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Post by luvnlifelady on Sept 24, 2019 1:57:45 GMT
You sure do find yourself in an awful lot of drama. Your life must be exhausting. It is. There was I think something on Facebook the other day that said, “what do you want for the last four months of this year?” My answer would be “calm and peace.” I am just trying to find that but it seems like finding a needle in a haystack at this point. My divorce is almost final thank God after a three-year battle and I just want to work and then progress towards my goal of running a 5K on my 55th birthday next year. That’s it. Shouldn’t be so complicated.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Sept 24, 2019 2:00:06 GMT
Our lease expires in December but I’m not even on it. However, we could probably get out of it earlier since it’s a relocation for him. HIS lease expires in December. HE could probably get out of it earlier since it's a relocation for him. Although I"d be surprised if that was the case. The only place I've lived that allowed a lease to be broken for relocation was for military people since they aren't in control of the job location. Normal people can job hunt after their lease expires. He didn't have to move when he did. Stop looking for a man to make you feel safe. I've lived alone for 14 years now and haven't felt unsafe. That may be a valid point but you also haven’t had death threats against you I would imagine. With someone who knows where you live. He actually did have to take this position now. They offered it to him because they needed him in the Cincinnati location quickly. They are probably going to make him a district manager with multiple locations. Prior to him getting there, they were flying people in from Florida which meant hotels, airfare, rental cars and food allowances. They were spending a fortune and the managers didn’t care because they knew they were only temporary.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Sept 24, 2019 2:08:09 GMT
I do have a guy friend here who has offered to possibly let me come in and rent a room from him. He would prorate my rent based on income. Of course after hearing that, my significant other freaked out. He has met him so they know about each other. I am on good terms with his mom and I’m sure she has extra space but has not offered me a place to go. He says he’s going to talk to her and his daughter but I’m not very hopeful on those fronts. Seems like there is some history with family members so not sure that’s an option. Our lease expires in December but I’m not even on it. However, we could probably get out of it earlier since it’s a relocation for him. I would concentrate on finding a shared housing situation that isn't dependent on your SO or any of his family members. Being on good terms with his mom and her having space doesn't mean she has any interest in having a tenant. Ditto for his daughter. You are someone who has been in their life for a very short time and choose not to move with SO - how awkward would things be if you break up? December is only a couple months away. I can't imagine your SO renewing a lease and making that financial commitment while living in a different city. I agree with everything nlwilkins wrote - you don't need a male roommate to be safe. I suspect this woman and her friends have moved on. I agree with that to some degree. I just figured if someone knew where I lived and work that getting out of here quickly was probably a good idea but I haven’t been able to make that happen just yet. I then figured having a dog around wouldn’t be such a bad idea. Still considering my options.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Sept 24, 2019 2:09:30 GMT
Our lease expires in December but I’m not even on it. However, we could probably get out of it earlier since it’s a relocation for him. There, I fixed it for you. Its HIS lease. You need to be thinking about what you are going to be doing in the future. If you're not on the lease, they don't have to legally let you live there without him. That’s true. He did get me a form on his last trip home for me to fill out to get on the lease but I don’t think I’m going to exercise that option. I don’t really want the financial responsibility of it in case for some reason he is unable or unwilling to pay his agreed upon share.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Sept 24, 2019 2:13:24 GMT
I had pretty much planned to do that and just stay here by myself with the SO a distant priority until this dumbass woman decided to get nasty. A woman alone is definitely more of a target than one with a man around. Hate to say it like that but that’s just the way it is. Wait a second - you're saying you intend to make the SO a distant priority but then you say his lease is up in Nov. Whats your plan for after Nov? I get your credit is tanked but what's your plan going forward? And being with a man does not make you less of a target. I mean this in the nicest way possible - but your SO prefers you to be by yourself vs live with a guy friend. If you think for one second he's going to be looking out for your best interest or safety, then you seriously need to set your bar higher. YOU be in control on your safety. Yes, something bad could happen, but if it does, be prepared. Learn how to protect yourself. Women live alone every day and are perfectly capable of protecting themselves. You don't have to live as a victim or in fear. You can do this. Yes I totally get that. I think it was Jen or somebody that pointed that out. He was more worried about the gender of a roommate rather than my personal safety. I am definitely putting things in place to possibly get out of the situation entirely but I’m not exactly sure what that plan is yet. I need to iron out some details.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Sept 24, 2019 2:17:14 GMT
I'm not sure what you're getting out of this relationship? You moved to PA in order to be w/this guy. Now he's left you for Ohio, but is acting jealous. Personally, I wouldn't take another step until you figure out what you really want going fwd. If you want to be w/him then you'll have to move to Ohio. If you want to be single then you can decide what and where and how. I wouldn't be OK w/my boyfriend being more concerned about jealousy than my safety. You lived years trapped inside a marriage w/a man who was always one step out the door. You deserve better than that. Don't chase him down. Let him earn the chance to be w/you. I agree with this. I am taking steps to probably get out of the situation entirely. Need to iron out a few details but just looking for some freedom at this point. I don’t need someone smothering me and asking me to uproot yet again. I feel like I just got here and I am finally making some connections and have a job and have personal goals. I want some me time finally.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Sept 24, 2019 2:19:21 GMT
I had pretty much planned to do that and just stay here by myself with the SO a distant priority until this dumbass woman decided to get nasty. A woman alone is definitely more of a target than one with a man around. Hate to say it like that but that’s just the way it is. I live alone..have for many years and I disagree with being a target. I think there are things you can do to feel safer if need be. I am thinking about getting a gun although I’ve never been near one (would take safety course). Can’t have a dog so that’s out. Unless I still exercise the option to move in with my friend who has one.
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Post by flute4peace on Sept 24, 2019 4:45:03 GMT
HIS lease expires in December. HE could probably get out of it earlier since it's a relocation for him. Although I"d be surprised if that was the case. The only place I've lived that allowed a lease to be broken for relocation was for military people since they aren't in control of the job location. Normal people can job hunt after their lease expires. He didn't have to move when he did. Stop looking for a man to make you feel safe. I've lived alone for 14 years now and haven't felt unsafe. That may be a valid point but you also haven’t had death threats against you I would imagine. With someone who knows where you live. He actually did have to take this position now. They offered it to him because they needed him in the Cincinnati location quickly. They are probably going to make him a district manager with multiple locations. Prior to him getting there, they were flying people in from Florida which meant hotels, airfare, rental cars and food allowances. They were spending a fortune and the managers didn’t care because they knew they were only temporary. With all due respect, you don’t know what Volt has or hasn’t experienced. She is wise. Listen to her.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Sept 24, 2019 4:58:12 GMT
That may be a valid point but you also haven’t had death threats against you I would imagine. With someone who knows where you live. He actually did have to take this position now. They offered it to him because they needed him in the Cincinnati location quickly. They are probably going to make him a district manager with multiple locations. Prior to him getting there, they were flying people in from Florida which meant hotels, airfare, rental cars and food allowances. They were spending a fortune and the managers didn’t care because they knew they were only temporary. With all due respect, you don’t know what Volt has or hasn’t experienced. She is wise. Listen to her. Oh I get it but with all due respect, I would think it would be statistically slim that anybody else has had that sort of thing happen. Not only does she know where I live but she also knows where I work. That’s kind of a double whammy. Plus I never said it was an absolute that she hadn’t but I can pretty much guess that it hasn’t happened. I don’t know anyone even in real life that have had that kind of thing happen.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Sept 24, 2019 5:00:56 GMT
Oh yeah I forgot to mention that he has actually extended the lease (that he wanted me to get on as they would not tun a credit check) until March. We didn’t really discuss it before he did it but I guess since it is his lease as some have pointed out that it’s not really my issue to worry about.
He originally said he would pay for the Internet but then the outgo would still be higher for me. We then decided to split it more equitably but my thinking is it should be based on income as he earns considerably more. We’ll see how we work this out but like I said, I’m thinking of an entirely different exit plan at this point.
I still care for him as a friend but there are reasons that I don’t really necessarily want to put all my eggs in his basket as his basket has quite a number of holes.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 24, 2019 10:42:57 GMT
You sure do find yourself in an awful lot of drama. Your life must be exhausting. It is. There was I think something on Facebook the other day that said, “what do you want for the last four months of this year?” My answer would be “calm and peace.” I am just trying to find that but it seems like finding a needle in a haystack at this point. My divorce is almost final thank God after a three-year battle and I just want to work and then progress towards my goal of running a 5K on my 55th birthday next year. That’s it. Shouldn’t be so complicated. Which is it? You posted a month ago it was finalized. Now it is not?
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Post by johnnysmom on Sept 24, 2019 12:00:07 GMT
He originally said he would pay for the Internet but then the outgo would still be higher for me. We then decided to split it more equitably but my thinking is it should be based on income as he earns considerably more. So, he should pay for internet he's not using simply because he makes more money??? Here's what I think you should do.....get a second job, get a third job, do odd jobs in whatever spare time you have left. Find the tiniest crackerjack studio apartment you can and live there....by yourself...for a year. Surely you're not the first person to have lousy credit after a divorce, find somewhere that will allow you to pay a larger deposit or something to make up for that. There's got to be a way, find it.
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Post by jovifan on Sept 24, 2019 14:52:36 GMT
Oh yeah I forgot to mention that he has actually extended the lease (that he wanted me to get on as they would not tun a credit check) until March. We didn’t really discuss it before he did it but I guess since it is his lease as some have pointed out that it’s not really my issue to worry about. He originally said he would pay for the Internet but then the outgo would still be higher for me. We then decided to split it more equitably but my thinking is it should be based on income as he earns considerably more. We’ll see how we work this out but like I said, I’m thinking of an entirely different exit plan at this point. I still care for him as a friend but there are reasons that I don’t really necessarily want to put all my eggs in his basket as his basket has quite a number of holes. So he wanted you to move to Cincinnati, yet extended the lease in Pitts without even talking to you about it? Previously you said you told him to take the job, he didn’t want to take it but you talked him into it and yet now you’re saying he HAD to take it....? And the divorce was final, you previously stated and now it’s not....? There’s so many holes in your own stories
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Post by mom on Sept 24, 2019 17:30:08 GMT
Oh yeah I forgot to mention that he has actually extended the lease (that he wanted me to get on as they would not tun a credit check) until March. We didn’t really discuss it before he did it but I guess since it is his lease as some have pointed out that it’s not really my issue to worry about. He originally said he would pay for the Internet but then the outgo would still be higher for me. We then decided to split it more equitably but my thinking is it should be based on income as he earns considerably more. We’ll see how we work this out but like I said, I’m thinking of an entirely different exit plan at this point. I still care for him as a friend but there are reasons that I don’t really necessarily want to put all my eggs in his basket as his basket has quite a number of holes. Are you serious? You think because he gets paid more he should pay more expenses (that you are using)? Wow. Its not his fault he makes more than you do. Why should he be punished financially for your life choices? I agree with the others. You need to find some tiny studio apartment and live by yourself for at least a year. Get your finances in order. And learn to be by yourself. Edited to add: when I left my husband, my boys and I lived in a hellhole house for almost at year while I got my finances in order. I hated it at first. God did I hate it. We lived in what was basically a single car garage that had been converted to an 'apartment'. One tiny bathroom with only a shower. The kitchen was a 'one butt' kitchen and only one person could be in there at a time. My boys shared a room and I slept on the couch. But I grew so much as a person in that time. Looking back, I would not trade that time for anything because its when I learned to stand on my own two feet and became self sufficient.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Sept 24, 2019 17:43:45 GMT
My divorce is almost final thank God after a three-year battle and I just want to work and then progress towards my goal of running a 5K on my 55th birthday next year. That’s it. Shouldn’t be so complicated. It shouldn't, but you seem to thrive on drama. Until you figure out why you need that drama in your life - and eliminate it - you are going to always be in a difficult situation.
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Post by summer on Sept 24, 2019 17:57:45 GMT
Getting a dog or a gun are not the answer! Both seem like impulse ideas that will end very badly! You keep saying that you want to move so the woman who threatened you won't know where you live. But you say she knows where you work and you aren't planning on leaving your job. I think you are just looking for an excuse to move in with your guy friend. People here are giving you good advice. Don't jump from man to man. You can get a studio apartment and make it on your own.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Sept 24, 2019 18:09:55 GMT
You sure do find yourself in an awful lot of drama. Your life must be exhausting. It is. There was I think something on Facebook the other day that said, “what do you want for the last four months of this year?” My answer would be “calm and peace.” I am just trying to find that but it seems like finding a needle in a haystack at this point. My divorce is almost final thank God after a three-year battle and I just want to work and then progress towards my goal of running a 5K on my 55th birthday next year. That’s it. Shouldn’t be so complicated. One thing I give you alot of credit for, you seem like a genuinely nice person. I do hope you find the calm and peace you're looking for. Annnnnnnnnnnnnnd one of the most peaceful things in my world is the quiet of running. I wish you the best with your goal!
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Post by hop2 on Sept 24, 2019 19:20:05 GMT
Ok, does Pa have no laws for gun ownership?
I ask because didn’t your STB EX have you committed not that long ago? Do you not think that on your mental health record might prevent you from legally owning a gun?
I don’t know, it would here. I’m not trying to be mean. But you jump from one thing to another with seemingly no thought. Or at least that is how you present it in this thread. This whole thread is super confusing to me. You go in seemingly opposite directions ( mentally ) at the same time. And you have an excuse for why everybody’s helpful suggestions are not acceptable. Do you think the zipping from one thing to another seemingly without connection might somehow set you up for drama? I’m probably not explaining myself well, I’m nit trying to be mean, you seem like a nice person. I’m just really throwing things out there that you might want to mull over or discuss with a therapist to evaluate how much if the drama you inadvertently create. Like a boat creating a wake.
I don’t know. I do know divorce is hard. Moving is hard. Life changes are hard. But I hope you can find yourself what you need to move forward, peacefully. Because no matter the other confusion I get from reading this thread, your angst with life comes thru and I truly wish you peace & hope you can find it.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Sept 24, 2019 21:21:18 GMT
I am not intending to be rude or mean when I say this. But sometimes "tough love" is necessary.
Every topic you start, a lot of different advice, opinions, recommendations, constructive criticism is given. You don't seem to listen to or absorb any of it. Instead you have reasons, excuses, rebuttals, explanations, back peddling, theories, etc..
You come across as someone who has to have a man. Honestly, I think you suffer from "fear of being alone" syndrome. When you do have someone, you post about "met someone who I like, got a new online friend, just putting out some feelers, talking to this guy I met online, etc..". Constantly juggling the men you are talking to, for "just in case" purposes. It seems like an obsession or compulsion of yours to have more than one back up man "waiting in the wings". People in solid relationships (or even those who are in not great - but committed relationships) do not actively seek "a backup plan, waiting in the wings". If you are ready to move on, close one door before you open the next door. You constantly post and always seem to be "looking, seeking, trolling the internet, on the prowl for someone, setting up "meet ups (which I think in your case, is more to meet a new man as opposed to meet new friends-in a new city".
Nobody is perfect. Everyone has issues, baggage, idiosyncrasies, struggles, imperfections, etc... Many people, men and women.....have started over, divorced, lost jobs, made mistakes, came to a crossroad and chose wrong road and have had to backtrack and go the other way, etc.... People, everyone and anyone, no matter what the circumstance or situation have had to start over. In order to do this, you need to heal you first. You should be your first priority. Heal, grow, learn, find yourself, get to a better place financially (work 3 jobs if you have to).
I agree with what Volt said.
Stop being co-dependent. Stop seeking someone new. Stop trolling for men. Find yourself. Heal. Grow. Learn. Be alone. Listen to others advice. Cry, scream, release old anger. Don't worry about what anyone else is doing. Don't worry about what "he" is doing. Do what is best for you. Make choices that are best for you. Soul search. Figure out who you are. Figure out what you want to do. Figure which direction in life, you want to go. Get your facts and story straight. Are you divorced or not?
You need to get yourself straight, whole, healed...before you can attempt a healthy relationship with someone else.
You are like a soap opera. Full of personal drama. Girl, it's time to start a new show. Change the channel. Change your life. Change you. It won't be easy. I know, because I have been there, done that(many of us on this board have been). I/we are always will be a work in progress.
Like it or not, we are your online tribe.....and sometimes it's necessary for someone or everyone in your tribe to call you out and tell it like it is. I know, I am not the only one who thinks this in regards to you and your situation.
You won't get anywhere, going in the same old circle(I know, I was in that circle for many many years). Get out of of your same old circle!! Your heart, soul and wellbeing is dependent on you healing and making some life changes.
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Post by flute4peace on Sept 25, 2019 11:33:29 GMT
With all due respect, you don’t know what Volt has or hasn’t experienced. She is wise. Listen to her. Oh I get it but with all due respect, I would think it would be statistically slim that anybody else has had that sort of thing happen. Not only does she know where I live but she also knows where I work. That’s kind of a double whammy. Plus I never said it was an absolute that she hadn’t but I can pretty much guess that it hasn’t happened. I don’t know anyone even in real life that have had that kind of thing happen. Without divulging someone else’s business (although she’s talked about it here more than once), she absolutely does know what it’s like, and more. You can choose to listen or not, but she knows what she’s talking about. Good luck with everything.
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Post by blue tulip on Sept 25, 2019 11:41:06 GMT
please for the love of God do not get a gun. responsible ownership is so much more than just knowing how to physically use one, and i really really don't think you are in a good mental space for that.
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Post by elaine on Sept 25, 2019 12:19:27 GMT
I live alone..have for many years and I disagree with being a target. I think there are things you can do to feel safer if need be. I am thinking about getting a gun although I’ve never been near one (would take safety course). Can’t have a dog so that’s out. Unless I still exercise the option to move in with my friend who has one. Worst idea posted on this message board. Ever. Stop trying to make friends in order to have someplace else to live. People with healthy boundaries will run as far away as fast as they can if they get an inkling that you are thinking of them as potential landlords. Pittsburgh is a beautiful town. But, at this point you should move to and live in a town that YOU choose. If that is Pittsburgh, great. If it isn’t, then move to a town that is more affordable for your budget. Make decisions based on you, yourself, alone. But don’t expect other people to house you and/or pay your internet. Rely on yourself right now, even if that means scaling back everything to what you can afford.
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Post by quinlove on Sept 25, 2019 12:21:05 GMT
OP ~ I’m going to put a little different spin on your situation. It’s been said that you find yourself surrounded by drama constantly, I see it as - attention getting. Please pay attention to me. Please love me. Which, of course, every human needs/wants. You’re just going about it in a self sabotaging way. My advice is to dig deep. Self reflect and feel the calm and peace that you so desire. It’s right there inside you already love.
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Post by mom on Sept 25, 2019 13:01:21 GMT
please for the love of God do not get a gun. responsible ownership is so much more than just knowing how to physically use one, and i really really don't think you are in a good mental space for that. I am a gun owner and agree. Please do not get one. Its just a bad (and dangerous) idea, all the way around. When I mentioned protecting yourself earlier - I was thinking about you learning self defense tactics. But honestly? If the lady hasn't bothered you by now, she isn't going to bother you at all. She's moved on to being upset with someone else.
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Post by blue tulip on Sept 25, 2019 14:19:54 GMT
please for the love of God do not get a gun. responsible ownership is so much more than just knowing how to physically use one, and i really really don't think you are in a good mental space for that. I am a gun owner and agree. Please do not get one. Its just a bad (and dangerous) idea, all the way around. When I mentioned protecting yourself earlier - I was thinking about you learning self defense tactics. But honestly? If the lady hasn't bothered you by now, she isn't going to bother you at all. She's moved on to being upset with someone else.this. all of this moving was prompted by the interaction with this woman, correct? i'm sure it was scary, but the odds are overwhelming that she was blowing smoke. i wouldn't rearrange my whole life on this interaction. people like her are bluster and anger and then they blow thru and move on. get some pepper spray if you're really worried, take a self-defense class if it makes you feel empowered. but don't go crazy over this. it's now been 2 weeks, she's not thinking about you anymore.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 25, 2019 14:50:34 GMT
HIS lease expires in December. HE could probably get out of it earlier since it's a relocation for him. Although I"d be surprised if that was the case. The only place I've lived that allowed a lease to be broken for relocation was for military people since they aren't in control of the job location. Normal people can job hunt after their lease expires. He didn't have to move when he did. Stop looking for a man to make you feel safe. I've lived alone for 14 years now and haven't felt unsafe. That may be a valid point but you also haven’t had death threats against you I would imagine. With someone who knows where you live. He actually did have to take this position now. They offered it to him because they needed him in the Cincinnati location quickly. They are probably going to make him a district manager with multiple locations. Prior to him getting there, they were flying people in from Florida which meant hotels, airfare, rental cars and food allowances. They were spending a fortune and the managers didn’t care because they knew they were only temporary. My ex, who I was married to and living with, threatened to "make you disappear and keep anyone from looking for you long enough they will never find you" So yeah, I've looked into the eyes of a person I loved deeply and saw he had thought about killing me and how to get away with it. I ran. Spent the new couple of years living in a homeless shelter set up in my church and working a night shift at Walmart. Getting "home" alone at 2:00 am in the dark silence of a church parking lot is creepy. My ex knew exactly where I was living and working. Since we have three adultkids together it is safe to assume he still knows where I live and probably knows where I work. I know he is still angry about the divorce terms and his current wife stokes that anger quite often. Running every time you feel a strong emotion is not the way to solve your issues. Gaining independence in your living and finances will. Not needing the approval of anyone for the way you live means the peace you seek. Needing a roommate to afford your living arrangement means drama even among people who generally get along.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 25, 2019 15:06:26 GMT
You sure do find yourself in an awful lot of drama. Your life must be exhausting. It is. There was I think something on Facebook the other day that said, “what do you want for the last four months of this year?” My answer would be “calm and peace.” I am just trying to find that but it seems like finding a needle in a haystack at this point. My divorce is almost final thank God after a three-year battle and I just want to work and then progress towards my goal of running a 5K on my 55th birthday next year. That’s it. Shouldn’t be so complicated. Peace and calm comes from within. Not from outside of you. The choices you make, the emotions you hold on to are what creates peace and calm. A woman was angry. Her anger got you scared. She has let go and moved on to another solution (if she hadn't she would have hurt you by now). You on the other hand are still caught in your emotions. You haven't let go. Fear is driving your choices. Emotion driven choices will NEVER lead to a life of peace and calm. You want peace you have to learn to live independent of anyone else and how to be in control of your feelings.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 25, 2019 16:00:58 GMT
I am still waiting for clarification on if the divorce is final or not. You posted a month ago that it was finally done and now you say it is not.
You create drama, either fictional for the sake of responses or real for whatever reason.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 25, 2019 20:02:38 GMT
A few things to consider:
Pittsburgh is not a great place. A lot of homeless , street drugs and a lot of crime. Rents are extremely high, and yet tons of apartments sit empty From what I can tell affordable house is not something Pittsburgh. Everything is extremely expensive there, except Uber. And it is a depressing town. My daughter could not wait to graduate and leave!
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Post by elaine on Sept 25, 2019 20:49:29 GMT
A few things to consider: Pittsburgh is not a great place. A lot of homeless , street drugs and a lot of crime. Rents are extremely high, and yet tons of apartments sit empty From what I can tell affordable house is not something Pittsburgh. Everything is extremely expensive there, except Uber. And it is a depressing town. My daughter could not wait to graduate and leave! My take on it is different. I love Pittsburgh and my cousin and her family who have lived there the past 25 years love it too. I think it is a beautiful town - I’ve visited it numerous times and even run a half-marathon throughout the city just a few years back (and literally ran into a fellow Pea during the race). If my Dh was offered a job there - which was a possibility a couple of years ago - we would move there in a heartbeat. It isn’t cheap, but compared to the DC Metro area, it is far from extremely expensive. And anything but depressing - we still visit it voluntarily at least once per year.
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