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Post by Laurie on Mar 31, 2020 22:59:18 GMT
I’m sorry Elaine. Big hugs for you.
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Post by peabay on Mar 31, 2020 23:02:51 GMT
I'm very sorry. It must be so hard - I wish it was easier for you.
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Post by scrapmaven on Mar 31, 2020 23:06:32 GMT
elaine and refugeepea, my heart goes out to both of you. Right now the message that we're getting as a world is all about safety. elaine that applies to your family situation, as well. If it would be safer and better for all of you to admit your ds into a psych facility at this time then do not feel guilt. You don't need one ds triggering the other ds. Right now it's imperative that we create the best environment possible for our families and ourselves. As a seasoned professional what advice would you have for your clients in this situation? You're a great mom and you give everything you have to your sons. I have no doubt that whatever you choose will be the best solution for your family. ((((HUGS)))). refugeepea, I don't know if there are any resources right now for your ds, but I am thinking of you. We're here to listen anytime you need to talk.
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Post by iluvpink on Mar 31, 2020 23:07:08 GMT
(((HUGS))) to you and anyone else who is struggling even more than the average person right now.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 31, 2020 23:10:36 GMT
I worry a lot about my sister who is bipolar/seriously mentally ill. her main support is my 93 yr old dad.. but we are trying to get him not to go over too often or go to the store for her.. she lives with her son.. who is useless somewhat.. he also has disabilities and is not much help. my sister can't manage money, and doesn't cook much. I would help more but am not local to her. and hiring more support at this time seems tough.. I hope you can find help for your son. this situation makes every other tough situation more difficult.. and we know.. as if you have not demonstated it to us..that psychiatric help is not very accessable to anyone.. you can pm me anytime to discuss the bipolar stress. DD32 has her disability hearing tomorrow via phone. I'm sure she'll get denied. Mental health issues here aren't usually considered a disability. DD is more suicidal (daily) and she has no insurance (no ACA here in FL). She kept trying to work and had to stop. Now she's faced with her only supporter (me) who has my own painful medical issues and they often change her daily routine. It makes her more stressed. We also are focused on DH'S cancer journey and recent emergency hospital stay. My time is spent caring for him. Her psychiatric care is 90 min away and I've driven her for years (low cost clinic; terrible care). So I understand your concerns about your family. It is harder when you're far away too. Hang in there. It sounds like a tough situation. I have some ideas if you want to talk. Xo |
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Mar 31, 2020 23:11:56 GMT
{{{hugs}}}
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Post by Deleted on Mar 31, 2020 23:15:34 GMT
I'm sorry elaine. I feel helpless but I think about you and wish you strength and peace. |
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Post by Baseballmom23 on Mar 31, 2020 23:21:51 GMT
I see the small ways we are struggling through some of the changes this has brought about in our routines and plans. I cannot imagine the chaos this has brought to so many families. It overwhelms me to even think about and I wish there was some way I could help elaine and refugeepea . ^^^my exact thoughts. (((hugs))) to you both. |
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Post by quietgirl on Mar 31, 2020 23:23:07 GMT
I am so very sorry things are rough. You are in my thoughts, and I truly hope that somehow or some way things can get better for you both, elaine and refugeepea . This totally sucks and I'm sorry. |
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Post by LisaDV on Mar 31, 2020 23:24:10 GMT
I'm so sorry. Huge hugs.
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Post by teddyw on Mar 31, 2020 23:29:04 GMT
Hugs. I’m so sorry this makes things even worse for your situation.
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Post by valincal on Mar 31, 2020 23:37:21 GMT
Big hugs! My heart goes out to you and everyone who faces a similar challenge. Take care all. ❤️
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Post by cmpeter on Mar 31, 2020 23:37:41 GMT
Hugs Elaine. You are and amazing Mom and will make the best decision for your family.
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Post by femalebusiness on Mar 31, 2020 23:44:06 GMT
Hugs. 💕💕 Thinking of you always.
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Post by Skellinton on Mar 31, 2020 23:44:21 GMT
elaine and refugeepea , my heart goes out to both of you. Right now the message that we're getting as a world is all about safety. elaine that applies to your family situation, as well. If it would be safer and better for all of you to admit your ds into a psych facility at this time then do not feel guilt. You don't need one ds triggering the other ds. Right now it's imperative that we create the best environment possible for our families and ourselves. As a seasoned professional what advice would you have for your clients in this situation? You're a great mom and you give everything you have to your sons. I have no doubt that whatever you choose will be the best solution for your family. ((((HUGS)))). refugeepea , I don't know if there are any resources right now for your ds, but I am thinking of you. We're here to listen anytime you need to talk. I agree. You need to be safe, your sons need to be safe. If you choose to have your son relocate it will be a decision based on love and wanting to do what is best for him. You are a wonderful mother and have done so much for your sons. Sometimes you need outside help and a that is ok. It doesn’t mean you are giving up on your son, or love him any less. Think about what you would tell any of us to do if we were in your shoes. I can’t even pretend to imagine how difficult this must be for you, but know that we all support you and are here to listen. I will keep you and refugeepea in my thoughts. |
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Post by Nanner on Mar 31, 2020 23:44:37 GMT
elaine and refugeepea , I am so sorry you have this added worry heaped on top of everything else. Sending you both hugs.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 31, 2020 23:47:43 GMT
Is there any chance that they may open just the life skill classrooms up?
I have heard that a couple of the schools may try it here. If they do , there is going to be no buses , or aides and parents/guardians will have to help.
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Post by TankTop on Mar 31, 2020 23:53:01 GMT
I am so very sorry. You are facing an impossible choice.
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Post by rickmer on Mar 31, 2020 23:59:43 GMT
i have great sympathy for the struggles that you are both facing. i have a dear friend that is a single mom on the west coast. her DS is very challenging and while he is only 8, he has rages that are violent and, she knows, are only going to get more difficult to manage as he gets bigger and stronger. she has no family in the province. her only break is when he *can* go to school for a couple of days (in between his various illnesses and suspensions from school). she is constantly exhausted - can't even have a conversation on the phone as when she does, he acts up to get her attention. i wish wish wish there were more support services available. i cannot imagine the additional stress this type of situation much cause. sending my
(((hugs))) to the peas who are struggling during this tough time with so much *more* than the average burden.
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Apr 1, 2020 0:03:09 GMT
I’m sorry. I’m not in your exact situation and can’t imagine, but my own world is getting difficult.
DH is still working out of the house, so that adds to the stress and he is spent when he gets home. When he is here for three days, he’s needy, and I don’t have the patience for that.
My boys are starting school and it’s stressful on many levels. One has a lot of anxiety and the other is very Adhd. He is medicated, but there are way too many distractions for him here (while I am trying to teach my own students) and his meds are not working as well (he is growing) as they used to.
A lot of screaming and tears here the last two days. The technology has not been working well, and we are getting a lot of mixed messages from school from each teacher vs admin. Plus add in the normal twin 12 year old boy fighting and drama.
Honestly, I was thinking I should move in with my mom and let my dh deal with them (not really, but I fantasized about it).
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Post by quinlove on Apr 1, 2020 0:06:35 GMT
I’m so sorry Elaine. I hope that you can take a quick, quiet moment, whenever you can ~ close your eyes for a moment and feel all the love we are sending to you.
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Post by PLurker on Apr 1, 2020 0:11:10 GMT
Oh, elaine hugs, hugs and more hugs |
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Post by Chips on Apr 1, 2020 0:19:34 GMT
I am so sorry and love and hugs for everyone!
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 1, 2020 0:23:28 GMT
Elaine, I am sorry this is tough on your family. I hope you get the support you need and I know evey decision is based in love.
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Post by MaryMary on Apr 1, 2020 0:25:09 GMT
Oh, Elaine. I am so sorry that things are so much more difficult for you. You'll be in my thoughts.
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Post by Dixie Lou on Apr 1, 2020 0:26:57 GMT
I am sorry Elaine for what you are going through. Everyone here who is suffering is in my prayers.
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Post by roberta on Apr 1, 2020 0:44:14 GMT
You and your family are in my prayers. Please come here and vent or whatever you need to do as often as you need.
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Post by paget on Apr 1, 2020 0:48:49 GMT
I’m so sorry. I do know if the type of challenges you are facing. I am a case manager for children with developmental disabilities and I continue to work at home supporting the best I can. School being closed is awful- it is the only break many, many families get and as you mentioned, provides much needed structure and routine. Our state is really stepping up and helping in ways we can but it’s obviously not enough and only helps in certain situations. One mom today told me she was so happy to get my email because she just needed to talk. ❤️ I see you and I’m thinking of you and so many families.
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Post by SallyPA on Apr 1, 2020 0:50:00 GMT
I’m so sorry, Elaine. I won’t pretend to know or understand all the details of your situation. But you’re a valuable member of our pod here, and I hope we are able to provide some support to you. Hugs.
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Post by heartland on Apr 1, 2020 0:54:12 GMT
Sending you many pea(((hugs))) over the distance.
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