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Post by Baseballmom23 on Jun 30, 2019 0:30:58 GMT
Same shit, different day. DH is supposed to walk our hallway every night for his daily exercise. We agreed - 5 sets of 12 laps, from one end of the hall to the other end. At the end of each set, he is supposed to send me a text telling me what set he just completed because when you do something every night it can be hard to remember if you just did tonight’s 3rd set or was that last night? Send a text each time and there’s no doubt. Simple, right? HA! Does he have an apple watch or fitbit where you can track his steps/activity? |
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Post by kkrenn on Jun 30, 2019 0:31:23 GMT
I'm sorry for everyone that vented today and I hope your day drastically improves!
My vent is more of an annoyance. Our annual family picnic(reunion) was today and I didn't go for many reasons but I do miss everyone and am sad that I didn't. I've been a huge idiot today and mopped the floors downstairs along with cleaning the baseboards and doors as well as laundry. I'm now in so much pain and I'm so mad at myself. I know I can't do all that in one day but once I got started I just kept going. I am excited at how clean my floors are though!
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 30, 2019 3:34:56 GMT
Earlier I saw this and thought, “I don’t really have anything to vent about.” Well, now I do. Worked all day and went to the Y afterwards to do my couch to 5K training. All went well. Then I went to the grocery store and ordered a Lyft to get home. Looked for my keys to my apartment building and front door and of course I didn’t have them and the Y was closed by then. Nobody is due home for hours and it is raining. I also have groceries with me. This is when it really sucks that I don’t really know anybody in Pittsburgh. I’m hungry, tired, and frustrated. I was looking forward to an evening alone. I hope you got in fairly quickly |
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Post by mlana on Jun 30, 2019 4:05:29 GMT
Same shit, different day. DH is supposed to walk our hallway every night for his daily exercise. We agreed - 5 sets of 12 laps, from one end of the hall to the other end. At the end of each set, he is supposed to send me a text telling me what set he just completed because when you do something every night it can be hard to remember if you just did tonight’s 3rd set or was that last night? Send a text each time and there’s no doubt. Simple, right? HA! Does he have an apple watch or fitbit where you can track his steps/activity? He does, but he proudly showed one day that he had figured out how to cheat with them, so I can’t use them to gauge how much walking he’s done in a day or even in an evening. Marcy |
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jun 30, 2019 5:17:00 GMT
I think you dodged a bullet!!! ❤️ I feel sad and shitty. I’m sorry. |
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jun 30, 2019 5:18:57 GMT
Grrr...I loaned a new yard/patio game to our neighbors for their picnic today. (I’ve only had it about a month) It is made of wood. It is poring down rain and I can see it sitting in the grass in their backyard. I am imagining it’s going to be warped now, which will affect the pieces fitting in right. 😡😡🤬 Grrr....it’s 1 am and my wood game us STILL in their backyard on the ground. I’ll retrieve it tomorrow but damn, if I borrowed something from a neighbor I’d surely treat/care for it better!! |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jun 30, 2019 12:31:26 GMT
I feel like a bitch, but.. I met a guy. I kinda liked him. His ex wife tried to kill herself, so he’s moving back in with her. Hopefully you haven't liked him for too long. Just scratch him off the list. You are worth more than waiting for someone who has to babysit his ex. |
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Post by sweetshabbyroses on Jun 30, 2019 12:52:10 GMT
I totally understand and agree that you back is bad and you couldn't and shouldn't do the yard work, however, why do you wait until the last minute to find someone to hire to do it for us and then when you want to plan a gathering at the house they don't show up and our yard looks like a jungle. Just find someone and put them on a monthly schedule for heaven's sake.
I totally get that the grandchildren want to do their birthday at the beach with your side of the family that pays for everything but that doesn't mean we wouldn't like to see them on their birthday and yes we could plan something at our house but in the past you've not shown up at the last minute.
Yes, we are in a terrible situation, life-changing situation with one of our children, could people just cut us some slack and not expect the same
level of community participation. We are not emotionally prepared to be asked a lot of questions.
No, I don't want to keep the dang sofa you love so much so you can put it in an outdoor cooking kitchen that you've been planning on building for six years.........enough already............we can buy another sofa IF and when you build that outdoor kitchen.
Let's just dig up all the shrubs around the house and forget it..............you can't hire anyone to do yard work, not around here!!!!!!!
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Post by ashley on Jun 30, 2019 13:00:31 GMT
I feel like a bitch, but.. I met a guy. I kinda liked him. His ex wife tried to kill herself, so he’s moving back in with her. Hopefully you haven't liked him for too long. Just scratch him off the list. You are worth more than waiting for someone who has to babysit his ex. We’ve been talking since April... it took him quite a bit of convincing to get me to go out with him. But the first time I met him something just clicked.. that spark or chemistry or whatever it is. It’s the first time since my ex-boyfriend I felt that, and it was scary and very wonderful and was slowly making me reconsider my “no serious relationships” rule, because it’s a lot nicer to sit across the table from someone who lights up to see you, than not. |
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Post by Baseballmom23 on Jun 30, 2019 14:51:28 GMT
Does he have an apple watch or fitbit where you can track his steps/activity? He does, but he proudly showed one day that he had figured out how to cheat with them, so I can’t use them to gauge how much walking he’s done in a day or even in an evening. Marcy MEN!!!!!! They can be so frustrating |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 30, 2019 15:15:54 GMT
Marcy is your DH suffering from depression? With so many things going on it wouldn't shock me. And then it might be super taxing to do the reps. And he might be forgetting to send the texts. With all those health challenges he is having, I would totally not be shocked. My vent is that the very worst thing about mental illness is that when you say something people don't want to hear, they dismiss you. They use your mental illness as an excuse to not hear your viewpoint. And it doesn't matter how polite or rational you are, it's just you being too emotional. I'm so tired of this. Depression is a possibility. When he had his stroke, I requested an anti-depressant before we left the hospital. He was on one for almost 2 years before we realized it and not the stroke was causing his memory problems. He won't even consider one now. I'm sure he is forgetting the texts because he doesn't see the value in them. He wants me to just leave him alone, so he'll ignore anything I ask regarding this issue with the hope I'll give up and walk away. His response thought our 30+ year marriage is to ignore anything he doesn't like. Unfortunately he married someone who is very determined, so that has never worked. You think he'd have learned that by now, right?! You vent reminds me about the way meant treat us when we show passion regarding an argument - if we show any feelings regarding the subject, then we must be on our period, right?! No matter that our argument is well thought and completely correct - any hint of emotion and the argument is totally invalidated because we must be on the rag. How frustrating this must be for you! Marcy Wow! Marcy I can see him bristling at the idea of an anti depressant if that was his experience with one. A therapist might be able to help him come to terms with the idea that that was not normal. But that had to be traumatic for him. |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jun 30, 2019 15:19:39 GMT
I had surgery last Thursday (the 20th) and am not allowed to sleep on my side or my stomach for 6 weeks. Back only. The problem is that I am a lifelong side sleeper. And it is literally impossible for me to sleep more than 4 continuous hours on my back, if I am lucky. So, since the surgery, I can only sleep in 2-4 hour increments before I have to get up because my back is killing me. I have spent $75 on two different lumbar pillows supposed to help with this issue and I have an adjustable bed, which I have set in every possible position, but nothing touches my back pain after two-four hours except getting up and moving around or sitting. I’m exhausted. Boy, can I relate to this. I can't sleep flat on my back either. I'm not overweight, no big boobs, no reason at all that sleeping on my back should bother me... but it does. I really feel for you. I hope you can get some decent rest soon. |
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Post by psiluvu on Jun 30, 2019 15:22:26 GMT
OK why is we can get 9722 emails about a practice but now that we have won districts and need to travel to Windsor (7 hours away) for Tuesday for the provincial championships we can't get one email regarding accommodations or schedules or anything. Team manager and head coach get your shit together. We have been the favourites since day one so this trip to Windsor shouldn't be a surprise.
To everyone else with a vent hope your day gets better
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Post by christine58 on Jun 30, 2019 15:25:47 GMT
t cut us some slack and not expect the same level of community participation. We are not emotionally prepared to be asked a lot of questions. OH no...everything ok?? |
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Post by elaine on Jun 30, 2019 15:25:50 GMT
Hopefully you haven't liked him for too long. Just scratch him off the list. You are worth more than waiting for someone who has to babysit his ex. We’ve been talking since April... it took him quite a bit of convincing to get me to go out with him. But the first time I met him something just clicked.. that spark or chemistry or whatever it is. It’s the first time since my ex-boyfriend I felt that, and it was scary and very wonderful and was slowly making me reconsider my “no serious relationships” rule, because it’s a lot nicer to sit across the table from someone who lights up to see you, than not. I’m sad for you too. (((Hugs))) you deserve all of that. |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jun 30, 2019 16:15:41 GMT
Hopefully you haven't liked him for too long. Just scratch him off the list. You are worth more than waiting for someone who has to babysit his ex. We’ve been talking since April... it took him quite a bit of convincing to get me to go out with him. But the first time I met him something just clicked.. that spark or chemistry or whatever it is. It’s the first time since my ex-boyfriend I felt that, and it was scary and very wonderful and was slowly making me reconsider my “no serious relationships” rule, because it’s a lot nicer to sit across the table from someone who lights up to see you, than not. I totally, totally understand what you mean. And I'm gonna say this as a pea friend, there are so many other men who you might have a spark with. So many without overwhelming baggage. I hope wherever your heart leads you, you will find happiness. |
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Post by ashley on Jun 30, 2019 16:17:44 GMT
We’ve been talking since April... it took him quite a bit of convincing to get me to go out with him. But the first time I met him something just clicked.. that spark or chemistry or whatever it is. It’s the first time since my ex-boyfriend I felt that, and it was scary and very wonderful and was slowly making me reconsider my “no serious relationships” rule, because it’s a lot nicer to sit across the table from someone who lights up to see you, than not. I’m sad for you too. (((Hugs))) you deserve all of that. Thanks Elaine. I gotta admit, this one stings. He seems like a really decent guy... and I know he’s trying to do the right thing by taking care of his ex until she’s stable or whatever. But man... he was super hot, and funny, and picked me up like I weighed nothing, and he has a good career and is ambitious but not a dick, and polite and had table manners... and did I mention he’s incredibly hot? Ginger beard and blue eyes. And he got his beard trimmed at the barber before our first date because he wanted to make sure it was perfectly even. |
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Post by ashley on Jun 30, 2019 16:18:40 GMT
We’ve been talking since April... it took him quite a bit of convincing to get me to go out with him. But the first time I met him something just clicked.. that spark or chemistry or whatever it is. It’s the first time since my ex-boyfriend I felt that, and it was scary and very wonderful and was slowly making me reconsider my “no serious relationships” rule, because it’s a lot nicer to sit across the table from someone who lights up to see you, than not. I totally, totally understand what you mean. And I'm gonna say this as a pea friend, there are so many other men who you might have a spark with. So many without overwhelming baggage. I hope wherever your heart leads you, you will find happiness. Yeah, it’s just when they seem to come along every 18 months or so, it’s a bit hard to look forward to the hunt. |
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Post by mallie on Jun 30, 2019 18:25:59 GMT
Really just wish I could find someone to do this "small" landscaping job. I didn't think it was small.
Consists of:
-Demolishing and removing previous owner's DIY extension of patio and bench (bench is composed of cinder blocks covered with slate tile).
-Taking out 4 large bushes on the other side of the bench
-Removing all old stone in landscape areas
-Replacing all stone in the landscape areas (two sides of the house and the front, which is more elaborate in shape)
-Adding stone edgers to front landscape area
-Planting 12 small shrubs in front
-Removing old stone in landscaped area around tree in back, replacing with new stone, adding edgers
-Removing very odd flag stone path to nowhere in my back yard -- approx 3 feet across and 30 feet long
-Putting down sod in entire front yard, front easement, and back yard where patio extension and path was
This job is too small for every single landscaper I called.
So I have been slowly doing it all myself. DH finally helped me with the bushes and bench because I simply could not do it by myself.
And today... I dropped a cinderblock on my toe and broke it!
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Post by sweetshabbyroses on Jun 30, 2019 18:26:07 GMT
Hi Christine58
Thanks for asking and no, to put it bluntly, everything is not okay...............everything is very wrong,
life-changing, gut-wrenching, never be the same wrong. We have an adult child that has chosen the
wrong path and now has to face the consequences and there's nothing we can do but watch and pray.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2019 19:11:25 GMT
There are no pots or pans at brother’s House to cook with! I had to buy a couple. Stupid bitch cleaned out all that stuff and the hump buddy loaded it up and took it somewhere. Probable right to her house. Newish tramonti cookware...gone.
And I had stashed some cheese from cost-co. It is gone! 3 huge blocks.
And I put some dishes that I hand washed in the dishwasher. All the stuff in the dishwasher was clean when I left the last time. Somebody put dirty dishes in and didn’t bother to run it! And leftmore dirty dishes in the sink and empty drink containers
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Post by trixiecat on Jun 30, 2019 19:21:30 GMT
I don't know where to start. My 19 year old got his ears pierced maybe 2-3 months ago. I came home to find out his one ear is terribly swollen and infected. I am talking a small marble size. Just sent him out for saline solution. Guessing urgent care and having it lanced will happen. My daughter keeps gaining weight and being inactive. I can't get her to exercise and she chooses bad food choices outside of the house. She has a boyfriend who is a rail and an athlete. And she won't talk about college and where she would like to go or what she wants to major in potentially. Can't even have a conversation with her about this with out getting grief. She is very immature. And my husband...where to begin. Early 60's and type 1 diabetic with perfect control. I think he needs a hearing aid but he says no way. His diabetes is under such good control he has too many lows, including a seizure a week ago where he remembers nothing (paramedics, etc.). I think he has fried his brain cells. Literally. And of course I am perfect - ha! I am convinced the stress is going to take 10 years off of my life because I am a very controlling stressful person by nature.
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Post by JoP on Jun 30, 2019 20:20:11 GMT
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 30, 2019 21:48:21 GMT
I forgot my VENT. Can be summed up in 5 words: Catastrophic. Feminine. Hygiene. Product. Failure. BTDT. It's the worst. You have my full sympathy. |
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Post by basketdiva on Jun 30, 2019 22:03:09 GMT
I would try to formalise the help, put a sign on your desk, while the sign is up you can't be disturbed. You will make yourself available at half ten and midday and two o clock for ten mins, in the meantime they have to work it out as best they can. They are not trying to solve their own problems because you are the easy option at no cost to themselves. As for the personal problems, lunchtime only and only if you are interested in hearing about their husbands. Seriously, can't think of anything worse, I keep work and home very separate. Believe me, I have tried all kinds of things - I keep my door shut and it doesn't matter, they knock and enter and say "I just have a quick question" - well questions are ALWAYS quick, it is the solution that takes time. They will say "I know you are busy, but...." As far as them unloading their personal things - I manage 30 people and when you are a manager, you are often a counselor and too - sometimes they need to talk to me because their personal issues are effecting their work or their schedules. When they say “I know you are busy, but” you need to say yes I am and I will be available in 30 minutes,etc. You are the manager and need to set the rules. If necessary have IT give a class on simple computer issues. If someone is asking the same questions over and over, have them keep a book of notes to keep track of procedures. |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jun 30, 2019 22:45:51 GMT
Hi Christine58 Thanks for asking and no, to put it bluntly, everything is not okay...............everything is very wrong, life-changing, gut-wrenching, never be the same wrong. We have an adult child that has chosen the wrong path and now has to face the consequences and there's nothing we can do but watch and pray. I'm sorry, It sounds very serious. |
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Post by sweetshabbyroses on Jun 30, 2019 23:29:54 GMT
Thanks PascoePea!!!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2019 23:41:34 GMT
I can not tag everybody
BUT GIANT HUGS to EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU.
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Post by Baseballmom23 on Jul 1, 2019 0:25:27 GMT
Hi Christine58 Thanks for asking and no, to put it bluntly, everything is not okay...............everything is very wrong, life-changing, gut-wrenching, never be the same wrong. We have an adult child that has chosen the wrong path and now has to face the consequences and there's nothing we can do but watch and pray. (((hugs))) I'm sorry. |
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