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Post by Merge on Apr 13, 2021 15:56:53 GMT
“Olan, I'm an ally, I hear you, I validate your anger. I'm just not interested in getting in the middle of a pissing match between you and peas I know are also your allies.* This is the kind of infighting among liberals that, if it continues, will cause Trump to win another term and continue to empower those with racist tendencies to act on them. That's why you haven't seen me posting on this thread. For a more just country for everyone, we need to keep our eyes on the goal.” How it read to me “I hear you, I see you. I even see the peas who gaslight you, I’m still not about to check another white woman on your behalf sis. You tell me who is my ally even if I think she is an unrepentant bitch. You describe elaine comment and my response as a pissing match. You admonish me but not elaine. Here is my response to her saying she wouldn’t be surprised if I was met with mistreatment by police. A real pissing match 😑🙄 “ It would be a death wish to speak with disrespect to an officer as a black woman. I would venture to guess no one does this. With that sad fact aside your perception of me is guided in large part because I am a black woman. I'm no more or no less angry or surly than any other pea here. We also know that white criminals can behave any way they'd like and still receive better treatment than black criminals. Black people have been placated for a long time with this idea that if you are respectful and not a criminal you shouldn't have any problems interacting with police but then men in stalled cars and with licenses to carry are shot with no justice you realize that isn't the truth. I think a lot of white people are like elaine and believe that the mistreatment of black people is warranted and could be prevented if black people behaved differently.” You gone on to say the “in fighting” could cause 45 to win. I think we knew then the role Black women would have in the 2020 elections so warning me that I could be THE REASON was pretty rich and lacking personal responsibility but I digress. Where is this more just country you spoke of? From where I sit this morning it looks like more of the same. And before anyone tells me how I feel or how to feel...I’m pretty mad about it. Yep, I was in the wrong. I apologize. I don’t blame you for being mad. I’m listening and learning, and will do better. |
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Post by Merge on Mar 19, 2021 14:32:29 GMT
Thank you so much for sharing this tidbit. I think that being open about our personal struggles like this is empowering for everyone and goes a long way towards all of us seeing each other as human beings and not just a collection of internet posts (and this goes for all of us here - not just you). No condemnation here on any of what you said. I can only imagine how Black people have felt over the past few years and especially last year - if weed helped you through, particularly with mental illness, that’s awesome. I haven’t been responding to your recent posts because I don’t want to center myself in these discussions in any way, but I do read and ponder almost everything you post. Some of it makes me uncomfortable, and it’s probably better for me to just sit with that and listen some more instead of inserting myself in the conversation. If you can only imagine what I was going through where was your compassionate response? I remember you. 👀 My posts here at 2peas were very human (when I read some of my responses I get choked up, this is like a raw journal for me) and few responded in a compassionate way at all. After the election and with the continued racial violence against Black people, there likely wasn’t a Black person alive whose mental health was not suffering. So the idea that no one could see what I was going through here doesn’t ring true for me. What makes the most logical sense and would fall in line with past behavior is you saw what I was going through and were not moved to help. So umm no I was very vocal about how I was feeling and a small portion of the pea population was incredibly cruel. Another segment was silent as it happened. And then the rest jumped on or OFF the I hate Olan bandwagon depending on the climate at the time. Everyone thanks me now but the old threads speak for themselves Ok, thanks for sharing your perspective. |
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Post by Merge on Mar 19, 2021 14:03:38 GMT
Jesus Olan, your rambling makes you seem like you're on drugs or drunk. I don't even know what the hell you just said. Just a bunch of random gibberish trying to convince everyone that you're not trying to cause drama. Ugh. This was a really rough time for me as far as mental health goes. I had a really bad work environment in addition to everything Black people were experiencing as far as racial violence goes. I was likely high at the time of this “rambling”. I’ll remind everyone how trendy it is for white women to talk openly about their cannabis usage so it would be in pretty poor taste to damn me for it. I wouldn’t care if you did. Cannabis helps with not giving a fuck about what anyone thinks of you. Especially people YOU don’t think highly of. 😏 no pun Thank you so much for sharing this tidbit. I think that being open about our personal struggles like this is empowering for everyone and goes a long way towards all of us seeing each other as human beings and not just a collection of internet posts (and this goes for all of us here - not just you). No condemnation here on any of what you said. I can only imagine how Black people have felt over the past few years and especially last year - if weed helped you through, particularly with mental illness, that’s awesome. I haven’t been responding to your recent posts because I don’t want to center myself in these discussions in any way, but I do read and ponder almost everything you post. Some of it makes me uncomfortable, and it’s probably better for me to just sit with that and listen some more instead of inserting myself in the conversation. |
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Post by Merge on Aug 11, 2020 11:55:48 GMT
My oldest started antidepressants at around 16. Might have been 15. She now has a tentative bipolar diagnosis (age 19) and looking back, we can definitely see the start of that around the middle school years. She is currently on lamictal and they just added something else that starts with an O. So yeah, these things can start early and may or may not be related to any other issues she has. Keep an eye on her if the med is olanzapine. There is a huge weight gain side effect. I gained 45 pounds in a year on it. Also, I tend to run manic and it dragged me down into the worst depression I have ever had. I use it as a rescue med but not an everyday one. It is, and thanks - but that’s actually one of the reasons they put her on it. Anxiety symptoms have caused her to lose a lot of weight this past year, and she was slender to begin with. She’s also starting up with a therapist and nutritionist because it’s gotten to the point where she sometimes can’t eat even when she wants to. I have to say an unexpected side benefit of her staying home this fall due to online only classes is that I can better keep an eye on her and make sure she has access to nutritious food. She’s good about working to manage her own illness, but she’s also a typical college student who is often too lazy to get or prepare a decent meal. We will definitely watch for increased depression. I don’t think her doctor wants her on it long term. |
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Post by Merge on Jul 21, 2017 0:26:55 GMT
I don't know the backstory between you two but the fact that someone might be following a pea around the board and harassing them definitely crosses the line. It would make me reluctant to post.  And should be reported to admin I would think. There's no tolerance here for claiming that someone is harassing you this way. You're supposed to just "ignore" it. |
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Post by Merge on Jun 7, 2017 21:42:35 GMT
Olan, I'm an ally, I hear you, I validate your anger. I'm just not interested in getting in the middle of a pissing match between you and peas I know are also your allies. This is the kind of infighting among liberals that, if it continues, will cause Trump to win another term and continue to empower those with racist tendencies to act on them.
That's why you haven't seen me posting on this thread. For a more just country for everyone, we need to keep our eyes on the goal. Well I appreciate your explanation as to why you hadn't posted before now, it wasn't necessary. Also I should be allowed the autonomy to decide for myself who is an ally or an enemy. This WAS NOT a fight amongst liberals it was me Olan posting a study I found informative and Elaine commenting that with my posting history it wouldn't be a surprised if my interactions with police involved disrespect and mistreatment. I let her know (without the vitriol that she used to address me) that I felt her perception of me was in large part because I am an African American woman I also shared that her victim blaming tactics are common. We've seen that in almost every police shooting of black bodies haven't we. I stand by those words just as I stand by everything I type here...good or bad. As an ally its up to everyone to decide what behaviors they'd like call out *shurgs*. You can go back and read word for word what she said. If Elaine's comments bothered no one but me thats fine. I am perfectly capable of defending myself. Though I thought that was one of the most important roles of an ally. Calling out shit behaviors. Speaking up etc. X also has a pattern of odd behaviors that no one else seems to think is unfair to me. Yet there is never a time where even the most innocent of my comments are not twisted and handslapping and bandwagoning ensues. I am shown no grace. Ever. Elaine assumed a very clear comment was a personal attack on her and then tried to get everyone to believe she was right. When she kept insisting I insulted her I finally did. I stand by the comment her dress was ugly and no shoe would help because again I own my behaviors good or bad. Note you've taken the time to share with only me what you think my responsibility is in the 2020 elections. Was it fighting amongst liberals that got us into the predicament we find ourselves in now? No, I shared with everyone involved, not just with you. My comments apply to everyone here who wants to see a change in 2020. That goes for you, Elaine, and everyone else involved in this ridiculous pissing match. I'm not trying to tell you what to think or what to do - like you, I have my own opinion and get to express it here. And I know that these ladies are typically among those who speak out for justice and tolerance when racial issues are discussed here. And yes, I do think that fighting amongst liberals helped to get us to this point. Many Sanders supporters sat out the election because they were butthurt their candidate wasn't the nominee. Many who had voted for Obama sat out the election because Clinton "didn't excite them" enough. And here we all are. |
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Post by Merge on Jun 7, 2017 11:44:45 GMT
I am not jumping in on personal issues people have with one another. I am going to speak only to the OP. in my area a white councilman called another African American member "boy" during the same night anti-hate resolution was being proposed. This comes on the heels of a black student being killed at UMD and the white killer was from our town. On the heels of nooses being placed at a neighboring middle school. There is absolutely a lack of respect for many in the black community from some in law enforcement. Then there is suspicion and caution, then negative interactions, and the cycle continues. A lot of peas think they have personal issues with me but from henceforth they will have no worries. Released ha! Not another acklowedgement from me. It's the same characters each time. And with the same damn tactics. It would be nice to have "allies" call out the foolishness but it's really no skin off my back. Olan, I'm an ally, I hear you, I validate your anger. I'm just not interested in getting in the middle of a pissing match between you and peas I know are also your allies. This is the kind of infighting among liberals that, if it continues, will cause Trump to win another term and continue to empower those with racist tendencies to act on them. That's why you haven't seen me posting on this thread. For a more just country for everyone, we need to keep our eyes on the goal. |
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