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Post by elaine on Mar 31, 2020 21:44:45 GMT
I don’t want to get into the specifics, but just wanted to put out there because I would guess there are others in similar dire straights: I’m not sure that my family will make it intact through 2 months of social isolation.
School is cancelled for the rest of the year. My state, Virginia, isn’t supposed to peak for COVID-19 until Mid-May, so social isolation is here to stay at least until the end of May.
Some of you know about our family challenges. Let’s just say that this crisis, with all the cancellations and the lack of official structure and activities that has entailed, has made it so that we daily face the choice of whether or not to find a psychiatric hospital bed for ds2.
If you are stuck indoors wondering if you can make it through, you aren’t alone. If you want to talk, I pledge to be a positive, supportive voice.
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Post by ddly on Mar 31, 2020 21:54:54 GMT
I’m sorry you’re in this situation. It must be rough for your family. I can’t imagine being in your shoes. I think if things get physical you really need to consider that option. Sending up positive thoughts that it doesn’t come to that!
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Mar 31, 2020 21:55:08 GMT
huge (((hugs))) to you elaine...
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Post by hockeymom4 on Mar 31, 2020 21:55:59 GMT
Just wanted to to send hugs, this is such a challenging time and more so for those with pre existing stressful/difficult situations.
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Post by hop2 on Mar 31, 2020 21:56:30 GMT
I’m sorry Elaine. I’m sure the added risks aren’t helping at this time
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Post by 950nancy on Mar 31, 2020 21:57:18 GMT
We have an awesome deck and can talk to our neighbors whenever we want. Our kids are out of the house, so it is what others consider ideal, but. man, I wish I did have some time with them. I worry about them since they both are essential workers.
Will everyone be safer if you find a better place for your son? If so, I would consider it. I don't remember his age, but I know when kids/adults are bigger than their parents it becomes more about your safety rather than feeling guilty or like it is something you have to do. Hugs to all of you.
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Post by malibou on Mar 31, 2020 21:57:28 GMT
I was actually wondering how your ds2 was managing as I realized his routines were being disrupted which has to be so hard for him. Please know you and your family are in my thoughts always and certainly with extra thoughts as you guys navigate through an unknown situation along with everyone else while dealing with loads of extra unknown. Seriously elaine, you are always so thoughtful and insightful. I'm glad you are here.
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Post by ntsf on Mar 31, 2020 21:58:46 GMT
I worry a lot about my sister who is bipolar/seriously mentally ill. her main support is my 93 yr old dad.. but we are trying to get him not to go over too often or go to the store for her.. she lives with her son.. who is useless somewhat.. he also has disabilities and is not much help. my sister can't manage money, and doesn't cook much.
I would help more but am not local to her. and hiring more support at this time seems tough..
I hope you can find help for your son. this situation makes every other tough situation more difficult.. and we know.. as if you have not demonstated it to us..that psychiatric help is not very accessable to anyone..
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Post by refugeepea on Mar 31, 2020 22:00:02 GMT
I'm so sorry elaine. If my son was older, I'm afraid we would be facing the same problem. I'm battling exhaustion daily. I cried in front of my daughter last week which is not good for her anxiety. I'll try to send you a peamail later. I admire you. It's hard for me to be positive when I'm having a good day (my bar is low for what a 'good' day is).
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Post by purplebee on Mar 31, 2020 22:03:07 GMT
Elaine, I can’t imagine the stress you are under. You are in my prayers.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Mar 31, 2020 22:05:37 GMT
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Post by used2scrap on Mar 31, 2020 22:07:09 GMT
I’m so very sorry your family is struggling extra hard. For what it’s worth you are in my thoughts.
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Post by moodyblue on Mar 31, 2020 22:10:33 GMT
This must be horribly hard for you. I don’t know what it’s like to be in your shoes. I can only hope that you can do what’s best for all of you, knowing that you have to stay safe.
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Post by mom on Mar 31, 2020 22:10:37 GMT
I am so sorry, Elaine. Your entire family will be in my prayers. Stay safe.
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Post by jlynnbarth on Mar 31, 2020 22:14:54 GMT
Hugs to you! Our old next door neighbors have a son with mental disabilities, that they tried their best to keep with them for as long as possible. When he reached adulthood and was bigger than both the Mom and Dad, things were very scary for them. He physically hurt them to the point of hospitalization a couple of times. They had to make the hardest choice ever by placing him in a group home. They had to for their and their daughter’s physical well being let alone their mental well being. They would bring him home for a day visit every weekend and things went very smoothly on those visits because he was happy to see them for a few hours. You need to make the safest decision for not only your son, but yourselves. My thoughts are with you truly.
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Post by lucyg on Mar 31, 2020 22:16:06 GMT
elaine and refugeepea, I’m so sorry for the added strain this is placing on your families. I’ve been thinking about you both and hoping you’re weathering this okay.
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Post by tincin on Mar 31, 2020 22:31:17 GMT
Can you set up some sort of schedule to help settle things down?
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Post by jmd74 on Mar 31, 2020 22:34:16 GMT
I’m so sorry for all you’re dealing with Elaine and refugeepea. ((Hugs))
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Post by Deleted on Mar 31, 2020 22:36:12 GMT
I'm so sorry elaine. The added stress must make things so much more difficult for you. You're faced with some difficult decisions and whatever they may be you must also remember to take care of yourself. ((((hugs))))
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Post by marmargirl on Mar 31, 2020 22:37:31 GMT
I’m sorry this has an added layer of stress for your family. 💕
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Post by mimima on Mar 31, 2020 22:39:13 GMT
Oh, hon. Oh, oh, oh. Love, prayers, strength.
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Post by gar on Mar 31, 2020 22:40:53 GMT
These times are hard for everyone - I can barely imagine the extra difficulties of being in your situation. Wishing you and anyone who is in the same boat, strength and resourcefulness and that it’s not as bad as you fear.
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Post by dewryce on Mar 31, 2020 22:42:34 GMT
Oh honey I’m so sorry things aren’t going well. It must be so difficult to feel so powerless, knowing you are doing everything you possible can but that it might not be enough to avoid that. You’re a wonderful parent and both of your sons are lucky to have you. (((Hugs)))
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Post by snowsilver on Mar 31, 2020 22:42:53 GMT
My heart hurts for you, Elaine. How is your foot? Is it still causing you pain on top of everything else? I think there are many families facing this sort of stress right now with having to remain inside. I don't know what to say or do to help you, but there's a shoulder and a listening ear if you ever need them.
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Post by J u l e e on Mar 31, 2020 22:43:55 GMT
I see the small ways we are struggling through some of the changes this has brought about in our routines and plans. I cannot imagine the chaos this has brought to so many families. It overwhelms me to even think about and I wish there was some way I could help elaine and refugeepea.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Mar 31, 2020 22:44:10 GMT
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Post by Merge on Mar 31, 2020 22:48:24 GMT
Big hugs to all the struggling peas. I can't imagine what you're going through.
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Post by tuesdaysgone on Mar 31, 2020 22:51:25 GMT
Thinking of elaine and refugeepea and many others who are under extra stress in already difficult days. Although you may feel you are walking this road alone, I hope you find some comfort in this community. Thinking of you and wishing you strength!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 31, 2020 22:57:51 GMT
I don’t want to get into the specifics, but just wanted to put out there because I would guess there are others in similar dire straights: I’m not sure that my family will make it intact through 2 months of social isolation. School is cancelled for the rest of the year. My state, Virginia, isn’t supposed to peak for COVID-19 until Mid-May, so social isolation is here to stay at least until the end of May. Some of you know about our family challenges. Let’s just say that this crisis, with all the cancellations and the lack of official structure and activities that has entailed, has made it so that we daily face the choice of whether or not to find a psychiatric hospital bed for ds2. If you are stuck indoors wondering if you can make it through, you aren’t alone. If you want to talk, I pledge to be a positive, supportive voice. I'm so sorry Elaine. While I can't know what it's like to be in your shoes, you know how isolated we are here (due to medical issues, financial issues, etc...). For 9 years we've led an entirely different life down in the south. It's probably why I complain so much and miss my big family, friends and life in NY. Going from a normal routine to something that is so isolating and difficult, it could become annoying and depressing quickly. I try to be grateful for constant blessings but I can imagine how it's difficult for you right now. {{{{{Hugs}}}} to you right now.
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