rodeomom
Pearl Clutcher
Refupee # 380 "I don't have to run fast, I just have to run faster than you."
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Location: Chickasaw Nation, Oklahoma
Jun 25, 2014 23:34:38 GMT
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Post by rodeomom on Apr 1, 2020 0:56:55 GMT
HUGS
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Post by Neisey on Apr 1, 2020 1:16:38 GMT
So sorry to hear that people are struggling.
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Post by maryland on Apr 1, 2020 1:25:56 GMT
I am so sorry for what challenges your family is going through. Will keep your family in our prayers. Please come here for support or just to vent.
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Post by katlady on Apr 1, 2020 1:55:56 GMT
HUGS!!
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Post by alexa11 on Apr 1, 2020 2:05:23 GMT
I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Apr 1, 2020 2:28:04 GMT
Big hugs to ((( elaine))) and ((( refugeepea))) You are in my thoughts and prayers. Do whatever you need to do to keep yourself safe, please!
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Post by pierkiss on Apr 1, 2020 2:37:39 GMT
Oh no. I have been thinking of you and your family often since lockdowns became inevitable. I have been hoping that things would be ok for you guys. You have spoken about some of the challenges you are facing with your son. And I always admire how gracefully and full of love you seem to face those challenges head on. I honestly do not know how you do it. You are so much stronger than I am. 💖💖
I don’t think there is any shame in reaching a point where you need to remove your son from your home. Both for your physical safety as well as your mental safety. I know you want what is best for him. And for your other son, and your husband and yourself. And if what is best means him living somewhere else for a period of time, you should do it. It’s not a decision anyone wants to have to make as a parent. And I imagine something like this has to be one of the most heart wrenching decisions a parent would ever have to make. But sometimes, when you do the really hard and really sad things, everyone winds up in a better and happier spot later on.
You know your son and family best. I know whichever way you decide to handle this, you will make the best decision for everyone. 💖.
Big hugs to you sweet friend.
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hutchfan
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Post by hutchfan on Apr 1, 2020 2:41:55 GMT
Sending hugs and saying prayers.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Apr 1, 2020 2:42:34 GMT
I hope things improve and the day to day isn’t such a struggle. Hugs.
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inkedup
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Post by inkedup on Apr 1, 2020 2:51:04 GMT
Elaine, my heart goes out to you. I wish I could do more. I know you are suffering and that your son is, too.
It is okay to want to be safe in your home. It is necessary for you to be safe in your own home. Please know that we all think the world of you and are here to offer all the judgment free support we can.
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Post by flanz on Apr 1, 2020 2:55:04 GMT
I adore you elaine, and I'm so very sorry for your struggles. I feel confident that you act with love and make the very best decisions for your family, even when they are gut-wrenching. (((HUGS)))
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inkedup
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Post by inkedup on Apr 1, 2020 2:56:59 GMT
I'm so sorry elaine. If my son was older, I'm afraid we would be facing the same problem. I'm battling exhaustion daily. I cried in front of my daughter last week which is not good for her anxiety. I'll try to send you a peamail later. I admire you. It's hard for me to be positive when I'm having a good day (my bar is low for what a 'good' day is). I'm so sorry that you're struggling, too. We are here to listen, so please vent when you need to. Lots of love to you and your family.
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cakediva
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Making the world a sweeter place one cake at a time!
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Location: Fergus, Ontario
Jun 26, 2014 11:53:40 GMT
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Post by cakediva on Apr 1, 2020 3:00:29 GMT
Hugs to all of you who are struggling with these issues.
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kate
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Jun 26, 2014 3:30:05 GMT
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Post by kate on Apr 1, 2020 3:10:08 GMT
(((Hugs))) and prayers for peace in all of our hearts. Also praying for clarity - for me, those hard decisions are made worse when I'm constantly in doubt. It's better when one path is clear, even when it's the harder one. For you, I hope the path is clear AND easy - you deserve some light!
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Post by kristi on Apr 1, 2020 3:19:04 GMT
I’m sorry Elaine
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Post by scrappintoee on Apr 1, 2020 3:20:04 GMT
elaine ..... refugeepea ......@bergdorfblonde ..... The Great Carpezio ... ntsf and anyone else having an extra difficult time..... ((hugs )) and prayers! Elaine...I remember previous posts of yours about being injured, and I am SO very sorry you're having to consider admitting him to a hospital !!! I just pray that IF that's what ends up happening, you won't feel guilty----you and your DH are awesome parents, you've done all you can, and now you have to worry about safety. I'm so sorry!!!
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 1, 2020 9:05:28 GMT
I’m sorry, all struggling refugeepeas. My DD has to deal with three boys, one of whom is a suicidal, extremely volatile pre adolescent. Her DH still goes into an office until late at night, so she’s basically handling it all on her own. I FaceTime, but the boy having issues won’t even come be part of the FaceTime conversation. I worry so much.
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RedSquirrelUK
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Aug 2, 2014 13:03:45 GMT
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Apr 1, 2020 9:32:06 GMT
Ah poop. This is so hard. I'm sorry girls.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Apr 1, 2020 9:36:42 GMT
Big hugs to elaine & refugeepea & anyone else who needs it. In the best of circumstances, these are harrowing times. My thoughts are with all of you.
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Post by Lexica on Apr 1, 2020 9:57:26 GMT
I’m sorry for those of you who are dealing with these extra challenges during an already incredibly stressful time. You are in my thoughts.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 1, 2020 10:08:36 GMT
elaine and refugeepea my heart goes out to both of you. Truly I cannot imagine being in your shoes. My DD has been suffering a lot of paranoia over coronavirus. I keep trying to get her to hurry up and move back here so I can keep a better eye on her. We were at emergency two weeks ago with hallucinations. And it has been tough. I am terribly worried about her mental health. I have put a call into her psychiatrist. I have asked her repeatedly to do the same. I have even given her my emergency meds to help if necessary. So I get a little bit of what you guys are going through.
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Post by littlemama on Apr 1, 2020 11:52:52 GMT
Hugs to everyone facing these challenges
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 1, 2020 12:08:24 GMT
The challenges faced by elaine and refugeepea (and others) are so difficult and I wish I had some magic advice to be helpful. But I don’t. What I do have is the ability to sit with you in support of you. To trust that you know your own situation best. To not judge any decisions you make. And just to love on you. Please let our pea family be a support to you if only for some place to come and vent.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2020 12:25:45 GMT
Just big squishy hugs to all of you that are struggling.
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Post by elaine on Apr 1, 2020 15:05:17 GMT
Is there any chance that they may open just the life skill classrooms up? I have heard that a couple of the schools may try it here. If they do , there is going to be no buses , or aides and parents/guardians will have to help. No chance, but I hope that they can where you live. Here, there would be huge issues with opening the school, cleaning the classrooms, etc. My son’s school is comprised of all students who have severe behavior issues along with being intellectually disabled. The other half are wheelchair bound severely disabled children who are all medically fragile, so having Coronavirus in the school would literally kill them. All the classes would qualify as life skills classrooms, as none of the students will receive academic diplomas.
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Post by elaine on Apr 1, 2020 15:12:18 GMT
I’m sorry. I’m not in your exact situation and can’t imagine, but my own world is getting difficult. DH is still working out of the house, so that adds to the stress and he is spent when he gets home. When he is here for three days, he’s needy, and I don’t have the patience for that. My boys are starting school and it’s stressful on many levels. One has a lot of anxiety and the other is very Adhd. He is medicated, but there are way too many distractions for him here (while I am trying to teach my own students) and his meds are not working as well (he is growing) as they used to. A lot of screaming and tears here the last two days. The technology has not been working well, and we are getting a lot of mixed messages from school from each teacher vs admin. Plus add in the normal twin 12 year old boy fighting and drama. Honestly, I was thinking I should move in with my mom and let my dh deal with them (not really, but I fantasized about it). I hear you - BIG (((hugs))). The tears and screaming is the worst, because there is no way that you can make it better. It is a very helpless feeling. Where is your son in terms of dosing on his meds? Is there room to increase it? Could you have a phone conversation with his psychiatrist (or prescribing doc, if his pediatrician is prescribing it)? My dh may move to our house in WV for a while, because he is coping worse than I am and that just adds to my stress. Some days it would be easier to just do it myself.
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Post by elaine on Apr 1, 2020 15:16:13 GMT
I'm so sorry elaine. If my son was older, I'm afraid we would be facing the same problem. I'm battling exhaustion daily. I cried in front of my daughter last week which is not good for her anxiety. I'll try to send you a peamail later. I admire you. It's hard for me to be positive when I'm having a good day (my bar is low for what a 'good' day is). Aw, honey, big (((hugs))). I was thinking of you when I posted this thread. I know that I’m not alone and I wanted to give people a place to voice how much this truly sucks for some of us. I appreciate all the Facebook posts and YouTube videos of families doing fun things together in these days of social isolation, but there is also a segment of the population that is just trying to psychologically survive each day, counting down the hours until bedtime from the moment the kids get out of bed.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Apr 1, 2020 15:19:36 GMT
Facebook posts and YouTube videos don't forget that those families are also having temper tantrums, arguments, etc... (not to the degree which some of you are having to deal with issues, to be sure)... but since FB, IG, and YouTube aren't *real* they certainly won't be sharing that stuff there!
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 1, 2020 15:29:31 GMT
I appreciate all the Facebook posts and YouTube videos of families doing fun things together in these days of social isolation, but there is also a segment of the population that is just trying to psychologically survive each day, counting down the hours until bedtime from the moment the kids get out of bed. Sometimes it's not even the fun stuff they post. It's seeing the 'normal' kids doing everyday things. My family started a FB group. My great niece who got her big girl bed. My son won't sleep in one and we cannot leave his door open at night. Or my great nephew who was playing with some toys, constructing a model of the corona virus and explaining how it works. Seeing them talk. Sometimes that's too much. My son slept a long time last night. Super happy about that, but then it almost feels pathetic in a way to share with the family. There's probably about five things that I could share repeatedly. While they are progressing it feels like the movie Groundhog Day in my home. On a positive/kind of positive note my husband is now considered high risk so he is now home. IDK, could go either way.
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Post by tenacious on Apr 1, 2020 15:29:42 GMT
Those who have special needs, neurodiverse, depressed, anxious, or explosive kids/family members at home have been weighing heavily on my mind lately. Indeed, I am the mother of one such 18 year old, but, by heaven’s grace he has been doing very well, so far. There have been times with my DS that we absolute HAD to be separated, for everyone’s safety, and, not having the option right now is a potential nightmare that I don’t want to think about!!!
I am so, so sorry. From the bottom of my heart, I am reaching out to you to give love and support. You do what you have to do. And a reminder to people around to please not judge if you have not walked in these particular shoes. Today I am taking my DS to the grocery store with me to stock up on groceries for the week. I don’t give a crap what anyone thinks. If it diffuses a violent outburst at home and helps him to not start a destructive spiral downward, then we will take the proper precautions and go forth.
((Hugs)) you are all in my thoughts.
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