"Arby's restaurant removes 'insensitive' sign..."

I'm imagining the sign was prompted by a bunch of kids running around throwing food while their parents ignore the behavior. But no, you still can't post something like that - because of course you don't mean to exclude kids behaving in normal kid ways. You just want their parents to do their job in correcting the behavior before it gets out of hand.

I think it sets an unnecessarily combative tone with families, if there is behavior to deal with then deal with it but I think setting up for conflict isn’t helpful.

I have worked hard to teach my kids proper behavior but I never appreciated a heavy hand from others. I did appreciate reminders from other adults if there was behavior I was not seeing, but this would make me feel unwelcome and unnecessarily pre-judged.

What timing. I just ate in an Arby’s yesterday where a woman was letting her I assume child play a game on her phone at what seemed max volume. It was too loud where I was sitting three tables away, it could only be louder right there at their table.

Wiggly kids, a mess at the table, some loudness, all part of having children in a restaurant.

Kids up and running around, purposely throwing food on the floor, standing backward in a booth / their chair to talk to the people behind them ~ those are all adult problems. The sign could say “You! Yes, the Smith Family! Watch your f*cking kids” and they wouldn’t think it applies to them. People who let their children run around a restaurant see no problem with it; a sign won’t make them change.

Family-oriented does not mean your child can run amok. The sign could have been written in a different tone, but I have no problem with the message.

Would I be offended? Not at all.

Oh how dare they expect children to behave!
It sounds to me like they have become fed up with ill behaved children. Yes toddlers are wiggly and don't like sitting in their chair, but they need to learn to do so. You don't let children run around when eating at home do you? Food is meant to be eaten not played with. (I agree though, the sign could have been worded a better)

My guess is that the people who let their kids run wild are the ones who were offended by the sign.

My 93 year old aunt and I were in a fast food restaurant not too long ago and two little kids came running around the corner and ran straight into me. I was fine, but if they had run into my aunt, they would have knocked her to the ground. I said, "You kids need to be careful or someone will get hurt." The woman who appeared to be their mother looked up from her phone, glanced at me, glanced at the boys and then went right back to her phone. She didn't even care enough to ask what had happened.

I would probably applaud loudly if I saw a sign like that. It is a shame some parents need to be told to make their children mind.

My kid was allowed to raise hell at home but she never once got out of hand in public. She was also always welcome around our friends because of her good behavior. The thing I don't get about parents that let their children be obnoxious, don't they realize that people will hate their kids? Why on earth would you allow your children to be disliked for bad behavior? I loved my kid too much to let that happen.

This is local to me also. The mom in question posted the sign on the Facebook city group and questioned it. She was told by several people on that post why the sign was up (the teens). Instead of realizing this and letting it go, she went to the local media. It went out locally, then statewide, then nationwide and she did press each time for it. I was on that thread and she was told several times that it was about the teens and that no one was going to make her 2 year old leave.

She makes me so angry. Everyone at the Arby's was disciplined for the sign.

The teens have caused so many issues in stores in that area as it's just across the highway from the middle and high school. They causes issues in Caribou Coffee that lead to them getting kicked out. They've done things to cars and carts in the Target parking lot and had police called on them. They've caused problems in the Culvers Restaurant right there. And the local police station is about a mile away. The mob of teens need to be stopped.

And for the record, I've gone to Arbys 3 times in the last week to support them over this whole thing.

How about we stop thinking family oriented means kids can run wild and disturb other customers. I prefer a business that is customer oriented. All customers.

Entitled parents lead to entitled children.

She sounds exhausting. I hope she realizes other parents are taking notes of her actions and are going to do their best to avoid her and her children.

I think it was dumb and not thought out well. Like stated above, it was in regards to middle school heathens running amok without parents after school since they are just down the road from the school. Those kids certainly needed to be rebuked, but the employees were not clear with their audience or word choice. Since THAT is what they were referring to, they needed to be more precise with their written communication and perhaps more proactive and less passive aggressive since that nuance will be lost on developing pre-frontal cortex and unruly tweens without adult supervision.

I think if it was in regards to all children it would have been offensive. It is an Arby's. It's fast food. Again, anyone who lets their kids run rampant without trying to reign them is either having a really really really bad day or is just a grown up tween who, again, isn't going to give a shit about a passive aggressive sign. I know the peas see horribly behaved kids EVERYWHERE, but I don't. I see them from time to time and either the parent is trying to reign them in or, rarely, is not. If they are not, if it isn't a fluke, some sign isn't going to get them to parent well. You will have to buck up and ask them to behave, kick them out or ignore it. Most normal and mentally mature/healthy parents try to keep the kids from going crazy. A sign like this seems antagonistic and creates an unwelcoming message you do not want. You might be able to get away with this at a finer/adult venue, but not at a fast food place.

I would not have been offended. My kids are past that age, but even when they were young, I never let them run around. If messes were on the floor, we cleaned them up. Even our youngest who is autistic has always been well behaved in restaurants. The only time they were allowed to get up and run around was when we would go into McDonald's playland. Never ever outside of play land.