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Post by Merge on Jun 20, 2024 20:56:38 GMT
So you're saying that none of this below was directed at me after your comment on the labels thread? Only if the shoe fits? Clearly, many here are triggered by labels. I really like the cute ankle socks from Old Navy. 🧦 So yes, that was directed at me, and yet you felt the need to be snotty about ME supposedly not being able to let it go. How embarrassing for you.
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Post by Merge on Jun 20, 2024 19:39:18 GMT
I have nothing to do with anything being marked or unmarked in recent days. I do think simple consideration would mean that peas would leave labeling or not to the OP of the thread, simply to avoid the “I’m tagging this because there’s something in it that I disagree with” pattern. As for unnecessary drama, Zee , give it a rest. Drama keeps the board more active than a thousand posts about socks. Give it a rest? Are you telling me I am not allowed to comment with my opinion, which is probably the second comment I've made about it on two separate threads, but I haven't been counting because it's not something I'm fixated on. Maybe you need to take your own advice because you seem awfully sensitive about the entire thing. Let it go, Elsa. So you're saying that none of this below was directed at me after your comment on the labels thread?
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Post by Merge on Jun 20, 2024 19:36:36 GMT
Give it a rest? Are you telling me I am not allowed to comment with my opinion, which is probably the second comment I've made about it on two separate threads, but I haven't been counting because it's not something I'm fixated on. Maybe you need to take your own advice because you seem awfully sensitive about the entire thing. Let it go, Elsa. I agree. Is she implying that drama threads are more valuable then innocent posts? Is she saying that drama threads are more productive then then fluff posts? Is she saying that people shouldn't post fluff threads? Not sure what her point is but she is being unnecessarily bitchy about this whole thing. She made some rude posts on the og politics label thread. This has clearly hit a nerve with her and her reactions seem over the top. Sure drama threads are interesting and do keep the board hopping but this wouldn't be much of a place people wanted to be if it was all drama all the time. We need a balance. Ahem. That's a lot of words you put in my mouth. Nowhere did I say that drama threads are more valuable. But as people have frequently complained about the board moving slowly, it seemed appropriate to point out that sock threads don't speed up the board. I responded back to Zee on this because she seemed to be calling me out with another comment about "unnecessary drama." If I misperceived what she posted, my apologies. I do not believe I was rude on the other thread. I think labeling someone else's post without their permission is pretty rude, though.
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Post by Merge on Jun 20, 2024 19:30:30 GMT
I’ve been thinking about this for a while. I hope jeremysgirl is open to hearing a view point that may differ from the popular opinions. Full disclosure- I am older, I have multiple medical issues and take multiple medications. I have been normal weight, overweight and obese. I am a Type 2 diabetic.I have CKD as a result of my diabetes. I’m very interested in health and eating healthy. My opinion follows: During Covid, I was able to spend time reading more about the “Body Positivity” movement. Products like Dove’s Self-esteem project. More reports and discussions about not shaming, disrespecting or discriminating someone over their weight. A person worth, value and character should not be based on their looks, particularly their weight. All very encouraging news. Studies on the importance of being “fit” at any size, with less emphasis on weight and more on heart health and strength. Maybe I was looking for affirmation that being overweight was okay. Normal, even. Things started to go off the rails a little when I went down the HEALTH at Any Size, which morphed into HEALTHY at every size rabbit hole. (these are 2 very different movements). “ HEALTH at Every Size is based on five principles: weight inclusivity, health enhancement, respectful care, eating for wellbeing, and life-enhancing movement, all of which support building healthy habits, as opposed to fixating on weight status.” Sounds reasonable. Don’t focus on weight, work on being healthy and fit. Then, somewhere along the line, I notice that the HAES movement was ‘co-opted” by a different group, changing “health” to “healthy”. Lots of discussions on abandoning “the diet culture”, love the body you have, embrace your weight, practice “intuitive eating”. And this is where the body positivity movement lost me. I’ll not go into detail, but just say while ‘eating what you want, when you want’ and ‘listen to your body’, it’s okay to be fat ideology, may resonate and work for some people, some time, I came away feeling that’s not a very healthy way to live and to eat for most people. This group advocates throwing out your scale, don’t let any doctor weigh you, don’t trust registered dietitians or doctors in general. They feel it’s okay to IE and gain weight. Seek guidance from a IE dietitian. Trust the process. I’ll concede to the idea that “diets don’t work” for everyone, but plausible deniability that eat whatever you want, whenever you want is a good plan because you read it in a book or on the internet is a good course of action - I think not. I believe no one should be shamed for their appearance. With that said, I do find that some “body positivity” advocates encourage certain individuals with weight concerns to be deeply in denial about the possibility of long term, often dangerous side effects of being overweight / obese. I fully acknowledge my own biases. I lost my weight by seeing a Registered Dietitian and an accredited certified Diabetic Counselor. I’ve had multiple weeks of classes and medical followups. I followed a food plan, based on what was good for my body. I lost over 60 pounds. I now still loosely follow this plan. I try to be mindful of my calorie intake and to make good food choices, but allow myself to have a treat every now and then. It is a lifetime plan and it works for me. Honestly, after almost four decades of dieting and internalizing those feelings of shame and failure that come along with diet culture, intuitive eating is what turned things around for me. The point is not to gorge yourself on anything you want. The point is to stop thinking of any food as off limits, or, more importantly, to stop thinking of any food as one you don't "deserve" because of your body size. After some time simply eating what my body wanted, the starve/binge cycle stopped for me and I no longer think about food constantly. This was transformative. I had spent all of my life since age 11 battling constant hunger, thinking always about what I could eat next that was on my plan, and hating myself when I gave in to the hunger and overate. Getting back all that mental energy and being able to discard the anxiety was huge. I now eat what I want, with an emphasis on nourishing my body. I exercise in ways that I enjoy, with an emphasis on functional strength. I have taken steps to reduce my stress and to make sure I'm getting enough sleep. I am absolutely done starving, sculpting, and punishing my body. Contrary to what many believe will happen when you return to normal, hunger-based eating decisions, I have not gained weight and have in fact lost a bit (very slowly). I'm still fat by society's standards, but my health is great. So oh well. What I have is peace. No food thoughts clamoring constantly in my head, no spending mental energy tracking every calorie and macro, no shame or guilt when I enjoy a food I previously considered "bad." No hunger-induced fatigue or brain fog. And no more money spent on weight loss programs, supplements, medications, etc. Of course, this is still pretty countercultural. Women especially have been conditioned to believe that every one of us must be trying to lose weight and/or firm or tone something all the time, and some people get angry when others refuse to conform. So the angry people feel the need to criticize to demonstrate their own perceived superiority. Encouraging people to love themselves as they are is not encouraging them to ignore their health. I think it's more true that a heavy person who hates themselves (as society demands) is more likely to avoid doctors' appointments, feel unworthy of the cost and effort associated with a nutritious meal, and fall prey to the starve/binge cycle.
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Post by Merge on Jun 20, 2024 14:21:28 GMT
Over the years I have seen/heard a lot of comments here and in other places that indicate people are upset that people treat them differently after they lose weight. I don’t think it is as simple as that. I have noticed that when people lose weight, their energy, attitude, confidence changes as well. If you watched the Biggest Loser you would notice it then, but also if you follow anyone on social media or YouTube who has lost weight, you can see a change in their demeanor in their posts. As someone upthread said, their aura has changed. To some extent with some people. I also know women who have lost a great deal of weight through surgery or other extreme means who were disappointed to realize that being thin didn’t actually solve any of their other problems. Their marriage was still a wreck, their kids were still troubled, their career was still at a dead end and their house was still a mess, figuratively speaking. We’re sold this whole bill of goods about how being thin is the key to health and happiness. That is often not the case at all.
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Post by Merge on Jun 20, 2024 0:31:15 GMT
I think because people can see someone’s weight, they feel confident in judging their health. I hate the you-can’t-be-obese-and-be-healthy comments. They aren’t really true. Extra weight causes stress on joints? Sure. So does running but we never tell runners they aren’t healthy. Extra weight taxes the heart? Sometimes. But so does being too skinny, malnourished, smoking…..you cannot judge a person’s health status by their weight. I have plenty of obese patients with perfect cholesterol and A1C, and plenty of skinny ones whose labs are awful. I’m not sure why we like to judge, maybe to feel superior? I don’t know. But we can’t judge and we shouldn’t. Not our business. As for food choices, there aren’t any good foods or bad foods. There are more and less nutrient rich foods. I heard about the “anti nutrient” thing recently and people who don’t eat vegetables because of these anti nutrients and I just rolled my eyes. If someone is given dietary restrictions by a doctor or nutritionist, that’s between them and their doc. And I don’t want o hear anyone say anything about how they could never eat my lunch because they are too healthy. My sister in law limits how much fruit her kids can eat. Do I think that’s extreme? Yep. But it’s none of my business. Now if your “brand” is fitness or nutrition you’re posting on social people, people are allowed to comment. That’s what those people are looking for-engagement. If a friend loses weight and I know they’d like a compliment they get it. A stranger doesn’t get appearance compliments unless it’s something they actively did, like their hair style or clothing choices. No one really wants to hear why I think anyway! I agree with the first part - way too many people feel entitled to say, “I’m sharing this because I’m concerned about your health” in the absence of any actual individual health data, when what they really mean is, “I think you’re too fat and feel this is an acceptable way for me to say it.” And it’s not. The other issue I have with people giving diet advice online is that ten different people will say you’re doing ten different things wrong. You can post your meal plan and daily calories/exercise and say you’re not losing. One person will say that you need to be doing fasting, another will say to reduce carbs, another will say you need to be WFPB, another one will say to cut your daily calories from 1200 to 800, and another will say eat a caveman diet. And none of this advice may be right for you, but people will swear up and down that you must not really care about losing weight/being healthy if you don’t do what they say. Diet culture counts on this. If diets worked, we wouldn’t have people claiming thirteen different things about how to lose weight. And of course their advice rarely includes important things like reducing stress and getting enough sleep, because they can’t monetize those things. If you have health issues, please consult a doctor about how to treat or reverse them. No fitness model on IG cares about your actual health. They’re only about appearance, and a lot of that is determined by genetics anyway.
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Post by Merge on Jun 19, 2024 18:59:52 GMT
I agree with much of what you said pantsonfire. I have been on a real bender for a very long time to cook from scratch. Unfortunately, while my homemade cookies might be better than store bought cookies. They are still cookies, kwim? I also happen to have three strikes against me as far as weight loss goes. I have PCOS, hypothyroidism, and I take antipsychotic medications. That's completely outside of what my mental health is really like and when it is off for long periods of time, I don't have a lot of control. I am empathetic to those with challenges. I am one of those with challenges. I also know that there are areas where I can make changes. And I'm hoping even if I see absolutely no scale movement, that I see it in my health markers. I also fully embrace the idea that people should be comfortable in their bodies. I don't have a hang up about how my body looks. I don't even wear makeup or anything like that. But I do absolutely care how my body feels. And as a person who is significantly overweight and has been nearly 70 pounds thinner just 11 years ago, I know exactly what difference is in how my body feels. Especially when I am trying to move it. I just feel like a lot of things we know are right are being questioned. And I'm concerned that in the interest of not hurting people's feelings (mostly online in forums where these things are being discussed) we are just denying things we all know to be true. I'm not sure I said that right. I do not advocate hurting someone's feelings. But it shouldn't hurt to say Oreos are not a healthy choice from a variety of measures. Unless you are privy to someone’s medical history and bloodwork and they have asked for your opinion, you have no business making assumptions out loud about their health or risks. That is true regardless of body size. And an Oreo or two here and there can be part of a perfectly healthy diet. Let’s get past the point where people feel justified in criticizing a larger person for eating a cookie. You don’t know what the rest of their diet looks like, and you don’t know what their health is like. Despite what we’ve all been told, many people who are classed as “overweight” by the arbitrary standard of BMI are perfectly healthy.
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Post by Merge on Jun 19, 2024 18:53:46 GMT
One of the best things about subbing is that if you take a job that you don’t like, you don’t have to go back the next day. I had several jobs where I didn’t like the work they left me, the kids were difficult, and I knew at 2:45 I would be completely done with it. By the time I hit January, I had nothing but good days. I knew exactly what jobs I should take or avoid. Yep. I have certain teachers who I will always sub for no matter who is in their class (this is elementary only) because I know they will leave good plans, I know they insist on discipline in their room, etc. Other teachers I might sub for depending on who's in their class, because I know exactly which kid is going to be difficult and if a teacher doesn't have good classroom management...well, no thanks. ![:P](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/OrTI4SBmZ2ZYSFv6ag4f.jpg) And then there are teachers who I avoid altogether because their plans are a hot mess and even kids who were not a behavior problem going in to that class will have a tendency to backslide. Nope. katybee, as soon as word gets around that you're subbing teachers will be chasing after you in the hallways to get your contact info. You will be able to totally pick and choose. Do you never get moved to another, “more important” classroom? It was very common for me or one of my specialist teammates to line up a sub ahead of time and leave good plans, only for the sub to get moved by admin to a regular classroom where the teacher called in last minute and split the specials classes up among the other teachers. Same thing with primary grades vs the all important tested grades. You might agree to first grade and find yourself moved to fourth.
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Post by Merge on Jun 19, 2024 14:34:29 GMT
I have nothing to do with anything being marked or unmarked in recent days. I do think simple consideration would mean that peas would leave labeling or not to the OP of the thread, simply to avoid the “I’m tagging this because there’s something in it that I disagree with” pattern. As for unnecessary drama, Zee, give it a rest. Drama keeps the board more active than a thousand posts about socks.
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Post by Merge on Jun 19, 2024 13:43:06 GMT
Our district has forbidden teachers to use TPT. A parent complained that they saw that one of their child's teachers was using it and not "doing her own work" and then everyone was told they couldn't use the site. Have you ever heard anything more ridiculous? Best of luck - sounds like a good plan! That's silly. What does that parent think happens in a grade (usually elementary) that does collaborative planning? At the school where I sub there are several grades where one teacher plans language arts, one does math, and one does science/social studies. Then they get together to share those plans and talk about how they'll implement them. So none of them are "doing their own work" any more than your teachers would be when they buy TPT plans. Clearly that parent has no idea how things work... It's the implementation of ideas and plans that will make or break the lesson, not the fact that the teacher bought a lesson outline. Not to mention that in many cases they have required curriculum from the district that has to be used in lessons. The work is in massaging the curriculum to fit the needs of the kids in front of you. Sometimes that means picking up some supplemental materials from a place like TpT. We’re not all going on Canva to reinvent the wheel every time when there are beautiful options available elsewhere for a few bucks.
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Post by Merge on Jun 18, 2024 16:37:37 GMT
Pretty in Pink Breakfast Club The Outsiders Ferris Bueller (might be more adjacent)
I watched the documentary and what stuck out to me was them saying that this was the first time in history movies were made for a specifically teenage audience.
Is that true? I thought all the beach movies in the 60s were targeted at a teen audience but maybe I’m wrong about that. They were well before my time.
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Post by Merge on Jun 18, 2024 11:25:03 GMT
It’s disgusting. As far as I can tell, there is no statute of limitations on child sex assault on Texas. Who would need to bring charges? Tarrant County? The state?
Unfortunately I’m not sure we can rely on either of those entities to bring charges against a white Republican “Christian” man.
IMO everyone involved in the coverup should be charged, including the father if he’s still alive.
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Post by Merge on Jun 18, 2024 11:13:04 GMT
The best thing I have ever done for my mental health was join a choir. I was in a really dark place last year, and by luck I came across Rock Choir (which I have mentioned here before.) It has changed my life. We rehearse on Thursdays and I come out every week on an absolute high. Our choir leader is very proactive at finding gigs for us and we do regular performances, sometimes more than one a week. Singing itself is wonderful for mental health (studies show it triggers all the feel good chemicals in your brain), but I’ve made some great new friends there too, and everyone in the choir is really friendly. I love this! Yes, singing or making music in groups is great for mental health.
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Post by Merge on Jun 18, 2024 11:11:28 GMT
So is this going to be their “reason” for banning them. I know women that don’t like chemical birth control but other forms aren’t preferred and I know the church would like to stop IUDs. Yeah, that’s not why they want to ban birth control.
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Post by Merge on Jun 18, 2024 1:52:09 GMT
Yes. In fact, we plan to do exactly that.
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Post by Merge on Jun 18, 2024 1:50:48 GMT
Honestly I would go back to his psych doctor or find a different one. Our DDs diagnosis and meds have changed so many times. I swear the doctors don’t know what to do with older adolescents/young adults because so many behaviors could either be pathological or just a young person being a young person.
Ours has had issues with self-sabotage in jobs, where she feels overwhelmed so she does something that will cause them to let her go. She’s also had issues with getting up on time, to the point where we got her an extra alarm clock that sits across the room (she will turn off her phone alarm and go back to sleep nine times out of ten).
Hugs to you. It’s so hard when your young adult kid isn’t thriving the way everyone else’s seems to be. I really recommend going back to the doctor and seeing if they still feel sure about his diagnoses and medications.
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Post by Merge on Jun 18, 2024 1:43:12 GMT
That’s great! TpT is often such a great resource. I continue to use music theory worksheets I’ve purchased there in my private studio.
I hope you make a killing!
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Post by Merge on Jun 17, 2024 18:01:38 GMT
We've done it both ways. I like the mayo method because I rarely have softened butter available (though another method is to quickly melt the butter in the pan and plop the sandwich on top of it). Def. American cheese only, and white or sourdough bread. We almost always have softened butter on the counter too, but if I’m making grilled sandwiches for the whole family if there isn’t a whole stick there won’t be enough, LOL. We also almost always have mayonnaise and the eggs and oil in it supposedly have a different smoke point than butter and promote browning. I really need to remember to try it the next time we’re in the mood for a grilled cheese. I think that in general if the sandwiches are made with the butter melted in the pan, the sandwiches turn out more greasy especially on the first side. Wouldn’t the bread soak up most of the butter when you first plop it in the pan? I don’t think I would like that aspect of it. When I’m making pancakes, the first one always seems a little greasier even if I’m spraying the pan with something like Pam vs. butter. If you use the same amount of butter in the pan that you would normally spread on the bread, I'm not sure why it would be more greasy.
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Post by Merge on Jun 17, 2024 17:32:27 GMT
We've done it both ways. I like the mayo method because I rarely have softened butter available (though another method is to quickly melt the butter in the pan and plop the sandwich on top of it).
Def. American cheese only, and white or sourdough bread.
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Post by Merge on Jun 16, 2024 16:05:05 GMT
Sunday morning and the labels are gone, per my viewing on the laptop--but I have not checked other pages. Will this become a legendary thread? LOL, maybe we should go ahead and coin it Tag-Gate? 🤣 Yes! I’ve never started a “gate” thread before . After 18 years on the NSBR, I have arrived! 😂
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Post by Merge on Jun 16, 2024 11:57:54 GMT
I'm actually enjoying aging, for now. I am happier and more comfortable in my own skin than I've ever been. I realize that I'm extremely fortunate to be able to semi-retire, and also to be able to continue working with kids (like peabay, I feel they keep me young). And I've been able to travel far more than my parents ever did. DH and I are both committed to taking care of ourselves so we can be mobile and active for as long as possible. I suppose a benefit of never having been a great beauty with a hot body at any point in my life is that I don't miss those things now. Zee said My 23 year old would strongly disagree with you about that. Young men (and older men) are the same assholes they always were in that regard.
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Post by Merge on Jun 16, 2024 11:47:18 GMT
If you believe having the tag appended to your post against your will is suffering, you’ve kind of proved my point. But I don’t condone the actions of whoever did it. Stupid if you ask me. Incorrect. I didn't realise some of you were new to the English language, or I wouldn't have used such difficult concepts like hyperbole. So no, I don't actually believe having the tag applied on my post is suffering....if you read my reply, firstly I was obviously not using that term in the literal sense, and secondly I wasn't talking about any of my posts specifically. I've had my posts labelled before and I've just undone it. But triggering the troll who labelled every single post with both tags simply to annoy you, did annoy me and probably a bunch of other people too. I'm sorry you weren't astute enough to realize I was replying in kind. As for "triggering the troll," that's on the troll. I'm not responsible for anyone's behavior here but my own. I wasn't aware that starting a controversial thread was disallowed now, but I'll keep it mind. I'm sure that new rule (shall we call it the pjaye rule?) will definitely help the board move faster. (That was sarcasm, in case you weren't aware.)
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Post by Merge on Jun 16, 2024 10:49:29 GMT
Reuse. Washing towels every day is a waste of water and electricity.
The biggest problem in our climate is that damp towels often get stinky, so I am forever spreading them out more on the towel bars to try to help them dry.
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Post by Merge on Jun 16, 2024 10:36:06 GMT
It will never stop. This is what the US is now. A country where we care more about guns than about children, and where women's bodies are regulated more than guns ever will be.
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Post by Merge on Jun 16, 2024 10:33:46 GMT
Thanks to merge's little snowflake rant, now the whole board has to suffer. if 15 people pick a page each and undo the labels, then the petty little troll might give up. If you believe having the tag appended to your post against your will is suffering, you’ve kind of proved my point. But I don’t condone the actions of whoever did it. Stupid if you ask me.
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Post by Merge on Jun 16, 2024 0:02:36 GMT
Welp, nothing here will change because it never does, but I have now provided a semi-active drama thread for the masses. You’re welcome. Somebody else’s turn.
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Post by Merge on Jun 15, 2024 22:53:15 GMT
Oh dear, should I be afraid? I think we have psycho on the board. I can't imagine what type a life this psycho has to waste hours marking threads with labels becasue someone pissed them off my not agreeeing with them. We certainly have someone with too much time on their hands.
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Post by Merge on Jun 15, 2024 22:51:29 GMT
Mustard and sauerkraut, if available, are my favorite way to eat a hot dog.
Ketchup and mayo on a burger.
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Post by Merge on Jun 15, 2024 22:47:48 GMT
Holy crap. Got on my PC to download some photos and it seems this troll decides to mark all the threads as political just not page 1. I went to page 5 and yup, all posts marked as political. 🤦🏻♀️ Not sure if it was a troll. Perhaps Merge may be trying to make a point. Nope. I’ve been on my phone when I’ve been here since this morning. No tagging posts on the phone and I don’t have to look at the apparent work of the troll. If I decided to make a point, it would be more subtle. Like inserting overtly political posts into the game threads. 😂
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Post by Merge on Jun 15, 2024 20:00:31 GMT
Well, this is disturbing for me. Yesterday I sat at a park in my car, remembering that 38 years ago I met the love of my life. He couldn’t be there with me because, well, Covid killed him 3 months before the vax was available. (My mother too) my bitterness toward the former admin can’t be measured. People have said, well at least FEMA reimbursed you for the funeral costs. That was the LEAST they could have done. And adding this new tidbit sure doesn’t make me feel much better. I’m so very sorry.
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