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Post by mom on Sept 3, 2019 0:57:07 GMT
Tell me what you think.
5 girlfriends are supposed to have a massive garage sale this coming weekend. The garage sale will be in a fairly busy area but not visible from a busy street. You have to drive through a neighborhood to get there.
Girlfriend who volunteered her house for this has now decided that she does not want any advertising other than two signs. Nothing posted on social media, period. (she says this is similar to tagging your kids school when post their back to school photos...she says its a safety thing).
I am slightly irritated that she is now deciding this. I have rounded up lots of furniture, a fridge, vintage lockers - that sort of thing - that would absolutely sell. IF people knew to go look for them.
DH says to tell them to f*ck off and either just donate the stuff or have a sale (of just my stuff) at my house and advertise away.
I am irritated about it. I feel like this should have been said when we were all agreeing to participate in the sale.
So do I just participate to keep the peace? Or take DH's advice and say screw it?
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Post by christine58 on Sept 3, 2019 0:58:12 GMT
DH says to tell them to f*ck off and either just donate the stuff or have a sale (of just my stuff) at my house and advertise away. This.... |
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Post by chaosisapony on Sept 3, 2019 0:58:34 GMT
I would be irritated as well. That's a lot of big and bulky items to haul to potentially haul back home with you. I would politely decline to participate and sell or donate the items on your own.
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Post by myshelly on Sept 3, 2019 1:00:40 GMT
I wouldn’t participate.
There’s no point if it’s not advertised.
I’d either have my own sale or donate the stuff.
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Post by johnnysmom on Sept 3, 2019 1:06:29 GMT
It depends. What was your expectation of the day....to enjoy the day with your girlfriends or to make some money? If you were just looking forward to spending time with friends then pack up your more transportable items and go ahead as planned, sell the big stuff later via your own sale, Craigslist, or donate. If you intended to make some good money then skip it and have your own sale.
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Post by alexa11 on Sept 3, 2019 1:16:12 GMT
First of all, why did she volunteer to host it if she wasn't going to advertise? I wouldn't chance people just driving by. Could you post your big ticket items in gargage sale groups starting tonight or tomorrow and have interested people pm you for details? You could get an idea if it's worth hauling them over there. Or would that be breaking her "I don't want anyone to know where I live" rules?
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Sept 3, 2019 1:16:57 GMT
Whatever you do, don't take it upon yourself to advertise anyway. That could be friendship-ending.
I would talk to my other girlfriends and ask if anyone had a plan B location?
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Post by Basket1lady on Sept 3, 2019 1:18:43 GMT
I would be very irritated. But I wouldn’t have wanted my address out there in the first place. So maybe it just occurred to her that she’s putting her home out to the public. People are weird and it could attract some loonies.
For big items, you would get more money for them if you posted the items on Facebook Marketplace, Craigslist, or something similar. I’d probably put the larger items up on a website on Thursday and then you can individually direct people where to pick up the furniture. We are in the middle of a move and I made over $1,500 selling stuff on FB Marketplace. And most of it was gone within a few hours of posting it.
And then I’d clarify expectations for any future sales.
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Sept 3, 2019 1:19:01 GMT
Is it too late to switch locations?
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Sept 3, 2019 1:19:42 GMT
Wrong to change the rules after the signup!! Set you own when you are able to at least put up signs!
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Post by myshelly on Sept 3, 2019 1:21:21 GMT
I’m kind of laughing at this.
In my city you have to have a permit for a garage sale and when you get that permit your address goes on the city’s website page and social media pages.
You don’t have a choice 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by mom on Sept 3, 2019 1:25:29 GMT
Is it too late to switch locations? Really, her location is best. The rest of us either live on dead end streets or in the country. |
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Post by mom on Sept 3, 2019 1:27:23 GMT
Whatever you do, don't take it upon yourself to advertise anyway. That could be friendship-ending.
I would talk to my other girlfriends and ask if anyone had a plan B location? Oh I won't. But thank goodness I said something before I made an ad. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Sept 3, 2019 1:27:34 GMT
DH says to tell them to f*ck off and either just donate the stuff or have a sale (of just my stuff) at my house and advertise away. This....  Having a garage sale is ALL about selling and advertising.. it doesn't matter if it is FB, Craigslist or flyers around nearby.. that's how people find out. Doesn't make ANY sense not to advertise. |
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Post by mom on Sept 3, 2019 1:28:46 GMT
First of all, why did she volunteer to host it if she wasn't going to advertise? I wouldn't chance people just driving by. Could you post your big ticket items in gargage sale groups starting tonight or tomorrow and have interested people pm you for details? You could get an idea if it's worth hauling them over there. Or would that be breaking her "I don't want anyone to know where I live" rules? It would be breaking her rule.  |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2019 1:29:15 GMT
I agree with your DH. I would have my own sale and advertise it as much as I wanted to. I would politely decline to be included due to rules being changing. Sometimes when I tell hubby things about "women" he said guys would just say ….. He is usually right, but I feel like women have a different set of rules.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Sept 3, 2019 1:32:31 GMT
OK. I'm not following the "rule". People would see her at the rummage sale, and know she lived there? and people she DOES know would know she lives there. People that don't know she lives there....would...what?
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Post by mom on Sept 3, 2019 1:41:37 GMT
OK. I'm not following the "rule". People would see her at the rummage sale, and know she lived there? and people she DOES know would know she lives there. People that don't know she lives there....would...what? Yeah, I don't get it either. I was never going to put her name (or anyone's name). Just call it 'Girlfriends Garage Sale'. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2019 1:53:00 GMT
I hosted a very very large Garage Sale. I had stuff all over my driveway, yard, sidewalk and in the neighbors' yards. We had to set up days in advance. For that reason I didn't want to put my address in the ads and have people showing up early.
I put the date and time and then something like "On sale day, from the intersection of Main and Elm, follow the pink signs."
I had no lack of traffic at all.
Would your friend agree to that?
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Post by mrssmith on Sept 3, 2019 2:02:28 GMT
Post your big things on a sale site. Take small stuff over to her place and go with the minimal signage and hang with your friends.
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Post by mom on Sept 3, 2019 2:12:51 GMT
I hosted a very very large Garage Sale. I had stuff all over my driveway, yard, sidewalk and in the neighbors' yards. We had to set up days in advance. For that reason I didn't want to put my address in the ads and have people showing up early. I put the date and time and then something like "On sale day, from the intersection of Main and Elm, follow the pink signs." I had no lack of traffic at all. Would your friend agree to that? I just messaged her - she said no. |
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Post by originalvanillabean on Sept 3, 2019 2:23:36 GMT
Well in that case. I would back out.
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Post by peasapie on Sept 3, 2019 2:25:10 GMT
I would have my own sale and advertise it. Having a garage sale without advertising is like winking at a guy in the dark.
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Post by Basket1lady on Sept 3, 2019 2:35:14 GMT
I hosted a very very large Garage Sale. I had stuff all over my driveway, yard, sidewalk and in the neighbors' yards. We had to set up days in advance. For that reason I didn't want to put my address in the ads and have people showing up early. I put the date and time and then something like "On sale day, from the intersection of Main and Elm, follow the pink signs." I had no lack of traffic at all. Would your friend agree to that? I just messaged her - she said no. Ok, that’s nuts. I can see not putting the address on online sites. But no signs either? What’s the point? She just wants to sell to the neighbors. |
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Post by mom2samlibby on Sept 3, 2019 2:35:57 GMT
Oh no, there is no way I would haul all my stuff over if she won't allow any advertising. I'd have my own sale. That is ridiculous. Garage sales are a ton of work. There is no way I'd participate now.
How will anyone find you? What is the point of doing this sale with no advertising? I don't understand at all.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Sept 3, 2019 2:42:24 GMT
If she doesn’t want people to show up early in the ads you put no early sales.
Either way she sounds like a non negotiator. I would suddenly have something else come up on that date. If you tell her any else she might get POd.
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Post by mom on Sept 3, 2019 2:52:06 GMT
If she doesn’t want people to show up early in the ads you put no early sales. Either way she sounds like a non negotiator. I would suddenly have something else come up on that date. If you tell her any else she might get POd. DH definitely thinks she is going to be PO'd if I don't show. And to make things more uncomfortable, we are all going on a birthday trip for me in Oct together. So I kinda feel like I have to play along and suck it up. |
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Post by mom on Sept 3, 2019 2:52:35 GMT
I just messaged her - she said no. Ok, that’s nuts. I can see not putting the address on online sites. But no signs either? What’s the point? She just wants to sell to the neighbors. She says 'the real garage sales' will find us. WTF. |
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Post by Basket1lady on Sept 3, 2019 2:53:39 GMT
Ok, that’s nuts. I can see not putting the address on online sites. But no signs either? What’s the point? She just wants to sell to the neighbors. She says 'the real garage sales' will find us. WTF. ? They will just find you with their spidey senses??? |
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Post by AmandaA on Sept 3, 2019 2:56:39 GMT
What are the other 3 friends thinking at this point?
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Having a garage sale is ALL about selling and advertising.. it doesn't matter if it is FB, Craigslist or flyers around nearby.. that's how people find out. Doesn't make ANY sense not to advertise.
