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Post by elaine on Dec 6, 2019 3:51:36 GMT
I could. Honestly, sometimes if someone is dealing with raw feelings about something and opens up here because they think it's "safe", they may get unexpected insensitive and pile-on commenting from others, at times, and it can really affect someone. I think it has gotten much better here, but I really am not a fan of "keyboard courage" and no matter how much people swear up and down that they would treat others IRL the same, that just isn't true in the majority of cases. I am biased, though...I work as a negotiator and in my 20+ years I've seen the difference in how much better deals go ALL the time when we work together face-to-face. The key is to only post what you feel comfortable with anyone seeing and have some empathy before responding. Trolls, though.....just chuck them out the window! This. I took a number of months off at the first half of this year because of family issues and I knew that I wasn’t in a good head space at the time to deal with the occasional troll/old-peas-come-back-under-new-names chatter that goes on here. I knew that I positively could not hear any comments about what was going on. I came back when I was ready. There was no need for a hair flip or an announcement that I was going because I did it for me and my mental health, not to impact others. I also left the old board for well over a year because of a user who was trolling me and the board became more negative than positive for me in the grand balance of things. And when the negatives outweigh the positives, that is another time it is good to step away. I think that sometimes stepping away from the board is a really healthy thing - especially for some people in some situations. Unless there was a safety or legal reason to deactivate/eliminate my username and history, I wouldn’t ever do that, always leaving the door open for coming back.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 6, 2019 3:55:34 GMT
I think if someone got really unnecessarily nasty I would step back but I don’t know that I could completely leave forever. After all this time I feel like I “know” so many of you and whether you all like it or not you’re my tribe so you’re stuck with me! Plus I’m trying to crack 20K posts and I couldn’t possibly leave before that!
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 6, 2019 4:04:00 GMT
Plus I’m trying to crack 20K posts and I couldn’t possibly leave before that! Me too. And I kind of want to see how long it takes me to get to my final total at the old bucket
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 6, 2019 4:07:52 GMT
Plus I’m trying to crack 20K posts and I couldn’t possibly leave before that! Me too. And I kind of want to see how long it takes me to get to my final total at the old bucket Ooh, you are so close!
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kelly8875
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Post by kelly8875 on Dec 6, 2019 4:40:42 GMT
I can’t think of a reason to leave. If nothing else, there’s always a reason to have some popcorn. Or for us Americans, mashed potatoes 😂
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Post by Delta Dawn on Dec 6, 2019 4:40:43 GMT
I didn’t sign up for the Christmas card thread because I figured all I’d get was hate mail. I want Peas to be fun.
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Post by elaine on Dec 6, 2019 4:42:36 GMT
I can’t think of a reason to leave. If nothing else, there’s always a reason to have some . Or for us Americans, mashed potatoes 😂 With gravy. Lots of gravy. Gravy may be an international unite-er. 😄
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samantha25
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Post by samantha25 on Dec 6, 2019 4:49:01 GMT
On the Wow Just Wow blog I was the last post... 5000 on July 25, 2015 Memories like the corner of my mind....
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Post by maryland on Dec 6, 2019 4:50:22 GMT
If you do, can you do it near a holiday like Christmas or Thanksgiving so that we can bring it up around the same time each and every year? I will do what I can. Maybe if I hair flip at a different time, I'll come back and stir the pot at a holiday. My username will be freecharliesback No freecharlie, you can't ever leave! I love your posts!
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Post by dewryce on Dec 6, 2019 4:54:09 GMT
I sometimes take breaks that have nothing to do with the board itself. During one of those when I came back the board was gone I don’t remember what had me googling TwoPeas a few years ago but I’m glad I did and made my way back. I can’t think of anything that would make me intentionally leave for good. I’m a firm believer in the ignore feature and that helps my enjoyment of the board immensely.
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Post by andreasmom on Dec 6, 2019 4:59:57 GMT
This is my Hotel California. Don’t post much, but i’ve been here forever.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Dec 6, 2019 5:32:19 GMT
This is my Hotel California. Don’t post much, but i’ve been here forever. I've been here and and the old 2 peas since 2005. I may not post a lot, but I'm here.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Dec 6, 2019 5:53:12 GMT
I survived an attack from Nurse Kitty soon after I started posting so I can survive most anything. I mean, saying *Today on 2Peas...* has started many conversations with DH that he would miss y'all as much as I would.
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 6, 2019 5:56:56 GMT
I mean, saying *Today on 2Peas...* has started many conversations with DH that he would miss y'all as much as I would. Hahaha same here!
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luckyjune
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Post by luckyjune on Dec 6, 2019 5:58:19 GMT
I joined the original board almost 19 years ago. I did leave it after I was involved in a conversation and was pounced on for giving my opinion on a subject. There was no hair flip and I'm not sure why I decided to leave at that time. I guess I was feeling hurt and attacked by two people I'd previously admired and it just felt so unjust. After being away for a few years, which was weird after making 2peas part of my daily routine, I started poking around out of curiosity. I found that the original board was gone and then found this place.
I joined under a new name, mostly out of not wanting to run into the "pouncers." One is gone and one remains active here. I simply stay clear of conversations with her.
I was glad to find that this board is a kinder version of the old one. The snark sill surfaces, but it is the snark that I find funny rather than cutting...most of the time! I missed the connections and the wisdom of the old board and I'm happy to have rediscovered those qualities here.
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Post by socalscrapper on Dec 6, 2019 6:13:34 GMT
Probably never! I've been around since the old 2Peas days. I still wish I knew my original number. I used to be more active but lately, I come here about once a week and lurk. I have learned so much about life over the years from the NSBR board. I love this place!
Kristi
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Post by gar on Dec 6, 2019 7:23:07 GMT
It seems unlikely that I'll leave at this point Vintagegirl was presumably someone we already knew but in this incarnation she came and went pretty quickly didn't she! I didn't 'know' the other 2 and there doesn't seem to have been anything particular happen. Very odd.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2019 8:44:08 GMT
If I couldn't pay for the internet or data. If the board got super boring If I decided to leave, I would totally hairflip out. I would want my exit to be of pea lore. You know like, where were you when freecharlie hairflipped and then a 6 page thread would follow where everybody recounted their own storyOnly 6 pages? You're doing yourself an injustice it would be at least 10
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Post by cecilia on Dec 6, 2019 8:49:52 GMT
I have taken breaks before. Mainly because some peas got hateful towards me. There was even a time this year I thought about leaving. Didn't though. I just refuse to talk about that subject any more
I don't know if I will ever leave for good though.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2019 9:02:51 GMT
Nothing that I can think of at the moment. If I did leave it would more likely be a change of circumstances - less freetime, change of job type of thing but even then I probably wouldn't leave just post less or spend less time reading.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2019 10:30:20 GMT
If I made a post using there instead of their and someone pointed it out I'd be way too embarrassed to ever return.
I don't think I'd leave over someone being nasty, I'd just stand my ground and carry on like I do in real life.
You've all held me up through the worst of times so I'm staying.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Dec 6, 2019 10:37:05 GMT
In general, nothing would cause me to leave.
There are plenty of topics or posters..... I choose to scroll on by without comment, or not open particular threads at all. There are plenty of topics and subjects that I seek out and love to read. There are members whose posts I value and look forward to their commentary. In general, here on this board and in my daily life......I go with the philosophy of "Not everyone is going to like me, and I am not going to like everyone....and that is very okay".
I am here for the camaraderie. It's my version of a daily thing to do (read the newspaper, watch a soap opera, etc...).
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Dalai Mama
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Post by Dalai Mama on Dec 6, 2019 10:57:52 GMT
There was an anti-Muslim post on the old board that made me take an extended break. I’m pretty good with most things but when otherwise perfectly reasonable peas who I typically like start spewing xenophobic vomit, I’m good to go.
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craftykitten
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Post by craftykitten on Dec 6, 2019 11:47:08 GMT
I have told DH he has to come and post here if I die.
The love in this place is unreal and you have all kept me going through the worst of times.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Dec 6, 2019 12:03:16 GMT
I did an extended break once. But it was due to outside circumstances. At this point though I've made too many friends, real friends, to leave the board permanently. I really feel that despite the occasional slap, this board adds value to my life. And let's face it, I like to chat. About things. About all the things. About everything. Ok, ok I talk too much!!!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Dec 6, 2019 12:06:25 GMT
As an aside, you know what I think is kind of funny? Sometimes I think you guys know me better than some of the members of my family. Because you have heard some of my most private feelings and opinions about topics I'll never in a million years discuss with them. You might have a more accurate picture of me than they do.
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Post by elaine on Dec 6, 2019 12:11:22 GMT
As an aside, you know what I think is kind of funny? Sometimes I think you guys know me better than some of the members of my family. Because you have heard some of my most private feelings and opinions about topics I'll never in a million years discuss with them. You might have a more accurate picture of me than they do. I love this and think it is true. You all here do get a more in-depth view of my thoughts and feelings about a wide-variety of topics than my family or others in my life. My husband is probably the only person IRL who knows me as well as people here.
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purplebee
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Post by purplebee on Dec 6, 2019 12:14:13 GMT
This is my Hotel California. Don’t post much, but i’ve been here forever. Me too...
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Post by J u l e e on Dec 6, 2019 12:17:57 GMT
I left Facebook with barely a thought, but it would take a lot for me to leave here permanently. I’m here much less and post less, but it’s definitely a part of my life I’d miss if it were gone completely!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2019 12:19:47 GMT
I’ve lurked here and at the old board forever but rarely post. I love the humor of the peas! I left once trying to go technology free for a while. I thought if I canceled my account altogether (FB, 2Peas etc) I wouldn’t be tempted to log in...NOT! 😂 I rejoined as justjoan; used to be AngelJunkie.
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