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Post by SweetieBugs on Jun 14, 2019 20:25:30 GMT
I have a nice dress that is dark navy with white dots. The dots are around nickle size and spread out about 3 to 4 inches.
The funeral will be informal. I'm wondering if this would seem "disrespectful" to you?
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Post by gsquaredmom on Jun 14, 2019 20:29:52 GMT
Ten years ago I would have said not to wear it. Now, I think it depends on who died and who is there. I’ve seen jeans at some, which I can’t bring myself to do.
I think you may be asking because your instinct says no to wearing it.
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Post by mollycoddle on Jun 14, 2019 20:31:09 GMT
I think that would be fine.
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Post by ashley on Jun 14, 2019 20:36:32 GMT
I think it depends on the style of the dress, tbh. I’ve worn bright green to a funeral before, as well as pink... not every remembrance needs to be solemn and formal.
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Post by azredhead on Jun 14, 2019 20:37:04 GMT
I think it would be fine too. is it a one piece dress? Or you could accesorize it with a solid color? I have one that's a skirt top combo, but the polka dots are tiny white and the skirt is short. The top is navy. I wouldn't think it would matter. Besides you just being there. So sorry you have to go to a funeral.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Jun 14, 2019 20:42:25 GMT
I think that would be fine, as long as it is on the darker side. Sometimes, I look at a polka dot pattern and I would say the primary color is white...if you would say the primary color is the navy, it will be fine. Though, as someone else said, depending on the family, anything may be fine.
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 14, 2019 21:25:48 GMT
Since it says informal, I would totally wear it. I just went to a funeral wearing jeans and my favorite jersey, per the family request. I waited in the car until I saw others walking into the church with their jerseys on.. I felt so weird. But it was fine. His ashes were in a bowling pin..  |
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Post by monklady123 on Jun 14, 2019 22:23:16 GMT
Well... I have worn a bright kelly green sweater to a funeral/memorial.... I've worn a dress filled with wild colored jungle animals....I've worn a Steelers jersey....So, it all depends on who died and the family and the style of the church, etc.
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Post by dewryce on Jun 14, 2019 22:31:36 GMT
Well... I have worn a bright kelly green sweater to a funeral/memorial.... I've worn a dress filled with wild colored jungle animals....I've worn a Steelers jersey.... So, it all depends on who died and the family and the style of the church, etc.This is what I was going to say. My biggest consideration is always the family and how my style of dress might make them feel. Also, and this is a silly/weird question. Are your polka dots peppy? I think some patterns, especially those with larger dots, seem cheerful. |
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Post by garcia5050 on Jun 14, 2019 22:36:05 GMT
I vote wear it. I went to a funeral where I was the only one wearing a dark color. For the next funeral, I wore something bright and again, was the only one. I think presence matters more when it comes to funerals.
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Jun 14, 2019 23:02:25 GMT
I know someone who forbid anyone to wear black at her funeral, she specifically requested bright or floral prints. She wanted a true celebration of life and that is what she got.
When my sister died we asked people to wear school clothing. All her children played sports and she was at every game, so it fit her. It was great to see so many people honoring that request. The guys that were currently wearing her sons football jerseys let them wear them for the wake. It was very cool to see them show the solidarity of a football team even when all the boys were out of school.
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Post by KikiPea on Jun 14, 2019 23:06:33 GMT
No. I have a black and white polka dot dress, and two black and white floral dresses I wear. I don’t see yours as disrespectful at all.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 14, 2019 23:16:02 GMT
I know someone who forbid anyone to wear black at her funeral, she specifically requested bright or floral prints. She wanted a true celebration of life and that is what she got. I've already told everyone that black will not be allowed at my funeral (whenever that will be). SweetieBugs your dress sounds fine for an informal funeral. Funerals here are almost always informal (except for those who are Greek / Italian / Croatian etc), and I never wear black. |
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Post by SweetieBugs on Jun 15, 2019 0:09:46 GMT
This is the dress. I don't want to look disrespectful but I'm also worried I may be over dressed (it is a small funky beach area in Oregon and family is not very fancy--don't worry, it is my family so I'm just insulting my own). It is my Dad's funeral but we have been estranged for most of 30 years due to his inability to be a father (too many addictions--women, gambling, pot, then harder and harder drugs until he lost his medical license when I was 16).
www.kohls.com/product/prd-3673570/womens-chaps-pleated-fit-flare-dress.jsp?color=Dark%20Blue%20Dot&prdPV=11
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2019 0:25:35 GMT
I think the sleeveless throws me off. If you paired that with a cardigan, it would be just fine.
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Post by gsquaredmom on Jun 15, 2019 0:28:17 GMT
I think the sleeveless throws me off. If you paired that with a cardigan, it would be just fine. What I was going to say. The dress is fine, but wear a cardigan or scarf over your shoulders for church and funeral. If lunch after, you don’t need it for that. |
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Post by tentoes on Jun 15, 2019 0:37:57 GMT
Cute dress. Sorry for your loss. Even though you have been estranged, I'm sure you have feelings. I'd wear what you feel comfortable with. I wore pants to my husband's celebration of life, and it was at our church. I wear jeans to church sometimes--mostly colored pants though. You will look lovely. ((HUGS))
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Post by grammanisi on Jun 15, 2019 0:58:45 GMT
I think it would be fine.
My sister and I were just talking about funeral attire, yesterday. Her husband is dying from cancer and has hospice. We've been discussing the arrangements including what she and I are going to wear. She seldom wears black and said she isn't going to for his funeral either and doesn't really want me to(so of course I won't). She says there has been so much sadness for all of us this year and she wants us to celebrate his life and dress in the pretty colors he loves.
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Post by SweetieBugs on Jun 15, 2019 1:24:09 GMT
Thanks everyone. I stopped working last year (really just taking a sabbatical) and have lost 33 pounds in the past 5 months so none of my nice work clothes fit anymore. If they did, I'd have several nice black slacks and blouses to choose from. Now, the only thing I fit in is smaller athletic wear. I'm still waiting on the final 5 to 7 pounds to drop before officially buying a new wardrobe. When I went shopping last week, the thrill of looking good in clothes really hit. I saw this dress and tried it on and it fit like a dream come true. Hopefully I'll have better days to wear it as well.
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Post by kelbel827 on Jun 15, 2019 1:26:36 GMT
Depends who died. I'll be seriously upset if people wear black or dark colors to mine.
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Post by hannahruth on Jun 15, 2019 7:24:32 GMT
The dress is just fine and I would wear something similar to a funeral , especially if it is a hot day.
Sorry for your loss even though you have been estranged it is still a loss of any future relationship you may have ended up having. BTDT and being your father it is still sad to no longer have him in your life.
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Post by cawoman on Jun 15, 2019 7:41:47 GMT
Since they specified casual and its on the beach, I think the dress would be nice. I’d wear it with a flip flop type shoe to dress it down a bit. It’s really cute!
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jun 15, 2019 10:53:19 GMT
Seeing the dress you linked, I think it's fine for the funeral. And I like that you feel so confident and good in it. Little things like that can help hard occasions.
I'm sorry for your loss.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 15, 2019 11:30:18 GMT
I think it's fine. And, since it is your father's funeral, where whatever you want.
At least you are not wearing golf clothes or bib overall jeans. I've seen both at funerals.
I am sorry for your loss.
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Post by ashley on Jun 15, 2019 12:04:13 GMT
Great dress!! And congratulations on your weight loss. |
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Post by auntkelly on Jun 15, 2019 17:49:24 GMT
I think your dress will be fine. I'm sorry for your loss.
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Post by leftturnonly on Jun 15, 2019 17:57:26 GMT
If you feel good in it and it looks nice on, than I don't see why it wouldn't be appropriate.
My SIL wearing a sweat suit (she was pregnant, not athletic) to my FIL's funeral was disrespectful. (For an example.)
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Post by leftturnonly on Jun 15, 2019 18:00:20 GMT
Very nice. When I went shopping last week, the thrill of looking good in clothes really hit. I saw this dress and tried it on and it fit like a dream come true. Hopefully I'll have better days to wear it as well.  |
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Post by lisae on Jun 15, 2019 23:22:17 GMT
I just wore a dress with a circle pattern - not quite polka dots, but close - to a memorial service. I wore it because of the black background. I think it is fine to wear the polka dots to a summer funeral.
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 15, 2019 23:52:43 GMT
I think funerals are evolving. They aren't always the everyone wears black and black hats kind of event from 50+ years ago. The last few I have been to have had a specific dress asked but not required. They were to wear a specific color or a specific team that the deceased requested. People were in jerseys and wearing jeans.
I just don't think there is a specific pattern that is outlawed for funerals, so go with what you think is appropriate. Traditions are definitely changing.
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