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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 2, 2014 12:35:21 GMT
Well, at the current moment both of my cats are trying to figure out a way to climb the walls. There is a huge ass tokay gecko that hangs around my back porch-actually there are a couple that come and go- and from time to time there are babies. One of them found a way into the house tonight and sitting *just* out of the cat's reach. One of my cats is repeatedly launching himself from the top of tv (which I had to tie down with earthquake straps) in an attempt to reach the teeny kamakazi gecko. We have a glass patio door that geckos and tree frogs enjoy hanging out on. Our two youngest cats have done up to 20, five-foot vertical leaps straight up that door trying to get to those critters. It's lots of fun to watch though the initial THUMP when they land can be scary if you don't notice they're about to attack. Our oldest cat is a "momma's cat." Wherever I'm sitting, she will be close, either cuddled against the back of my head on the couch or squeezed in between me and the arm of the chair. I can handle those. But at night, she becomes Cat Hat. She drapes herself across the top of my head with her paws hanging down like ear muffs. Since I'm 'enjoying' hot flashes, having the extra heat on top of my head at night doesn't make sleeping any easier.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 2, 2014 12:20:02 GMT
I had "zing-bop" curls until college. (Pull them out "zing" and release "bop") essentially, it was a mini-Afro or a shorter version of Shirley Temple's ringlets. So, no curler has ever been near my head. Instead, in the era of Farrah Fawcett and those damn feathered back wings of hair, I tried desperately to straighten my mass of curls. In the humidity of Florida, it is just pointless! The curls have softened with age, but I still don't waste the time trying to straighten my hair. My hair has always been curly too. What possessed my mom to give me a perm I'll never know. (Is your name Paige? I keep silently translating...page...)Yes, my name is Paige. I got the nickname Pahina in college from a friend who said I was a "little page" (5'3" and 105 lbs)--hence Pahina.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 2, 2014 12:15:59 GMT
Yes like chicken livers, cow heart and liver (raw of course) and other shit like that. It tastes as bad as you would think it does. Though I've never had cow heart (that I know of), fried chicken livers and gizzards are among my favorite foods, along with cow liver and onions. Maybe because of growing up in the Deep South? And living on the Gulf Coast, I love seafood. The only people I know who don't like it didn't grow up near the sea.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 2, 2014 0:08:15 GMT
My parents rarely listened to music, perhaps because they are both almost tone deaf! My associations of music with my parents are all related to hymns, like "Amazing Grace" or "the Navy Hymn." Actually, I have one strong memory of my shock at hearing "I Gave My Love a Cherry" done by someone who could sing. It had been the lullaby my mother attempted to sing to us as kids; other than the words, I didn't recognize it!
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 2, 2014 0:00:08 GMT
I could NEVER be a judge on Top Chef.
Raw tomatoes
Olives, any variety
Sour pickles
Lima beans
Avocado
Black licorice
Pimentos
Raw bananas (texture)
Anything grape flavored other than a GRAPE
On the other hand, I LURV liver, Brussel sprouts, broccoli, mushrooms, all seafood (including squid).
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 1, 2014 23:46:37 GMT
I had "zing-bop" curls until college. (Pull them out "zing" and release "bop") essentially, it was a mini-Afro or a shorter version of Shirley Temple's ringlets. So, no curler has ever been near my head. Instead, in the era of Farrah Fawcett and those damn feathered back wings of hair, I tried desperately to straighten my mass of curls. In the humidity of Florida, it is just pointless!
The curls have softened with age, but I still don't waste the time trying to straighten my hair.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 1, 2014 23:10:02 GMT
I left for college and lived in dorms or apartments during the school year and at home for most summers. So officially, I didn't permanently move out until I finished my MA and moved to Philadelphia at 23. I moved back home five years later for about six months so that I could do my student teaching (kind of hard to pay for an apartment AND pay for student teaching without being able to work). That lasted one semester, at which point my fiancé and I got an apartment together. I still tell my parents that if they hadn't tried so hard to treat me like a high school kid when I moved back home, I never would have hooked up with my ex-husband to escape them.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 1, 2014 1:09:00 GMT
Since DH and I both teach and DS is in high school, yes, definitely. DS and I are both night owls as well, which means the change will affect us most. Instead of waking up at 9:30 (me) or noon (DS), we will be getting up around 6:30. During the summer, even though I'm still teaching, it is all online AND other than two office hours per week, I can do it all from home. While I primarily teach online during the fall and spring as well, my college administrators have instituted a policy that we have to schedule those online classes as if we are in a classroom and be in our offices during those times-- which gives you an idea of how clueless they are about how an online class works.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 31, 2014 1:40:25 GMT
TO YOU. Maybe she doesn't swing that way. Maybe you finding her attractive is NOT why she or anyone wears a bikini. Holy crap Caro I am telling you that you are dead wrong!!! I will absolutely and positively say that I should not post because the fact that this thread was even created has me beyond pissed off! My husband has gained weight since we have been married due to medication. I love him and married him because of the person he is, not because of how much he weighs! I absolutely and positively find him attractive - because of who he is as a person. Do you even realize that there are dating sites for men to find overweight or even obese women? There was a girl that was REMOVED from instagram for posting an offensive picture. The picture was of an overweight girl in a bikini. They actually REMOVED a teenage girls account for being "offensive" when the situation went viral they apologized and reinstated the account. From your post it sounds like youre all for it. That is NOT okay by ANY standards!!!! Who in the hell thinks it is okay to do that to ANY HUMAN BEING? Every shade of wrong. To the original poster what if there is a pea on this board that is overweight that wears a bikini reading YOUR post - how in the world do you think that you just made her feel?? Mean, mean, mean. Sorry I am so angry, but who in the hell thinks it's okay to prejudge anyone on weight? Most will not care but I have absolutely no respect for ANYONE who would make another person feel bad about themselves to be mean. That's exactly what this thread is.....MEAN And wouldn't you say that you are going out of your way to be MEAN to Caro? She didn't walk up to any of the bikini clad women and berate them about their clothing choice. She didn't use abusive language, yet many on this thread have been absolutely vile to her for a remark that she didn't even realize would upset anyone. I, too, am overweight at 145 and 5' 3" and wouldn't wear a bikini-- not because I care what anyone else thinks but because I don't like how it looks. I'm pretty sure that most of us on this thread HAVE judged others on their clothing choices, so I'm finding the amount of outrage disturbing.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 30, 2014 23:59:53 GMT
He was 17 and I was 29 and engaged to my first husband. One of his high school teachers was dying of liver cancer and I took over her classes for a semester. We re-met 10 years later, online, after I divorced the ex.
As far as high school, I can only think of three couples that met in high school and are still married. Two were the obnoxious couples (gaga over each other and attached at the hip), but the third didn't start dating until he was halfway through the Naval Academy.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 30, 2014 1:44:56 GMT
Positive thoughts winging their way to her!
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 30, 2014 1:43:29 GMT
DH and I are (Jeff and Paige), but not DS. I've never seen his name anywhere. Of course, the fact that my name made it is something I would never have bet on when I was growing up. No other Paiges in my class until college.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 28, 2014 21:48:11 GMT
Well hubby came home for lunch and he called his sister. I asked if anything was resolved and he said yes. He said she told him that because we place no value on the family she won't either. What she is saying is she won't come to my 3 boys birthday. I am totally ok with that. It is a party, you are asked to come.... I can't control if you do or don't! I asked if she realizes that she is in the wrong and he said no. She said she can talk to whom ever she wants and that she had every right to argue with me. She is not sorry that I am upset and she couldn't care less. This is her MO....she went to her other brothers house and was screaming at him in front of his live in girlfriend. She said such insulting comments to them that I thought my BIL was going to lose it. Bad, bad things. So now when we have family holidays her comments are these " I can totally sit beside him. I'm the mature one". She is a button pushing know it all who can't control her mouth. No filter and no off button. This is where it gets sticky. I said to my husband I don't know how I'm expected to have fun and he replied if I can't then just he and son will go. I was hurt and said that if he wanted it to be just him and son then so be it. He replied that he wanted me along, but not if I can't go and leave her behavior out of it. So I replied "I should just stay home, and act like it didn't happen". He said yep..... AND WHAT FOR THIS.....my family will assume your a coward who couldn't face the day. But at least you won't be miserable. Since when does the person who keeps things civil get labeled a coward for trying to avoid bullies! That just may be my last straw. AM I TRULY NOT SEEING THIS RIGHT! ?! Please help me here. I have started crying and I'm seriously developing stomach issues here!! I can't help that I'm thin skinned and care if I hurt others. I don't look at that as a kiss if death. Why do I have to change? Personally, if my DH weren't going to step up and tell his witch sister that she is in the wrong, he would be in a world of hurt. He needs to tell his sister that because of her abusive behavior, y'all will not be attending any party this week or ever until she apologizes. If you are worried about your son missing out, take a family trip to the amusement park on another day. What has other BIL done or said since his confrontation? Why don't y'all just make plans with that portion of the family and just let SIL go be miserable by herself?
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 27, 2014 21:59:10 GMT
No fees of any sort here. No pay to play or participate in an extracurricular activity like band or drama. However, the kids end up doing lots of fund raisers to offset costs associated with going to competitions. Parents buy their own children's school supplies, tickets to dances, games, and performances, etc. but a kid can get through k12 without ever spending money on anything except basic supplies. Even AP test fees, dual enrollment registration and books are paid by the district. I see you are in Florida...(so am I) and I wonder if this a state-wide policy? We have the same policy here, and the only thing I pay is the rental fee for the Ipad assigned to my kid. There is something in place to pay for the kids who are unable to pay the $30 fee. I am pretty sure it is state policy, and like some others, I have serious reservations about calling an education free, but requiring fees for book rentals, bus service, etc. All of those types of things should be covered in the state sales and/or income tax. Florida doesn't have the best public education, but at least we don't pretend that it is free, yet make some people pay for it!
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 27, 2014 16:07:09 GMT
No fees of any sort here. No pay to play or participate in an extracurricular activity like band or drama. However, the kids end up doing lots of fund raisers to offset costs associated with going to competitions.
Parents buy their own children's school supplies, tickets to dances, games, and performances, etc. but a kid can get through k12 without ever spending money on anything except basic supplies. Even AP test fees, dual enrollment registration and books are paid by the district.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 26, 2014 18:20:14 GMT
Florida as well, with teachers returning August 11 and the students on August 18. The kids finished up the first week of June. My college students begin August 18 as well, but if students didn't take summer classes, they've been out since the first week of May.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 26, 2014 2:11:11 GMT
I saw somewhere (can't remember where) that there were a few additional episodes of Big Love outside of the 5 seasons, episodes which were effectively prequels, explaining how the family came together in the first place. Did anyone watch those? Is it worth my trying to find them?
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 26, 2014 1:55:05 GMT
All the pedicure companies around here are owned and completely staffed either by Vietnamese or Koreans, who speak little to no English. One of the women who does mine is so limited that she has to hand customers a printed list of services and have us point out which ones we want.
Even if they did speak English fluently, I generally go with friends, so we are all chatting together. No need to converse with anyone else.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 26, 2014 1:50:56 GMT
I'm watching it now for the first time on HBOgo, with one episode left in season 4. Before I even began watching, I knew that Bill would die at the end, so I'm really fascinated with how the series is leading up to that. And since I'm at all the crap with the casino, I'm thinking, "okay, so Barb ends up with Tommy, Margene can be with Ben, and that poor district attorney can hook up with the train wreck that is Nikki." I really dislike her character.
DH asked me a couple of hours ago why I'm so interested in this series. I'm not sure I have a good answer other than that I'm fascinated by the polygamist groups.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 26, 2014 1:43:53 GMT
I don't see it as an issue. Just as I buy my son or DH novelty boxers for fun without having any sexual thoughts about it, I wouldn't have a problem with DS's girlfriend buying him some either.
I was slightly sleeved when my mother bought my DH boxers with "working stiff" embroidered down the fly. She thought it was hysterical; I just thought it was a weird gift from my prudish mother.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 26, 2014 1:15:18 GMT
I don't find him funny, so the channel flips as soon as his program comes on. I don't find him creepy, though, which is a good thing since DH resembles him somewhat.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 24, 2014 20:18:28 GMT
I have one word for you. Rent. Chegg, book renter, amazon, B&N. Especially for gen ed undergrad. Don't waste your money. Seriously. THIS!! And don't get in a hurry to buy textbooks. Wait until after the first class. Often teachers have to put a book on the syllabus but they have no intention of using it. Or the student has to rearrange their schedule and the different section of the same class is using a different book. Most of the time the course schedule will let you go to the first class then have time to order books after you know for sure you need them. As a college prof, I agree with all of this. At the community college level in Florida, we are required to pick one required text for a class, but then can supplement with others. Many of us don't really use the "required" text, but have to put it on our syllabus any way. I frequently tell my Comp I students to take back the grammar handbook unless they just want it for a reference because that isn't what I focus on. And if you want a real laugh, just have a meeting with textbook reps who are trying to tell you how the company makes no money on the book after the first year it is published, how the evil rental companies are hurting the publishers, that it is the students' fault that prices are so high because they resell their books . . . .
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 24, 2014 15:51:35 GMT
I'm so glad that the meeting was a positive experience for all of you. It gives me hope that if my adopted DS ever decides to try to connect to any of his (five or six?) biological siblings, he will find it equally positive. So far, at 16, he's made no mention of wanting to, but that could change.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 24, 2014 15:37:20 GMT
My thoughts are with you and your family. May your mother rest in peace.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 24, 2014 15:16:59 GMT
For those of us who've never heard of Market Basket, what happened? We've certainly had grocery stores close or be bought out, but that doesn't seem to be what y'all are describing.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 24, 2014 15:12:49 GMT
As an English professor, that errant apostrophe drives me batty especially since those who typically throw it in where it doesn't belong REFUSE to use it in possessives where it is required. I understand that it is my job to teach students to write better, but they're in college! How did they miss the simple rules about apostrophes in their previous 12+ years of school?
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 24, 2014 15:00:47 GMT
Had almost quit posting before,yet feel much more at home here. THIS is home now. I'm not moving.
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 23, 2014 15:17:06 GMT
First husband, we didn't because there was an after-party in our condo and we were up all night. Second husband . . .
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 23, 2014 15:13:16 GMT
From my experience (I teach college), the norm in this area is both ears pierced. If the guy is white, he generally has gauges; if African-American, Hispanic or Asian, generally huge cubic zirconia studs. The only guys I've seen with hoops or dangly earrings are MUCH older and once thought they were rockers!
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Post by Pahina722 on Jul 23, 2014 15:01:34 GMT
BTDT as well, and lived to enjoy a much better life than I had with the cheating loser I was married to. You will as well.
Tell people what you want, but since it will get back to him, stay as neutral as possible. At first, he might be apologetic and begging for a second chance. He might be guilty and willing to give you everything you ask for. Take advantage of that because it won't last. Eventually he will build his big fantasy lie about how it is all your fault: you didn't support him, you were cold, you were in the wrong. And by that time, the more hurt, outrage, pain you show in your interactions with him, the more pleasure it will give him. And he will use it to get what he wants from you and anyone else he can con.
Stay strong for yourself and your daughter. And as PP have said, don't expect much from his family. They are shocked now, but he is their family member and most likely they will eventually take his side. Be cordial as it is your daughter's relatives, but don't lean on them.
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