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Post by myshelly on Nov 15, 2019 18:14:39 GMT
A few months ago my family went on a trip to a different state.
While there we went to a museum exhibit that was incredibly popular/hard to get tickets for. It was the only US stop for this particular exhibit of art that doesn’t usually leave its home country and likely will not be in the US again soon.
I posted pics of the exhibit and my kids at the exhibit on FB.
A person on my friends list, a teacher of mine from high school who I was close to, commented on the pics and all the posts from my trip and we had a good conversation.
But then she tried to tag a friend of hers (who is not a friend of mine) on my exhibit post. Friend, Mary, replied “I can’t see this post” (because of my privacy settings). Teacher then tries to share my post on her wall and can’t because of my settings, then tries to share the post to Mary’s wall and can’t. Finally teacher saves my photos of the exhibit, posts them herself on her wall, and says “Mary, these are the pics I wanted you to see.” Teacher only posted pictures of art and objects. She did not post pics of my kids and did not tag me in the post.
On the one hand, I realize that anything I put on FB is not really private and you run this risk.
On the other hand, this is weird, right? I’m just annoyed. Those pics were hard to get. It’s hard to get good museum pics in the first place because lighting is so tricky and then having the patience and know how to get shots without other people in them is a skill.
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Post by ashley on Nov 15, 2019 18:17:37 GMT
Wouldn’t bother me and I’d have shared the photos if requested.
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 15, 2019 18:19:55 GMT
Nope wouldn’t bother me.
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 15, 2019 18:20:09 GMT
I consider anything I post on FB to be fair game to anyone wanting to do this. So -I make sure not to post things I don't want to be "stolen" . Actually, I consider anything I put on the internet can be copied and used in ways I would not like. that is the nature of the internet. You have to protect your images to keep them from being copied if that is important to you.
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Post by lucyg on Nov 15, 2019 18:21:52 GMT
It wouldn’t bother me to share the photos.
BUT since you didn’t, and have your controls set to Private, I think it is totally bizarre that she saved your private photos and posted them on her own Facebook.
THAT is extreme cluelessness.
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Post by beepdave on Nov 15, 2019 18:23:26 GMT
I expect it will happen. I steal memes and things and repost them all the time. I usually ask permission if I am going to take something that is original to the poster, but I think I'm in the minority when I do that.
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Post by MichyM on Nov 15, 2019 18:23:51 GMT
I don’t think that would bother me at all. Pics of people, yes. Objects, no matter how difficult it was to ‘get’ them? No. In fact I’d be a little flattered that she wanted to show them to her friend.
That said, and I say this in the nicest way possible, I tend to be more laid back than you present yourself on this forum so YMMV.
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Nov 15, 2019 18:24:07 GMT
It wouldn’t bother me. I think she needs to ask and respect your wishes with photos of the family, but in this case, it’s fine to me.
I also think it’s different If she was trying to make them seem like they were her photos.
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Post by myshelly on Nov 15, 2019 18:24:08 GMT
It wouldn’t bother me to share the photos. BUT since you didn’t, and have your controls set to Private, I think it is totally bizarre that she saved your private photos and posted them on her own Facebook. THAT is extreme cluelessness. I think this is where I’m at. When you tried 3 times to share my photos and realized you couldn’t, that should clue a friend in that I don’t want them shared. |
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Post by christinec68 on Nov 15, 2019 18:24:23 GMT
It must have been an amazing exhibit and great pictures that she went to so much trouble to show her friend. It wouldn't bother me.
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Post by busy on Nov 15, 2019 18:25:26 GMT
Not a big deal IMO
Weird, but not some kind of a violation. They're photos of a public exhibition, regardless of how difficult tickets are to get, that she's sharing for interest, not personal gain.
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Post by bc2ca on Nov 15, 2019 18:26:03 GMT
On the other hand, this is weird, right? I’m just annoyed. Those pics were hard to get. It’s hard to get good museum pics in the first place because lighting is so tricky and then having the patience and know how to get shots without other people in them is a skill. Based on the bolded, it feels like you are annoyed at not getting credit for your photography skills. Am I misreading that? I'd be happy that she didn't include photos with my kids in them. I don't have a problem with good photos of a difficult to see exhibit getting shared. |
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Post by lucyg on Nov 15, 2019 18:26:59 GMT
It wouldn’t bother me to share the photos. BUT since you didn’t, and have your controls set to Private, I think it is totally bizarre that she saved your private photos and posted them on her own Facebook. THAT is extreme cluelessness. I think this is where I’m at. When you tried 3 times to share my photos and realized you couldn’t, that should clue a friend in that I don’t want them shared. And I agree with the others above that nothing is truly private on the Internet. But that doesn’t mean you should expect your own friend to make something public that she knew you were trying to keep private. |
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 15, 2019 18:27:27 GMT
I’m curious why you are annoyed instead of flattered? I guess it would have been polite of your friend to first ask. What was the exhibit and did your kids’ clothing match the exhibit? (Just curious because I remember you said you try to do that$
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 15, 2019 18:28:22 GMT
It wouldn’t bother me to share the photos. BUT since you didn’t, and have your controls set to Private, I think it is totally bizarre that she saved your private photos and posted them on her own Facebook. THAT is extreme cluelessness. I think this is where I’m at. When you tried 3 times to share my photos and realized you couldn’t, that should clue a friend in that I don’t want them shared. i agree with this actually- she should have asked. Or screen shot the photos and texted to your friend privately |
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Post by MizIndependent on Nov 15, 2019 18:29:31 GMT
It would probably irritate me, why didn't she just ask from them? Did she credit you as the photographer? It's not typical Facebook behavior so, I'd be annoyed.
In general, I think Facebook is a disease. I hate it but have an account that I use to keep in touch with long-distance family. I don't post anything I wouldn't print a newspaper.
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Post by snyder on Nov 15, 2019 18:31:14 GMT
It would irritate me since I do have my settings to private and as others indicated, she made several unsuccessful attempts, so she should have had a clue they were private and if she wanted to share them, she should have asked your permission. I think I would be more irritated at FB that their privacy settings really aren't private. It they are private, should not be able to save them either.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Nov 15, 2019 18:32:59 GMT
I’m curious why you are annoyed instead of flattered? This. This whole post seems weird. Pictures of objects. Shared with a friend for personal interest? You can't expect privacy on Facebook. If I had encountered your security settings, I would have copied your photos and sent them to my friend via Messenger. Because that's what happens when you post publicly. People share. |
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Post by katlady on Nov 15, 2019 18:37:02 GMT
I know that anything I post on any social media platform is never really private and secure. I make my accounts private more to keep trolls from seeing my stuff. In this situation, I would have screen shot the photo and shared it privately with my friend. I wouldn’t post it on FB for all to see.
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Post by curiouscrafter on Nov 15, 2019 18:39:54 GMT
I’m curious why you are annoyed instead of flattered? This. This whole post seems weird. Pictures of objects. Shared with a friend for personal interest? You can't expect privacy on Facebook. If I had encountered your security settings, I would have copied your photos and sent them to my friend via Messenger. Because that's what happens when you post publicly. People share. This ^^^ I don't get this post either. |
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Post by schizo319 on Nov 15, 2019 18:44:42 GMT
As long as she didn't post pictures of your kids, I'm not sure why it matters.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Nov 15, 2019 18:50:15 GMT
Actually, I have a sincere question that might be able to shed some light on this entire situation. What was your purpose in posting them at all? Why did you do it?
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 15, 2019 18:50:18 GMT
But then she tried to tag a friend of hers (who is not a friend of mine) on my exhibit post. Friend, Mary, replied “I can’t see this post” (because of my privacy settings). Teacher then tries to share my post on her wall and can’t because of my settings, then tries to share the post to Mary’s wall and can’t. So I assume you saw the comment/conversation on your wall with teacher attempting to tag her friend... but how do you know the rest of that happened? Those aren't actions you would have seen because they were happening on teacher's end, not yours. So was she communicating these failed attempts to you? The reason I ask is because that would have been the perfect opportunity to private message her requesting that she not share your photos. Edited to add: For the record, I would not have cared if mine were shared. Obviously she was giving you credit with her friend as they had an on-line exchange about it that you could clearly see. |
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Post by compeateropeator on Nov 15, 2019 19:04:57 GMT
I guess my opinion is I am happy if my pictures can get shared, especially if it is something rare and or amazing. If she had included anything with your family in it I would say it was very very wrong. I do think she should have asked you first. But I guess my answer is I don’t think it is weird and is not something that would bother me.
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Post by snugglebutter on Nov 15, 2019 19:16:14 GMT
I wouldn't like it at all if my kids were in the pictures, but since they weren't it would just be more of an annoyance.
Also, people are so different at how they approach social media. She could have sent it to her friend in a PM and you might have never known.
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Post by jenb72 on Nov 15, 2019 19:18:06 GMT
The only part of it that would have bothered me is that she didn't ask before she downloaded and shared them on her own profile. I'm also in the camp of "once on the internet", but I also believe in common courtesy. Especially since she deliberately went against the privacy settings you had in place. Having said that, I'm realistic enough to know it happens all the time.
Jen
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Post by peano on Nov 15, 2019 19:22:57 GMT
It wouldn’t bother me to share the photos. BUT since you didn’t, and have your controls set to Private, I think it is totally bizarre that she saved your private photos and posted them on her own Facebook. THAT is extreme cluelessness. I think this is where I’m at. When you tried 3 times to share my photos and realized you couldn’t, that should clue a friend in that I don’t want them shared. Generally agree with above and the fact that once it's out there, it's out there. But is there the possibility that your friend is not Facebook savvy and doesn't really get what privacy settings are? I am generally clueless about the ins and outs of Facebook, so if I were going to try to do what your friend did, (which I can't imagine I would) and went to the trouble she did, I might just think there was a glitch that I had to work around. |
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Post by katiejane on Nov 15, 2019 19:33:53 GMT
It wouldn't bother me. She was careful to share no pictures with your kids. She tried to share your post and give credit. I would be flattered.
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Post by craftykitten on Nov 15, 2019 19:37:16 GMT
A similar thing happened to me recently, I shared a photo with a comment, and because my settings don't allow people to share, a friend screenshot it with my comment, and posted that on her timeline.
It's...weird? And kind of clueless. But not something I'm too worked up about.
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Post by pilcas on Nov 15, 2019 19:46:17 GMT
If it was just pictures of art it wouldn’t bother me. She is a teacher and her interest and that of her friend may be profesional.
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