UPDATE op:(Wedding done 6/12/21)Huge Wedding in June issue
Mar 29, 2021 17:12:06 GMT
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Mar 29, 2021 17:12:06 GMT
UPDATE 6/13/21
I did not go to the shower, and I was told they understood since “you just had a friend die.” One of our friends just passed away from covid and I sent the text that night. Barely anyone wore masks—I am told. My niece (sister of bride) tried and a couple others did when they arrived, but no one wore them the whole time. Also, niece could have had it outside and chose not to.
As far as the wedding went, it is funny reading how much has changed since I first wrote that.
It was a hard decision, and I RSVPd late by a few days when the governor of our state lifted the restrictions for gatherings, masks, etc... The numbers were starting to trend down some at the time (and are really low now of course). We compromised and decided to go to the church wedding. Both of my boys have received their second shots, but aren’t officially vaccinated (but they also had covid so are technically fully vaccinated).
I also called my other niece and asked it it was truly formal. It was confirmed it was not—they stated formal so guests wouldn’t show up with shorts and jeans. Other than some family and a few dark suits, no one was dressed remotely formal at all.
I was still frustrated that many family were choosing to not be vaccinated, so we decided limiting our time by just going to the wedding itself was the best compromise. Show up for her, and see close family for a few minutes but not fully embrace it all. We knew it would be long (it was painful—-they had four priests) , but ultimately, I’m glad we showed up. I did not see one face mask at the church including children and people I know are unvaccinated.
Yes, some people were a bit awkward and it seemed quite evident that the “we respect everyone’s comfort level” was lip service and they were annoyed some of my family did not come and that we weren’t going to the reception, but they tried to hide it.
It looks like the reception was nice. It was very warm, and it was still a buffet and there were still 16 tto the tables. I think the final count was around 285 for the reception. I think they scrapped the wrist band idea when restrictions were lifted.
Anyway; just in case you were wondering. Lol
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ORIGINAL POST
Here is the information I know about the wedding:
Here is the information that I am inferring based on evidence provided/implied:
Other info:
ETA 4/11/21:
We have made the tentative decision to not go to the wedding. However, I was invited to a shower next weekend. I live about 2.5 hours away. It is in my SIL’s home (mob but not hosting it), a light lunch will be provided and guests have been “requested” to wear masks (and refrain from fragrances) I do not know for sure, but I am fairly certain there will be people not wearing masks. Certainly no one will enforce it. My other niece (sister of bride) is an anti masker.
I admit I feel bad about not going to the wedding and lean towards going to the shower, but it is a five hour round trip drive. I’m not worried so much about my health, but I’d really hate to go and be pissed off the entire time. There will be many not vaccinated.
Again, just curious what you would do as I’m weeding through my feelings. I should decide today. I need to RSVP.
Also, the UK variant is running rampant through my state right now.
I did not go to the shower, and I was told they understood since “you just had a friend die.” One of our friends just passed away from covid and I sent the text that night. Barely anyone wore masks—I am told. My niece (sister of bride) tried and a couple others did when they arrived, but no one wore them the whole time. Also, niece could have had it outside and chose not to.
As far as the wedding went, it is funny reading how much has changed since I first wrote that.
It was a hard decision, and I RSVPd late by a few days when the governor of our state lifted the restrictions for gatherings, masks, etc... The numbers were starting to trend down some at the time (and are really low now of course). We compromised and decided to go to the church wedding. Both of my boys have received their second shots, but aren’t officially vaccinated (but they also had covid so are technically fully vaccinated).
I also called my other niece and asked it it was truly formal. It was confirmed it was not—they stated formal so guests wouldn’t show up with shorts and jeans. Other than some family and a few dark suits, no one was dressed remotely formal at all.
I was still frustrated that many family were choosing to not be vaccinated, so we decided limiting our time by just going to the wedding itself was the best compromise. Show up for her, and see close family for a few minutes but not fully embrace it all. We knew it would be long (it was painful—-they had four priests) , but ultimately, I’m glad we showed up. I did not see one face mask at the church including children and people I know are unvaccinated.
Yes, some people were a bit awkward and it seemed quite evident that the “we respect everyone’s comfort level” was lip service and they were annoyed some of my family did not come and that we weren’t going to the reception, but they tried to hide it.
It looks like the reception was nice. It was very warm, and it was still a buffet and there were still 16 tto the tables. I think the final count was around 285 for the reception. I think they scrapped the wrist band idea when restrictions were lifted.
Anyway; just in case you were wondering. Lol
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ORIGINAL POST
Here is the information I know about the wedding:
- Mid June in Minnesota
- Wedding in a very large Catholic church (EDITED: will be a 1.5 hour ceremony and 2 hours in the church)
- Reception about 1.25 hours away and outside in a 2 sided tent (larger enclosed tents to attach for bad weather)
- 400 people invited and expecting 350 (EDITED 325)
- Three levels of wrist bands will be offered: red, yellow and green depending on comfort level
- Bride and groom are wearing green and no masks
- 14 in the wedding party
- Grandparents of the bride and great aunt of the bride are anti-vaxx
- Most of grooms family will be wearing green bands
- Buffett self-serve dining
- 16 people to a table
- Porta-potties (outdoor temp toilets) with sinks and "real" soap
- No hand sanitizer (due to allergies of MOTB.)
- One of my SILs and family (aunt and uncle of bride) are not coming for sure but will be vaccinated by then
- "They" are praying
Here is the information that I am inferring based on evidence provided/implied:
- Assuming those choosing green are "no masks"
- Assuming many more people are anti-vaxx and will not be vaccinated
- But, by June, adults who want to be vaccinated in MN, should all be able to be.
- One sister of the bride is likely not coming due to the choices made by couple
- People with various band colors will be put together at tables
- Very little had been paid attention to for safety (i.e. things like buffet and table assignment stuff being picked up by hundreds of people)
Other info:
- My DH and I will be completely vaxxed (I already am)
- My children are 13 and probably will not be fully vaxxed by then but will be if available (they did have Covid in Nov)
- This is a family member that we would normally not hesitate to go to the wedding if there wasn't a pandemic.
- The unvaccinated that we know of are close family members who are expecting us to go
- It is listed, twice, that this is a FORMAL wedding. I do believe that this is "outstate MN formal" which means suits and ties for men and fancy cocktail dresses for women (that is how they have dressed for most of their friends' weddings I have seen posted on social media).
- My boys do not have suits. My DH would need a new one and I currently do not have a cocktail dress...just " casual work/school" dresses.---just mentioning this because it will cost several hundred to outfit us. We can afford it but would rather not.
Based on this information, WWTPD? I am just curious. We haven't decided yet BTW.
ETA 4/11/21:
We have made the tentative decision to not go to the wedding. However, I was invited to a shower next weekend. I live about 2.5 hours away. It is in my SIL’s home (mob but not hosting it), a light lunch will be provided and guests have been “requested” to wear masks (and refrain from fragrances) I do not know for sure, but I am fairly certain there will be people not wearing masks. Certainly no one will enforce it. My other niece (sister of bride) is an anti masker.
I admit I feel bad about not going to the wedding and lean towards going to the shower, but it is a five hour round trip drive. I’m not worried so much about my health, but I’d really hate to go and be pissed off the entire time. There will be many not vaccinated.
Again, just curious what you would do as I’m weeding through my feelings. I should decide today. I need to RSVP.
Also, the UK variant is running rampant through my state right now.
