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Post by maryland on Sept 27, 2023 17:57:52 GMT
It certainly is going around here in Northern Virginia. At the school where I sub the entire ESL team is out at the moment with it, and they figure they got it from the 2nd grade team where two of the three of them had it a couple weeks ago. I've been subbing so much that I figure I'm doomed...just waiting for the other shoe to drop on me. Although...I did have it back in June so maybe that gave me some immunity? Just keeping my fingers crossed until I can get my booster (tomorrow, yay!) and until that can take effect. How long does it take a vaccine to build up your immunity? Anyway, I hope your case stays mild! I thought it was 2 weeks. But I once heard with one of the covid vaccines a couple years ago that even a week in you are better protected than before you got the vaccine. I hope that's true!
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Post by maryland on Sept 27, 2023 17:55:56 GMT
I hope you feel better soon! It has been going around in our area.
I am so happy that my 20 yr. old college student got the new covid vaccine last week! And she got her flu shot last month. Covid is going around at her university so it's a big relief that she is doing what she can to avoid both.
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Post by maryland on Sept 23, 2023 0:35:13 GMT
Growing up, we always put off season clothes in the attic. I thought everyone did and was so surprised when I was 30 and at a playgroup with my toddler to learn that most people keep all clothes in the closet!
We put off season clothes in the attic. WE don't have enough room in our closets for both seasons. But I don't like fall/winter, so I don't even want to see jeans and sweaters once it's April (although in Pittsburgh, it's still very cold until mid May some years, and you truly do need to keep winter clothes out.
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Post by maryland on Sept 23, 2023 0:28:05 GMT
Michigan State starts B1G play v Maryland. Just hoping we're not crushed like last week against Washington, who either showed us that they're a great team or that we really stink. Might be both! I am really worried about how my Terps will do at this game. I was hoping to go, but we have season tickets for Maryland and we live 5 hrs. away. I haven't been home on a weekend since the second week of August, so I needed a traveling break. My team has not done well the first half of their games, so we can't let that happen in the Big 10 games. So I am very nervous, but I hope we win!
I have family in Michigan and lived there in the late 1990s. I love Michigan, so if we aren't playing them, i always pull for Michigan and Michigan State!
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Post by maryland on Sept 5, 2023 2:13:47 GMT
Yay! That sounds like fun! I am the mom of a recent UMD grad and live just over the river in Northern VA. Last fall DH and I went to the Maryland-Ohio State game and it was a lot of fun. (I'm an OSU alum, so we actually went as part of the OSUDC alumni club and tailgated with fellow Buckeyes.) Glad you two got to meet up! I was at that game too! So much fun!
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Post by maryland on Sept 5, 2023 2:12:38 GMT
maryland I'd love to know what team your UM tee shirt mentions. Dance? Science? Member, Alum, or Fan of? Her DD is currently on the Dance Team, and I believe she was on it when she was at UMD! Yes, I was on the Dance Team all my years at Maryland!
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Post by maryland on Aug 28, 2023 13:41:55 GMT
I can't stand to cook, so I would not want to have to make another meal out of leftovers. We eat them as we ate them when they were first cooked.
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Post by maryland on Aug 16, 2023 14:14:39 GMT
I mean, I would need a lot more details. It would be a weird relationship if you couldn't share your opinion with your spouse. I don't claim to be super fashionable but I basically know what is current, and, yesterday, my husband had something important and reached into his closet for a particular shirt/tie combination, and I told him that it looked dated and a different tie would look better. I think it would be different if I told him he couldn't wear the tie, or that he was too fat for the shirt, or that if he was a real man he'd follow trends, or if I threw out the tie. So if the husband is like, "I am a minimalist and don't think you need all those clothes," that's one thing--he has an opinion, and shared it in a non-demeaning way. If closet space or budget is at a premium, that's part of sharing space and financial responsibility--if the husband filled the whole refrigerator with beer, of course the wife could say, hey, too much beer, I need space in the fridge for food. But if it is, there's room, and there's money, and it's just, he thinks he can tell her what is important to her and make her get rid of her clothes, that sounds unacceptably controlling. Your last sentence is part of my issue. We built a 6000 sq. ft house with more room than we would ever need. I was miserable there, and after two years, we moved back into our former house that is half the size. I feel like I can't complain about all my husband's stuff because he moved back to our 2000 sq. ft. house for me. So I try not to be controlling and tell him he has more stuff than we have room for because we did have room in our other house. I hope that makes sense! But I do try not to be so controlling.
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Post by maryland on Aug 16, 2023 14:10:42 GMT
I'm widowed. I see this all the time in TikTok comments: leave him, kick him to the curb, get out now, etc. And a lot of times those comments are from the smallest issues. There's never the advice to talk to him, work it out, try to see it from his perspective, see a therapist, etc. It's always cut and run. A disagreement about clothing is not an earth shattering disagreement. Unfortunately there's not more context. If the husband is a minimalist, is clothing the only issue? People are allowed to have differences of opinions. DH and I certainly didn't agree on everything. Honestly I don't know one couple who agrees on everything. Like you, I can't think of an instance where I dismissed DH without trying to understand where he was coming from. We disagreed on plenty and talked about it. I agree and it bothers me too. If a woman did something little, and men told her husband to kick her out, their would be outrage. I don't get the double standard. And yes, communicate to the person what is bothering you and why. Sharing both sides in a positve way would help with communication. Just my opinion!
In our house, I am the minimalist and it's hard that the rest of the family has so much stuff that they dont use but won't get rid of. But I am a sahm so have the time to do it with my stuff. My husband works many hours a week and the last thing he want to do on day off is decultter. So I try to remember that and when he does do some decluttering I always thank him and let him know I appreciate it, because I do. My 23 yr. old just did a huge decluttering yesterday and i happily made two trips to goodwill!
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Post by maryland on Aug 16, 2023 14:04:29 GMT
That's great! So happy for you!
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Post by maryland on Aug 16, 2023 13:46:01 GMT
I am so sorry you are facing this! I agree with the others about not letting her move in/paternity test. You have recieved great advice here. Ultimately, it is not your responsibility, it is hers and your sons. I am a bit confused about her age. You said "young girl" but if she is 17, she is almost an adult and just a year younger than your son. So yes, they are both young, but it's still not your responsibility to house them. You can be involved as much as you want to be (assuming it's fine with the couple) but don't burden yourself so you get in over your head.
If my reply doesn't make sense, please ignore! We have contractors in installing a front door, a plumber here to fix a leaking pipe, and one daughter is moving across the country tomorrow and one moving into college tomorrow, so my attention is all over the place at the moment! But didn't want to read and run, wanted to offer support for you in this difficult situation!
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Post by maryland on Aug 11, 2023 12:19:15 GMT
maryland , my DD shops at the Lidl in CP all the time! She likes it a lot and finds the selection really good! She likes the ravioli a lot. I am not sure what else she gets there, but if your DD wants, have her text or message Becca thru IG! That's good, I will let her know.
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Post by maryland on Aug 10, 2023 20:45:57 GMT
Not a fan, but the couple should do what they want to do. Just lower expectations on everyone being able to attend. Travel can be expensive, and I would prefer to spend it on a family vacation that we choose at the time we choose instead of feeling obligated to attend. So we would politely decline.
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Post by maryland on Aug 10, 2023 20:35:15 GMT
My daughter will be in an apartment this year for college and the closest grocery store is Lidl. I have never been to one before. I you have shopped there, do you like it? Any recommendations of favorite foods you buy there? We are trying to make a grocery list and meal plans in advance so she is set for school as Sept is very busy for her.
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Post by maryland on Aug 10, 2023 16:59:04 GMT
So sorry for your loss.
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Post by maryland on Aug 9, 2023 23:24:11 GMT
No, I have never felt the need to carry protection in any place I have been. My husband is pretty paranoid compared to me, and he doesn't even carry anything with him (he used to travel a lot, but always stayed in safe hotels and areas).
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Post by maryland on Aug 8, 2023 19:25:05 GMT
I'm not interested in funding a $39k wedding or whatever the "norm" is nowadays, what a waste of money that could be put towards a house instead of one day celebrating something that could very well end in divorce. Is that a dim view? Yes it sure is, but I've seen what I've seen. I paid for my own wedding 28 years ago so it was very low key, low budget, and relaxed. Nothing really to stress over, which was nice. I think my daughter would be ok with all that but she isn't sure she ever even wants to get married. I can't imagine DS ever wanting a big wedding. I agree with everything you said!
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Post by maryland on Aug 8, 2023 19:20:03 GMT
I plan to contribute the same to my son or daughter. I am not a fan of the old rules. I never differentiated with them based on gender on anything else, why would I for their wedding? I agree!
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Post by maryland on Aug 8, 2023 19:10:00 GMT
No, we don't plan on paying for weddings for our three kids. To be fair, we told them that since they were little. haha
We pay for college for the kids, and they don't have to work during college. We have sacraficed buying things for ourselves while raising them so we can put money into their college funds. And our retirement fund is very important to us. So after college, we plan lots of home improvements! If we had lots of extra money (we won't), we would give them money towards grad school, a house, but we will let them pay for their wedding.
I never understood why the bride's parents were supposed to pay for most wedding expenses (when our three girls were born, everyone commented on how we need to save up for three weddings).
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Post by maryland on Aug 7, 2023 22:41:20 GMT
From our local animal low-kill shelter website: If your cat or dog is a senior, please do not think they are going to do well in a shelter. These animals have been loved and in a home from the time they were a baby until the time an owner decides to no longer keep them. HART gets calls from people who want to surrender an elderly pet (10 years and up) because they have decided to travel or are moving to an apartment, and various other reasons, and no longer want this pet. This type of surrender will curl up and physically shut down in a shelter. No matter how hard we try to make its life comfortable we can’t. And no one is going to adopt an animal of this age, because unfortunately these animals have health problems such as kidney diseases, bad teeth, joint problems and the list goes on. The owner wants to be assured that their loved pet will find a good home. How can we tell them yes, when they no longer want the pet because it has become an inconvenience for them? It is a tough to find someone who will take this pet on. It can be expensive and also heartbreaking to adopt an old pet. Have the courage to euthanize this pet. Behaviors that HART cannot accept are: Aggression which includes biting, being cage aggressive, attacking other dogs or cats, and destruction of the house. Having a cat that does not use a litter box is another call we receive on a regular bases. This behavior could have a medical reason or it may be behavioral. Healthy cats and kittens that use a litter box can be hard to find good homes for, ones that have bathroom issues are next to impossible.
Looking at 2nd litter boxes. But DH is really opposed to keeping Tigger.
I'm sorry for your situation, that sounds difficult. We are working with our dog on his marking in the house. We have a behavior consult with the vet and need to find a new trainer (ours went on medical leave). But I wanted to let you know that my daughter adopted an 8 yr old cat a couple years ago and it's doing so well! She asked to see cats that are having trouble getting adopted. So there are many out there that are willing to adopt an older cat.
I hope you can figure out a solution that benefits the cats and your family.
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Post by maryland on Aug 7, 2023 22:25:05 GMT
we have a tornado warning thru 9pm tonight.... We were in College Park since Thurs. and drove back to Pittsburgh today. Saw the tornado warnings on billboards, but we had decent weather for our drive.
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Post by maryland on Aug 7, 2023 22:23:18 GMT
We have had such crappy weather (I never before kept a sweatshirt in my closet in the summer), cold and a lot of rain. So it hasn't felt like summer. It's been so gloomy and I feel that it really affects my mood. I love summer so much and to feel like I missed out on what I love about summer.
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Post by maryland on Aug 2, 2023 21:30:23 GMT
So sorry for what your brother and family are going through. It must be so devestating to see him going through this. Thinking about you.
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Post by maryland on Aug 1, 2023 23:19:27 GMT
Right now I really like the new bag I got for summer - it’s a perfect size and I like the fun, summery strap, I also love a lobster sweater I bought (lol) and I discovered a delicious salad with chicken sold down the street from me. Where did you get this cute purse?
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Post by maryland on Aug 1, 2023 23:06:40 GMT
Is your husband able to send you vidoes that he takes on his iphone? I get blurry videos if people with iphones send me a video to my google pixel phone. Also, are you able to be in a group text with iphone users?
My husband hates iphones too, and says he won't be able to help me with any phone issue if I get an iphone. That's one of my big incentives to stick with my current phone or get a new pixel or samsung.
If we send each other videos it's always through Snapchat, much easier and faster. Our whole family uses Snapchat for that regardless of what kind of phone. I can be in group chats with iPhones but they can "react" to posts (such as liking or loving something, like on Facebook) but I can't. I've had one group chat going on for a couple years and that's the only thing that's not the same for all of us. Thanks, I did send a video to my daughter through snapchat last year and it worked well. For some reason I can send her videos from google pixel to her iphone and it's clear. just the iphone videos I get from others are blurry.
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Post by maryland on Aug 1, 2023 23:05:14 GMT
I think I will get a Pixel again!! After all the suggestions here, you are right, I should get what I know. So, I currently have a google Pixel 4 (the XL size). I want to get the largest size again. So do you recommend the Pixel 6 or is there a newer one out that you would recommend? Since it sounds like you keep phones for a long time (me too) I would recommend getting the newest phone you are will to spend the money on. Haha, yes I do! Usually when it's time to think about a new phone, I struggle to decide whether to get the same or a different phone. So that's why I hold on to phones for so long. By the time I get a new one, my old phone is really slow.
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Post by maryland on Aug 1, 2023 23:04:05 GMT
Thank you! If my daughter sends me an IG direct message of a video from her iphone to my google pixel, would I be able to save that video? So I could have it on my phone and it would go to drop box? I have a Samsung and it worked, I just tried it. One would assume the Pixel would be also work. There is an arrow pointing down witha line under it on the video in Instagram, I pressed it and it said video saved. It is in my photo files. It looks fullscreen and clear. That's great that it worked! Thanks!
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Post by maryland on Aug 1, 2023 18:49:29 GMT
What is IG message? We will have to try that! Instagram's direct message. My mom, sister and I send each other stuff this way. My mom isn't on Facebook so Messanger wouldn't work for us. Snapchat works too. Thank you! If my daughter sends me an IG direct message of a video from her iphone to my google pixel, would I be able to save that video? So I could have it on my phone and it would go to drop box?
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Post by maryland on Aug 1, 2023 18:47:36 GMT
If you're tech challenged stick with the Pixel. Or if your kids are willing to help walk you through things get what they have. This, stick with what you know. Bonus - Pixels take wonder photos. I love my Pixel 6! Also has a Pixel 2 before. I think I will get a Pixel again!! After all the suggestions here, you are right, I should get what I know. So, I currently have a google Pixel 4 (the XL size). I want to get the largest size again. So do you recommend the Pixel 6 or is there a newer one out that you would recommend?
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Post by maryland on Aug 1, 2023 18:45:12 GMT
I want to thank everyone who has posted to help me! I feel so much better after reading everyones suggestions. They are all very much appreciated!
I think I will stick with a newer Google Pixel phone. As I am not good with technology, or change, I feel relieved that I have "support" in getting a google pixel again. And not having anyone to help me if I got an iphone, after Aug. 18th, I will be too stressed about it. So google pixel makes the most sense.
IF anyone still has suggestions, keep them coming. I am learning so much from you all, much more than I get at Best Buy or Verizon phone store. So thanks so much!
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