it's possible to take a corner piece and saving the design for others to see later.
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Post by peasquared on May 13, 2019 0:36:15 GMT
I was annoyed at her, "I always try to be the first person to take a sample." Even more at how she does it!
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Post by beebee on May 13, 2019 0:43:32 GMT
I think it is a joke after reading "I always try to be the first person to take a sample".
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 13, 2019 0:45:51 GMT
That would send me straight over the edge to see a decorated cake with a big hunk lopped right out of the center! If you want a middle piece AND you want the first piece, then for all that’s holy just cut and plate the rest of the cake so everyone else can just come up and grab a relatively unmangled piece. And please, PLEASE wash your hands before handling food others will eat and do NOT lick your fingers in between handling individual pieces! Or if people would object to having the rest of the cake prematurely plated because it could dry out, etc., then do it this way. Cut a slightly deeper rectangle from the side. Plate or throw away the edge piece with the extra frosting, and eat the rest. Problem solved. And now I want bakery cake with frosting.
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Post by cakediva on May 13, 2019 0:46:46 GMT
Why is everybody assuming it is a woman? The writer says they work in a fire hall so it could just as easily be a guy!
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Post by lucyg on May 13, 2019 1:02:27 GMT
Why is everybody assuming it is a woman? The writer says they work in a fire hall so it could just as easily be a guy! MORE likely a man. A very OCD man, I’d say. I bet he pushes lots of his co-workers’ buttons, not just about the cake. Unless it’s just a joke.
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Post by Deleted on May 13, 2019 1:17:09 GMT
I know a few people who cut the center out of cake. They don’t like frosting.
And yes as a baker the correct way to cut a round cake is around the edge.
You cut the heavily decorated piece of a rectangular cake first, for the honoree.
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Post by originalvanillabean on May 13, 2019 1:37:43 GMT
Oh my! I read that in the paper this morning and couldn’t believe the author was serious. Unbelievable!
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Post by nlwilkins on May 13, 2019 4:23:33 GMT
Actually, don't you cut from the outside first to have only one open edge to keep the cake from drying out? I remember when we used to put the heels from loaves of bread over the cut edges to keep the cake moist. So there is a reason for cutting the from outside or from one side.
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Post by Deleted on May 13, 2019 4:43:11 GMT
If the letter writer had said, "I don't want much frosting so I do this" I might have cut her some slack....but to do it just because leaves me dumbfounded.
I don't like a lot of frosting, but I just scrape it off. I wouldn't cut a middle piece just to try and get a piece with less frosting.
You cut the heavily decorated piece of a rectangular cake first, for the honoree. We've never done that. When my birthday kid wanted a particular piece, (s)he had to wait until the pieces around it were handed out.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on May 13, 2019 5:20:22 GMT
Cupcakes are the answer. Individual servings. Mini cupcakes are the best, since everyone only wants a tiny piece. If someone wants "bigger" they can have two or three mini's.
Community cake is not my favorite, since I don't know if the slicer washed his or her hands first. Grosses me out, if the cake slicer touches each piece during the lift/move to the plate process.
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Post by tanya2 on May 13, 2019 5:24:25 GMT
what kind of lunatic cuts from the middle of the cake?!
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Post by lurkyloo on May 13, 2019 6:34:41 GMT
Why is everybody assuming it is a woman? The writer says they work in a fire hall so it could just as easily be a guy! MORE likely a man. A very OCD man, I’d say. I bet he pushes lots of his co-workers’ buttons, not just about the cake. Unless it’s just a joke. What does being a cake asshole have to do with OCD?
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Post by mollycoddle on May 13, 2019 10:04:54 GMT
MORE likely a man. A very OCD man, I’d say. I bet he pushes lots of his co-workers’ buttons, not just about the cake. Unless it’s just a joke. What does being a cake asshole have to do with OCD? Cake asshole! 😂😂 This might be a joke; it sounds like that’s what Miss Manners suspects. Or maybe this person really is just a cake asshole. 😁
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on May 13, 2019 11:25:06 GMT
If the letter writer had said, "I don't want much frosting so I do this" I might have cut her some slack.... I don't like the frosting so I would want a middle piece... but I'll politely wait my turn until one is available.
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Post by LisaDV on May 13, 2019 11:30:08 GMT
I don't think there is a rule that you have to cut from the exterior to the interior. I think it's just annoying to do so. My DS likes to cut a diamond shape from the center of a rectangular cake just to watch my dd & me cringe with annoyance.
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Post by peace on May 13, 2019 11:34:21 GMT
DEAR MISS MANNERS:
I work in a fire station amongst people who, 99 percent of the time, could care less about any form of etiquette.
COULDN'T CARE LESS that is all
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Post by auntkelly on May 13, 2019 12:17:41 GMT
As others have said, cutting the cake from outside edges to inside edges keeps the cake from getting mangled, keeps it fresher and just seems like the logical way of doing things for most people. I also think you are probably spreading less germs by cutting the cake from the outside to the interior, because it would be pretty hard to cut an interior piece without touching the other pieces or at least breathing a lot over the center or the cake.
I think this question just illustrates why rules of etiquette matter. There is generally logic behind the rule and that is why it became a rule. Some rules become archaic and unnecessary, but a lot of the rules of etiquette are still based on common sense (such as addressing a wedding invitation so that the recipient knows exactly who is being invited to the wedding).
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Post by disneypal on May 13, 2019 13:14:22 GMT
Haha - I love Miss Manner's reply!!
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Post by hop2 on May 13, 2019 13:57:01 GMT
Geez that’s the type of crap my MIL does to cake or pie. And she mangles everything around which ever weird piece she took. She will take a square chunk out of a pie smashing the crust all around as she does it leaving some pieces void of filling. There will be a properly sliced cake on the table and my Mil will come carve a random shape out of it getting smudges & finger prints into the icing of all surrounding areas, at times collapsing an area or two. It’s bizarre and should be illegal.
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Post by hop2 on May 13, 2019 14:03:11 GMT
Cake mangling is in my HR handbook as a fireable offense 😜
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Post by MaryMary on May 13, 2019 14:11:41 GMT
Cake is gross no matter how it’s cut.
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 13, 2019 14:21:52 GMT
Cake is gross no matter how it’s cut. Blasphemy!
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on May 13, 2019 14:24:59 GMT
Life it too short to give a shit where someone cuts the cake! Eat it or not, cut it in the middle or the edges... who truly cares?!
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 13, 2019 14:28:54 GMT
LOL My kid’s birthday is coming soon and she doesn’t like it when it’s another kid’s birthday and they breathe all over the cake to blow out the candles. Yes, she’s a bit of a germaphobe. So for her birthdays we typically have cupcakes and I make her a special little cake to put the candles on that only she will eat. This year though she has requested cake pops for her party instead which is an even better option IMO. (She will still have a small regular cake on her actual birthday at home.) Most kids will only eat the frosting and a few oddballs only want the cake, so hopefully this will solve the problem of a trash can full of half eaten cupcakes.
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Post by mikewozowski on May 13, 2019 14:29:32 GMT
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