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Post by jenjie on Aug 6, 2022 20:00:37 GMT
One other family that we hooked up with… Remember I worked at school as a TA for maybe a month, then I got long Covid and never went back? I always wondered what was the point of that?
Our first day there, I see two little girls, students at our school, and they recognize me. So we end up having lunch with them one day. And this family is hurting (divorce). Dad is wearing his exhaustion all over his face and doing the best he can for his girls. So we had opportunity to talk. I offered to take the girls for a bit so he could have time to himself, but that never panned out. (Logan said I sounded like a creeper LOL). I was able to speak hope and life and he could not thank me enough. I wonder if the reason I was at the school for that brief time was just to connect with these girls so their dad could feel seen and heard. It’s an amazing thought.
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Post by jenjie on Aug 6, 2022 19:51:35 GMT
Our vacation was at a Christian family camp, it’s the same place we went to on scholarship seven years ago. Logan really enjoys it and we’ve been back several times since then. There is plenty of opportunity to meet people, make friends etc and this year it seemed like an over abundance for me. It was beautiful. My bff who moved to Fl was there too, so that was awesome to spend time together. I met this woman A On the first day. We ended up spending a lot of time together and began a true friendship. Buffet style meals are included. I was sitting with my new friend and had seen the dessert was empty. As her 8 yo son was passing the dessert table, I asked him to let us know if they refilled the cookie trays. Mom asks him to just bring a plate with one of every cookie. He disappears a while and comes back with this incredible… sandwich? It’s got a little bit of every item on the buffet! Two kinds of lunchmeat Cheese Pulled pork Pasta salad Corn salad Lettuce Tomato Onion Pickle Yes he misunderstood the assignment. But he completed it the best he understood and did it with a smile on his face. So kind! Unfortunately I had already eaten my lunch and only had room for a bit of dessert, 😉 but I so appreciate his thoughtfulness. Mom and I are chuckling a little at the misunderstanding, so he asks, “Did I do something wrong?” I said no, you did mishear but you did everything right and you have a beautiful heart. I said this is the best thing that happened to me all day! 😍 Mom said he felt like a million bucks. Would you believe, later in the week he thanked me for what I said to him about the sandwich!
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Post by jenjie on Aug 6, 2022 19:36:24 GMT
jenjie ask your son if its cheating to use 2 kitchenaids to mix and i have a double oven in the wall... It seems sorta unfair if he only used 1 oven but..... lol.... He says go ahead! You could use the sun or a grill if you wanted… we have a double oven too, and he only used 2 trays but he didn’t feel like swapping 4 trays at once. His time would have been significantly reduced but his stress would prob be up.
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Post by jenjie on Aug 6, 2022 15:47:12 GMT
Good for your son! I'm not fond of baking, so I was hoping the challenge was to eat 1,000 cookies in a day. He doesn’t recommend that! 🤣 He says good luck with the diabetes and dental work.
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Post by jenjie on Aug 6, 2022 15:45:54 GMT
This is fantastic! Butter Jenga! The cookie picture is amazing! I was giggling at the gallon of milk on the chair. So much fun! Such a great kid! TFS, made my day ❤️ This one’s for you! I’ll add pic to OP as well.
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Post by jenjie on Aug 6, 2022 15:45:09 GMT
When I bake cookies I usually eat a cookie off of each tray that comes out of the oven - for quality control purposes. That is a lot of cookies! Were there any burned trays of cookies? I feel like I would have a few trays in those last hours that would show that I lost focus. I love this. He said the very last tray were not burned, but a bit crispy bc he couldn’t reach them in time. But he was already over 1,000 by that point. Total was 1,021. Each batch made more than he anticipated so he didn’t need to make as many batches as he calculated.
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Post by jenjie on Aug 6, 2022 13:46:03 GMT
Omg that’s awesome! Sounds like when he wants to do something, he puts his mind to it and does it. Yesss!
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Post by jenjie on Aug 6, 2022 12:45:23 GMT
Amazing! He seems like a guy who likes numbers, did he track the cost? LOL I don’t think so! 🤣
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Post by jenjie on Aug 6, 2022 12:43:16 GMT
Look at all those cookies, if I lived closer, I'd put an order in. Good for him for completing something he's wanted to accomplish & he made it fun, too. You know, that's a good point! I'm in MA. I'd take a dozen or two! ETA: I drive a ton through metro west and Boston... so it would be easy to get cookies! That would be fun! Sorry we are 5 hours from Boston in NJ.
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Post by jenjie on Aug 6, 2022 2:32:21 GMT
I suggested he just swap the chips with something else like rainbow Jimmies but he wanted it to be a legit recipe. Awesome! And I haven't heard "jimmies" since we moved from PA (actually, before or since) 😀 Every night the cats get their "bedtime jimmies" which came from adding a few sprinkles of dry food onto the wet food. The first time I saw sprinkles listed as "jimmies" at the grocery store, it became part of our household lingo. Unlike jawn, though I can appreciate that one. LOL Can you believe I don’t know jawn? Although apparently I’m supposed to! A couple of my Fb friends (one is a fellow alum, the other is from the rival high school LOL) use it.
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Post by jenjie on Aug 6, 2022 2:15:58 GMT
I am also one who could not do at least a taste test... lol.. I do a ton of cookies at Christmas... i kinda want to take on his challenge with like snickerdoodles or peanut butter.... those are our family faves!! Let me know if you do!
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Post by jenjie on Aug 6, 2022 1:31:07 GMT
That is so awesome, what a smart and fun kid! I'm with him. Chocolate chips cookies are not all that. But I'm sure all the others who get to eat them will appreciate his project! I suggested he just swap the chips with something else like rainbow Jimmies but he wanted it to be a legit recipe.
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Post by jenjie on Aug 6, 2022 1:22:53 GMT
While we were away, ds23 executed a challenge that’s been on his mind off and on for a year. He decided he wanted to bake 1,000 cookies in one day. He chose Nestle Tollhouse because it’s a tried and true recipe. Sadly he doesn’t like chocolate, so he’s not going to eat any of them. His plan is to share them. He started out doing the math and procuring ingredients. He created his own self-imposed rules (mom’s rule is always “don’t burn the house down”) , only allowing the butter to come to room temperature overnight. He made a Jenga tower out of said butter Got up at 6:00 am, baked for 15 hours and… mission accomplished! I love his creativity. ETA here’s one more picture brought on by hmp comment. He put himself on the side of the milk jug 🤣 Also he’s loving all your comments! 🥰
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Post by jenjie on Jul 31, 2022 18:00:51 GMT
“I'll update zella or jenjie as I can.” @bergdorfblonde please send updates to zella. I’m leaving for vacation and will be off board. Will be praying for dd and you. Glad she is starting to keep things down.
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Post by jenjie on Jul 31, 2022 15:35:23 GMT
One thing I have experienced with my daughter on a milder scale than BB is going thru is a state of prolonged semi-crisis. When a person is in prolonged crisis you start to lose all sense of what an emergency is. It's a little like the boy who cried wolf and as a parent you try to do the right thing but you also have to make judgment calls sometimes.Anyway that's my spin on it. Ongoing crisis with no end in sight. It's rough. Humans can adjust to almost any circumstances but it will take a toll. I honestly think that is what is happening here. So overwhelmed that everything seems impossible. More so this than anything malicious. Sometimes honesty can help cut through the fog of feeling helpless. I agree. Adding to this, I will say about the cheesecake… I think maybe cheesecake is her go-to. When she’s happy, she makes cheesecake. When she’s stressed, she makes cheesecake. We have had quite a few conversations about cheesecake. And hers is GOOD. She had made one the day I surprised her with a visit. It may be that making cheesecake gives her a little feeling of normalcy or control when her world is out of control and anything but normal. And the cats… I had two dogs die (unrelated) a week apart not long after dh passed. I wasn’t attached to these particular dogs like Bergdorf and dd are to the cats. But I still felt like, can’t I keep ANYTHING alive? It’s a really weird feeling and I understand why she wants to hold onto those pets, as they die it’s like more and more of life as you knew it is being stripped away.
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Post by jenjie on Jul 30, 2022 20:29:42 GMT
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Post by jenjie on Jul 30, 2022 20:28:29 GMT
She just texted: “Took her to the ER yesterday (9 hours). She has a bladder infection, her liver is enlarged, so we have to do more testing. She's got an entire body rash + vomiting for 3 weeks. They think it's due to Covid + changing 1 of her bipolar meds (had serious consequences for some). Vomiting cd be from either congestion or her infections. She's borderline septic. Keeping a watch over her at home with new meds. Love you. Xo” zella @scrubologist christine58 mom They should have admitted her. She just texted “Yes, thanks!! She'll have to go back to the ER if she vomits today. We have to follow up about her liver... Trying not to worry + working on getting her on Medicaid with the hospital's help. Thanks. 😘😘” Zeepantsonfire
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Post by jenjie on Jul 30, 2022 19:44:53 GMT
She just texted: “Took her to the ER yesterday (9 hours). She has a bladder infection, her liver is enlarged, so we have to do more testing. She's got an entire body rash + vomiting for 3 weeks. They think it's due to Covid + changing 1 of her bipolar meds (had serious consequences for some). Vomiting cd be from either congestion or her infections. She's borderline septic. Keeping a watch over her at home with new meds. Love you. Xo” zella@scrubologist christine58mom
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Post by jenjie on Jul 30, 2022 19:42:25 GMT
I haven’t but want to say I’m so sorry about your aunt. May God comfort your hurting heart.
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Post by jenjie on Jul 30, 2022 16:11:15 GMT
I'm hoping someone can physically check on them or have someone sent to do so. This isn't the first time she's described a medically impossible situation, and if her daughter is in the shape she would be in should the OP's descriptions be accurate, she needs intervention. As odd as it may seem, I'm hoping that the OP has exaggerated or misrepresented reality. I have met @bergdorfblonde IRL but we live many states apart. I will text and try to find out how they are making out. I hope she took her to ER. mom christine58 thanks for tagging me!
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Post by jenjie on Jul 29, 2022 16:05:42 GMT
I think I have arthritis in my thumb. It’s weak so I can’t grasp tweezers well enough.
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Post by jenjie on Jul 29, 2022 15:20:24 GMT
FYI if you have amazon prime you can get grub hub free for a year - delivery fees of course, not the cost of the food. This just started in July Ooo this tip is perfectly timed for me! DH has been replacing the kitchen floor, so we have a couple of days of all meals "out". I have been doing online grocery shopping for about 15 years. We get pizza once a week - we have recently transitioned to using a local pizzeria that is nearby, so I go pick it up. The distance I'm willing to walk while carrying a couple of gigantic pizzas is NOT very far. When we order out from other restaurants (not usually very often), I have it delivered. You do need to sign up for it. www.grubhub.com/help/contact-us/grubhub-amazon-prime/6MiJUdMvrsNCgNZY7nBUnu
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Post by jenjie on Jul 29, 2022 12:20:42 GMT
I did a lot of grocery delivery and “takeout” delivery when I was sick last year when I was sick. I’m still dealing with back and shoulder issues so I will often at least do grocery pickup. They put it in my car and my kids bring it In the house when I get home. Also my ds23 hates drive through. He will happily pay a markup.
FYI if you have amazon prime you can get grub hub free for a year - delivery fees of course, not the cost of the food. This just started in July.
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Post by jenjie on Jul 29, 2022 12:12:35 GMT
That’s what I use for unwanted facial hair. I finally put one in my car bc that’s usually where I see everything I missed. 😜
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Post by jenjie on Jul 27, 2022 22:34:48 GMT
I wonder if that guy who spent $50,000 on tickets for his employees for Tuesday won anything? Good will and appreciation?
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Post by jenjie on Jul 27, 2022 19:41:36 GMT
stormycat I’m so glad you brought this to the peas. I’ve been praying since I saw you begin posting on FB. I almost asked if you wanted me to share with the peas but didn’t want to add to what you had going on. Praying for Colton and all of you as you navigate and endure this. Praying this drainage will resolve the issue. I’m so sorry he has to suffer through this.
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Post by jenjie on Jul 26, 2022 15:51:11 GMT
It’s a horrible thing to ask. Do I get curious? Yes. Have I ever asked? No. I would never, it’s an if they want to share they will type of thing. Well, unless, you consider when my BIL called to tell me my sister was dead and I did ask what happened? why? How? Because it was unexpected and abrupt. She was killed, he told me how. But that is literally the only time in that first notification phone call. I have never ever asked for any further details from him or my nieces & nephew. If they want to tell me they will. hop2, I'm so very sorry. In this case I think that you had every right to know. This was your sister and our sisters are a part of us. Absolutely. I’m so very sorry hop2. And yes it’s very different when it’s your family or even close friend who is currently active in their life vs some random person.
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Post by jenjie on Jul 26, 2022 3:59:49 GMT
I’m so sorry. My dh wasn’t nasty but he became very needy. And He would say hurtful things. He was shocked to learn I was upset with him.
We were both under a lot of stress. One of the best pieces of advice I was given was:
Don’t take it personally. It’s the disease talking.
I didn’t quite get it until I had a day I wasn’t feeling well (nothing compared to what he was going through). I didn’t want to deal with anyone, didn’t feel like being kind, I was snappy.
It was the best thing that could have happened. Because it opened my eyes to the bigger picture of how his discomfort, pain, worries were affecting how he engaged with me.
Above all, your mom doesn’t want to have regrets later. If she doesn’t want to leave, encourage her to take some time for herself each day to catch a break and catch her breath, too.
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Post by jenjie on Jul 25, 2022 20:45:05 GMT
sharlag did she even offer condolences? If so, just say “thank you for your kind words” or whatever, even ask for a memory they have of him if you are inclined, and let it go. If she presses the issue you can say it upsets you to think about that time, or something. If she didn’t bother to offer condolences or say something nice, I wouldn’t even respond. Yes, she did offer condolences. I can't tell much from her profile, like if she worked with him or how she knew him. So odd that she showed up with no context. I’m sorry. People don’t understand the emotional burden they can put on others just to satisfy their own curiosity.
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Post by jenjie on Jul 25, 2022 20:13:22 GMT
sharlag did she even offer condolences? If so, just say “thank you for your kind words” or whatever, even ask for a memory they have of him if you are inclined, and let it go. If she presses the issue you can say it upsets you to think about that time, or something. If she didn’t bother to offer condolences or say something nice, I wouldn’t even respond.
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