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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 6, 2019 17:06:22 GMT
I feel like not many would even notice I would be gone.. but a huge hairflip would be fun. Unless the board just slows down so much I start not logging in and eventually leave, I am here for the stay. Sometimes I will go away for a bit if got sucked into drama, but I usually don't.
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 6, 2019 17:06:33 GMT
I am not a big fan of controversy, but I do get a kick out of some of it until it turns nasty. I really like seeing how others handle issues they might have in their life.
I think when you work in education you learn to hear negative things about yourself without having to believe them. Someone here pointed out that I was entitled bitch (think it was bitch) and I've gotta say, I don't believe that. I think you have to learn how to relate to other people who are really different than you and move on. I liked @jeremy'sgirl's post about knowing when it is more about the other person and their experiences than you. Sometimes you also have to examine that maybe it is you... it can't always be the other person, but learning to give grace to another person is really a good lifeskill.
I come to this place and one other much smaller pro board where we have all been friends since mid 2000. I think friends come in different ways and this place can be very supportive, informative, and entertaining. It is what you make of it. Not sure what would make me leave.
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 6, 2019 17:07:13 GMT
I feel like not many would even notice I would be gone.. but a huge hairflip would be fun. Unless the board just slows down so much I start not logging in and eventually leave, I am here for the stay. Sometimes I will go away for a bit if got sucked into drama, but I usually don't. Awww, I'd notice. I was worried about you the other day and started a thread about it.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 6, 2019 18:11:34 GMT
I feel like not many would even notice I would be gone.. but a huge hairflip would be fun. Unless the board just slows down so much I start not logging in and eventually leave, I am here for the stay. Sometimes I will go away for a bit if got sucked into drama, but I usually don't. I would notice too.
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PrettyInPeank
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Dec 6, 2019 18:27:52 GMT
I would leave if it affected my real life in a negative way. Like how Mrs. Tyler had someone call her school and email her posts and time stamps. Absolutely outrageous. I would also leave if I felt like people were always picking at my posts. I see it with some peas here where everyone is just a little low-key rude to them. I would not put up with that.
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SweetieBsMom
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Dec 6, 2019 18:33:38 GMT
I would leave if it affected my real life in a negative way. Like how Mrs. Tyler had someone call her school and email her posts and time stamps. Absolutely outrageous. I would also leave if I felt like people were always picking at my posts. I see it with some peas here where everyone is just a little low-key rude to them. I would not put up with that. This is exactly what popped into my head.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Dec 6, 2019 21:12:39 GMT
I found the peas original board a few years before it closed down. I was a lurker until the new board started. I typically don’t participate in the political threads because I find them pretty one sided and people usually don’t show their best side. I happily participate in some non-political controversial threads. I don’t get my feelings hurt if someone disagrees with me and if you’re going to call me names in a message board I’m thinking it says more about you than me.
I like the different and weirdly strange topics that somehow come to light. I can be blunt and snarky but try hard not to be mean. I can’t imagine not coming here regularly unless the board just dies.
@anmore What does it’s mean when you get “this thread is hidden”? Does that mean you’ve blocked the posters or they blocked you? I’ve never blocked anyone. Even peas that I think have crossed the line (mostly political posts) I enjoy on other posts.
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Post by hop2 on Dec 6, 2019 21:20:55 GMT
I didn't realize the gravy thread had turned so contentious. (ETA: I just realized it was actually the mashed potato thread, but when I was last in there, the discussion had turned to gravy. ) Wait, what? Mashed potatoes & gravy became so controversial people left? ?😳 What happened?
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Post by hop2 on Dec 6, 2019 21:22:51 GMT
I guess I would leave if it got mean-spirited. I love the diversity of opinions here. You have a thick skin
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Post by hop2 on Dec 6, 2019 21:35:00 GMT
In general, nothing would cause me to leave. There are plenty of topics or posters..... I choose to scroll on by without comment, or not open particular threads at all. There are plenty of topics and subjects that I seek out and love to read. There are members whose posts I value and look forward to their commentary. In general, here on this board and in my daily life......I go with the philosophy of "Not everyone is going to like me, and I am not going to like everyone....and that is very okay". I am here for the camaraderie. It's my version of a daily thing to do (read the newspaper, watch a soap opera, etc...). There’s plenty of topics I read but don’t comment There are specific peas who I won’t interact with. There’s threads where I participate but somewhere along the line it’s gone the wrong way and I step out. I’ve been hand slapped Some people have been rude but I generally don’t ‘remember’ that for long. You have to piss me off a lot or often for me to remember to avoid you. We all have bad days, or respond without thinking, peas have extended grace to me when I’ve been rude so I do so as well. I’m too lazy too keep a spread sheet and remember who ticked me off so it really takes repeat offenses. Getting rid of me totally? Doubt it. Y’all are stuck with me.
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Post by refugeepea on Dec 6, 2019 21:39:53 GMT
She (kettlebl/tardisblue) also posted on a few scrapbook related threads and came after us for how we were discussing Becky Higgins anmore What does it’s mean when you get “this thread is hidden”? Does that mean you’ve blocked the posters or they blocked you? I’ve never blocked anyone. Even peas that I think have crossed the line (mostly political posts) I enjoy on other posts. I use the block feature as a reminder not to interact with the pea. I'll click display post most of the time and read what they wrote.
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Post by alexa11 on Dec 6, 2019 21:46:09 GMT
I'm not going anywhere. Y'all entertain me too much!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2019 21:46:49 GMT
I didn't realize the gravy thread had turned so contentious. (ETA: I just realized it was actually the mashed potato thread, but when I was last in there, the discussion had turned to gravy. ) Wait, what? Mashed potatoes & gravy became so controversial people left? ?😳 What happened? WE have left gravy and gone to smashed (not mashed) potatoes and beans on toast. <---- you'll have to thank the Brits for that. I've never had beans on toast and don't plan to anytime soon.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2019 21:49:05 GMT
I think boredom would be the most likely thing to make me leave. When every thread was politics I took a long for me break. It was just boring.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2019 21:54:09 GMT
anmore What does it’s mean when you get “this thread is hidden”? Does that mean you’ve blocked the posters or they blocked you? I’ve never blocked anyone. Even peas that I think have crossed the line (mostly political posts) I enjoy on other posts. Yes it means I have blocked them. You can't tell if someone has blocked you unless you try to tag them.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Dec 6, 2019 22:04:27 GMT
I didn't realize the gravy thread had turned so contentious. (ETA: I just realized it was actually the mashed potato thread, but when I was last in there, the discussion had turned to gravy. ) Wait, what? Mashed potatoes & gravy became so controversial people left? ?😳 What happened? No, I was just making a joke (although there are some pretty strong opinions about mashed potatoes and gravy). Someone else posted upthread about a couple of recently deleted accounts, but I'm still not sure what the straw was for either person.
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MaryMary
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Post by MaryMary on Dec 6, 2019 22:06:08 GMT
I am fairly certain my ex was reading (and even posted) here shortly after I asked for a divorce. Quite possibly he still is because he is bad at understanding socially appropriate behavior and boundaries. That made me back away for awhile because I was furious that he had infiltrated my long term online refuge. Then I decided if he is so full of self-loathing that he needs to come here and read all the ways I hate him... Let him. I’m staying.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2019 23:17:24 GMT
I learn too much here to leave.
Like the "I've ticked off dh" thread. I would live my life in ignorance without this place.
I do post less now and don't open many threads and have several blocked. I don't like arguing.
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Post by monklady123 on Dec 6, 2019 23:32:47 GMT
I’ll only leave if the board shuts down. You’re stuck with me!😁 That won't work, we'll just regroup. I mean, that's how we all got here, right? when 2 Peas shut down. If this one ever goes we'll find each other again.
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breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Dec 6, 2019 23:38:35 GMT
If someone starts stalking me. Which is why I don't share (I hope) anything that anyone could use to track me down.
Being chastised on threads has made me take breaks before but not permanently so far.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Dec 6, 2019 23:45:26 GMT
So how do you know these Ps actually left?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2019 23:51:31 GMT
I am fairly certain my ex was reading (and even posted) here shortly after I asked for a divorce. Quite possibly he still is because he is bad at understanding socially appropriate behavior and boundaries. That made me back away for awhile because I was furious that he had infiltrated my long term online refuge. Then I decided if he is so full of self-loathing that he needs to come here and read all the ways I hate him... fine. Let him. I’m staying. I knew you left, but honestly I have never read anything mean you have written about your ex. You have been so qiluuet about it all. I was wondering if you got the sister out of your home? And I wonder now if you ever got the on inviting you to lunch.
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QueenoftheSloths
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Dec 6, 2019 23:55:21 GMT
Sometimes I feel like I will be the "last pea standing". In real life, I don't have friends, coworkers, neighbors (that I care to interact with), even my family isn't close. For socializing, I have the peas.
The peas provide a facinating glimpse of ways of life that are completely strange to me, whether it is a move to a foreign country, or a big family holiday. No, I don't like the fighting or the pile ons and some peas are bullies, and some peas when I see they have posted I think "oh of course SHE has an opinion on this". But sometimes a family is like that too. You don't have to love em all!
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inkedup
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Post by inkedup on Dec 7, 2019 0:24:37 GMT
I didn’t sign up for the Christmas card thread because I figured all I’d get was hate mail. I want Peas to be fun. Stop. None of the Peas who take their time to make gorgeous cards for their friends would be so nasty.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Dec 7, 2019 0:31:32 GMT
I didn’t sign up for the Christmas card thread because I figured all I’d get was hate mail. I want Peas to be fun. Stop. None of the Peas who take their time to make gorgeous cards for their friends would be so nasty. No, really one year some Pea(s) got hate mail. I never have but I am a target so I passed on the exchange.
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Post by librarylady on Dec 7, 2019 0:58:59 GMT
Stop. None of the Peas who take their time to make gorgeous cards for their friends would be so nasty. No, really one year some Pea(s) got hate mail. I never have but I am a target so I passed on the exchange.
A person must have some serious mental health issues to send a hate mail disguised as a Christmas card........really, what the heck?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 7, 2019 1:31:02 GMT
You all complete me., So I just ignore the handslaps now.
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Post by cmpeter on Dec 7, 2019 1:32:07 GMT
I can't image what would make me leave. My participation ebbs and flows based on work and family things. But, I've been a member for almost two decades, this place is really part of my life now.
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inkedup
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Post by inkedup on Dec 7, 2019 2:10:33 GMT
I can't image what would make me leave. My participation ebbs and flows based on work and family things. But, I've been a member for almost two decades, this place is really part of my life now. So well said!
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Post by chaosisapony on Dec 7, 2019 3:56:35 GMT
Stop. None of the Peas who take their time to make gorgeous cards for their friends would be so nasty. No, really one year some Pea(s) got hate mail. I never have but I am a target so I passed on the exchange. That's horrible. I am actually shocked that happened.
I have never participated in the Christmas card exchange for a couple of reasons. One being the fact that the peas be crazy sometimes and I've no desire to share my real world information with a large group of people I don't know. I would hope that the interaction would be positive but..... peas be crazy.
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